Nothing to add. Just quoted for emphasis
So Wolfwood, that means that you agree with me or not ?
Nothing to add. Just quoted for emphasis
So Wolfwood, that means that you agree with me or not ?
@wolfwoof:
Dunno what else other than social backlash would make people be secretive about sex. Unless it's like catholic guilt or something weird like that
Around here sex isn't really anything special in a good or bad way. It's not something you hide or something you flaunt. It's just something you do
That already shows that the attitude is a bit different. Germany is not really a religious country anymore (except maybe the south) but there is still a certain constraint about it.
So Wolfwood, that means that you agree with me or not ?
Ya i was agreeing with you
That already shows that the attitude is a bit different. Germany is not really a religious country anymore (except maybe the south) but there is still a certain constraint about it.
Might be some silent judgement going around. But i dunno maybe we are more casual about it than the krauts
Confession time: A few hours later, I have awoken in a daze in my bed feeling the familiar dull pressure crushing the sides of my head after consuming a fair amount of alcohol with my colleagues. I behold that which I have instigated on AP forums while intoxicated and laughed myself silly. Alcohol + AP forums clearly does not match well for me. How utterly embarrassing. Apologies all around.
You might be the most romantic individual in the whole world punchy ol' boy
I'm sorry, I can't help it. Drunk valiantt is one of the best things I've seen here in a while.
Confession time: A few hours later, I have awoken in a daze in my bed feeling the familiar dull pressure crushing the sides of my head after consuming a fair amount of alcohol with my colleagues. I behold that which I have instigated on AP forums while intoxicated and laughed myself silly. Alcohol + AP forums clearly does not match well for me. How utterly embarrassing. Apologies all around.
http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/10/104166/27_2008/minnie.jpg
Posting on the internet is the worst as a drunkard.
Because then you can read exactly what you wrote the next morning…
And so can everyone else.
Dear God I've embarrassed myself once or twice on facebook.
you're both welcome
I think I have overstepped my boundaries.
You see, my friend and I have a very delicate relationship ever since she started thinking I'm in love with her. She didn't talk to me for one month (the entirety of January). Things just got normal again recently.
I just gave her a salt shaker in form of a frog (it's an inside joke) as an early birthday present because she just moved and doesn't have a salt shaker yet. So I didn't want to wait till the end of May (which is her birthday), because, duh, she kinda needs a salt shaker NOW.
I put it in her bag while she wasn't looking before we both went into the library. She left early, just half an hour ago, meaning she had to put her stuff in her bag and find the salt shaker. She hasn't sent me a text message or anything since … I feel like crying. I might have destroyed everything.
here's a recent pic
Don't really have much to add on the topic, and it seems to have more or less wrapped up regardless, but I just wanted to say, I think the both of you are cute, and look like you make a sweet couple.
@Nia:
I think I have overstepped my boundaries.
You see, my friend and I have a very delicate relationship ever since she started thinking I'm in love with her. She didn't talk to me for one month (the entirety of January). Things just got normal again recently.
I just gave her a salt shaker in form of a frog (it's an inside joke) as an early birthday present because she just moved and doesn't have a salt shaker yet. So I didn't want to wait till the end of May (which is her birthday), because, duh, she kinda needs a salt shaker NOW.
I put it in her bag while she wasn't looking before we both went into the library. She left early, just half an hour ago, meaning she had to put her stuff in her bag and find the salt shaker. She hasn't sent me a text message or anything since … I feel like crying. I might have destroyed everything.
Oh sweetie… hugs tightly
You know, I'm sure it's fine. I obviously don't know what your friendship is like all that well but I think it was a nice gesture that I would have loved to do for a friend, and would have loved to experience myself as a nice little surprise. Maybe she's just been preoccupied or busy these past thirty minutes? Even if she is thinking about what it means, maybe she just needs a little time to process it and decide how to respond. But I'm sure she's also glad that you two have been talking more again, she probably won't throw it away so quickly.
Plus it's her birthday, birthdays are flawless reasons to be extra kind to people.
If it really does bother you, you could drop her a really light text to let her know that it's from you as a birthday present, sent earlier for the sake of practicality.
Hang in there love!
Sides, I don't really think there's a wrong or right way.
