Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD

Gliblord

She only found this thing yesterday I think. She said someone recommended it to her. It does sound bad for me as I don't believe in God, I believe in something else.

Well, it all had to start two years ago. I think it's when she has been seeing that guy for some time. He had a great influence on her, that I can tell. I'm not sure what he is, sort of a… I have no idea, he cures people with everything but medicine.
Interestingly enough, the guy's teacher was the one I was seeing for some months. He told me that I had to wear make-up and that I have to go to discos and the sort to have friends. Because I'm a girl and thus, I have to.

So yeah, it was definitely that what changed her. Which is good for everyone but me I guess.

Back to the cult thingy, it's good that she looked into it (she probably haven't) because this sounds exactly what she was against when she found out one of my classmates tried to go to one of those (it was purely religious though).
Which brings me to another thing that hurt me. When she (the girl in my class) was so desperate as to cry out her problems on one of her English courses to the teacher, my mom suddenly became eager to help her. She's friends with both the teacher and both the mom of the girl so they're not strangers to one another. After the teacher told my mom about all that, she wanted the girl to come over to us for a few days and also wanted me to share a bed with her and talk to her and listen. Luckily, she was the one who talked with the girl.
It still hurts me though. How she jumped when that other girl cried and how she said I ruined her happiness when I called her crying.

It's really calming to see there're people like me out there, even if it just makes the world a little sadder that these things aren't that uncommon. Thanks for sharing all this!

One last thing: my mother's now really angry with me because she thinks I dropped her in favor of his friend (who lives on the other side of the country) who helped me a lot lately. She's so far the only person I've met in real life who doesn't mind me being so quiet (I'm not leaving out you guys, it's different on the internet~). She says it's not a bad quality.
So now, my mom makes passive-aggressive remarks on how I betrayed her etc.
Needless to say, this makes me feel worse.

And one really last thing: I'm afraid I won't go to England this year because my mother won't take me as I'd "ruin it like I did with Switzerland".

I don't know in which bizarro world blaming everything on your kid is a good strategy for happiness, but it certainly isn't this planet

Nolus

@Gliblord:

I don't know in which bizarro world blaming everything on your kid is a good strategy for happiness, but it certainly isn't this planet

Well, it didn't start like that. More like it started with her going out more (which is a good thing) but he started neglecting me and now she says it's because I didn't want her and always resided in my room, door closed and such. Which is true. However, lately, seeing how much fun she had going on trips and whatnot, I asked her to organize one with just the two of us.
It ended up being a foursome with me being passed on to the aforementioned girl classmate.
It's not like I haven't tried. When I wanted a new earring, I asked her to come with me (because I didn't want to go alone) and first few times she just shrugged me off and said: "Go with your classmate" and when I said "I don't want to go with her, I want to go with you" she said that at my age, it's important to go with my "friend".
I tried again and again, but most of the time she just said it would be boring with just the two of us. She kept on insisting bringing either her friends and/or my classmate and her mother.

Her reasoning to all this was that it's not good going with me because we always had a quarrel or two.

Now she insist on keeping my door open because closing it what made me "the person I am today". We're not interacting though. I have nothing to say, she neither.

Khainiwest

Your mother would not last a day with my younger sister. She is selfish, she is caniving, she makes it very common knowledge she would rather save her friends than her own family if to choose, works two jobs yet begs money from my parents still, and has no issues telling you how much you deserve to die as you're worthless.

She'd carve out your mother and play her like a f`ucking piccolo. Seriously I feel like she's emotional and exaggerating because you aren't how she acted when she was your age, before, ya know, the internet was a primary use.

