@Flipper:
Oh, i feel like a fool facepalm
Heh, that's okay~
Confession Session II
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So i was going to tell that 23 year old girl i like her and ask her out.
I recently started talking to a friend (girl) who has just been living with her for the past year.
She found out I like this girl and she told me some things she found when living with her.
- She suffers from depression
- She has a huge crush on someone else.
- She is immature about the whole thing
- She is immature about life in general.
- Hates cleaning and chores
And apparently quoted by her friend "would not make a good wife".
Her crush is avoiding her like crazy because he knows what she is like and doesn't like her back (yay for me, resisting such beauty is amazing).
Despite all this i still feel the same about this girl and have feelings about her.
Should i keep pursuing her?
I still really like this girl, Im lost and feel a little depressed now ;(
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@Flipper:
So i was going to tell that 23 year old girl i like her and ask her out.
I recently started talking to a friend (girl) who has just been living with her for the past year.
She found out I like this girl and she told me some things she found when living with her.
- She suffers from depression
- She has a huge crush on someone else.
- She is immature about the whole thing
- She is immature about life in general.
- Hates cleaning and chores
And apparently quoted by her friend "would not make a good wife".
Her crush is avoiding her like crazy because he knows what she is like and doesn't like her back (yay for me, resisting such beauty is amazing).
Despite all this i still feel the same about this girl and have feelings about her.
Should i keep pursuing her?
I still really like this girl, Im lost and feel a little depressed now ;(
Jeeze… with a "friend" like that she doesn't need any enemies.
And shame on you for digging into her personal life through third party sources.
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Jeeze… with a "friend" like that she doesn't need any enemies.
And shame on you for digging into her personal life through third party sources.
I wasnt digging into anything. She just told me because i showed her what i was going to say. She well knew i liked her as she figured out.
I can see she was trying to tell me this girl isn't right but i don't care. Not to mention her crush is a good mate of mine.
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All the signs seem to be saying you shouldn't go out with this girl.
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All the signs seem to be saying you shouldn't go out with this girl.
Hmm Im afraid so :/ maybe I'll wait a couple years when Im 20. Hopefully she can be a lot better as will i.
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Broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years today. It's a shame, after all he was my best friend as well. Had to be done though, I think he was making me a worse person and I certainly wasn't helping his situation either so there it is. I don't know if I am depressed about this because it doesn't feel real yet. -sigh-
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@Flipper:
Hmm Im afraid so :/ maybe I'll wait a couple years when Im 20. Hopefully she can be a lot better as will i.
What's the harm in trying and finding out for yourself? You can always end it if it doesn't make sense (assuming anything even starts).
Broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years today. It's a shame, after all he was my best friend as well. Had to be done though, I think he was making me a worse person and I certainly wasn't helping his situation either so there it is. I don't know if I am depressed about this because it doesn't feel real yet. -sigh-
I'm sorry to hear that :(
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Broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years today. It's a shame, after all he was my best friend as well. Had to be done though, I think he was making me a worse person and I certainly wasn't helping his situation either so there it is. I don't know if I am depressed about this because it doesn't feel real yet. -sigh-
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you all can remain friends after all is said and done. You said "was" my best friend though so I don't know if you said that because you believe the friendship is unsalvageable or if because since he became your boyfriend you couldn't really see him as a "best friend" anymore. Either way, I hope whatever factors were causing the relationship to drift might be easier dealt with now.
Everything's Eventual…
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I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you all can remain friends after all is said and done. You said "was" my best friend though so I don't know if you said that because you believe the friendship is unsalvageable or if because since he became your boyfriend you couldn't really see him as a "best friend" anymore. Either way, I hope whatever factors were causing the relationship to drift might be easier dealt with now.
Thanks for the kind words. As nice as it would be to be friends I don't think we could really interact that way without somehow crossing the line you know? At least, that would be in the background of everything. Better to avoid that slippery slope altogether. I really hope things are easier for both of us too. I think life will be weird without someone who knows everything about me there anymore though.
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What's the harm in trying and finding out for yourself? You can always end it if it doesn't make sense (assuming anything even starts).
Yeah i guess you're right. Turned out my mum invited her over but she turned out sick and so am I (bit of bronchitis going around in my area).
Worst part of today was she couldn't come out (sick) but my ex came out of no where with her new bf to stir me up.
Upsetting.
