Look, I appreciate the need to recognize and respect people's privacy, but I also think friendships are a two way street. The people you left behind were affected, whether you planned it or wanted it or not, as opposed to the decision being just about yourself, even if you think otherwise.
"No man is an island"–especially not someone with as strong and influential a personality as Kenny. We touch the people around us in various ways, whether we see or like that truth or not.
I'm gonna confess that I have struggled with poor self esteem for pretty much my entire life. I've learned through the years that sometimes that can be a convenient excuse to avoid admitting that I have connections to people, and that my words and actions matter--that, in fact, I can hurt people by underestimating them, my relationship to them, and the impact I may have had on them. Its a trust issue, and trusting is never easy.
Do I know the right answers? No, of course not--because each person and each situation is different. I'm just pointing out that Kenny isn't alone in this. He left behind people with connections, and they--we--are affected by his "No drama, no fuss, no muss" leave taking, despite his conviction that it would be painless this way.
Does that mean I think he ought to come back? Nope--cannot make those choices for him. I wish him all the best and I am thrilled for him to hear that he is happy in his new gamer role--really.
Does that mean I want you to go tell him all this? Nope. Its not about him at this point. With all due respect to you and Kenny, Kenny's expressed wishes do not mean that I need to keep my feelings to myself out of some sort of loyalty to "protecting his Privacy," or whatever. What I say here about how I feel, and what I think about it, is my business--Its about me. Wishing isn't gonna change anything--but I am entitled to have wishes.
Furthermore, no one here expects anything from you, Jay. You don't need to feel obligated to offer the explanations, and frankly, no offense, but its really not your place to do that, anyway. (Not that you did, beyond saying it wasn't any one particular incident, blah blah--just sayin') Its also not your place, or Kenny's, to tell us what we can say or not say about Kenny, or anyone else here, and how what they did or didn't do affected us. That is our business, and is in part what this thread is about.
I don't care if its an I-net forum, and people think that i-net relationships are less real, or are somehow disposable, I get attached to you all, and when you leave, I miss you.
OK I'm done. I'm gonna talk about something important and current, like Holy's situation. But in another post, after I ruminate a bit and see if I have anything of worth to offer besides moral support--which you already have, dear Holy.
) from talking to Kenny. Far from it, he's a really chill person to talk to. So if you didn't get to know Kenny before he left or just want to talk to him again, go out and find him, cause even if he doesn't say so, I know he misses more than a few of you around. 
