Ask her out, chump.
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If you're developing feelings for this girl then you might as well try to ask her out.
If you think you can remain friends without you falling deeper in love with her then do that I suppose.
But definitely don't try to stick around as a friend when you know you're going to love her more and more each day, because it will only hurt you at the end. And it may hurt her too.
All that social class stuff you were talking about, you're in college now. Social "classes" mesh together with each other all the time. Especially in relationships. If she likes you then what does it matter?
Thing is isn't asking her out the same thing as basically telling her that I like her? Something that in the past when the feelings not mutual usually ended up with me loosing a good friend and like I've said I have never in my entire life met someone that I have so much in common with and its kind of difficult to jeopardize that.
As for the social stuff, if she likes me it means that she'll obviously expect stuff that I can't do, especially since its stuff that the crowd she hangs out with wouldn't consider to be a big deal. If I were to meet such expectation, it would be like once per semester.
Anyways thanks for the feedback.
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ODA:ITS BECAUSE IN THAT ERA EVERYONE USES THEIR LIVES TO FIGHT FOR THEIR DREAMS. FOR AN ENEMY WHEN THEIR DREAM HAS BEEN SHATTERED,IT IS AS PAINFUL AS DEATH,I BELIEVE FOR A PIRATE NOT TO KILL AN ENEMY , IT'S GIVING THEM A SECOND CHANCE TO FIGHT FOR THEIR DREAMS.
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Thing is isn't asking her out the same thing as basically telling her that I like her? Something that in the past when the feelings not mutual usually ended up with me loosing a good friend and like I've said I have never in my entire life met someone that I have so much in common with and its kind of difficult to jeopardize that.
How do you know she's not already under the impression that you like her?
As for the social stuff, if she likes me it means that she'll obviously expect stuff that I can't do, especially since its stuff that the crowd she hangs out with wouldn't consider to be a big deal. If I were to meet such expectation, it would be like once per semester.
Anyways thanks for the feedback.
Do you mean she's high maintenance?
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How do you know she's not already under the impression that you like her?
True I don't(I wonder why a lot of people don't think about that?), so I should just go for it huh.
Do you mean she's high maintenance?
Basically Yes, though not in a bad way more of like her way of life an example take for example someone with 200 dollars and someone with 200,000 to the latter 200 isn't all that much to the former it is.
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Kinda strange she's attending the same school you are then, if her standard of living is so vastly different from yours.
I think you're over-thinking it.
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Aww. To be honest, from where I'm standing (sitting) it sounds like you might have found something special. I really think you should give it a shot! Cautiously, yes, so that you don't drive away the friendship, but there's no harm in testing the waters. Try to strike up more conversations and see if she enjoys being with you as much as you enjoy being with her.
Even if she does seem to participate more in really extroverted social activities than you do, you never know what she might actually look for in a relationship or what kind of dates she might like. She could actually be tired of high-energy stuff, for example, and be content to do something else with someone who has lots in common with her.
It might also take some of the pressure off you by not setting rigid or demanding goals for yourself, like "I have to succeed in asking her out on a date and get her to say yes, or else everything is over". Just try to get to know her even better! By all means, take it slow. Spend enough time with her and you will know what she's like when she's happy, angry, sad, moody, lonely, etc., and she will know what you're like too, and you can just enjoy each other's company. By that time, I honestly don't think "social classes" matter all that much.
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Aww. To be honest, from where I'm standing (sitting) it sounds like you might have found something special. I really think you should give it a shot! Cautiously, yes, so that you don't drive away the friendship, but there's no harm in testing the waters. Try to strike up more conversations and see if she enjoys being with you as much as you enjoy being with her.
Even if she does seem to participate more in really extroverted social activities than you do, you never know what she might actually look for in a relationship or what kind of dates she might like. She could actually be tired of high-energy stuff, for example, and be content to do something else with someone who has lots in common with her.
It might also take some of the pressure off you by not setting rigid or demanding goals for yourself, like "I have to succeed in asking her out on a date and get her to say yes, or else everything is over". Just try to get to know her even better! By all means, take it slow. Spend enough time with her and you will know what she's like when she's happy, angry, sad, moody, lonely, etc., and she will know what you're like too, and you can just enjoy each other's company. By that time, I honestly don't think "social classes" matter all that much.
Thanks for that, you've actually cleared up somethings for me in that you've basically just put into words what I was thinking of doing.
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You're welcome. Glad I could be of some help :)
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Relevant to some degree, when my family and I evacuated for Hurricane Katrina, we ended up staying at an orphanage in Brentwood, Tennessee for a year. There, every single person (minus the orphans) was rich. My obvious thought was that they'd all be stingy and snooty. Instead, they were all… surprisingly really normal. That's when I realized that, since everyone there was rich, no one could look down on someone else for not being rich.