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Thanks for the kind words. As nice as it would be to be friends I don't think we could really interact that way without somehow crossing the line you know? At least, that would be in the background of everything. Better to avoid that slippery slope altogether. I really hope things are easier for both of us too. I think life will be weird without someone who knows everything about me there anymore though.
Good call. Having been in the same situation a year ago (although, rather as the side impeding someone else's growth, which I now acknowledge), I can sincerely say that taking a short break from relationships, whether romantic or not, and taking some time to refocus on what you want to do in your life is worthwhile. Pursuing a personal happiness is more or less the most important thing in the world, and relationships can sometimes blur your vision a bit and make it harder to see what would really benefit you the most. It's good to get back on the track after a slower period. Not having someone who knows everything about you always by your side can actually be a blessing in that regard. It's easier to do all kinds of interesting things when there's nothing keeping you in the safe zone.
And who knows, maybe in the future once you've found your own way about things, you can look back to the relationship that you had with this person and appreciate him and his good parts even more than you did while you were still in the relationship. I know that happened to me.
Just remember to take care of yourself and do interesting things that keep you active so the loss of a close friend won't drag you down too much. A little depression and heartbreak is only natural, and is overall good for you so don't try to stamp it down, but if you need the mental support don't hesitate to rely on other people either. You probably have friends and relatives that you can turn to with things like these, and even if you don't, we're always here and willing to lend you an ear – even if you haven't been all that active.
Take care, dear. We're rooting for you.
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Good call. Having been in the same situation a year ago (although, rather as the side impeding someone else's growth, which I now acknowledge), I can sincerely say that taking a short break from relationships, whether romantic or not, and taking some time to refocus on what you want to do in your life is worthwhile. Pursuing a personal happiness is more or less the most important thing in the world, and relationships can sometimes blur your vision a bit and make it harder to see what would really benefit you the most. It's good to get back on the track after a slower period. Not having someone who knows everything about you always by your side can actually be a blessing in that regard. It's easier to do all kinds of interesting things when there's nothing keeping you in the safe zone.
And who knows, maybe in the future once you've found your own way about things, you can look back to the relationship that you had with this person and appreciate him and his good parts even more than you did while you were still in the relationship. I know that happened to me.
Just remember to take care of yourself and do interesting things that keep you active so the loss of a close friend won't drag you down too much. A little depression and heartbreak is only natural, and is overall good for you so don't try to stamp it down, but if you need the mental support don't hesitate to rely on other people either. You probably have friends and relatives that you can turn to with things like these, and even if you don't, we're always here and willing to lend you an ear – even if you haven't been all that active.
Take care, dear. We're rooting for you.
Thank you Dryish, I appreciate the support. It is true that I could be using this time to reinvent myself a little. I actually pride myself on my independence but I know there will be moments of weakness since there aren't many people out there I can really share myself with. Luckily I happen to have a trip planned to fly out and visit some friends for a week very soon so hopefully I can start reconnecting with people, have fun, and get out of my bubble. Who knows, I may become more active here too.
At least I don't feel bitter. I can already see that the relationship was good for me in many ways and I am glad that it happened but I could see that it wasn't going to work out in the long run.
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Thank you Dryish, I appreciate the support. It is true that I could be using this time to reinvent myself a little. I actually pride myself on my independence but I know there will be moments of weakness since there aren't many people out there I can really share myself with. Luckily I happen to have a trip planned to fly out and visit some friends for a week very soon so hopefully I can start reconnecting with people, have fun, and get out of my bubble. Who knows, I may become more active here too.
At least I don't feel bitter. I can already see that the relationship was good for me in many ways and I am glad that it happened but I could see that it wasn't going to work out in the long run.
Good luck with that. I know everything willl turn out outright :3 Also, totally what Dryish said.
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With all the spam and general nonsense I've posted, I'm honestly surprised I haven't been banned. I've never even been reprimanded once. This forum must be very lax.
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
I still, have no idea what I'm doing
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
My condolences.. :( Always keep him in your heart.
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
My sincerest condolences on your loss. I hope that remembering him will bring you more joy and take away the depression soon.
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My sincerest condolences on your loss. I hope that remembering him will bring you more joy and take away the depression soon.
Thank you for those words and the condolences.
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@Flipper:
Im so sorry for your loss.
My grandparents on my mothers side are reaching their end soon, i can't imagine how that's going to be.
It's ok to cry. It's ok to be depressed. Time will stitch up these wounds. Hang in there :)
Thank You for those words
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
I'm sorry about your grandad. I know he meant a lot to you and your family. You all have my condolences.
