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hush apparently utilizing English proficiently is not one of RollingStone's dreams in life.
There's at least one word and an apostrophe missing.
hush apparently utilizing English proficiently is not one of RollingStone's dreams in life.
There's at least one word and an apostrophe missing.
OOPS! I was about to be upset when I saw that you were right! Thanks pal! Care to share your goal?
EDIT: And I DO want to use English Proficiently! Its a valuable help to make my dream come true!
My goal is to be the biggest pervert on planet earth without anyone ever caught my tail. 'Nuff said.
My goal in life is to help all my brothers and sisters escape the ghetto. The struggle has gone on long enough.
No bullshit.
My goal in life is to get people to listen to me
1. Finally finished university!
2. Now working on finishing my specialty program and hoping at some point to get into a neuroscience program as well.
3. Stay fit and healthy.
4. Build a secret door in my future home that leads to a fully equipped music room where my friends and I can jam.
5. Really help make this world a better place.
A Family. <3
To work with graphic design which I love. And to be at peace with myself.
My goals in life hmmm
Those are the serious ones I guess
Also, become fluent in Japanese and French (I've studied both but I still suck XD)
Andddd move to Melbourne coz New Zealand is getting hella boring.
When I think about the fact that I'm turning 20 next year, I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
To be honest, I have cried thinking about it.
What's so bad about turning twenty? It's the time of your life don't you know
I'm turning twenty in a couple of months and I couldn't be happier, lol. Bye-bye teens, I won't miss you one bit.
Although, to be honest, I've never understood the "I don't want to age wahhh" mentality one bit. You die one day, yes, but as long as you're alive you live. And it doesn't really matter what age you are because you can do pretty much everything at any point in your life if you put enough determination into it. Maybe it's because I face death or, rather, thoughts of death every single day and most people don't?
Waa, twenty isn't so bad! It's just a number Is there any particular reason? For me I hated getting older, but I'm learning now that you can be whoever you want to be at any age! My life recently has gone completely topsy turvy because of some huge decisions I made which I never expected to happen… but now that I'm on the other side of that mess, I can say I don't regret a thing. Make your present reality what you want it to be! ___ /
I'm 22!
MY LIFE IS OVER!!!
@Jazzy:
I'm 22!
MY LIFE IS OVER!!!
oh fantastic, welcome to old people-hood.
And happy birthday :(
Meh. The world is full of people who've accomplished their dreams even if people told them they were past it
I remember i used to be really worried that i was to far gone to ever be something…..At the ripe old age of 23
Which i have come to learn, is of course complete bullshit
@Toraish:
Although, to be honest, I've never understood the "I don't want to age wahhh" mentality one bit.
LOL. I wouldn't give a single shit about aging if I were already successful and recognized.
@Toraish:
You die one day, yes, but as long as you're alive you live.
No, not really.
@Toraish:
And it doesn't really matter what age you are because you can do pretty much everything at any point in your life if you put enough determination into it.
What world are you living in? Because I want to move there.
@Toraish:
Maybe it's because I face death or, rather, thoughts of death every single day and most people don't?
Did you forget who you were even talking to?
What exactly is it that you can't do at twenty? Just one example to give us a window into your mind
Cause i can barely think of things you can't manage to do at forty, so it really makes me curious
Maybe Ship just really wants to be a prodigy. That's about the only thing I can think of that you can't still accomplish at 20…
@Jazzy:
I'm 22!
MY LIFE IS OVER!!!
Are you Kidding? Being 22 IS AWESOME! Its such a smexy number! I miss being 22!
@wolfwoof:
What exactly is it that you can't do at twenty? Just one example to give us a window into your mind
Cause i can barely think of things you can't manage to do at forty, so it really makes me curious
I was more responding to "you can do pretty much everything… if you put enough determination into it".
I guess the specific point about age may be irrational on my part. I just can't stop comparing myself to people who are already more successful than I am. And then I desperately try to rationalize it somehow, try to find ways that they aren't actually better than me. It's easy to rationalize it when they're much older, but when they're as old as I am or only a few years older... I'm faced with my own crippling inadequacy, and then I have to stop looking at their Facebook pictures.
LOL. I wouldn't give a single shit about aging if I were already successful and recognized.
No, not really.
What world are you living in? Because I want to move there.
Did you forget who you were even talking to?
Hey, let's be realistic here.
I have suicidal thoughts frequently enough (and it was particularly bad between the ages of 11 and 12 where I literally thought about it every day and attempted a few times). But Dryish literally DOES have to worry about dying every day via items outside of his control.
Being a chronic pessimist is not an excuse to demean or look down upon someone else's ideals, especially when that person understands what it means to face death every day.