At least she doesn't have to deal with having 8 people randomly sleeping over anytime of the week because their parents have given up on the unambitious wannabe frekin rockstars. Ugh sorry I'm ranting >_>; lol

Gliblord

@Nolus:

Well, it didn't start like that. More like it started with her going out more (which is a good thing) but he started neglecting me and now she says it's because I didn't want her and always resided in my room, door closed and such. Which is true. However, lately, seeing how much fun she had going on trips and whatnot, I asked her to organize one with just the two of us.
It ended up being a foursome with me being passed on to the aforementioned girl classmate.
It's not like I haven't tried. When I wanted a new earring, I asked her to come with me (because I didn't want to go alone) and first few times she just shrugged me off and said: "Go with your classmate" and when I said "I don't want to go with her, I want to go with you" she said that at my age, it's important to go with my "friend".
I tried again and again, but most of the time she just said it would be boring with just the two of us. She kept on insisting bringing either her friends and/or my classmate and her mother.

Her reasoning to all this was that it's not good going with me because we always had a quarrel or two.

Now she insist on keeping my door open because closing it what made me "the person I am today". We're not interacting though. I have nothing to say, she neither.

So she's put you into a situation where you can't win, no matter what. She's given you no latitude to bond with her directly

Nolus

@Gliblord:

So she's put you into a situation where you can't win, no matter what. She's given you no latitude to bond with her directly

Basically yes.
She wants to bond on weekdays when she usually comes home late because of work. Also, when we do talk (or used to talk) it's not exactly bonding. It's like when two mothers go to pick up their children from school talk about everyday stuff, how they have a jerk at workplace etc. It's not bad, but certainly not enough.

No Maam

I confess I'm bummed out, and I actualy can't even decide what's the thing that's most at fault.

Oh well, gonna go to sleep and hopefully I won't have the urge to go and insult people for no other reason then to vent.

Arei

I really don't get how a kid "betrays" a parent. Except in super super extreme cases, not something you see in your average normal parent-child relationship. To a budding adult as you are, you're entering the time in your life that you're going to keep expanding relationships outside of your home and ultimately go on to build your own life and home. Your mother's attitude just further reinforces the idea that she had you to serve her own needs, and doesn't give any fucks about your own.

It's sorta like some of the bullshit my grandma would tell me when I would try and hide in my room and stay away when my cousin and aunt and uncle were around. They let my cousin do whatever she wanted to (break my shit, eat all of my shit, hit and slap me, etc) and blamed it on ME for staying in my room and not coming out.

Back then we had moved to where I was constantly bullied by teachers and my classmates alike, and like I said my mom was not emotionally there for me at all. I'd spend all week there miserable and my grandparents was where I always relaxed and felt safe, but I felt really violated that the blame was put on me because I wouldn't come out and sit in the living room and do absolutely nothing but watch Bear in the Big Blue House and twiddle my thumbs while I was ignored by everyone else. I had already had to deal with bullshit like that at my dad's when I was forced to go over there, I had really had my fill of that junk. And they further reinforced the idea that I deserved it. It wasn't until right before my grandma died she finally understood how I felt about it, but that was a lot of crap at the time (I was suffering from bad reflux and I used to barely eat anything either because I was so afraid of becoming ill so I was already constantly in pain/feeling like shit anyway).

But the moral of all that was my grandma cared more about not pissing off my aunt and especially my uncle then she did about mine or anyone elses feelings (this also extended to the rest of the family when it concerned bending everyone else's schedule around theirs). Your mom has her own twisted agenda and it has nothing to do with meeting your needs AT ALL. My mom is the same way at times, but in her case it's not really out of malice, it's more just who she is personally. It sucks, but it's her issue.

It will take a long time to do, and it's very painful, but I'd just tune her out and be done with her as soon as you can move out and on. If you want to have a relationship with her in the future, it will probably be a lot better when you aren't under the same roof (though there is no guarantee). Though I recommend not crying to her or lashing back when she acts all stupid. You can't give her a reason to throw the blame around, if there are other people watching or aware of the situation, let her be the one to make herself look like a total asscase. I've been staying calm and not reacting to my mother's crap, she usually calms down right away and I think she's becoming more aware of her crap now that she's the only one acting that way.

