Can I be the older brother that goes upstairs and never comes back?
Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD
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I think most of us here are shut-ins, to varying degrees.
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Not me, I do most of my browsing from my jacuzzi in the backyard.
At least I wish I did.
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Not me, I do most of my browsing from my jacuzzi in the backyard.
At least I wish I did.
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Hahahha she broke up with me. Today we were about to turn 1 month together and yesterday afterschool (my last day of school after my last advanced placement exam) i was all happy that i was finally free and i could spend time with her even tho i had my concerns i shared here previously which smudge and others helped me through i can now see that i had them for a reason. She tells me i need to talk with u and so we go and she starts telling me "we get along superwell and we're super friends" i just think to myself wtf we're boyfriend girlfriend not fcking super friends and i even reacted like wtf then she tells me im going to leave to riverside (its only like 3 hours from here anyway) im going to graduate i wont be here long distance relationships never work she kept saying never she was scared but she also told me she doesnt like me like she used to and she doesnt want to have a boyfriend right now. Just a bunch of fucking excuses she thinks im stupid enough to fall for
Yesterday was our free day pool party for seniors we all got drunk everyone supported me sober and not sober that i dont deserve her she was stupid i talked to her sister about it because i get along well with her she was surprised and even decended me too calling out her sister for being selfish immature "whore" who doesnt know how to appreciate what she has because the guy i mentioned a while back the one who went to her house at 12 am and stayed there until like 2 or 3 i had a right to be jealous and her sister told me applogizing that it looked like they were more than just friends .. What a fucking whore. First she does something similar to a good friend 2 years ago and now she does this to me.. Wtf is wrong with her.
Well at least its better now than later because she would keep treating me like dirt abusing me making up excuses and not wanting to spend time with me. I deserve much better than someone who cant appreciate me or consider me and only thinks of herself and of her feelings not mine. Itll take time to get over as i drank yesterday (not necessaril for my sorrows i was planning on getting drunk anyway) i started to forget her but once i was so fucked up the shit hit me much harder. I was already leaving so no one saw me but i was about to cry. Itll take time but this is for the better. Im done
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At least you're approaching it (kinda) the right way (kinda). And at least it only lasted one month and didn't drag on for a year, or worse… multiple years.
Break-ups always suck but the only thing you can do is learn from them and develop more self-respect, learn to set higher standards and not accept someone who mistreats you. Rule of thumb is that, if you aren't both putting in the same amount of effort (and you very well could be the one not putting in enough in this example) it won't work out. Relationships are a two-way street and require both people to navigate, or it'll just end up falling apart (or crashing into a tree).
You'll be fine in time, Gueta. Take this time now to re-evaluate your goals and pursue what's important to you. And if you ever want to talk, I'm open.~
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It's great you realize you're much better off. I'm also really glad for you in that you only had to endure a month of that. I've had situations in which I got dragged along for months, and it's such a devastating waste of time. And you're graduating? Great man, congratulations! Now you move on to greater things with greater people.
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On the upside, college girls are waaaaaay better than high school girls.
At least in my experience.~
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It's a strange transition. College girls are much more self-empowered, but sadly to some of them self-empowered means they make horrible decisions and don't think of consequences or of really improving who they are.
So in some perspective, yes, they're great.
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Guess it depends on where you go. I guess I was fortunate enough during my short time period at UNO (University of New Orleans) half the student body was composed of foreign students. The diverse collection of culture was a humbling experience for most.
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I would say, post college girls…College age people are kinda prone to losing their minds when they move away from parents. They make some really bizzare choices. Not all of course, but it can be a trend.
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In my experience college kids are even more immature and irresponsible. This goes for guys too. "OMG I'm away from home! Nobody's the boss of me now!"
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You guys attend shitty colleges.
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Naaaah, I'd say guys are stupid during high school, college and up until they hit their 30s. Heck, or maybe they just stay stupid for the most part. I know plenty of guys with stunted mindsets.
Pfft, I attended one of those good universities and there were still stupid guys there (mostly the athletes, BUT they were a valuable necessity).
