Yeah. I don't think I have any chemistry. I get cat called a lot or told I'm funny and compliments on the gals, but other than that. I'm only friend material.
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If there's no chemistry then there's nothing doing. Why try to ram together two puzzle pieces that don't fit.
There's plenty of fitting pieces in the sea for a funny girl with great gals
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I'm not saying I'm trying with the same person repeatedly lol. Just that I don't think guys want me as a girlfriend. And I'm not sure how to change that.
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A start would be not thinking of guys as some monolithic hive minded unit. Jim doesn't want what Bob wants.
Not having met someone you really click with doesn't mean that the man union has blacklisted you lol
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@wolfwoof:
A start would be not thinking of guys as some monolithic hive minded unit. Jim doesn't want what Bob wants.
Not having met someone you really click with doesn't mean that the man union has blacklisted you lol
I feel like it does. Or that I'm aiming too high. But I really really don't want to date those cat calling weirdos that say strange pervy things to me. But I'm tired of being alone. Not sure how I'm supposed to meet people or make myself more attractive to attract the sorts of people I like…I mean I could lose more weight so I can talk to people more. But not sure what else.
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@wolfwoof:
A start would be not thinking of guys as some monolithic hive minded unit. Jim doesn't want what Bob wants.
Not having met someone you really click with doesn't mean that the man union has blacklisted you lol
I know for a fact that Jim and Bob are totally into that
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I feel like it does. Or that I'm aiming too high. But I really really don't want to date those cat calling weirdos that say strange pervy things to me. But I'm tired of being alone. Not sure how I'm supposed to meet people or make myself more attractive to attract the sorts of people I like…I mean I could lose more weight so I can talk to people more. But not sure what else.
It's a bit of a strange question really. You meet people doing whatever you'd usually do, school, work, hobbies etc
Going out specifically to meet people is a concept i can't really wrap my head around. Just comes off forced and akward
As does the whole if i changed people would like me more. What about meeting someone who likes you for what you are
I know for a fact that Jim and Bob are totally into that
Well yeah most men are into that. But afterwards Jim wants to cuddle and Bob just wants to take a shower
Big difference brah
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I feel like it does. Or that I'm aiming too high. But I really really don't want to date those cat calling weirdos that say strange pervy things to me. But I'm tired of being alone. Not sure how I'm supposed to meet people or make myself more attractive to attract the sorts of people I like
This sounds like what I was going through before Chrissie.
Tons of attention of the drive-by variety (though 80% of girls didn't go as crude as catcalls lol, though some did!!), but in my actual social life nada, and not from lack of women in my life either. I dated but it was always go nowhere stuff for some reason or another. And yeah I ended up obsessing and depressing over people who in retrospect were horrific choices for me as partners. And the loneliness holy shit. Especially watching everyone else in my life get hooked up stably and casually. It was strange and horribly frustrating.And I have to say that mostly you've been getting good advice, even if it's frustrating because none of it is a "solution" so much as just learning to carry yourself more naturally and confidently. Confidence is attractive to guys too, the ones who don't find it attractive are pretty much going to be abusive I would imagine so all the better reason to scare them off!
Best advice I've heard is that you need to learn to love yourself first. Me and Chrissie are both still working on that, we just happened to get lucky ahead of finishing it.
Changing yourself is good!…...but ONLY in healthy ways mentally or otherwise. Change that makes you happier, and happends to have a positive effect socially.
As far as changing yourself entirely for social reasons….Wolf's right. Terrible idea, highway to unhappiness right there. You'll get the social activity sure, but it will be awful and unfulfulling, you'll meet stupid shallow people and even worse boyfriends. I tried it, best choice I made was to stop. -
@wolfwoof:
It's a bit of a strange question really. You meet people doing whatever you'd usually do, school, work, hobbies etc
Going out specifically to meet people is a concept i can't really wrap my head around. Just comes off forced and akward
As does the whole if i changed people would like me more. What about meeting someone who likes you for what you are
Well yeah most men are into that. But afterwards Jim wants to cuddle and Bob just wants to take a shower
Big difference brah
Well, to be honest, people are more open depending on the environment and place they are in. Hooking up with someone is harder during work or school than in a bar for example. Though i share your view on "going out to meet someone", i still know many people who do that because people have different attitudes depending on where they are and what they are doing, so getting to know someone is easier in a bar after a few beers than at work where everyone has something to do and is not open to meet new people.