I don't know where you and valiantt got it in your minds that success is the end all be all of existence but you're both dead wrong and don't understand at all why success is significant to begin with. It's not about accomplishing the goal at the end of the day, it's the pursuit. You live in the moment, you become better, you bond with people along the way. And of course, you fail, you take your licks and you struggle.
Frankly, if it was easy, then it would be piss boring. I would hate hate hate it if someone just up and gave me a million dollars right now and I didn't put forth the effort to build my way up to that amount. (I'd still take it because, fucking right, a million dollars but…) In that situation, I'd probably blow it all and be broke again. If you work your way up, and especially if you fail a lot along the way, you learn how to get that million. That's more valuable.
Failure teaches you the hard lessons you need to know for the future. Undisputed success teaches you to be complacent and even the slightest failure destroys you. You never learn what you need to avoid, what to look out for, how to handle the emotional pain of failure, etc. You have to fail in order to make success that much more worthwhile.
And you know what? Even if I never make it, even if I never accomplish my dreams, I'd rather take one significant person's recognition over the millions of faceless strangers' any day.~
Fun trivia fact that's kind of relevant. The average age for a university degree in my country is 28
Probably to account for all that major hopping
Thanks a lot for reminding me that I will soon be 21, almost all my friends have baby mama but I won't give in to that…
My goals in life is too-
-As I work my ass off I keep wishing I will win one of these million $ lotteries so I don't have to work every damn day and live a lazy man's life, but we know this ain't gonna happen since logic says only old people wins lottery.
@Jazzy:
Hey, let's be realistic here.
I have suicidal thoughts frequently enough (and it was particularly bad between the ages of 11 and 12 where I literally thought about it every day and attempted a few times). But Dryish literally DOES have to worry about dying every day via items outside of his control.
Being a chronic pessimist is not an excuse to demean or look down upon someone else's ideals, especially when that person understands what it means to face death every day.
I don't know where you and valiantt got it in your minds that success is the end all be all of existence but you're both dead wrong and don't understand at all why success is significant to begin with.
Yep well, I'm already shaking with anger at your post. And I have the sinking feeling that this conversation is going to become about me as a person, if it hasn't already. And I'm confident that such a conversation would quickly spiral out of my control. So I'm done here. As you should have gleaned from the "success" thing, I don't play to lose.
Ha ha ha. xD
Then you have a long way to go before you mature.~
I have a hard time relating to big money dreams. Since most of my dreams and ambitions concern things that aren't known for their profit margin, like cooking, religion, history, and languages. So i mean to me success would mean that i make enough to get by and still have time to dwell deep into my fields of interests. So i guess my ambition is to eat, live, love, and learn as much as i possibly could
I was more responding to "you can do pretty much everything… if you put enough determination into it".
I guess the specific point about age may be irrational on my part. I just can't stop comparing myself to people who are already more successful than I am. And then I desperately try to rationalize it somehow, try to find ways that they aren't actually better than me. It's easy to rationalize it when they're much older, but when they're as old as I am or only a few years older... I'm faced with my own crippling inadequacy, and then I have to stop looking at their Facebook pictures.
@wolfwoof:
I have a hard time relating to big money dreams. Since most of my dreams and ambitions concern things that aren't known for their profit margin, like cooking, religion, history, and languages. So i mean to me success would mean that i make enough to get by and still have time to dwell deep into my fields of interests. So i guess my ambition is to eat, live, love, and learn as much as i possibly could
So in short, your ambition is the -Basic Life essentials- which everyone already archived and continues to archive in it? Umm ok. Guess that makes my goal look like I'm greedy, trying to finish school and concentrate on work..
So in short, your ambition is the -Basic Life essentials- which everyone already archived and continues to archive in it? Umm ok. Guess that makes my goal look like I'm greedy, trying to finish school and concentrate on work..
I didn't realize studying humanities and languages were essentials lol
But i must say that i dispute your claim that everyone already acheived mastering a craft, and three academic fields
I'm not really going to go into what I like and dislike about this, but I think it's funny that we were just talking about this in the Random News thread.
I'd be happy if I could just exist. Without needing to put in effort to fund my continued existence.
@wolfwoof:
I didn't realize studying humanities and languages were essentials lol
Well not Basic essentials but still essential in a way, you still need to understand people/personality/language etc for communication and progress to flow by
But i must say that i dispute your claim that everyone already acheived mastering a craft, and three academic fields
I agree on this, things are not as easy as it is for others(that's the sad part).
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I'd be happy if I could just exist. Without needing to put in effort to fund my continued existence.
This not "Make a wish" or "fantasy" foundation..
