@RoboBlue:
I'm sorry that you've been hurt. I know how it feels to be falsely associated with bad people against your will, and that's an unfortunate part of the SJW cycle of destruction.
The rage-fueled backlash against SJWs is also a major problem, generally resulting in a lot of fighting and a lot of negative emotions that accomplish very little. You're essentially stuck in a situation where people you don't know who claim to represent you are picking fights with society en masse and allowing you to be the scapegoat, and few things in life are worse than an abusive relationship of that caliber.
Unfortunately, it's a complex problem involving large numbers of people and I'm really not sure how to solve it other than just sitting down and talking about it.
Yes, that's the strawman usage you were referencing. Rin was unfortunately mislabeled and judged when her views didn't directly oppose the views of extreme intersectional feminists (the group most plagued by SJWs right now). Her views were reasonable and not authoritarian, but unfortunately angry people didn't care. Most people would agree that Rin is not an SJW.
No, the conversations I've had were pretty clear. The way "SJW" is widely being used online is "Pejorative for Any vocal progressive".
Don't take my word for it however, check Wikipedia, and of course, follow the sources they cite rather than just taking what's there at face value. The common dominating theme of SJW is just "Vocal Progressive" and holds no other inherent connotation.
To underscore this, the term actually got added to the Oxford Dictionary in mid-2015, and what is their official definition based on the word's most common use?
@Oxford Dictionary:
social justice warrior
NOUN
informal, derogatory
A person who expresses or promotes socially progressive views:
‘these social justice warriors want to apply their politically correct standards and rules to others' speech’
It's in the dictionary now. It has an official dictionary definition. You can look up what it "Means" in the dictionary. What it "Means" is "A person who is vocally progressive".
You're basically like a person right now arguing: "Stop calling yourselves 'gay' homosexual people, that word doesn't mean that! It means 'happy'! Stop using it wrong!"
It may have meant that at one time, but a different usage emerged and became so ubiquitous that it is now the dictionary definition of the term.
That being said, because of this definition, the way the word typically gets used is, I say: "Hey, I love Rey in the new Star Wars movie! It's awesome because girls who are growing up Star Wars fans now have a Main character Jedi girl to look up to!" and it gets met with "Star Wars is a guy's movie!
take everything from us!!"
The problem now, is because it’s a word that's official dictionary definition is: "Derogatory word for Vocal Progressives", and that's how it's being used, vocal progressives like me now see it and immediately seeing it comes off to us as: "By using this word, I'm immediately invalidating your point of view and will not listen to it".
If I had to compare it to something else, it'd be like discussing Racism with someone using the term "Nr" to casually refer to black people who actually happen to be criminals (from the speaker's perspective) and every time someone tries to call him out on it he goes "No, I'm not calling ALL Black people Nrs, only the criminal ones who really legitimately deserve to be in prison".
Even if everything else that guy has to say is respectful and on point and he has what would otherwise be a valid point to make about racism, the fact that he's actually using the word "N****r", and not just to refer to the word, but to refer to people will cause literally everyone to just tune him out and ignore anything he has to say. It's just human nature. It's like if you’re watching a conservative call a liberal a "Libtard" or a Democrat call a Republican a "Repugnican". You see those clear insults meant to invalidate an entire side's argument in one swoop, and on some level at least, you roll your eyes and take the person using it less seriously.
If you don't want people reacting that way to the term "SJW" maybe stop using it? With the way you're using it, it seems "Extreme Left" or "Radical Left" might be more apt.
@RoboBlue:
I'm really confused. Do you not believe that people who aren't die-hard racists or staunch defenders of racist groups exist?
Part of this problem is that, while you're right that people exist who are Not Die-hard racists who can be talked with, you still end up where the people in power as well as the news media have an aversion to talking about Race issues. Like it or not, you can find a dude on the street who is totally cool talking about these issues in a rational way… but the Politicians are ultimately the ones who will make the calls, and the news pundits are going to be the ones who's message reaches the largest crowd of people, and the conservative side of those two groups have been pushing a narrative that says there's no such thing as Racism anymore.
Bill O’Reilly
Ann Coulter and Sean Hannity
Eric Bolling
Here an article from The Federalist, a conservative news source that isn't Breitbart levels of biased, where a conservative is conceding that yes: A lot of conservatives like to pretend Racism isn't a thing.
To Quote it directly:
@ of The Federalist:
Too often, people of color find themselves trapped between a Left that exaggerates racism and a Right that pretends it doesn’t exist. Under these circumstances it is difficult to blame them for choosing the former.
[…]
Racism is real. It happens. It’s no good pretending it doesn’t. And it’s no good pretending that police deal with white kids the same way they deal with black kids. Irrational racist bias is still a part of our lives. It’s true that racism has a very different form than it did half a century ago. Our laws have moved towards equality, even to inequality to address historic racism, such as affirmative action. There isn’t much more the state can do to promote racial equality, but that doesn’t mean there is nothing we as Americans can do.
He goes on to explain other things I won't say I necessarily agree with, like he starts to try to give things he thinks would need to be done to fix Racism, but that's not what I was trying to highlight here. Just that the overall perception that Conservatives like to pretend racism doesn't exist IS a well-known problem that people have noticed.