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And yeah I ended up obsessing and depressing over people who in retrospect were horrific choices for me as partners. And the loneliness holy shit.
Been there, done that. Spent the good part of a year longing for the girl who tore out my heart
But the aha moment when you met someone you really click with and realize what it should be like. That is sweeter than honey
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@wolfwoof:
Been there, done that. Spent the good part of a year longing for the girl who tore out my heart
But the aha moment when you met someone you really click with and realize what it should be like. That is sweeter than honey
"You mean….I get to be open about everything? Warts and all? And feel comfortable and safe???"
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Used to be a romantic and felt "mopey and dopey" about being single until I realized how damn expensive and time consuming it is to be in a relationship. Also (sometimes) it is a drag to travel with a partner. Seems much more liberating when you're going alone.
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You know, I understand the importance of the food stamps system. It is needed by people who don't make enough to live quality lives and just need the little helping hand, and I'm fine with that…
That being said, I frackin' hate seeing these people come through my register buying 50 dollars worth of crab legs and seafood. You don't need that, that is taking advantage of a system designed to help...
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@wolfwoof:
It's a bit of a strange question really. You meet people doing whatever you'd usually do, school, work, hobbies etc
Going out specifically to meet people is a concept i can't really wrap my head around. Just comes off forced and akward
As does the whole if i changed people would like me more. What about meeting someone who likes you for what you are
Well yeah most men are into that. But afterwards Jim wants to cuddle and Bob just wants to take a shower
Big difference brah
I don't date people at work. I tried it and there was just too much gossip. And I needed space. I'm also at that age where most of the people I met are in long term relationships and are having kids. I have pretty much no single female friends I can go out with. They for some reason don't have anyone they know of that I could date.
I can't use school because it's online. I tried dating sites but the people that have a high compatibility never respond back to me and I got hit up by people that just wanted sex.
@Monkey:
This sounds like what I was going through before Chrissie.
Tons of attention of the drive-by variety (though 80% of girls didn't go as crude as catcalls lol, though some did!!), but in my actual social life nada, and not from lack of women in my life either. I dated but it was always go nowhere stuff for some reason or another. And yeah I ended up obsessing and depressing over people who in retrospect were horrific choices for me as partners. And the loneliness holy shit. Especially watching everyone else in my life get hooked up stably and casually. It was strange and horribly frustrating.And I have to say that mostly you've been getting good advice, even if it's frustrating because none of it is a "solution" so much as just learning to carry yourself more naturally and confidently. Confidence is attractive to guys too, the ones who don't find it attractive are pretty much going to be abusive I would imagine so all the better reason to scare them off!
Best advice I've heard is that you need to learn to love yourself first. Me and Chrissie are both still working on that, we just happened to get lucky ahead of finishing it.
Changing yourself is good!…...but ONLY in healthy ways mentally or otherwise. Change that makes you happier, and happends to have a positive effect socially.
As far as changing yourself entirely for social reasons….Wolf's right. Terrible idea, highway to unhappiness right there. You'll get the social activity sure, but it will be awful and unfulfulling, you'll meet stupid shallow people and even worse boyfriends. I tried it, best choice I made was to stop.It is frustrating. There's so much I want to do but I feel like I have an expiration date.
I don't know. I think I would be more outgoing if I had a better body. I'm not sure how that's supposed to be separate from changing myself for social reasons. Or not separate.
Sorry I'm being kinda a downer today. Not sure why I'm feeling this cruddy lately.