Your mom is like on a higher level of crazy unreasonable then my mom ever has been, so ignoring her is probably all you can do. If you get away from her and she wants to try and establish having a better relationship, then it's to be done only on your terms. If she breaks them, then she gets the boot. As for living with her in the meantime, I'd just write her off and cling to the folks (on and offline) that you are more comfortable with. Find someone who will listen to you and not turn you away. You can PM me for IM if you ever want to talk, I'll always listen. Trust me, I know a ton of people cannot relate to such a situation and those who can't have a very very very low tolerance for the epic mountain of frustration/complaining you might throw at them. I've had to curb the spilling of my guts, I've lost almost every new friend I've made the past few years =X

zachri

I heard something about England.
If you ever come to England, Nolus, move to Bishopton if you can. :ninja:

Smudger

@zachri:

I heard something about England.
If you ever come to England, Nolus, move to Bishopton if you can. :ninja:

lol why would you want to curse someone with living near Glasgow XD

Monkey King

@Smudger:

lol why would you want to curse someone with living near Glasgow XD

Or the UK in general really.

Smudger

@Monkey:

Or the UK in general really.

its saved by the south coast and the Lake District.

Kitsune Inferno

Sigh… why do I feel like such a loser? I'm like really obsessing lately over my relationship with my "girlfriend" (though at this stage its like we're just really close friends. We haven't really done anything intimate) so I've been trying to work up the courage to talk to her about "us" but I can never find a way to do so organically. Another thing that's been stopping me is the whole "going separate ways" thing since were both pretty set on different goals that prevent me from getting more intimate with her. It also doesn't help that I feel like she doesn't want someone like me in any serious capacity. I mean what good am I for? I'm not exactly mr. Manly and I'm miserable at casual conversation. So... dammit I don't know. Kinda writing this stream of consciousness style so I'm probably rambling. I just... don't know. I really like her a lot and want to make it work but I'm such a coward when it comes to talking about it.

bartholemew kuma

Come on guys, Glasgow is not THAT bad. Though the only logical choice is London if you ever decide to settle in the UK

MDL

London was too crowded for me when i visited. good in small doses though.
I much prefer my peaceful village life in the east midlands. lots of fields and nature, yet just a bus ride away from the city of Nottingham.
Best of both worlds.

Monkey King

@MDL:

London was too crowded for me when i visited. good in small doses though.
I much prefer my peaceful village life in the east midlands. lots of fields and nature, yet just a bus ride away from the city of Nottingham.
Best of both worlds.

If London is too crowded for you mamma mia stay away from my neck of the woods.

1PceXperience

I like to squish raisin between my finger tips. It's kind of fun!

Femme

I confess that I'm addicted to Japanese cooking videos on Youtube, namely Cooking with Dog and runnyrunny999. I can rewatch old videos over and over and not get bored.

Though I've learned many techniques and new dishes (and will soon be attempting sushi for the first time), I'm slightly saddened because it seems like sake is a main flavouring ingredient in almost everything. If that's the case, then if I ever travel to Japan I wonder if I'll be able to eat anything :( as I don't consume alcohol.
One of the phrases I'd have to learn is: "Does this contain sake?" :(

Here's a picture of some Gyoza I made from scratch yesterday, thanks to these two channels:

!

valiantt

@Femme:

I'm slightly saddened because it seems like sake is a main flavouring ingredient in almost everything. If that's the case, then if I ever travel to Japan I wonder if I'll be able to eat anything :( as I don't consume alcohol.
One of the phrases I'd have to learn is: "Does this contain sake?" :(

Is it for religious reasons? Because a considerable number of dishes everywhere has alcohol as an ingredient.

Monkey King

@valiantt:

Is it for religious reasons? Because a considerable number of dishes everywhere has alcohol as an ingredient.

Yeah she's muslim.

Femme

@Monkey:

Yeah she's muslim.

Indeed, this girl enjoys her apple juice.

It's not a big thing for me, I've never had alcohol before so I have zero interest in it. Same with pork.

However I Will be upset if I travel to Japan and sake IS used in the dishes I want to try the most. Not cool, maaan.

valiantt

@Femme:

Indeed, this girl enjoys her apple juice.