This not "Make a wish" or "fantasy" foundation..
Haha, fair enough. I thought it fit with the last page or so of posts about success and stuff.
I guess the specific point about age may be irrational on my part. I just can't stop comparing myself to people who are already more successful than I am. And then I desperately try to rationalize it somehow, try to find ways that they aren't actually better than me. It's easy to rationalize it when they're much older, but when they're as old as I am or only a few years older… I'm faced with my own crippling inadequacy, and then I have to stop looking at their Facebook pictures.
Comparin urself to others is bullshit. Even success is different for everyone, and those 'successful' people may not be as successful as they seem. And every one can be successful in something, but most important is to enjoy what you do, not something like salary or fame imo.
And if you think that theyre better than you, cause they are more determined and hard-working, then its easy to change.
Move out of my shitty apartment into something better.
Get out of the restaurant business.
Apply for a local college.
Master the art of being able to make time for everything.
Yep well, I'm already shaking with anger at your post. And I have the sinking feeling that this conversation is going to become about me as a person, if it hasn't already. And I'm confident that such a conversation would quickly spiral out of my control. So I'm done here. As you should have gleaned from the "success" thing, I don't play to lose.
Crys, dear, if you are going to start a conversation, it always creates an opportunity for someone else to comment on the chosen subject. And if you then comment on the reply, especially if you rebut it completely without explaining your own logic behind that, you will always subject yourself to further scrutiny. You know that, and I know that you know it very well too. If that is a subject that is too sensitive for you to touch, please don't put yourself in a position where that's required of you.
Saying others are wrong and ripping their posts apart and then running away when confronted looks very rude to the person in question, and others might very well jump in to defend the other person. I'm well aware of your personal troubles so I'm not at all fazed or insulted, but not all people know of those and are likely to react in a very different way. You'll only hurt yourself if you talk like that. I am very sorry if my original post was belittling to you, I did not mean it that way at all. It was meant more as abstract general contemplation than a personal question. Although, I must say I hope you could sometimes be more open about yourself and find the courage to discuss yourself as a person. Not everyone is judgmental, and shutting yourself in with your opinions doesn't seem like a very healthy way of coping. I'm honestly a little worried about you.
When it comes to your crippling lack of self-esteem, though, you're being a bit silly. Success is so subjective that I don't have any idea what exactly it is that you are talking about and what you feel you're lacking, but you have achieved incredible things already and you're definitely not "inadequate" as a person. You are one of the most intelligent posters around here, your command of the English language is definitely above average, you are fairly good-looking despite everything you might claim (no one's ideal in that regard, so you shouldn't really feel bad about not being perfect), and most importantly you have had the incredible courage to combat the society's normal gender standards by doing what feels right for you. All of those things are amazing! The only real thing that I see keeping you down is your disbelief in yourself and in your abilities to do more.
It's clear that you haven't accomplished as much as some other people have, but you are being excessively unfair to yourself, even cruel to yourself, if you compare yourself to many of those people. Achieving things comes with time spent on those things, and most of those people have not had to worry about going through the same amount of mental instability and everyday struggling that you have overcome. They have simply had more energy and time to put into whatever it is that they have done than you have. It doesn't mean you're somehow bad for not having done something similar yet. And it certainly doesn't mean you couldn't do everything you want to do because you haven't started yet.
If you give it a moment of thought, you may realize that you have only really had about five to three years of life that you yourself have had much command over. Now think of how many years you are likely to have left. You still have over twenty times the amount of years you have lived on your own terms to do whatever it is that your heart desires, you can definitely do it. And here's a little fact: almost everyone can. The thing is, if you are not satisfied with something in your life, you are completely free to change that. Yes, you can talk about societal restrictions and "the reality of the world" and whatnot, but all that's secondary. It's just the framework by the means of which you operate. It doesn't limit you nearly as much as you think. If you don't find people who accept you as you are - and there will always be those because the world is full of people who have their own problems and who project them onto others - just find people who do. Those do exist. And if you don't like what you are doing, stop doing it and start doing something that makes you happy. The real question is whether you have the courage to do so or not, and you have already shown the world that, yes, you definitely do.
There is no winning or losing, you literally cannot lose in the grand game of existence. There are things that you can do; some of those you will do, the vast majority you will not. Succeeding in something is great in and of itself, but the funny thing about it is that life will go on regardless of whether you succeed or not. The only thing that really matters is whether you're spending your time in a way that you yourself are finding joy in, and that's something you can affect.
You're already good enough for the world, so believe in yourself a little more.
I just wanna say that My goal in life is to be as (positively) influential as I can be. And if I don't manage to be that influential in my society, then I will try to help my kids be that.