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Getting in shape just make your piece of meat more marketable on the meat market is a bad idea because it leads you to measure your self worth after how you look
It's not like keeping your body fit is a bad idea or anything. It's that specific motivation thats cruddy.
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*remembers a pic of Baroness from the pic thread
I don't think you have problems in the shape department~
…that sounded bad...
Anyway, I met and dated, even proposed to my wife at work, and I look like a troglodite. If someone like me can do it, so can you!
Take heart, your someone special will come along.
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I don't date people at work. I tried it and there was just too much gossip. And I needed space. I'm also at that age where most of the people I met are in long term relationships and are having kids. I have pretty much no single female friends I can go out with. They for some reason don't have anyone they know of that I could date.
I can't use school because it's online. I tried dating sites but the people that have a high compatibility never respond back to me and I got hit up by people that just wanted sex.
It is frustrating. There's so much I want to do but I feel like I have an expiration date.
I don't know. I think I would be more outgoing if I had a better body. I'm not sure how that's supposed to be separate from changing myself for social reasons. Or not separate.
Sorry I'm being kinda a downer today. Not sure why I'm feeling this cruddy lately.
Why not join some sort of club? Go to meetup.com. They have all sorts of stuff from movie clubs to boardgame clubs.
ir a ese lugar~
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*remembers a pic of Baroness from the pic thread
I don't think you have problems in the shape department~
…that sounded bad...
Anyway, I met and dated, even proposed to my wife at work, and I look like a troglodite. If someone like me can do it, so can you!
Take heart, your someone special will come along.
I forgot that picture is in there. I appreciate the sentiment though Shuhan lol.
I just don't want to be far past my prime when I met someone. I want to travel, I want kids, I want to be married during a time when my parents are around. I know I can't have everything but I don't think I'm wanting something insane or that should be out of reach.
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SHUHAN IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO CUTE. And Cyclone Baroness you are awesome.
Breaking its tight shell, a flower bud opens
An ordinary world is full of miracles
It's okay to be overwhelmed on bad days
Up or down
Every day's an adventure
Life is Wonderful
With that feeling"I love you so much!" Someone is thinking that
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Frankly, I think learning-to-love-yourself-more is probably the most over-rated advice I have ever heard. As an advice, it demands for a change in the advised, but at the same time asks them to be just as they are now. This self-contradictory advice sprang from some certain confusion and misconception of the self. If someone hates himrself in the first place, that doesn’t mean he hates everything about himself, the entirety of his ‘self’. Rather, something in him hates something else in him, some parts of him hate some other parts of him. This dissatisfaction with yourself, the disliking of some of your own characteristics, the desire to be better, and so on, are also parts of you, and why shouldn’t you love these parts, if you are to love ‘yourself’? Why should you remove these hates as if there is something wrong with disliking some flaws? And if some parts of you, mental or otherwise, are unhealthy or flawed, then why shouldn’t you hate it/change it? It is precisely because you love ‘yourself’ that you want to remove these flaws in the first place.
It is important to acknowledge your characteristics as the facts that they are. But acknowledging them doesn't mean you should stick to all of them forever and adore all of them indiscriminately. If this was so self-improvement would be impossible. Don’t confuse the is/ought distinction. If you feel that you want to become different than you are now, and if your reason tells you that changing would make you really better, then by all means, change. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should become a totally different person. Change the parts that you think to be insufficient about yourself. After all, life is about change and you have changed significantly since your birth, and there is no reason not to continue to change, in the way you want to, if you can. The effort required to change can be of unpleasant amount, arduous and daunting, but the result is worth it. You would be amazed how far you can go.
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@OnePunch:
Frankly, I think learning-to-love-yourself-more is probably the most over-rated advice I have ever heard. As an advice, it demands for a change in the advised
Yes, and?
, but at the same time asks them to be just as they are now.
Welcome to mental issues.