Unless some of you are willing type long over-analyzing tangents on the science behind landing a date.
It HAS to be that complicated, right?
Since being unresponsive to criticism would be against my principle:
1. Self-love and self-hatred are supposedly grander problems than landing a date. Originally I simply wanted to challenge the idea of uncritical self-acceptance and the misconception behind it.
2. In the later post I mainly objected to the idea that 'engineers' can't understand human behaviors as much as, say, artists. Even the simplest human behavior is more complicated than you think, and none has a complete understanding of them yet. Otherwise we would have been able to produce androids capable of emotions and… landing a date with each other by now. Reverse Engineering of the human mind is a thousand times more difficult than rocket science. What most of us know of the human mind is no more than know-how instinctive understanding, vague intuitive conceptions, common (naive) folk psychology and bro-science, which never reached scientific rigor and whose incompleteness is the cause of many of our problems. Of course such understanding may suffice for a successful date which does not require a complete intellectual understanding of all psychological processes involved. But for intellectual purpose, call it over-analyzing if you will, if we stop questioning what we have taken for granted, there would be no scientific progress.
3. What I have been saying was never more complicated than the most basic level of cognitive sciences. No doubt the length is inconvenient and might not be fitting for the scope of this thread, thus, if you are not interested, you don't have to read any of it (which is why I put it in spoiler tag). As for those who are interested in a more complete understanding and bother reading I have to say, I welcome any earnest criticism. If some of you have something to teach me on this field (which I am also working on), I would be more than grateful.
On-liners would have been entertaining, but learning is more to my objective. My sincerest apology for the cumbersome inelegance of my expressions.
Best wishes.
@Nia:
I think I have overstepped my boundaries.
You see, my friend and I have a very delicate relationship ever since she started thinking I'm in love with her. She didn't talk to me for one month (the entirety of January). Things just got normal again recently.
I just gave her a salt shaker in form of a frog (it's an inside joke) as an early birthday present because she just moved and doesn't have a salt shaker yet. So I didn't want to wait till the end of May (which is her birthday), because, duh, she kinda needs a salt shaker NOW.
I put it in her bag while she wasn't looking before we both went into the library. She left early, just half an hour ago, meaning she had to put her stuff in her bag and find the salt shaker. She hasn't sent me a text message or anything since … I feel like crying. I might have destroyed everything.
Just calm down maybe she hasn't seen it yet.Its just been half an hour and there have to be numerous reasons which aren't negative that she hasn't got back to you. I think your panicking more about her response than her lack of it. Hope that helps
Just calm down maybe she hasn't seen it yet.Its just been half an hour and there have to be numerous reasons which aren't negative that she hasn't got back to you. I think your panicking more about her response than her lack of it. Hope that helps
Reading this piece of text while keeping your avatar in mind is weird.
I'm sorry, I can't help it. Drunk valiantt is one of the best things I've seen here in a while.
This .
@Nia:
I think I have overstepped my boundaries.
You see, my friend and I have a very delicate relationship ever since she started thinking I'm in love with her. She didn't talk to me for one month (the entirety of January). Things just got normal again recently.
I just gave her a salt shaker in form of a frog (it's an inside joke) as an early birthday present because she just moved and doesn't have a salt shaker yet. So I didn't want to wait till the end of May (which is her birthday), because, duh, she kinda needs a salt shaker NOW.
I put it in her bag while she wasn't looking before we both went into the library. She left early, just half an hour ago, meaning she had to put her stuff in her bag and find the salt shaker. She hasn't sent me a text message or anything since … I feel like crying. I might have destroyed everything.
Was it a big bag? Maybe she missed it :/
Try not to let it get you down Nia. I know from personal experience how I think a gift didn't go over well with someone, but in the way trappy said, they just didn't get a chance to text/call you yet…take heart!
I'm sorry, I can't help it. Drunk valiantt is one of the best things I've seen here in a while.
More like embarrassing. I think I'll stay off the stuff for about a month or so. :ninja:
Plus it's just a salt shaker. If it was a sexual item or something like a love letter, you'd have some reasons to be worried. But a salt shaker is the most safe gift to a girl I could imagine.
Man up, call her and ask her if she found the salt shaker. At least you'll be fixed once and for all.