It's not a big thing for me, I've never had alcohol before so I have zero interest in it. Same with pork.

However I Will be upset if I travel to Japan and sake IS used in the dishes I want to try the most. Not cool, maaan.

Cooking sake is commonly used in Japan so it is best to know which dish uses it prior to trying it out. I know I use it quite often in my cooking.

Femme

@valiantt:

Cooking sake is commonly used in Japan so it is best to know which dish uses it prior to trying it out. I know I use it quite often in my cooking.

Cool. I'll do my research.

Pardon my lack of knowledge, but what flavour does sake actually give to food? If you didn't use it, would you taste it and be like "hmm.. it's missing sake."?

valiantt

@Femme:

Cool. I'll do my research.

Pardon my lack of knowledge, but what flavour does sake actually give to food? If you didn't use it, would you taste it and be like "hmm.. it's missing sake."?

It is a bit subtle, but it does add to the taste. One would hardly ever notice the difference whether you are actually eating one that used sake as an ingredient and another that used a substitute. Unless you either try them side by side or accustomed to that particular taste, you wouldn't notice. Alcohol is more noticeable in desert dishes (i.e. pudding, cake) rather than a standard meal.

If you are accustomed to eating food that is cooked with sake, you would notice that there is something missing from it (or you are at least aware they used something else). Based on my experience, alcohol (when used in cooking) slightly enhances the flavor of food so its absence would make the flavor seem a bit "duller" or "flat". However, like I said, if you are not accustomed to it, you probably wouldn't notice it much at all. This might be just me, but I feel alcohol extends the aftertaste of food as well which means the flavor sort of lasts while you eat.

However, there are plenty of substitutes out there that has the same effect. But for me, it is easily noticeable to differentiate between a substitute and alcohol/sake.

Femme

@valiantt:

It is a bit subtle, but it does add to the taste. One would hardly ever notice the difference whether you are actually eating one that used sake as an ingredient and another that used a substitute. Unless you either try them side by side or accustomed to that particular taste, you wouldn't notice. Alcohol is more noticeable in desert dishes (i.e. pudding, cake) rather than a standard meal.

If you are accustomed to eating food that is cooked with sake, you would notice that there is something missing from it (or you are at least aware they used something else). Based on my experience, alcohol (when used in cooking) slightly enhances the flavor of food so its absence would make the flavor seem a bit "duller" or "flat". However, like I said, if you are not accustomed to it, you probably wouldn't notice it much at all. This might be just me, but I feel alcohol extends the aftertaste of food as well which means the flavor sort of lasts while you eat.

However, there are plenty of substitutes out there that has the same effect. But for me, it is easily noticeable to differentiate between a substitute and alcohol/sake.

Ahh, I see. Thanks for the insight!

Nami

@Femme:

Girls NEED to hear about the feelings her man has for her. It's almost mandatory. Nothing makes a girl feel more loved and happy than full out confession from her partner about their feelings for her. And it can't be just once, either. Nor constantly in a fake way, but once every now and then just to revive those old feelings.

Don't put yourself down. Not all girls want a "Mr. Manly", some like the sweet and sentimental kind instead.

About your difficulty with casual conversation - believe me that is normal for many people! Just find common topics to you and her that you find easy to talk about.

I suggest this: Buy something for her, or do something for her that you normally haven't done before and put in that special effort to convey your feelings for her through actions instead of words. Flowers. A Teddy bear. Anything you know she might like.

Use that as the beginning of a serious conversation about your relationship, and just be honest! Girls love honesty, and to be honest (lol), girls love to hear that their partner has been thinking about them and worrying about their relationship. Tell her you don't want to lose her and exactly like you said here, you like her a lot and you want to make it work.

Remember, I'm not sure if your girlfriend is this type, but many girls wait for the guy to make the first move. In any situation.

Hey! Since you write so well (I've read your stories), why not write her a letter? A real one, in your handwriting.

Hope this helps :)

quoted for truth.