This self-contradictory advice sprang from some certain confusion and misconception of the self.
That's how the human mind works. It twists itself up backwards and hates itself for no good reason, or overdoes things to the umpteenth. Producing a situation where actually yeah, someone has to change something, and nothing.
Sorry engineers, this isn't a left brain field. This is probably in fact the very most important right brain field.
If you don't like that tough I guess. You certainly aren't going to help anybody over-thinking this.If someone hates himrself in the first place, that doesn’t mean he hates everything about himself,
You're over-thinking it.
Rather, something in him hates something else in him. This dissatisfaction with yourself, the disliking of some of your own characteristics, the desire to be better, and so on, are also parts of you, and why shouldn’t you love these parts, if you are to love ‘yourself’?
You're over-thinking it.
Why should you remove these hates as if there is something wrong with disliking some flaws? And if some parts of you, mental or otherwise, are unhealthy or flawed, then why shouldn’t you hate it/change it? It is precisely because you love ‘yourself’ that you want to remove these flaws in the first place.
Jesus christ you're over-thinking it lol.
It is important to acknowledge your characteristics as the facts that they are.
Feeling about yourself aren't characteristics like nose shape or something lol, they change, they come, they go.
They can be added on, they can be thrown away.Don’t confuse the is/ought distinction. If you feel that you want to become different than you are now, and if your reason tells you that changing would make you really better, then by all means, change.
HEY IM DEPRESSED AND SELF-LOATHING.
I SHOULD PROBABLY CHANGE THIS.Amazing how overcomplicated you can make stuff with left brain thinking where it don't belong lol.
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I get more stimulation from videogames rather than porn. suck it
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Aaaand let me guess, you get more stimulation from porn than real life women? Hm?"…"
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Just that I don't think guys want me as a girlfriend. And I'm not sure how to change that.
Hey, you and I share the same problem! Though in my case I'm starting to think that I simply have horrible luck. It's not an issue of lack of trying; I've gathered the courage to ask guys out multiple times, but for some reason I realize these things too late and by that point they're already dating someone. It's incredibly frustrating and I'm still awkward around the previous guy that this happened with. (We go to the same school.)
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Aaaand let me guess, you get more stimulation from porn than real life women? Hm?
"…"depends on the porn and the woman :x
I personally get more simulation from porn than women.
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Aaaand let me guess, you get more stimulation from porn than real life women? Hm?[qimg]http://farm4.staticflickr.com/3337/3602221191_f818f867dc.jpg[/qimg]
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So cute so cute so cute
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I wish had much confidence as other people when it comes to expressing interests in someone. I mean, I'm confident enough to talk to just anyone, throw honest compliments, somehow(keyword: SOMEHOW) get chuckles or loud laughs with my dry sense of humor, and even share things that are relevant to my interest if the other person does show interest. I just always tend to think that no one is really interested in me enough to hook up. If there is, how can I even know? There were a couple of moments where I was going to ask, but somehow it always ends up being too late. Blame me for either gaining interests over a course of time, or just dragging it long enough to make sure I had a chance. Also blame me for not showing that I'm interested on my end too.
Welp, either way. As much as it frustrates me, I'm in no huge rush or anything. Relationships I feel aren't really a huge priority, but I tend to like imagining having one with someone that cares as much as I do.
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Nice to discuss with you, Mr. Monkey King. Pardon for the lengthy post
! @Monkey:
! > That's how the human mind works. It twists itself up backwards and hates itself for no good reason, or overdoes things to the umpteenth. Producing a situation where actually yeah, someone has to change something, and nothing.
! Don’t confuse logical contradictions with mental conflicts and fragmentation.
! Self-hatred and irrational behaviors don’t come from nowhere. They have causes and conditions. Self-hatred is a form of reflective self-consciousness that emerges from the awareness of one’s own deficiencies in comparison to others or in confrontation with a difficult goal and task, when what one can do and what one wants to do are unable to match.