If she says "yes I found it", tell her something not serious like " I did stole it from a store, that was not easy so I hope you like it. I hate risking some trouble for nothing ". As a girl, she'll probably believe you and when she's really into it : Tell her it's a joke and you just bought it yesterday.
Clean hit.
More like embarrassing. I think I'll stay off the stuff for about a month or so. :ninja:
REAL MEN DRINK WHILE PoSTING.
Khanin, we could see someone naked from your Tv screen reflection. Who is it ? Seems like a female.
RELEASE THE KRAKEN
No but seriously don't drink <3
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Khanin, we could see someone naked from your Tv screen reflection. Who is it ? Seems like a female.
And this is why
Khanin, we could see someone naked from your Tv screen reflection. Who is it ? Seems like a female.
16 chara of Bradly Cooper
EDIT
StrippedTrappedDolphin after a night out
stares intently at the tv screen
What naked person?
Luckily, when I drink, I make sure I won't be coming near a computer for a while. Usually.
@Nia:
I feel like crying. I might have destroyed everything.
Don't. Try to be patient and not jump to conclusions. No one would take your surprise gift as anything more than innocent and cute.
There might be a hundred of reasons why she hasn't responded back. You don't know if she just has no words to properly thank you at the moment.
! @trappedolphin:
! > But I'm sure she's also glad that you two have been talking more again, she probably won't throw it away so quickly.
! I really hope so. She does spend a lot of time with me again, with me alone, just sitting around for hours, talking and waiting for time to pass for no reason at all despite having very good reasons NOT to be sitting around like that (aka writing a thesis, which I should be doing as well). So, yeah, at the very least she doesn't avoid me anymore, that much's for sure. She also laughs again when I'm there, she looks at me again … just that normal stuff she hadn't been doing for a long time.
! @trappedolphin:
! > If it really does bother you, you could drop her a really light text to let her know that it's from you as a birthday present, sent earlier for the sake of practicality.
! Heh, that's EXACTLY what I did. :'D
Originally, I didn't want to write anything, cause that's kinda like saying "hey, why haven't you expressed your endless gratitude for my awesome gift yet? UNGRATEFUL THING". Especially since I know that she has a very, VERY hard time saying "thanks". Usually she just makes a snarky comment instead.
But yeah, I couldn't take it anymore, so after about two hours of waiting I wrote her.
I wrote something among the lines of "I just noticed the sticky tape explaining what the hell this thing is for fell off; found it in my bag just now" (the box already had two notes on it, so yeah, not that far fetched) and then explained what it was for and why she had gotten it early. Exactly what you suggested.
! She wrote me back that she would have answered earlier, but she wanted to make me wait for her answer cause I kinda did the same thing in a different context recently.
It kinda felt like an excuse, and like she actually just didn't know what to write cause she felt really uncomfortable by the gesture, but … I'm really, really fucking paranoid about everything she does or doesn't do after the past six agonizing months. So I shouldn't read so much into it … I'm feeling pretty silly now, actually. The tiniest thing is putting me on edge these days.
! @kevo_koma:
! > Just calm down maybe she hasn't seen it yet.Its just been half an hour and there have to be numerous reasons which aren't negative that she hasn't got back to you. I think your panicking more about her response than her lack of it. Hope that helps
! Well, there was no way for her to miss it, and she did, in fact, see it right away as I know now, but I'll try to think that she's not mad or feeling uncomfortable because of it. I just have to stop being this paranoid, but … we JUST set things straight, we JUST started being friends like nothing ever happened and I was so happy to have that back. Even the tiniest chance that I might lose it again ... it's unbearable. I cannot suffer through that again.
! @Smockey:
! > Reading this piece of text while keeping your avatar in mind is weird.
! YES.
! @Shuhan:
! > Was it a big bag?
! Pretty much. I didn't really look at her stuff, but her bag was basically empty.
She saw it alright, but … yeah, what I wrote above, basically.
! @Smockey:
! > Plus it's just a salt shaker. If it was a sexual item or something like a love letter, you'd have some reasons to be worried. But a salt shaker is the most safe gift to a girl I could imagine.