To the contrary, I quickly became the most popular person there. People were fascinated with my background when each of them had lived fairly sheltered lives. Point being, social classes don't really matter. If there's synergy and a connection between the two of you, it'll be the last thing that matters. We're not living in the 16th century and you shouldn't feel ashamed or pressured about who you are or what you can provide as far as little trinkets or tasteless meals go.
If your connection was that shallow, it wouldn't be worth pursuing.
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I totally agree, and without repeating a lot of what Kenny said, I think you should just go for it. It's VERY RARE that you find someone who you really like AND is so compatible with you. If she likes you for who you are, then whatever discrepancy between financial levels is pretty irrelevant. I guess I really can't say I know how that feels, though even as a woman, I've had guys look down on me because I'm not "successful" in their minds… I could never pursue a relationship with someone who was like that, that's not what building a strong relationship is about. I say you should give it a go!!! You may have found someone beyond wonderful, you won't know til you try!
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! I think I am getting really tired of life , or my life whatever. I feel like I really have to drag myself to keep going on. Like it's really now some little things like a fav fictional char coming back in the serie or getting a free movie from a friend of mine that keep me going . I am just so sick of how fucking weak I am. I know only follow 17 hours at school instead of 32. I only had 3 things to do this week and still I didn't fucking manage to do them . IT'S 3 FUCKING THINGS METTE GODDAMN , it all just feels heavy and such feelings actually send me even deeper . And now I cause even more stress to my parents who already are stressed up. Why couldn't I be stronger ? Why couldn't I just stay a little longer like other kids of my age , or in fact just BE one of them?I just don't see myself ending up well , I can't look at myself in the future and think I will have a good and happy life. I am just so tired of it all really. I just want it to end damnit , I am so damn tired of it all. I don't think I can keep going on like this.
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! I think I am getting really tired of life , or my life whatever. I feel like I really have to drag myself to keep going on. Like it's really now some little things like a fav fictional char coming back in the serie or getting a free movie from a friend of mine that keep me going . I am just so sick of how fucking weak I am. I know only follow 17 hours at school instead of 32. I only had 3 things to do this week and still I didn't fucking manage to do them . IT'S 3 FUCKING THINGS METTE GODDAMN , it all just feels heavy and such feelings actually send me even deeper . And now I cause even more stress to my parents who already are stressed up. Why couldn't I be stronger ? Why couldn't I just stay a little longer like other kids of my age , or in fact just BE one of them?I just don't see myself ending up well , I can't look at myself in the future and think I will have a good and happy life. I am just so tired of it all really. I just want it to end damnit , I am so damn tired of it all. I don't think I can keep going on like this.
I know it sucks to feel that way, but having such feelings isn't the end. You've just reach that point in your life where "there's no point in moving forward". A lot people, of all ages and all statuses, reach that point in their lives. Each solution to this problem will be different so even if we offer you suggestions, none of those may help you personally.
If I was you, I wouldn't focus on trying to have a "good" and "happy" life. Terms like that are very vague and you could end up comparing those criteria to what other's establish as happy and good. Instead, aim for a meaningful life. Something that means something to you! All you need is one thing to pursue.
It could be as great as "I want to go into space". Or you could say "I want to make a great story". The answers are there, but you need to take the time (and it takes A LOT of time) to find them. Also, in regards to your performances…. look we all are fuck ups. Don't be ashamed if you aren't "caught up" or as successful as others. Just focus on what you can do now, and stop dwelling on what you should have done early on.
Finally, being weak isn't a crime, because it's not a permanent place. If you are willing to improve upon yourself, then you will become stronger. A lot of those strong people you see today were once weak.
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I do confess that I do feel sorry…
I apologize to anyone that I offended, I was insensitive and an ass, totally not like my mantra of "Love and Tolerance".
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I do confess that I do feel sorry…
I apologize to anyone that I offended, I was insensitive and an ass, totally not like my mantra of "Love and Tolerance".
It's cool Shuhan. You're still everyone's favorite Brony.
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@metteminne:
! I think I am getting really tired of life , or my life whatever. I feel like I really have to drag myself to keep going on. Like it's really now some little things like a fav fictional char coming back in the serie or getting a free movie from a friend of mine that keep me going . I am just so sick of how fucking weak I am. I know only follow 17 hours at school instead of 32. I only had 3 things to do this week and still I didn't fucking manage to do them . IT'S 3 FUCKING THINGS METTE GODDAMN , it all just feels heavy and such feelings actually send me even deeper . And now I cause even more stress to my parents who already are stressed up. Why couldn't I be stronger ? Why couldn't I just stay a little longer like other kids of my age , or in fact just BE one of them?I just don't see myself ending up well , I can't look at myself in the future and think I will have a good and happy life. I am just so tired of it all really. I just want it to end damnit , I am so damn tired of it all. I don't think I can keep going on like this.