! As self-hatred occurs when your current abilities (physical, social, emotional, intellectual or otherwise) are unable to satisfy your desires, the learning-to-love-yourself-more advice tells you to change your desires and your attitude toward your own abilities while leaving your abilities unchanged. In doing so, it equates self with abilities, and fails to see that your self-esteem, attitudes and desires (especially the desire to become better) are as much a part of yourself as your abilities.
! Although intuitively experienced as a single unity, the self is far from being a single indivisible unity in reality. It is a complex that includes all the atoms in your body and all the physico-chemical, electromagnetic, bio-physiological, neuro-psychological processes going on in it. The human mind is a series of mental acts with various tendencies, desires, expectations, capacities and so on. Phenomenological studies indicated that each act of consciousness is always conscious of a field of objects, but not of itself. For example, when you are counting money, you are not thinking: “I am counting money”, but “$2, $3, $4, …”. However, the object of an act of consciousness can be another act of consciousness, as in the case of reflection. The act of self-hatred belongs to this special category. It is in reflective consciousness that a sense of self emerges, which young children don’t have.
! Suppose that you hate yourself for being obese, it is obvious that your obesity doesn't constitute the whole of you. It is a part of yourself of which you are embarrassed and which you want to change and can change. Your mental disorders, too, are located in some of your neural pathways, but not your whole nervous system. Similarly, your bad habits don’t determine all of your behaviors and thoughts.
@Monkey:
! > Sorry engineers, this isn't a left brain field. This is probably in fact the very most important right brain field.
If you don't like that tough I guess. You certainly aren't going to help anybody over-thinking this.
! Oh, maybe I should inform cognitive scientists and philosophers of mind everywhere about your declaration and tell them to cancel their effort to gain a rational understanding of the human mind. I didn't know you are such an authority on the field.
! Joking aside, there is no ground for the conclusion that mental issues are exempted from being the objects of rational inquiries, investigations and analyses, or that we cannot formulate a logical paradigm of the human mind.
! Right brain thinking and left braining thinking are both determined by brain processes. The brain is made of atoms, not magical dust. It operates in accordance with the laws with physics, not pulled by metaphysical strings from outside of time and space. Thoughts and feeling, whether rational or not, don’t just magically pop up from a vacuum. The mental realm is as much a field of rational investigation as anything else. That is what cognitive sciences, neurosciences and philosophy of mind are for. It is not so much a matter of left brain or right brain thinking, but a matter of grounded or ungrounded thinking.
@Monkey:
! > You're over-thinking it.
You're over-thinking it.
Jesus christ you're over-thinking it lol.
! Scrupulous examination is not overthinking. If there is any problem, it is because it is not scrupulous enough.
! @Monkey:
! > Feeling about yourself aren't characteristics like nose shape or something lol, they change, they come, they go.
They can be added on, they can be thrown away.
! So can your nose shape, literally. And although they change much easier, self-esteem, self-love or self-hatred don’t come and go in a matter of nanoseconds either. If they did they wouldn't become issues. They become issues because they can form repeated behaviors and neural patterns which strengthen over time and become harder and harder to change as they drag. But of course they can change because there is such a thing as neuroplasticity, which allow neural pathways to be altered. That is why I said:
! > But acknowledging them doesn't mean you should stick to all of them forever and adore all of them indiscriminately. If this was so self-improvement would be impossible.
! @Monkey:
! > HEY IM DEPRESSED AND SELF-LOATHING.
I SHOULD PROBABLY CHANGE THIS.
! Tough, I guess.
As much as I sympathize with victims of depressions, I can’t see uncritical self-acceptance as the best solution. My idea, as insensitive and untimely as it might be in some situations, is that we should raise our abilities to the best of our potentials and make the best out of our opportunities, and then our self-esteem will follow; instead of just raising our self-esteem (self-love) while leaving our abilities as they are. To me, becoming what we want to be is preferable to staying what we are. Self-complacency and contentment with mediocrity are unfortunately not what I am fond of advocating.