Steven D. Teach

@Femme:

However I Will be upset if I travel to Japan and sake IS used in the dishes I want to try the most. Not cool, maaan.

I guess it depends on what foods you are anxious to try. To be honest I don't think it is used a whole lot in a lot of the main dishes I assume you are after–more likely that it would show up in homecooking.
You may just want to put in some research, as you said.

No Maam

@Femme:

I confess that I'm addicted to Japanese cooking videos on Youtube, namely Cooking with Dog and runnyrunny999. I can rewatch old videos over and over and not get bored.

Though I've learned many techniques and new dishes (and will soon be attempting sushi for the first time), I'm slightly saddened because it seems like sake is a main flavouring ingredient in almost everything. If that's the case, then if I ever travel to Japan I wonder if I'll be able to eat anything :( as I don't consume alcohol.
One of the phrases I'd have to learn is: "Does this contain sake?" :(

Here's a picture of some Gyoza I made from scratch yesterday, thanks to these two channels:

! https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/529863_10151236328191986_667461774_n.jpg

Question: would you actualy not even want to try it ? At all ?

trappedolphin

Sometimes, I forget to breathe.

BartArt

@trappedolphin:

Sometimes, I forget to breathe.

I get paralysed in my sleep

I wake up not breathing, my heart works overtime. It's fucked up.

The Laughing Man

@BartArt:

I get paralysed in my sleep

I wake up not breathing, my heart works overtime. It's fucked up.

You get sleep paralysis? Really?

1PceXperience

@The:

You get sleep paralysis? Really?

I get that too. When I try to move during it, I get this "tingling" sensation. Like a vibration that's holding me down. Sleep paralysis is very common. I don't get it as much as I use to though…

The Laughing Man

@1PceXperience:

I get that too. When I try to move during it, I get this "tingling" sensation. Like a vibration that's holding me down. Sleep paralysis is very common. I don't get it as much as I use to though…

You're lucky you don't get it worse than that; hallucinations and all that, seeing strange figures and stuff–since, apparently, during sleep paralysis you're still somewhat asleep and in somewhat of a dream state (you disturb the Rapid Eye Movement...process). (For the record, I don't have/haven't had yet sleep paralysis).

BartArt

@The:

You're lucky you don't get it worse than that; hallucinations and all that, seeing strange figures and stuff–since, apparently, during sleep paralysis you're still somewhat asleep and in somewhat of a dream state (you disturb the Rapid Eye Movement...process). (For the record, I don't have/haven't had yet sleep paralysis).

I get it several times a week, the worst time was when for a while I couldn't regain consciousness yet I was conscious of being not able to?

The Laughing Man

@BartArt:

I get it several times a week, the worst time was when for a while I couldn't regain consciousness yet I was conscious of being not able to?

That also happens… Have you had it forever or no? Sometimes, if you have a sleep pattern outside of your "norm" sleep pattern, you can experience it. Having some type of moderate to severe sleep disorder can also have sleep paralysis as a symptom.

Supposedly, if you focus (really focus) on moving a part of your body, like an arm, you can break out of it with relative ease.

BartArt

@The:

That also happens… Have you had it forever or no? Sometimes, if you have a sleep pattern outside of your "norm" sleep pattern, you can experience it. Having some type of moderate to severe sleep disorder can also have sleep paralysis as a symptom.

Supposedly, if you focus (really focus) on moving a part of your body, you can break out of it with relative ease.

For a few years, I think in my case it's something to do with stress caffeine and low blood pressure but I'm not really sure

The Laughing Man

Well… If you can see one positive out of the situation: You CANNOT die, nor is your health in any sort of danger, from sleep paralysis; it's pretty much harmless. Though... I suppose you can become mentally tired.

BartArt

@The:

Well… If you can see one positive out of the situation: You CANNOT die, nor is your health in any sort of danger, from sleep paralysis; it's pretty much harmless. Though... I suppose you can become mentally tired.