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Man, I guess I live in surreal land then.
The athletes at my school were actually the smartest people on campus and performed the most nerdy activities.
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@Uncle:
Man, I guess I live in surreal land then.
The athletes at my school were actually the smartest people on campus and performed the most nerdy activities.
Pfft fine, I'll be more explicit: The FOOTBALL athletes were not the most cognitively capable members of the community. On the other hand, we had lacrosse and volleyball players that were 4.0ers.
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I'm referring to football players. >_>
They had to maintain a high average (like a minimum of above 3.0) just to stay on the team.
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When I was at the Uni, in my department we had what? 3 guys in total in the four years I was there? All the rest were ladies. :U To the joy of the medical and molecular biology departments.
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@Uncle:
Man, I guess I live in surreal land then.
The athletes at my school were actually the smartest people on campus and performed the most nerdy activities.
I went to a university that consistently ranks in the top few schools in the world. It's also probably one of the most diverse schools in one of the most diverse areas. That was when I realized that getting into good schools doesn't say jack diddly about your actual intelligence. It wasn't even a private school with legacy crap going on!
Frats also really disgust me in so many aspects (this is in general; a few here and there manage to be respectable). I still live in the same town and I'm so fed up with frat culture. I guess I can even "confess" something about that: years back a fire started at a frat house and at least one person was trapped and died (I actually watched the fire a bit at the time, of course not knowing this). My very first though when I found out someone died was "at least it was a frat boy."
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years back a fire started at a frat house and at least one person was trapped and died (I actually watched the fire a bit at the time, of course not knowing this). My very first though when I found out someone died was "at least it was a frat boy."
I will be interested to see peoples reactions to this - I can however tell you I can understand your mentality behind the statement.
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My parents are part of a Fraternity and Sorority. My mom joined after College and both my parents have been chapter president and vice president in our area for years. In fact my mom is finishing up the last week of new pledge stuff. Michelle Obama is a part of their sorority too.
I think it definitely varies on what house you belong to on how they conduct themselves. I feel that the ones like my parents have been in that were founded in early 1900s are more about community and volunteering to help less fortunate. They weren't really party houses.
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! I despise my college SO MUCH. this place is run by assholes whose goal is to squeeze every last penny they possibly can out of students. I had to buy one of those damn 'custom editions' made exclusively for this university, and it was over $80. For some fucking stupid reason I can't return it for any cash. I tossed it into donations but I wanted to pick a fight. I know the people working there aren't responsible for the ass-backwards policies, but I want to stab them in the face every semester I have to deal with this utter bullshit. She wouldn't even clearly explain why, she sort of mumbled vaguely about 'last copies' and all I got from it was $5 for another book. I still have my rental textbook to return, too, but I doubt I'm getting much for this either. Fuckers.
! I'm really on edge because if my grades keep declining my scholarship could be revoked. I happened to see it on an info page for grades. although I already knew since the minimum is 3.5, and my grades are currently below that. I very much doubt my grades this semester will bump it back to where it was. Even with that buffer it's still a fuckton of money for tuition. I think the reason why my scholarship hasn't yet been revoked is because my GPA slipped below the minimum requirement in fall semester, and the scholarship is a yearly one, just divided in half for each semester. So I'm thinking that if my final GPA for this year is still below 3.5 they could very well do so. And I'm annoyed that they suddenly requested I fill out shit due Monday, even though it's right in the middle of fucking finals week and nobody got time for that shit. I'm currently signed for another single room but my parents might force me to change it. I hate them both because telling me I'm a failure and talking like it's a sure thing has not and never will help me. Might work on some people but I already think I'm worthless, and being told that is not going to motivate me. They don't fucking get it. And it seems apparent they only loved me and positively encouraged me when I was doing well. but when I'm not a golden student anymore, it's all insults. nothing but insults. all I am now and ever can be is a failure. obviously.