! If someone is obese, instead of telling them to love their obesity, I prefer to encourage them go on a diet and exercise. It is not easy, pleasant and doesn't always work, but it is desirable. In the case of depression, of course just mental encouragement isn't enough. Special medical treatments and other factors are also needed.
@Monkey:
! > Amazing how overcomplicated you can make stuff with left brain thinking where it don't belong lol.
! It is the opposite, in my opinion. Scrupulous, straightforward, honest left brain thinking apprehends the complexity of the world and its issues as they really are, while right brain thinking are more likely to dodge around and twist and complicate the issues, or relies too heavily on unclarified intuition, wishful thinking and jump to conclusion. The truths can be counter-intuitive, as modern sciences have demonstrated. -
I wish had much confidence as other people when it comes to expressing interests in someone. I mean, I'm confident enough to talk to just anyone, throw honest compliments, somehow(keyword: SOMEHOW) get chuckles or loud laughs with my dry sense of humor, and even share things that are relevant to my interest if the other person does show interest. I just always tend to think that no one is really interested in me enough to hook up. If there is, how can I even know? There were a couple of moments where I was going to ask, but somehow it always ends up being too late. Blame me for either gaining interests over a course of time, or just dragging it long enough to make sure I had a chance. Also blame me for not showing that I'm interested on my end too.
Welp, either way. As much as it frustrates me, I'm in no huge rush or anything. Relationships I feel aren't really a huge priority, but I tend to like imagining having one with someone that cares as much as I do.
If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything!
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The man speaks from experience. I'll take his word for it
Sides, I don't really think there's a wrong or right way.
Unless some of you are willing type long over-analyzing tangents on the science behind landing a date.
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Funny guy- fast track to friend zone. Have fun!
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It's down to both physical attributes and a great personality. You can't really survive on just one of the two.
Then again I'm pretty awful on both accounts and still get by fine. Maybe I'm just that dick that gets lucky while the rest of the world cries "bullshit". Lol
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You can actually get away with looking attractive but having a shitty personality. Just dont expect anything too permanent.
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Funny guy- fast track to friend zone. Have fun!
I made this girl travel all the way from scotland to see me because I was funny!
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Sure I had to use a few types of drugs and lucked out on coincidental amnesia, but I made her laugh first!
The man speaks from experience. I'll take his word for it
Sides, I don't really think there's a wrong or right way.
Unless some of you are willing type long over-analyzing tangents on the science behind landing a date.
It HAS to be that complicated, right?Haha these guys are just reading too deep into it xD. To summarize, laughing is the icebreaker, she feels fine talking to you because nothing is serious! Follow up with observation and connecting shared interests "Oh you're eating a banana, yeah I'd eat that to but then I get strange looks, but don't worry, if I look at you while you're eating it it's out of jealousy, not perverted context, maybe" Bam bitch is giggling and you get bonus points if she gives you a bit of it!
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You can actually get away with looking attractive but having a shitty personality. Just dont expect anything too permanent.
i wouldn't really call getting away with it if you have to live a life of continuous train wreck relationships. Unless of course you just like sleeping around with no emotional or meaningful ties.
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You can actually get away with looking attractive but having a shitty personality. Just dont expect anything too permanent.
I want to question your generalizing, but I'll leave your jaded television outlook on people to yourself.
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She did that JUST because you were funny? Must have been one really lonely lady…or wierd in the head.
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Funny girls…fast track to one of the guys.
I dunno. This one guy I wanted to ask out I back out of doing so because while I thought we could have chemistry but every time I talk to him another girl wish list item gets added that I don't have the characteristics of. So I've given up on him. I don't want to ask and have it be awkward if he says no.
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i wouldn't really call getting away with it if you have to live a life of continuous train wreck relationships. Unless of course you just like sleeping around with no emotional or meaningful ties.
Thats pretty much what im referring to.