! Hahaha, oh God, if anything like THAT ever happened I think she'd quit her job (we're working in the same place in the same shift) and never set a foot into university again, except for tests she has to write. XD
It was bad enough when she just SUSPECTED that I MIGHT have a thing for her, so just imagining her having definite PROOF … oh wow. XD
! @Silverblade:
! > No one would take your surprise gift as anything more than innocent and cute.
! It's just that we're both kind of on edge cause of that "I think you love me and if I'm right I NEVER want to see you again because eww" thing. So … yeah. I get worried very easily that she might take something the wrong way ^^;
Thanks, you guys. I really, REALLY appreciate that you didn't just laugh at me for being so silly and paranoid.
I felt so horrible, I just had to tell someone to get it off my chest. Otherwise I'd have started crying right here in the library again, and that's something I CANNOT DOOO people think I'm weird enough as it is!
You guys are the best :)
What naked person?
Top right mate.
Luckily, when I drink, I make sure I won't be coming near a computer for a while. Usually.
Want me to throw the two last strange pm you sent me last you were drunk huh ?
Beside, Nia, I do not want to be harsch or something but feeling something for a great friend of your is nothing to be worried about.
That's quite normal actually. You're a boy, she's a girl, from what I understand you feel close to each other… I feel that maybe you should reconsider your friendship. You wrote that she's able to never speak to you again if she felt that you feel something for her, and that's pretty wrong.
A real friend will just laugh at you, telling you how she feels about it and get over it like nothing happened.
stares intently at the tv screen
What naked person?
I think you have to be drunk to see it. So you're doing well on your new resolution so far!
Nia: Yay! I'm so happy that everything's fine. :)
I confess I've done too many illicit substances. Regret is an understatement. I wish I wasn't such a bad boy. Sigh. Don't do drugs people.
Wait, is Nia a girl ?
If that's the case, I begin to understand her friend reaction now. :ninja:
Yeah Nia's a girl. Best bird lady I've ever met.
Ahahah, ok I understand, I thought she was a boy/man. I understand your friend reaction.
Two girls being in love is cute from an outside point of view, but from a non-homo girl point of view that must be pretty disgusting.
I just read the first volume of Nia Bizarre adventure I guess. With some twist and all.
Wait, is Nia a girl ?
If that's the case, I begin to understand her friend reaction now. :ninja:
Hahaha, guilty as charged :D
A straight girl, I might add.
Which is confusing as hell but love does not give two shits about logic, apparently.
Yeah Nia's a girl. Best bird lady I've ever met.
Oh youuuuu <3 <3
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I just read the first volume of Nia Bizarre adventure I guess. With some twist and all.
LOL! Now that's a story I NEVER want published XD
Which is confusing as hell but love does not give two shits about logic, apparently.
So, even if you're a straight girl, you're feeling something for her ?
Maybe you're not as straight as you think. =P
@winnyshreds:
I confess I've done too many illicit substances. Regret is an understatement. I wish I wasn't such a bad boy. Sigh. Don't do drugs people.
Nah, try many things in order to get rid of the curiosity but don´t lose yourself, that´s important
Nah, try many things in order to get rid of the curiosity but don´t lose yourself, that´s important
Yeah I know, but drugs have distorted my perception of who I am and the world around me. I'm trying hard to quit everything (its mainly just weed) so I do well at uni for the remainder of the time I'm at uni. Its not even about being curious lol its about having fun and experiencing the sensations that you get off some of these illicit substances. Its just hard to get off stuff when all your good friends do it. I guess your friends reflect who you are as a person and that being said I need to and have been seriously reassesing who I should be friends with and who I shouldn't cause of it. Yeah I have a bad addiction lol.
So, even if you're a straight girl, you're feeling something for her ?
Maybe you're not as straight as you think. =P
It's somewhat complicated, but I've had two and a half years to figure it out, so I'm rather sure that I am, in fact, straight.
She's the first woman I ever felt something for, and I love her unconditionally on an emotional level, that much I can tell without a doubt. Also, I think she is very, very beautiful and cute and charming and all that, but I simply do not do lesbian stuff. Nu-uh.
I could KINDA imagine kissing her MAYBE but even that is seriously pushing it. I'm a pretty huggy/touchy person in general, so I enjoy having her close to me (she abused me as a pillow once for a few hours and I did not mind in the slightest), but that's all.