You know, honestly… I wonder what even constitutes as "strong". Because you see, I'm like you. I've been calling myself weak for years and have thought about suicide more times than I can even remember. Like... I've always had this idea that someone strong is resilient in their convictions and just keeps moving forward, undeterred by petty emotions like "sadness" or "confusion". But is it simply naivety that makes people strong? Because most of the people that have matched my image of what's considered "strong" didn't understand how the world worked. And at that point, I could only think that the harsh lesson of reality hadn't reached them yet but that they inevitably would face it in the future.
So I changed the definition of "strong" in my mind. It became someone that was aware of the harshness of reality but could still put on a smile and keep moving forward. And you know, those smiles... whenever I saw them, filled me with my own determination. Not always... In the past, I used to hate their smiles. I used to hate that life was so happy for them and so miserable for me. But once I came to understand some of the burdens a lot of those smiling people shouldered, I became inspired.
Until I learned even more about reality and realized that most people, get this, don't even put on the face best representing their actual feelings most of the time. They don't speak or visualize how they actually feel, it's all an act, all a way to pass through the phases. And when I realized that the crowd was filled but nothing but actors, that we were all trapped on the stage known as life, my determination was shattered. I had based it off of false pretenses, seeking a happiness that didn't even exist. The burden is still there, it's all just an act.
So… I started to help people. I thought, even if I'm miserable, maybe I can help other people feel better. And it worked for a time, but life trudges on, new burdens present themselves and I was finding that my own burdens weren't getting any lighter. I didn't want to shoulder it all anymore, I became aggravated that people looked to me for help. I felt as if no one was making an earnest attempt to help or understand me. Or if they were making the attempt, I considered what little help they offered as nothing more than a passing conversation, no true help generated because the burden is still there.
Then I fell into depression for about 3 years. I think at some point people stopped asking me for help. But it didn't make my pain or their pain any less real. So I just stopped. I stopped trying to shoulder other people's burdens. Instead, I just started talking. Rather than trying, with the entirety of my being and attention, to help resolve their situation, the cold reality set in that only they can handle their own problems and ultimately decide when to solve them or when to let them die as a problem. So I just started talking.
I'd share my own experiences, sympathize and voice my concern. I have certainly not lived the best life in the box. But it was the card I was dealt and I'm starting to accept that. To be honest with you, if I had the ability to change it all, I wouldn't change anything. I'm the sum of all of my experiences and all of my surroundings. I wouldn't want to lose who I am today or who I'm going to be in the future for any alternative. Does it solve any of my problems? Not at all.
But I am who I am, with all of my faults and all of my burdens. However, I will say one thing. Accomplishing something, accomplishing a goal, no matter how massive, is entirely doable. You'll encounter, many times, the several roadblocks and obvious deters along the way. But as long as you have conviction, you can find the way around them. And it doesn't take much to have conviction, just think about what makes you happy and then make the resolution to grab it. As long as you're just going through the phases, you may as well try.
Whether it's just looking stuff up here and there out of boredom or as a distraction, or whether you start making a plan… And if you don't have a goal then just explore. Expose yourself to new experiences, do something you haven't done, try to approach life in a different manner. You might just find something that'll become irreplaceable for you in the future.
And if you're too down to do any of that... Just keep talking. Ultimately though, only you can decide who you become or what you do. Life has this way of making itself seem like a massive wall or prison, but in actuality it's made of pretty weak stuff. You can easily bend it like play-doh. But as long as you see it as just a wall, it'll always be in your way. You need to realize that you control life, not the other way around.
Don't lose to it. Face it and keep going.
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I confess: I feel pretty retarded when I wander into the OP part of the forum.
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Ahh so that's why the Generals never come to the Manga threads
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Funny thing is that it is so easy to get swept up in it all until you realize how retarded it is. So temping though…so very tempting, but one cannot help but get a dose of humor every now and then. Oh the fun...simple, guilty fun
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Huh. Mind explaining what you guys mean ?
I simply don't go there as much cause I don't have anything to say. :P
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People in the OP sections are retarded.
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I didn't know there was such divide among the forums
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Huh. Mind explaining what you guys mean ?
I simply don't go there as much cause I don't have anything to say. :P
The recent chapters (and most noticably CH700) really brought out some remarkable nonsense. It's like a circus in there. Mind you, a considerable chunk of posters in the OP section usually confine themselves in that part of the forum so the nonsense hardly exudes into the other parts of the forum (though occasionally it does).
I would go in there and find some examples, buuuut I had my fun for this week…so no more. No more.