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I'm sorry about your grandad. I know he meant a lot to you and your family. You all have my condolences.
Thank You, I'm glad I confessed what I said about my granddad, it helped me with this situation because I'm talking about it instead of letting it bottle up.
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
Hm, condolences. I went through a similar situation with my grandmother last fall…..it's tough, but as long as you remember all the good times....it helps.
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Hm, condolences. I went through a similar situation with my grandmother last fall…..it's tough, but as long as you remember all the good times....it helps.
Thank you for your condolences, I do remember the good memories about Granddad
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I just gotta update a confession status, My granddad had passed away not that long ago, basically it was a minor stroke, he could not eat or drink for nearly two weeks. He was on oxygen and watching him struggle to do something so simple as breathing and I went to his funeral last Friday. His death wasn't a complete surprise I felt like Hawkins just knowing in advance about the fact that my granddad was going to die I knew it was going to be his fate. I'm getting better, but I'm still feeling depressed and sad about the fact that my granddad is gone.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss :X It's never "easy", even if you know it's going to happen in advance. My grandmother passed away a year and a half after her cancer diagnosis and it's been almost 4 years now since she passed away and I'm still not entirely ok. If you ever feel your burden is heavy or going to drive you crazy you can always come here and talk to us, just don't let the crushing depression get the best of you.
@Flipper:
So i was going to tell that 23 year old girl i like her and ask her out.
I recently started talking to a friend (girl) who has just been living with her for the past year.
She found out I like this girl and she told me some things she found when living with her.
- She suffers from depression
- She has a huge crush on someone else.
- She is immature about the whole thing
- She is immature about life in general.
- Hates cleaning and chores
And apparently quoted by her friend "would not make a good wife".
Her crush is avoiding her like crazy because he knows what she is like and doesn't like her back (yay for me, resisting such beauty is amazing).
Despite all this i still feel the same about this girl and have feelings about her.
Should i keep pursuing her?
I still really like this girl, Im lost and feel a little depressed now ;(
LOL suuuuuure this isn't me? Except I don't have a raging crush on someone else right now but everything else is spot on (and I'm 23) hahaha…
Anyway how old are you? If you're the same age I don't expect that you would be all that different. ((Oh wait you're 18? Yeah, don't go there. Don't go there.))
It might be a little off-topic but I get really mad when I don't act how a guy expects a "woman" should act and then tell me I wouldn't make a good wife... as if a good wife is only ever on her best behavior and completely subservient and domestic. Yeaaaahh >____> With that attitude, assholes wonder why they're single/girls aren't that into them.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss :X It's never "easy", even if you know it's going to happen in advance. My grandmother passed away a year and a half after her cancer diagnosis and it's been almost 4 years now since she passed away and I'm still not entirely ok. If you ever feel your burden is heavy or going to drive you crazy you can always come here and talk to us, just don't let the crushing depression get the best of you.
LOL suuuuuure this isn't me? Except I don't have a raging crush on someone else right now but everything else is spot on (and I'm 23) hahaha…
Anyway how old are you? If you're the same age I don't expect that you would be all that different. ((Oh wait you're 18? Yeah, don't go there. Don't go there.))
It might be a little off-topic but I get really mad when I don't act how a guy expects a "woman" should act and then tell me I wouldn't make a good wife... as if a good wife is only ever on her best behavior and completely subservient and domestic. Yeaaaahh >____> With that attitude, assholes wonder why they're single/girls aren't that into them.
Believe Me, this hasn't been "easy" to deal with. However, I am grateful that I did confess, because of the replies from everyone here as well as messages sent to me have made me feel better about his passing and coming over to Arlong Park and getting involved has made me feel less stressful because I'm doing something like this.
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Sigh, is it worth staying in your job (Even if it's a dream job for some) if they just ignore all your efforts to improve things? I think i just saw the sign that marks the downhill slope. Should i better focus in other projects? Personal Projects? But this will be the second time something like this happens. Maybe i'm the problem?
Working thru some stuff. Dunno how long i will be here.
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Sigh, is it worth staying in your job (Even if it's a dream job for some) if they just ignore all your efforts to improve things? I think i just saw the sign that marks the downhill slope. Should i better focus in other projects? Personal Projects? But this will be the second time something like this happens. Maybe i'm the problem?
It's very vague and all, but … what about doing your dream job elsewhere? Is that a possibility?
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