Then, I can rest in peace. ;)
To destroy the world and create a new one. Both literally, and figuratively to an extent.
@Toraish:
-snip-
Good advice.~
Yep well, I'm already shaking with anger at your post. And I have the sinking feeling that this conversation is going to become about me as a person, if it hasn't already. And I'm confident that such a conversation would quickly spiral out of my control. So I'm done here. As you should have gleaned from the "success" thing, I don't play to lose.
Yeah… Honestly though Crystal, I'm not out to get you. I'm probably one of the few people on this site that truly understands how you feel. (Or did you forget I'm trans? >_>) And I've been down the road you're on right now; hating myself for all of my failures and inadequacies and being incurably envious of those around me. Hell, I still feel that way pretty frequently.
If you need to speak then speak. I'm trying to help you out, not belittle you. But you have to conduct yourself in a mature fashion and realize that I'm just speaking from a point of clarity that I've reached and am trying to relate to you. I understand no two situations are the same, even if we have multiple similarities (and if you're seething so much you can't stand to even be compared to me then I'll say "comparable situations" instead).
Realize that not everything has to be a battle and that not every conversation is a battleground. We CAN be adults. >_>
So on this talk of success and accomplishment, I thought I'd share my views. Personally, I'm not all that ambitious. I don't have enough things to spend money on to really care about being rich, and I don't really feel a need to be in the spotlight. I mean, I still have dreamed about doing something big enough to get recognized for it and such, but it just isn't the be all or end all for me. What I really want to accomplish is helping the world in the best way I can. I don't believe there's anything only one person ever could achieve, so I'm not going to say do something only I can do. I just want to help the world, be it in a big way or a small one. It could be making something that saves lives, or it could just be increasing the affordability or convenience of something that makes peoples lives better (read: Happier) or easier. It doesn't need to affect everyone, and even just making one person significantly happier (without hurting others in the process of course) would be enough for me. Ultimately, I just want to be able to look back at my life and be proud of what I've done, be it big or small. The way I see it, people who do big things are probably just lucky. Talent and hard work are necessary of course, but those alone will almost never be enough without good opportunities, or avoiding chance accidents that could send everything toppling down, or even just being able to discover the thing they have a talent and passion for.
As for comparison of your value vs others, I don't think I can say all people are equal, although I do think all people are incredibly valuable. And who's on top will be determined by what your priorities and beliefs are. Not to mention personal inequality vs more world related value. I don't think this means people can lord over those who they see as less valuable though, and I think different people carry all different sorts of value. And ultimately, being a more valuable human being doesn't mean being a happier one (and oftentimes, being incredibly gifted or talented can lead to the opposite, since it isolates you). To illustrate what I mean, imagine you're in a scenario where two people are at risk of dying, but you can only save one. There is an equal chance to save each person, and the main difference is one is a close friend/family member and the other is a random stranger. How many people do you honestly think would pick the random stranger? Now lets repeat that scenario, except this time the two people are a renowned doctor who has saved countless lives and is at the top of his field, and the other is a random office worker. You know nothing else about their personalities, personal lives, or anything else about them. This one is less personal, so depending on certain biases an individual has the answer might change, but most would probably choose to save the doctor, and pretty much no one will choose at random. That said, is the person you didn't choose unimportant? Hell no. But by choosing one specifically, you make a value judgment. Ultimately I think it's worthless worrying about this though, because everyone assigns value differently, and there is no cosmic standard to judge by. And because it's stupid to worry so much about relative statements. Are the people who are smarter than me, kinder than me, wiser than me, or just all around better than me? Yes of course there are. But that doesn't diminish my worth as a person at all. There are also people who are lower than me in any and all of those regards. And they still have worth as human beings as well.
I guess what I'm ultimately getting is that you can't define yourself in relative terms. That's not to say relative ideas and comparisons to others are worthless, because looking outward and seeing how you stack up can be a great way to gain insight into how you can improve yourself, and competition can lead to both sides improving faster than you could without.
These probably are my goals right now:
-Find love.
-Create some kind of creative work.
-Do some charitable stuff.
-Travel to Japan & USA.
-Finish reading One Piece. :P
I'd also would like to someway do something influential, but that would be very hard to accomplish probably.^.^
I want to become a proffesional musician :3 I hope my hard work will pay off someday…
I'm sorry I never replied to the posts in this thread.
@Mafia:
I want to become a proffesional musician :3 I hope my hard work will pay off someday…
That Shostakovich quote in your SIG is beast. What do you play?
That Shostakovich quote in your SIG is beast. What do you play?
thank you! I am flautist :) I love playing it more than anything