! I got rejected from my first job interview, and I'm planning to keep looking once I'm done with finals, but my dad is full of nothing but contradictions. The current overlap of 'get all As' and 'maintain a 3.5' is probably a circle, but he told me from the start that it had to be the latter, and now the asshole is changing his story and having the audacity to tell me he never said the latter. I DON'T FUCKING FORGET THIS SORT OF BULLSHIT. I MAY BE MORE FORGETFUL ABOUT IMPORTANT DATES/DUE DATES/ETC. THAN I USED TO BE, BUT I SURE AS FUCK DON'T FORGET SHIT LIKE THIS. I have a better memory than I let on, and that's why I hold grudges for a very, very long time. because I never forget slights, and I KNOW what he said, and it pisses me off to constantly be living in a world where everyone around me tells me, 'no it was this way' when I KNOW that is wrong. all these stupid people insisting on falsity almost as if for no other reason than to try and make me look like a fool pisses me off and always fills me with a paranoid doubt in myself that I just don't need. if it's all some sort of conspiracy to make me doubt reality then it sure as hell worked. And he also mentioned something along the lines of 'if you got a job, then that's another possibility of letting you stay in a more expensive room' but now he's pretending he never said that either. Sure a job AND good grades are the ideal, but being lied to makes me want to murder someone. The same fucker who thinks I'm going to forget being screamed at within half an hour is going to tell ME I'm remembering wrong?? Maybe my parents never understood me all these years. just…. now it's more apparent. -
Sheesh, that's rough marimo.
Asian families tend to be really stubborn and have unnaturally ridiculous standards set for their children. It's been a pretty consistent pattern I've observed with my friends. In fact, recently, maybe a couple of months back… Chris, who's one of my closest friends, finally broke down in front of me for the first time in our five-six year friendship.
I've never seen him cry before but that day... he just broke down. He felt unloved by his family, that he'd never live up to their expectations and that they've never see anything in him. And to be honest, I grew up in a kind of similar way only instead of having unnaturally high expectations and accompanying disappointment, my mom just straight didn't value my existence. I was just there, a pawn for her to use to affect my other family members.
So... I know what it's like to feel worthless. It's horrible, and I still haven't overcome those feelings, though I've gotten better. If only parents knew the damage this does to kids, maybe it could be prevented. Now my friend and I are stuck with something that'll probably take us years to overcome.
Only advice I can give is, take charge of your own existence. This life is yours and no one else's. Follow the path you want to follow and demand the respect that you deserve. It could be hard… unbearably hard, but it's the best recommendation I can give.
You deserve more.
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I feel that the ones like my parents have been in that were founded in early 1900s are more about community and volunteering to help less fortunate. They weren't really party houses.
There are of course ones like this, but in my personal experience (limited to a small handful of schools) they are the extreme minority. Having any type of oversight or standards is already practically a miracle. Sometimes even being community-oriented doesn't stop some of them from being rowdy or from having the general "frat boy" mentality. Especially ones with various chapters around the country. I can't speak for sororities because I was never exposed much to them and I never really experienced any of those stereotypical "sorority girls" who are incredibly superficial, vain, etc. Either way I know I am generalizing, but it is in accordance with my experience.
! I despise my college SO MUCH. this place is run by assholes whose goal is to squeeze every last penny they possibly can out of students. I had to buy one of those damn 'custom editions' made exclusively for this university, and it was over $80. For some fucking stupid reason I can't return it for any cash. I tossed it into donations but I wanted to pick a fight. I know the people working there aren't responsible for the ass-backwards policies, but I want to stab them in the face every semester I have to deal with this utter bullshit. She wouldn't even clearly explain why, she sort of mumbled vaguely about 'last copies' and all I got from it was $5 for another book. I still have my rental textbook to return, too, but I doubt I'm getting much for this either. Fuckers.
