@Demon:
Ok, so, I'm trying to get back into my internet-life a little more than I have, so I feel the need to vent about something here because I'm really upset right about now. If rants aren't your thing, skip this post please. I'll even spoiler it for Easy skippability.
! Still here? Ok, here goes:
A Little backstory, to understand both what I'm about to talk about and why a lot of you haven't seen me around much for a while.
! About 4 years ago… this week actually... It might actually be Today... but 4 years ago my Grandfather Died after a long battle with cancer. My mom and my brothers and I had no jobs, we had all quit our jobs and moved in with grandpa. We were living off his social security, disability, and Veterans benefits (He made over $5000 a month total) and in exchange that freed us up to be his round the clock caretakers so he would be allowed to die at home around his loved ones rather than in some hospital bed. Needless to say, I love my grandfather and his death absolutely destroyed me.
After he passed tho, we were all left without income and with bills piling up. Someone needed to get a job. My brothers were both still minors (At the time) and my mom was nearing 50. Me, being the young 20s, strapping young girl, had to step up and be the breadwinner. I got a decent job, and I do well at it, but I still don't really make enough to cover all of my expenses of a whole family. I routinely work 60-70 hours a week and I'm still only JUST making it. On top of that, I have the only car and am the only licensed driver in the house. So when I'm NOT working, a lot of my time is taken up by my Mom and Brother asking me to do things for them. Take them places, etc. On any given day, I might wake up at 7:30am to get to work at 9, get off work at 9pm, then take mom and my brothers to places like Wal-mart and the like. By the time I'm done, it's midnight and it's time to sleep in order to do it all again.
! Because of this, on my actual days off, I kinda just veg out some of the time. This has lead to a virtual disappearance of my social life in a lot of respects. When I DO have free time, I head out with friends who are physically here and try to have some fun. I recently had a major vacation that was a LONG time coming.... but it killed my finances and now I'm back to 70 hour weeks to make up for it. Because of this, some of my friends who aren't physically here get accidentally ignored. I hate that this happens, but it does. Often they'll message me while I'm at work, and I can get fired for using my cell phone at my desk so If I even see the message it's only to just glance at it and I go "ok, I'll respond after work", but then when I get home, the aforementioned giving people ride-athon starts and by the time I get home, I've completely forgotten and the only thing I'm thinking about is "BED".
! I've tried to tell friends this, I've made impassioned FB posts trying to tell people "If I seem to not respond to you for a while, it's not you, it's my schedule. I'm treating almost everyone like this, do not take it personally."
! So, I was absolutely livid to get off work now on one of my uncharacteristic days when I DON'T have massive Overtime after my shift to find a friend on FB has taken my lack of responses personally and.... I don't know, RAGEQUIT from Facebook on me if that's possible. That's the only way I can describe it.
He's accused me of assuming he's a creeper trying to fap to my pictures (NOT true, I've never said anything of the sort) and told me he now apparently "Literally Hates" me and is "Done" with me.
! I really don't know how to respond to this. I'm just completely fucking spun. I never thought one iota of ill will towards this person or bad thoughts, but suddenly I'm being treated like the worst fucking person in the world, all because I just don't have the time to chat. It feels like I'm being punished for trying to provide for my family and keep my head above water. It's even more infuriating because this guy COMMENTED on the post I made to SPECIFICALLY TELL PEOPLE that not responding means I'm busy, not that I hate you... and yet he still pulls this bullshit?!?!
! I'm just so fucking spun it's not even funny. It feels like I have to choose my options between having friends and a social live vs. providing for my family, and that's really fucking depressing...
Ok… rant over.... Thanks for letting me vent, don't know if anyone actually read this or not but it felt good to type.
It sounds like this dude is more of an acquaintance than a friend. A real friend stands the test of time, and it's not really uncommon for people to have periods of time in their life that they work a shitty schedule, or have other obligations or happenings that make staying in touch difficult. The people you can pick right back up with are the ones who are going to wait and be cool.
I'd block that asshole and have nothing more to do with him. Honestly, if someone is a friend they will understand.
I've kinda had to put this into perspective myself because since I've been working full-time, I really don't have the energy and/or time usually for the social life I once had. I have to make plans way in advance to be able to do anything, and some people just can't get that. I haven't had anyone do like what this guy is doing to you, but a few people were obviously not ok that I just quit talking to them. I don't really know what to say to a lot of people either, as I've had to learn to tiptoe around many of these people and not unload my stresses or gripe around them because they'll go ballistic on me… That just goes to show how many people are really truly "friends".
The people who really want to talk to me have my phone number (even a few online friends too). Somedays I don't even make it to the computer, so that's a good way to get in touch with me. I'm now at a store that's so busy I don't get breaks or lunches or lulls where I can check my phone either.
Again, block this dude and forget about it. Some drama llama obviously can't handle not being the center of everyone else's universe. You've been through A LOT and you definitely deserve way better company then that.
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