@OnePunch:
Since being unresponsive to criticism would be against my principle:
How to respond to this one I wonder?
Overly long tangents that involves words with no personal sentiment behind them just always strikes me as someone that really knows nothing.
To me knowledge is about being aware. It's nothing to preach until one has gained the credibility and experience to preach that knowledge.
So yeah. Just explaining the reasons behind my "criticisms"(It was an outright insult, but critism is a nice word) =:3
Take it personally if you want. It does not matter very much to me.
So, even if you're a straight girl, you're feeling something for her ?
Maybe you're not as straight as you think. =P
No, Nia meant her friend was straight xD
Edit: Nevermind o3o You were right, Nia meant herself @w@
I just wanted to say Nia I do feel for your anxieties. They are not "crazy", you are very invested emotionally and it is how it goes. I do hope things go well for you, in some way, because I wouldn't like you to be so down. I'm glad to hear things are getting more ordinary again as far as your relationship is concerned, that is good and maybe everything'll be ok???
@Nia:
It's somewhat complicated, but I've had two and a half years to figure it out, so I'm rather sure that I am, in fact, straight.
She's the first woman I ever felt something for, and I love her unconditionally on an emotional level, that much I can tell without a doubt. Also, I think she is very, very beautiful and cute and charming and all that, but I simply do not do lesbian stuff. Nu-uh.
I could KINDA imagine kissing her MAYBE but even that is seriously pushing it. I'm a pretty huggy/touchy person in general, so I enjoy having her close to me (she abused me as a pillow once for a few hours and I did not mind in the slightest), but that's all.
You are the cutest human being I know and I don't know why your friend would mind this innocent type of love you have for her ;3; I felt and still feel in a similar way about my best friend and she shares the sentiments xD It's…. this strange type of 'other half' connection we have that makes even our boyfriends feel a bit left out xD
@winnyshreds:
Yeah I know, but drugs have distorted my perception of who I am and the world around me. I'm trying hard to quit everything (its mainly just weed) so I do well at uni for the remainder of the time I'm at uni. Its not even about being curious lol its about having fun and experiencing the sensations that you get off some of these illicit substances. Its just hard to get off stuff when all your good friends do it. I guess your friends reflect who you are as a person and that being said I need to and have been seriously reassesing who I should be friends with and who I shouldn't cause of it. Yeah I have a bad addiction lol.
Yeah, weed is definitely one of those things you can easily lose yourself in and which can become a habit, especially considering that it is rather cheap. I had my "phase" during my school years where smoking every day with friends was the common thing to do. That coupled with going out every damn weekend to drink yourself to death, even trying harder drugs in clubs and so forth, that was definitely a destructive time but i am still happy that i tried things and can talk about it. At one point, just like you, i asked myself "What the hell am i doing, where am i going with this" and started to distance myself from it and those who engage in doing it.
You are the cutest human being I know and I don't know why your friend would mind this innocent type of love you have for her ;3; I felt and still feel in a similar way about my best friend and she shares the sentiments xD It's…. this strange type of 'other half' connection we have that makes even our boyfriends feel a bit left out xD
yeah nia is p damn kawaii
i don't know her much but it makes me wanna go no! nia! we want you to be happy! ganbatte!
I'll admit I didn't understand the full story behind it but now your reaction is really understandable and I can see why you'd be so anxious about it. You said that she suspected you were in love with her, was it something that you did exactly that made her think that and are you actually in love with her?
I say don't worry if your relationship was rekindled then that means that she values it and doesn't want to loose it. But I do feel for you, I've been in a similar situation where I wanted something more, she didn't and so stopped talking to me completely and I ended up missing the friendship more than whatever romantic relationship I wanted.
My small advice, imagine the last six months didn't happen and handle it as you would back then. Either way good luck to you and the friendship
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Yeah, weed is definitely one of those things you can easily lose yourself in and which can become a habit, especially considering that it is rather cheap. I had my "phase" during my school years where smoking every day with friends was the common thing to do. That coupled with going out every damn weekend to drink yourself to death, even trying harder drugs in clubs and so forth, that was definitely a destructive time but i am still happy that i tried things and can talk about it. At one point, just like you, i asked myself "What the hell am i doing, where am i going with this" and started to distance myself from it and those who engage in doing it.