! I'm really on edge because if my grades keep declining my scholarship could be revoked. I happened to see it on an info page for grades. although I already knew since the minimum is 3.5, and my grades are currently below that. I very much doubt my grades this semester will bump it back to where it was. Even with that buffer it's still a fuckton of money for tuition. I think the reason why my scholarship hasn't yet been revoked is because my GPA slipped below the minimum requirement in fall semester, and the scholarship is a yearly one, just divided in half for each semester. So I'm thinking that if my final GPA for this year is still below 3.5 they could very well do so. And I'm annoyed that they suddenly requested I fill out shit due Monday, even though it's right in the middle of fucking finals week and nobody got time for that shit. I'm currently signed for another single room but my parents might force me to change it. I hate them both because telling me I'm a failure and talking like it's a sure thing has not and never will help me. Might work on some people but I already think I'm worthless, and being told that is not going to motivate me. They don't fucking get it. And it seems apparent they only loved me and positively encouraged me when I was doing well. but when I'm not a golden student anymore, it's all insults. nothing but insults. all I am now and ever can be is a failure. obviously.
! I got rejected from my first job interview, and I'm planning to keep looking once I'm done with finals, but my dad is full of nothing but contradictions. The current overlap of 'get all As' and 'maintain a 3.5' is probably a circle, but he told me from the start that it had to be the latter, and now the asshole is changing his story and having the audacity to tell me he never said the latter. I DON'T FUCKING FORGET THIS SORT OF BULLSHIT. I MAY BE MORE FORGETFUL ABOUT IMPORTANT DATES/DUE DATES/ETC. THAN I USED TO BE, BUT I SURE AS FUCK DON'T FORGET SHIT LIKE THIS. I have a better memory than I let on, and that's why I hold grudges for a very, very long time. because I never forget slights, and I KNOW what he said, and it pisses me off to constantly be living in a world where everyone around me tells me, 'no it was this way' when I KNOW that is wrong. all these stupid people insisting on falsity almost as if for no other reason than to try and make me look like a fool pisses me off and always fills me with a paranoid doubt in myself that I just don't need. if it's all some sort of conspiracy to make me doubt reality then it sure as hell worked. And he also mentioned something along the lines of 'if you got a job, then that's another possibility of letting you stay in a more expensive room' but now he's pretending he never said that either. Sure a job AND good grades are the ideal, but being lied to makes me want to murder someone. The same fucker who thinks I'm going to forget being screamed at within half an hour is going to tell ME I'm remembering wrong?? Maybe my parents never understood me all these years. just…. now it's more apparent.Education is actually hugely profitable and they know it, and especially rip you off on textbooks and such. A friend recently showed me this article where the U.S. government actually makes more profit from student loans than any company in the entire country makes. But try to make the most of it! It must feel crappy to be held to unreasonable standards (even 3.5 is really damn good, depending on the school), but if you're doing your best then be proud of what you accomplish and don't let other people bring you down.
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I miss my step-sister…
#confession-session
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Hahahha she broke up with me. Today we were about to turn 1 month together and yesterday afterschool (my last day of school after my last advanced placement exam) i was all happy that i was finally free and i could spend time with her even tho i had my concerns i shared here previously which smudge and others helped me through i can now see that i had them for a reason. She tells me i need to talk with u and so we go and she starts telling me "we get along superwell and we're super friends" i just think to myself wtf we're boyfriend girlfriend not fcking super friends and i even reacted like wtf then she tells me im going to leave to riverside (its only like 3 hours from here anyway) im going to graduate i wont be here long distance relationships never work she kept saying never she was scared but she also told me she doesnt like me like she used to and she doesnt want to have a boyfriend right now. Just a bunch of fucking excuses she thinks im stupid enough to fall for
Yesterday was our free day pool party for seniors we all got drunk everyone supported me sober and not sober that i dont deserve her she was stupid i talked to her sister about it because i get along well with her she was surprised and even decended me too calling out her sister for being selfish immature "whore" who doesnt know how to appreciate what she has because the guy i mentioned a while back the one who went to her house at 12 am and stayed there until like 2 or 3 i had a right to be jealous and her sister told me applogizing that it looked like they were more than just friends .. What a fucking whore. First she does something similar to a good friend 2 years ago and now she does this to me.. Wtf is wrong with her.