Ugh, but still...someone responded to something I posted...it is pulling me back in.
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The recent chapters (and most noticably CH700) really brought out some remarkable nonsense. It's like a circus in there. Mind you, a considerable chunk of posters in the OP section usually confine themselves in that part of the forum so the nonsense hardly exudes into the other parts of the forum (though occasionally it does).
I would go in there and find some examples, buuuut I had my fun for this week…so no more. No more.
Ugh, but still...someone responded to something I posted...it is pulling me back in.
Come.. Come back to the land of sin… we know you can't resist.…
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I'm the same way about the OP subforum, I come and comment when I feel like something in a new chapter's really stirred a neat observation from me, but other than that I stay far away
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I'm not going back there until Monet is confirmed alive.
I'll admit, I only visit that section when I feel like trolling
and that takes too much time and energy to do every single day among fans that make dumb theories or predictions.
I could imagine what it's like now. Considering mangapanda is the first site people link and talk about when a chap is out. -
I wasn't aware that what I thought was the main function of the site was looked down on lol.
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Me either. This is all so surprising, but at the same time, it explains so much.It's as if… we really are at Arlong Park!
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I don't usually post much in OP section (or other sections) as I can't keep up.
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OP tends to make everyone stupid. There's no discussion forum I go on where it's all high level stuff (well, except one, but the rate of discussion there is really slow). With the volume of members we have and posts happening there, and the fact members aren't probated for stupid stuff and new members (a decent amount with only a bare grasp of the English language) are constantly joining, there's no way it's ever going to just be elevated discussion. There's always going to be "sabo is dis new person". I certainly don't mow through all 80 pages, but there are neat posts made in there.
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I enjoy lurking the OP subforums, but I've never felt the desire to take part in any of the discussions there.
And really, that's been the case even before I joined. I found this forum because of One Piece, but I joined and stayed because of the other stuff.
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Now I'm all self conscious. Lol. I post there a lot. But now I'm wondering how many people thought I was a nitwit lol. I shouldn't care what people on the internet think…But still...
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I think you are fine with content of your posts
"I'm a bad guy! I don't save the day, I don't fly off to the sunset and I don't get the girl! I'm going home." - MegaMind
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Now I'm all self conscious. Lol. I post there a lot. But now I'm wondering how many people thought I was a nitwit lol. I shouldn't care what people on the internet think…But still...
Baroness, you are one of the very few gems that actually have brains there, worry not~
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. What about me?
I think you are fine too, or at least I haven't seen any bad posts from you
"I'm a bad guy! I don't save the day, I don't fly off to the sunset and I don't get the girl! I'm going home." - MegaMind
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I think you are fine too, or at least I haven't seen any bad posts from you
Thank you. I am a very good boy!!
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Thanks guys. I swear I wasn't fishing lol.
I think you're a good poster 1PceXperience even if I don't always agree with you
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I still post over there, but I switch pretty frequently between there and here.
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I only switch between threads in the manga section :sad:.
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I only switch between threads in the manga section :sad:.
Chill dude. There's no stigma with browsing them. You're one of the best posters on the entire forum, let alone the manga section, no need to worry. It wouldn't hurt to browse other sections though! I personally really like our Other Manga & Anime section compared to other websites (but it's a manga discussion board, very sparse anime discussion).
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Well of course we all care what others here at AP think of us
My problem is that i'm so damn comfortable with our AP family that i just treat everything like a chat betwenn friends
Not much of a problem really. But it does make me say lots of stupid crap
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I found this forum because of One Piece, but I joined and stayed because of the other stuff.
I joined this forum for the pictures but stayed for the fried chicken.
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I joined this forum for the pictures but stayed for the fried chicken.
I also stayed for the chicken.
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Personally, i would not see the need to post or even look into here without being active in the OP section but i guess that´s just me
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I mainly stay for the cake. There was a couple of times where I was tempted to leave forever, but my urge to post about Pokemon, Magi, OPM, HS, and western cartoons always makes me come back.
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This place does have a cleaner format from wehat I've seen in other forums. People here seem pretty fun. I do like when we get side tracked every now and then.
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I do like when we get side tracked every now and then.
Kinda like now? :ninja:
Anyway, I'm sure that stunt I pulled earlier didn't win any friends, but hey, some people got what I was getting at, even though I could've done a better job with it…just proves I know where my friends are at~
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I've never been tempted to leave forever. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ Even just being able to answer my kids when they ask "what did people think when -this- happened in One Piece?" would be nice. It's not like when you run a marathon, you can only run marathons. You can still run 5 minutes, 10 minutes, whatever. Just because I can talk about things with 1000 faceless people doesn't mean I have to stop talking about it with my niche group, all with very unique faces.
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