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She did that JUST because you were funny? Must have been one really lonely lady…or wierd in the head.
Making her laugh certainly wasn't a fast track to the friendzone is my point. Inexperienced advice is just peanut gallery advice :s
Funny girls…fast track to one of the guys.
I dunno. This one guy I wanted to ask out I back out of doing so because while I thought we could have chemistry but every time I talk to him another girl wish list item gets added that I don't have the characteristics of. So I've given up on him. I don't want to ask and have it be awkward if he says no.
Oh don't mind that bull shit, I wish my girlfriend was mila kunis some days, while she wishes I was bradly cooper. To be honest the only reason he wouldn't date you if he doesn't find you attractive, well a better way to put it, is in his tastes. I mean I like exotic olive skin women, most white girls bore the fuck out of me. but you won't know until you look at his porn collection or throw some hypotheticals at him.
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I wish had much confidence as other people when it comes to expressing interests in someone. I mean, I'm confident enough to talk to just anyone, throw honest compliments, somehow(keyword: SOMEHOW) get chuckles or loud laughs with my dry sense of humor, and even share things that are relevant to my interest if the other person does show interest. I just always tend to think that no one is really interested in me enough to hook up. If there is, how can I even know? There were a couple of moments where I was going to ask, but somehow it always ends up being too late. Blame me for either gaining interests over a course of time, or just dragging it long enough to make sure I had a chance. Also blame me for not showing that I'm interested on my end too.
Welp, either way. As much as it frustrates me, I'm in no huge rush or anything. Relationships I feel aren't really a huge priority, but I tend to like imagining having one with someone that cares as much as I do.
There's no 100% sure way, but like everything keep it simple.
You want to do this : Let the other person come to you. Throw some hints ( not clear one ), and if she/he's intersted in you, they'll interpret them the good way. And if they're not intersted in you, you can still say that they understand it the wrong way.
From my experience, show clear interest in someone is never a good idea. First, if the other person gives you the cold shoulder, you're pretty much fucked. Second, even if it works, you'll be the person who's attached more than he/she does and you'll have to struggle an up-hill battle to balance your situation.
The best situation is pretending that it's mutual interest. Even if you're completely in love with the other person. Let the thing grow. If the person do not see you as a potential relationship, you'll understand it quick enough. And if the person does, pretend that as the time goes, you went to think the same way as him/her.
Relationship is easy science once two people are intersted in each other. Finding someone with true interst in you is complicated.
I dunno. This one guy I wanted to ask out I back out of doing so because while I thought we could have chemistry but every time I talk to him another girl wish list item gets added that I don't have the characteristics of. So I've given up on him. I don't want to ask and have it be awkward if he says no.
DAMN, you're a girl baroness ? I thought you were a man all this time.
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Yeah. It's the only place where people from all around the world of different cultures and nationalities exist. Where else could they possibly go?
Ahhh the enlighten me if you are so adept with relationships. Since i have such a clearly skewed vision and please give me your insight from experience and vast understanding of this topic. You have dated yes? Gone through multiple relationships and seen others go through the same? Seem patterns in different locales and situation. Yes please enlighten me with your knowledge and experience.
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Ahhh the enlighten me if you are so adept with relationships. Since i have such a clearly skewed vision and please give me your insight from experience and vast understanding of this topic. You have dated yes? Gone through multiple relationships and seen others go through the same? Seem patterns in different locales and situation. Yes please enlighten me with your knowledge and experience.
I certainly am and your interpretations are like high school level :s
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I certainly am and your interpretations are like high school level :s
Maybe so maybe so….hahahah. but if you cannot deny that looks puts you one step ahead of an ugly mofo assuming both have decent personalities....hahaha....
Then again i dont know why im discussing this since i dont give a flying fuck about relationships due to time and money. Ahh guess ill bail. Sorry khaini, hiroy, and smudge for wasting your time. Ive been an ass. Damn pomeranians.