Well at least its better now than later because she would keep treating me like dirt abusing me making up excuses and not wanting to spend time with me. I deserve much better than someone who cant appreciate me or consider me and only thinks of herself and of her feelings not mine. Itll take time to get over as i drank yesterday (not necessaril for my sorrows i was planning on getting drunk anyway) i started to forget her but once i was so fucked up the shit hit me much harder. I was already leaving so no one saw me but i was about to cry. Itll take time but this is for the better. Im done
from what you said in the other posts, I was kind of leaning towards her being this selfish/childish person. To be honest mate I know it's a shit situation, but I'm sure you had some good experiences to take away with you, and even more have happiness knowing you weren't together for six months+ before coming to this realisation. It's not easy, but getting over it will be a damn sight easier.
On the plus side you are now single….and I'm guessing have options. Get a few more notches in your bed post, before trying to get anyone on the level enough for a serious relationship.
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On the plus side you are now single….and I'm guessing have options. Get a few more notches in your bed post, before trying to get anyone on the level enough for a serious relationship.
Lol did you actually just type this? He's depressed about a breakup and your advice is to just sleep around? Even under normal circumstances I don't think a majority of people are looking for this (or condone it, but I guess that's neither here nor there).
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Lol did you actually just type this? He's depressed about a breakup and your advice is to just sleep around? Even under normal circumstances I don't think a majority of people are looking for this (or condone it, but I guess that's neither here nor there).
whenever I've broken up with someone, I just nuke them from my mind completely, and tend to move on a lot quicker through sex.
But no im not just saying that it's a miracle cure. what he's feeling is something that won't go away through soft words or actions. It takes time, and to be honest you can go one of three routes; move on straight away, get caught in a spiral of depression or sit in limbo. He needs to be positive, think of the good that came from the experience, and leave the bad behind.
And by leave the bad behind….I mean move on. And yes that means leaving open the option of still being able to hook up with women. If that was me though I would probably just have fun with it and not immediately jump back into some mode looking for a serious relationship.
I guess I'm saying to put himself out their and get some options, even if he doesn't take any of them. The worst part about any break up is the knock to confidence and self esteem. Even if he gets over her, he still needs both of these if he wants a good chance at moving on.
Side note: I didn't mean it to come off as saying that sleeping around was the cure to a broken heart. My first love when I was a young lad split with me when I moved away. We both kind of agreed to it, but she spoke the words first, and that really cut deep. I remained single for about 6 months before having a wild drunken night that ending with me waking up in someone else's bed. The next day I felt like the stuff I had been carrying on my shoulders was gone, and my head and heart healed.
Maybe that makes me very superficial?
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Man my sympathies marimo, that's a tough spot to be in.
I really abhor grades and all the pretentious people that adhere to them. Now I get why they are used and why many other systems are not feasible mostly due cost, but there is just so much fakeness, way to much other influences that do not have anything to do with your own ability that goes into them.
Also they very much distract from what the mission of students should be.This is a thing I had to learn myself and I often think I learned it to late. I also was one of the people that thought life would be set for me(and a big reason for that are my parents always preaching it to me) if I would just get good grades, and I was pretty good at that, but that is neither here nor there. The thing is I finished school with good results and was standing there with a skill set so small and more importantly so irrelevant for what I've wanted to do(Which I also discovered way to late due general education being mostly a huge time waste).
What counts at the end is skill, not one's grade or any kind of other paper qualifications. If you have the ability you will be fine maybe not at your dream position but fine regardless. I'm currently going through all the hoops of university myself doing the whole list to get that paper at the end that makes me "qualified" for a job, but the truth is that is all pretty meaningless for me, it rather feels like I'm just an animal performing circus tricks. That's the reason why I dedicate a lot of the rest of my time to raising the skills I really need by doing the stuff I really want.
That said this comes from a person that is very much more on the creative side of life and is doing a degree just to satisfy all the naggers in his family, so there is that.
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The way I see it, sleeping around to cure yourself from a break up is such a horrible idea. You aren't moving on from it, you're just damaging the self-esteem of both parties when its obvious it's just a distraction and not an act of love, and it promotes the idea for guys that getting over a relationship is as simple as sexing some other woman (not to mention, who cares about that other woman! She's just there for you to have sex with, right?)