This topic reminds me that I don't know whether I was secretly hypnotised or its just my body but for a long time my body has physically rejected cigs and alcohol by which I mean that if I think of or smell them I just starting feeling sick. Now I just drink beer and thats it.
Sorry for the formatting on this one, AP died on me while I typed it.
! @The:
! > I just wanted to say Nia I do feel for your anxieties. They are not "crazy", you are very invested emotionally and it is how it goes. I do hope things go well for you, in some way, because I wouldn't like you to be so down. I'm glad to hear things are getting more ordinary again as far as your relationship is concerned, that is good and maybe everything'll be ok???
! Thank you! REALLY.
Besides all the anxiety itself, I've starting to feel very anxious about feeling anxious because … it just feels so ridiculous and dumb, if I really think about it. But I can't stop worrying and thinking "what if" all the damn time.
! It's so reassuring to hear that now!
! I think everything will be ok, yes. The past ... I dunno maybe three weeks were pretty much like everything had always been beforehand, and we're as close as ever, so ... I'm kinda getting my hopes up, actually! Didn't see that one coming. :'D
! @Chrissie:
! > You are the cutest human being I know and I
don't know why your friend would mind this innocent type of love you
have for her ;3; I felt and still feel in a similar way about my best
friend and she shares the sentiments xD It's…. this strange type of
'other half' connection we have that makes even our boyfriends feel a
bit left out xD
! @The:
! > yeah nia is p damn kawaiii don't know her much but it makes me wanna go no! nia! we want you to be happy! ganbatte!
! W-will you two stop that! Cut it out! I'M NOT BLUSHING SHUT UP MY FACE IS ALWAYS THIS SHADE OF RED
@kevo_koma:
! > I'll admit I didn't understand the full story
behind it but now your reaction is really understandable and I can see
why you'd be so anxious about it. You said that she suspected you were
in love with her, was it something that you did exactly that made her
think that and are you actually in love with her?
! We … well, she just picked up on it. I guess it couldn't be avoided for very long.
I wasn't exactly SUBTLE about it, but I was so very blunt (and always said it in a way that sounded like I was not serious at all, just joking) that I hoped she wouldn't figure it out.
But this woman .. she KNOWS me. She just knows how I tick. Sometimes she gets things about me that even I hadn't understood yet.
! @kevo_koma:
! > I say don't worry if your relationship was rekindled then that means
that she values it and doesn't want to loose it. But I do feel for you,
I've been in a similar situation where I wanted something more, she
didn't and so stopped talking to me completely and I ended up missing
the friendship more than whatever romantic relationship I wanted.
! I'm very sorry to hear that. That's something I don't want anyone to experience.
That's exactly why I'd never even THINK of trying to make a move on her, even if I WOULD want something physical. I just … I cannot risk this friendship, no matter what.
! @kevo_koma:
! > My small advice, imagine the last six months didn't happen and handle it
as you would back then. Either way good luck to you and the friendship
! I'm trying my best.
At first, when the tension was finally broken and we started talking again, I was very careful not to mention ANYTHING that would even remotely remind her of anything that had happened.
Now, I joke around like we used to. For example, yesterday when I drove her home she threatened to break my beloved car and said "Well, I guess if I did that you'd have to end our friendship right here and now and go to [person who she decided should be my boyfriend simply because I DO NOT LIKE HIM and she loves to tease me] instead, huh? wink wink". So I answered "…. uh, no! Nononono! I can't beeecauuuse ... I couldn't LEAVE YOU, no matter WHAT."
Just, you know, silly stuff like that. I didn't even dare to say something as simple as that, but now it's okay again.
How to respond to this one I wonder?
Overly long tangents that involves words with no personal sentiment behind them just always strikes me as someone that really knows nothing.
To me knowledge is about being aware. It's nothing to preach until one has gained the credibility and experience to preach that knowledge.So yeah. Just explaining the reasons behind my "criticisms"(It was an outright insult, but critism is a nice word) =:3
Take it personally if you want. It does not matter very much to me.
1. While I agree that knowledge is about being aware, I disagree with the notion that awareness necessarily comes from direct experience. You don’t have to have a criminal history in order to become a good criminologist and understand the criminal mind. You don’t have to go through post war trauma in order to become a good psychiatrist. You don’t have to be a murderer or truly want to kill someone in order to become a good writer about murderous mentality.