Yeah I know I don't really worry but it can be really disruptive and sometimes disturbing

PS: thanks for the chat you really know this stuff : D

1PceXperience

@The:

Well… If you can see one positive out of the situation: You CANNOT die, nor is your health in any sort of danger, from sleep paralysis; it's pretty much harmless. Though... I suppose you can become mentally tired.

SP is still a very scary situation. It's like you're helpless. Your body abandons you…

Smudger

@Femme:

and just be honest! Girls love honesty, and to be honest (lol)

ahahaaahahaahahaa.

This is the ultimate trap right here. White lies are your first weapon with a fair amount of questions you get. Eg the old line 'does my bum look big in this'.

Honesty is best, true, but some things just can't be said without hurting feelings. It's a balance, and if you have to lie to help boost self esteem or confidence then why not?

If I was always honest in relationships then they wouldn't last more than a day. And this isn't just relationships but with friends and family. You can't always speak your mind and have to be pretty tactful with your response.

Monkey King

Your both lying.
Girls want honesty, but they don't love it.

It's the right thing to do, but it's never easy and might result in some fights.
But by this point I'm starting to feel SOME fights are worth having. In any relationship, especially the most important one, letting things go unsaid can be the worst fucking thing. They don't go away, they just fester and blow up later.

Me and Chrissie had an awful scuffle of sorts (in the middle of the streets of an occupied military third world puppet state, which is fucking hilarious in retrospect for how bizarre that is). It sucked and we were both upset to have become upset soon after. But it did progress our relationship, and even then while angry…the progress was evident and I was also really happy in part that we'd done it. It made us stronger.

And I HATE confrontation (in real life) so me saying this is saying something.

What's even the point of a relationship without real emotional intimacy. It's pretty much 99.9999 percent of why you should actually have them. If you don't want that, just have one night stands and casual relationships and call them what they are, because it's not the same thing.

Femme

@Smudger:

ahahaaahahaahahaa.

This is the ultimate trap right here. White lies are your first weapon with a fair amount of questions you get. Eg the old line 'does my bum look big in this'.

Honesty is best, true, but some things just can't be said without hurting feelings. It's a balance, and if you have to lie to help boost self esteem or confidence then why not?

If I was always honest in relationships then they wouldn't last more than a day. And this isn't just relationships but with friends and family. You can't always speak your mind and have to be pretty tactful with your response.

Well yeah :P don't be painfully honest if it's something that's gonna wreck the relationship. But seeing as how Kitsune came across as a guy who really likes his gf but was mustering up the courage to say it to her, THAT's the kind of honesty that girls like to hear, and a lot of it.

wolfwood

@Smudger:

White lies are your first weapon with a fair amount of questions you get. Eg the old line 'does my bum look big in this'.

Let's be honest. No one ever in the history of the universe have ever actually heard that line from a woman

cooldud

I have communication issues too. My girlfriend constantly says that I don't express my feelings enough, and that I'm not protective enough of her, and so on.
Seriously, what is it with you guys wanting to hear this all the time? Honesty and hearing the same things over and over again are different things.
@wolfwoof:

Let's be honest. No one ever in the history of the universe have ever actually heard that line from a woman

You'd be surprised, mate. Every single one of my romantic pursuits has asked some version of this at some point.

Femme

@Steven:

I guess it depends on what foods you are anxious to try. To be honest I don't think it is used a whole lot in a lot of the main dishes I assume you are after–more likely that it would show up in homecooking.
You may just want to put in some research, as you said.

-I must try

- The process alone is worth praising to make this delightful looking thing.
-An authentically made Omurice. I've made my own style but I wanna try the real thing.
-Actual freshly made Ramen. Many a package of instant noodle have I consumed.
-This sounds silly, but an Onigiri. Maybe with something inside of it. Coming from a Caribbean background, I have never imagined just chomping down on plain rice. There must be something to it o_O
-Takoyaki
-Dango

And many noodle and soup dishes. I also have a deep desire to have an expertly crafted adorable bento box, with all the little shapes and cuteness.