A relationship ending is a true kick in the balls, and if any lesson should be learnt from it is how much better you could do in the future and what to look for/avoid in future pursuits of happiness. Sleeping around afterwards just further shows you still don't quite get the point of being in a relationship or interacting with the opposite sex. And yes, it's been the case for a lot of people, but it's just like encouraging people to start up smoking to overcome the difficulties of alcohol withdrawal, simply because when younger you went through the same.
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Smudge is like the awesome yet creepy Uncle of AP…never change man~
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The way I see it, sleeping around to cure yourself from a break up is such a horrible idea. You aren't moving on from it, you're just damaging the self-esteem of both parties
how ?
when its obvious it's just a distraction and not an act of love, and it promotes the idea for guys that getting over a relationship is as simple as sexing some other woman
no it doesn't. Self esteem is only effected by negative results. Sleeping with someone after you break up isn't going to make you feel worse about your relationship.
And what's love got to do, got to do with it~
(not to mention, who cares about that other woman! She's just there for you to have sex with, right?)
some people don't mind sex just being sex. As long as this is made pretty clear. But hey, you might really enjoy the night and make something more out of it. Again I've seen this hundreds of times.
A relationship ending is a true kick in the balls, and if any lesson should be learnt from it is how much better you could do in the future and what to look for/avoid in future pursuits of happiness.
then you have the other major aspect of it; compatibility in the bedroom.
Sleeping around afterwards just further shows you still don't quite get the point of being in a relationship or interacting with the opposite sex.
the point of a relationship is to find happiness. (and from natures point of view, reproduce)
Having sex with one or one hundred women doesn't change that. It's also not unhealthy to at least put yourself out there to see if you get any bites. Doesn't mean you have to act on an opportunity. Just knowing you have options available to you when you are ready for another go at love can help boost self esteem and confidence…..two of the biggest assets needed to get back on track.
And yes, it's been the case for a lot of people, but it's just like encouraging people to start up smoking to overcome the difficulties of alcohol withdrawal, simply because when younger you went through the same.
its not anywhere close to your analogy.
You can have sex with as many people as you want, and that doesn't mean it's for any other purpose than pleasure. It can however help after breaking up with someone. If that wasn't the case we wouldn't have a world filled with rebound guys (girls). Lol
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I can't help but want to chime in and offer some insight on the fraternity and sorority bit.
A little background info: I hate parties with a passion. The ones with awful modern music that plays way too loud, terrible smells, and stupid things happening in general. In short, anything like the movie Project X. I know some people like that stuff and I don't mind that. It's just not my preference of fun. And I joined a fraternity 3 years ago, mainly because it turned out to be nothing like the one you see in Animal House and actually had good intent: It was philanthropy based. We coordinate with the local Boys & Girls Club and periodically host fundraising events to support B&G.
Years later I've come to realize my campus's greek community is one of the most respected ones in the country, as in it's not a party-centric one (if anyone cares and wants to google/research or whatever: Iowa State University). And I don't say that to brag or sound like I'm putting myself on a pedestal, I say that because I was surprised how ignorant I was in terms of greek life across the country. I hadn't even known what greek life was at all until I went to college (I joined because a good friend of mine did, and I assumed it was just some 4 year club), and hadn't even seen the movie Animal House until 2 years ago.
I thought they all were well-respected and nice.
There are of course ones like this, but in my personal experience (limited to a small handful of schools) they are the extreme minority. Having any type of oversight or standards is already practically a miracle. Sometimes even being community-oriented doesn't stop some of them from being rowdy or from having the general "frat boy" mentality. Especially ones with various chapters around the country. I can't speak for sororities because I was never exposed much to them and I never really experienced any of those stereotypical "sorority girls" who are incredibly superficial, vain, etc. Either way I know I am generalizing, but it is in accordance with my experience.
I think it definitely varies on what house you belong to on how they conduct themselves. I feel that the ones like my parents have been in that were founded in early 1900s are more about community and volunteering to help less fortunate. They weren't really party houses.