2. While the authority of experience certainly speaks something, it can be limited and one-sided. If understanding is all about experience, all old men would be wise. We can over-generalize, misinterpret our experience, or even become blinded by our own experience. Some who had religious experiences became religious fanatics. Others who also had religious experiences decided to become scientists to understand the neurological process underlying religious experiences and remain non-believers. Rejecting the validity of more critical, scientific analyses of feelings and emotions does not strike me as an open-minded attitude.
3. It is not that I didn't have a personal experience of self-loathing, from which I have graduated. But I chose to expound the problem and its structures from a more unbiased viewpoint and in a more universal term, as a scientific report would. I didn't think it was necessary to include a specific description of my personal experience or to convey my point sentimentally, even though I am practicing my words as much as the next person, if not more. I am sorry if the emotional poverty of my writing bothers you and turn you away from any insight it may offer.
4. Most importantly, it is not my intention to preach anyone, not do I want anyone to accept my words as an authority. I simply wanted to share my voice, and it is a delight if someone would endeavor to examine my arguments critically.
5. Finally, I am incapable of taking ‘criticisms’ personally, nor can I bear ill will to my critics. I can’t see any benefit in doing so.
Best wishes.
I'm not a grammar nazi, but I still get a bit bothered by the fact that "funner" and "funnest" are now acceptable replacements for "more fun" and "most fun" (last I checked, anyways).
It's not that I lose sleep over it or anything. It's just odd to have been taught most of my early life that the correct terms to use are "more fun", etc., although using the phrase "correct terms" probably isn't right, considering languages evolve over time.
@OnePunch:
1. While I agree that knowledge is about being aware, I disagree with the notion that awareness necessarily comes from direct experience. You don’t have to have a criminal history in order to become a good criminologist and understand the criminal mind. You don’t have to go through post war trauma in order to become a good psychiatrist. You don’t have to be a murderer or truly want to kill someone in order to become a good writer about murderous mentality.
2. While the authority of experience certainly speaks something, it can be limited and one-sided. If understanding is all about experience, all old men would be wise. We can over-generalize, misinterpret our experience, or even become blinded by our own experience. Some who had religious experiences became religious fanatics. Others who also had religious experiences decided to become scientists to understand the neurological process underlying religious experiences and remain non-believers. Rejecting the validity of more critical, scientific analyses of feelings and emotions does not strike me as an open-minded attitude.
3. It is not that I didn't have a personal experience of self-loathing, from which I have graduated. But I chose to expound the problem and its structures from a more unbiased viewpoint and in a more universal term, as a scientific report would. I didn't think it was necessary to include a specific description of my personal experience or to convey my point sentimentally, even though I am practicing my words as much as the next person, if not more. I am sorry if the emotional poverty of my writing bothers you and turn you away from any insight it may offer.
4. Most importantly, it is not my intention to preach anyone, not do I want anyone to accept my words as an authority. I simply wanted to share my voice, and it is a delight if someone would endeavor to examine my arguments critically.
5. Finally, I am incapable of taking ‘criticisms’ personally, nor can I bear ill will to my critics. I can’t see any benefit in doing so.
Best wishes.
I haven't been keeping up, just seen Hiroy's little quote and your reaction to it but I'm guessing the context is "what defines knowledge?" and felt like tossing my two cents in.
To me, knowledge is perception. I believe those that are capable of "perceiving" more are ultimately more "knowledgeable". I also believe that these perceptions, and the number of those perceptions, determine how "knowledgeable" you are in any given context (i.e. chess, medical knowledge, whatever) and that, a one and true general "knowledge" is unrealistic in its conceptualization because it would be the sum of all given contexts weighed in a practical manner accordingly to your surroundings, specific cultural implementation and what you intrinsically value.
There can be no one standard for knowledge that doesn't tie into some specific cultural standard. Though I don't believe this invalidates one person's cumulative knowledge over another person's. The only thing I believe in is the various culminations of knowledge that make up an individual, not a weighted standard. You can have the same weight but not the same "distributions" or "contexts". Which is why I believe everyone has something interesting they can say.
Random tangent directed at no one. Carry on.~