@No:

Question: would you actualy not even want to try it ? At all ?

Dishes with alcohol in it? Of course I'd want to try them, I'm sure they taste great! But if it had even a splash of alcohol in it, then nope, not interested.

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@cooldud_21:

I have communication issues too. My girlfriend constantly says that I don't express my feelings enough, and that I'm not protective enough of her, and so on.
Seriously, what is it with you guys wanting to hear this all the time? Honesty and hearing the same things over and over again are different things.
You'd be surprised, mate. Every single one of my romantic pursuits has asked some version of this at some point.

Males and females are like night and day my friend Many men may always Know they're loved, but women need to be Shown and Told that they're loved.
Blame our bodies' physical and chemical differences.

I'll translate what you just said into what your girl means:

1. "I don't express my feelings enough" - A girl communicates to others mainly through talking. If you don't Tell her you care for her, she doesn't know it.

2. "I'm not protective enough of her" - She wants to feel special and taken care of. By being protective of her from let's say, another guy, or from a dangerous situation, you're communicating that you don't want her to be stolen away from anyone else, or that you don't want an ounce of harm to come to her. I.e - That you care for her. See #1.

Smudger

Cooldud he was joking.

No Maam

@Femme:

Dishes with alcohol in it? Of course I'd want to try them, I'm sure they taste great! But if it had even a splash of alcohol in it, then nope, not interested.

I meant alcohol as a whole. Do you realy want to never taste it ?

GuetaMinute

There are certain things you just need to try in life. One splash of alcohol won't get you drunk, lmfao. Hell, I doubt you could even know it's alcohol from a single splash, especially in a dish.

No, I'm not advocating drinking by any means, but, it's pretty much a given that you'll taste alcohol at least once in your life. Getting drunk for the first time is some experience, and in a way, actually helps because you learn your limits and how to control yourself depending on the situation. Don't wanna get blasted off your ass in college. I know I don't. That's why I'm taking advantage, or trying to since our class is so cheap and we don't have a lot of parties like we used to, of my last semester of high school. Senior skip day, free day, graduation afterparty, Cancun…. holy hell I can already see myself.

Sorry, did I go too far? Anyway, my point is, I won't be doing all of that in college because 1) I don't know anyone, and once I do start meeting people, it's not like right now when we're so tight and shit. 2) I won't have the time, and probably won't have the money for booze.

don't mind me I'm some stupid ass brat anyway. :P

trappedolphin

She's Muslim, it's not about getting drunk.

valiantt

@trappedolphin:

She's Muslim, it's not about getting drunk.

FINALLY, I was wondering when someone was paying attention to her posts.

CCC

@Femme:

-I must try
- The process alone is worth praising to make this delightful looking thing.
-An authentically made Omurice. I've made my own style but I wanna try the real thing.
-Actual freshly made Ramen. Many a package of instant noodle have I consumed.
-This sounds silly, but an Onigiri. Maybe with something inside of it. Coming from a Caribbean background, I have never imagined just chomping down on plain rice. There must be something to it o_O
-Takoyaki
-Dango

I can pretty much guarantee that there will never be alcohol in those six things.
-There are chain restaurants where you can make your own okonomiyaki (the one in my region is called DohTonBori; I don't know if it's nationwide). They bring you the raw ingredients and batter and you cook it on the frying pan table in front of you.
-Absolutely no reason for there to be alcohol in ramen or omuraisu.
-Onigiri is just seaweed-wrapped rice, sometimes with filling. Salmon and tuna are good.
-Takoyaki are typically a festival food, which the person running the stall cooks in front of you, so you can see that they don't use alcohol. Leave off the sauce to be safe.
-Dango are made with flour and water. But… the sauce (the shoyu variety) usually has a bit of rice wine/vingear in it.

All of that said, though, any dish cooked in a pan that uses sake would have the actual alcohol content burned off by the time it's done, leaving just the flavor. Is it against halal if alcohol was used in the preparation, or just if it passes your lips? If it's the latter, then the main thing to watch out for is sauces.