@gangstayonkou:
Ok since people really seem nice here i will confess some shit.
Ok first off my chest i honestly feel pretty shitty right now. I am the guy right now who is the only one who doesn't have a gf and seeing people happy relationships lately has really depressed me. I feel truly happy for them it's just depresses me.:sad:
Been there too, really sucks. Generally what helped me tolerate that was taking a look at how other people in relationships behaved. You know, having to always account for the other person, having to call, having to meet at any time possible just because … whenever I saw that it made me realize just how much freedom I had and how awesome it is to have it.
Another thing that helps me at this much later point in life is thinking of past relationships that didn't work and just how shitty they were. Sure, it sucks to be alone sometimes, but the fact that when I get home I can wear no pants, eat ANYTHING I want and read into the early morning because I feel like it? Bliss.
And don't worry, at some point it will be your turn :D. I've found that usually when you think of it the least is when you suddenly find someone and it all works out.
@gangstayonkou:
Alright next i honestly don't feel any closeness to my non-intermediate family. I always felt that they really haven't been there for me. One of my Grandparents brutally beat my mother when she was young and now sends hatemail to her and trys to bribe her grandkids to like her. My other grandmother is a hypochondriac. She didn't even attend my brother's graduation which my mother would have died trying to get to. And the only relative i am close to is lives 1500 miles away from me in new jersey.
Ok honestly 2 things to get off my chest. Thanks Guys
Sadly I've been there too. My mom was the black sheep of the family pretty much all her life. Her parents forced her into abortion (before she had me, of course), had her do all the work at home, and pretty much spent very little on her while instead they gave all their affection and love to her younger sister.
Fast-forward to today, my mom and I are pretty much outsiders. When we barely had enough money for food, it was friends who helped us while my aunt (her younger sister) would mock us for being poor and say her family was too upper-class to be seen with us. My grandparents are extremely egocentric and refuse to help my mom, even if it involves going with her to the hospital because of any random health problem. And there's a bunch of other people (cousins, aunts, etc.) who shun us for thinking differently (since my mother got divorced and went to a protestant church, she's a "heretic" and a "sinner" since the rest of the family is catholic), and who literally find ways to steal money and property from us.
And worst of all, for me, is that since I'm living my own life now (studying at college, finding jobs, traveling abroad), she's usually on her own and there's nothing I can do about it except save like crazy to maybe one day buy her a house and let her rest in peace (btw, as in relax, not die … )
I think it's ok to not feel closeness to them at all, just don't close your heart and actively hate them. There may be a time in which they need you or something, and it's a noble thing to be there for them even if they aren't there for you or your mom.
@marimo: I wouldn't say you're a failure! It's just a silly game after all! (also, are you asking me to recite all 151 pokemon now?!? Making sure you are before I head into such dark places in my memory.)