This pretty much sums it up. I mainly wanted to come here and state that there are decent and respectable fraternities/sororities, it's just hard to really find them, and I'm thankful to have ended up in a good community and to not be part of that dumb frat boy mentality. In fact, we don't even allow alcohol on our fraternity's grounds, and we definitely don't haze, even though I know for a fact other chapters haze under the radar.
And it's unfortunate that a lot of the bad things that happen in fraternities cover up the good things that do, and the negative views and connotations that are commonly associated with greek life are what inhibit me from proclaiming to be a greek in the first place. I always feel like I'm judged before the person even knows me, and I know it's something that I shouldn't worry about since I have plenty of friends and family members that love me and don't judge, but
it bothers me greatly.
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I'm sorry, but I'm still convinced sleeping around isn't the cure you're talking about.
Perhaps some people like to convince themselves that endless strings of sex are actually the foundations of a solid lifestyle, but it's a short-term distraction and at the end of the day the only lasting happiness comes from companionship and intimacy, not just passion.^ those being the point of interhuman relationships, and those being what bring happiness. Sex is as much happiness as injecting yourself with drugs. Literally. And the self-esteem that comes from it is self-esteem based on how other perceive you and treat you, not self-esteem from inner satisfaction.
Sure, in the end it's an individual choice what to pursue. But acting like after an emotionally charging experience the best cure is sex really is selling the human experience short.
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Man my sympathies marimo, that's a tough spot to be in.
I really abhor grades and all the pretentious people that adhere to them. Now I get why they are used and why many other systems are not feasible mostly due cost, but there is just so much fakeness, way to much other influences that do not have anything to do with your own ability that goes into them.
Also they very much distract from what the mission of students should be.This is a thing I had to learn myself and I often think I learned it to late. I also was one of the people that thought life would be set for me(and a big reason for that are my parents always preaching it to me) if I would just get good grades, and I was pretty good at that, but that is neither here nor there. The thing is I finished school with good results and was standing there with a skill set so small and more importantly so irrelevant for what I've wanted to do(Which I also discovered way to late due general education being mostly a huge time waste).
What counts at the end is skill, not one's grade or any kind of other paper qualifications. If you have the ability you will be fine maybe not at your dream position but fine regardless. I'm currently going through all the hoops of university myself doing the whole list to get that paper at the end that makes me "qualified" for a job, but the truth is that is all pretty meaningless for me, it rather feels like I'm just an animal performing circus tricks. That's the reason why I dedicate a lot of the rest of my time to raising the skills I really need by doing the stuff I really want.
That said this comes from a person that is very much more on the creative side of life and is doing a degree just to satisfy all the naggers in his family, so there is that.
I actually think I posted something rather similar to this recently (though not as elaborate). You don't come out of school knowledgeable and ready to do awesome work. A diploma is hardly more than an institution vouching for you that you are vaguely competent at paying attention and absorbing information. You can obviously learn valuable skills depending on the course, especially if you have hands-on stuff and labs, but it's not much to show for 4 years of dedication. That hands-down absolutely most important thing is to find the things that inspire you, motivate you, pique your curiosity – and pursue them. Don't do the minimum required or you are just cheating yourself. Go to professor office hours and ask about stuff you're interested in. It might not always translate to the best grades, but you will be incredibly better off for it.
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To be honest, the one reason I stay in this forum is not One Piece. I still like it and read it religiously but talking about it with people here is mostly angering.
At this point I mostly focus on the gaming threads and this one, which is where I'm always bound to see familiar faces having conversations that elsewhere would get lost under piles of useless, boring posts. There's a level of maturity and quirkiness no other website I've been to has offered.
Im like this. I LOVE One Piece to fucking death. But I just cant get into the manga and people hate the anime so talking to them is a no go.
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Weird. it's like ya'll never had rebound sex
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@wolfwoof:
Weird. it's like ya'll never had rebound sex
I have never had rebound sex, because I have never been in a real relationship, but I know that having casual sex can distract you from all of the bullshit.
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Ok Im gonna say it loud and clear….
AHEM...
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! ​SEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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Suddenly i realize once again why i shouldnt take the confession thread seriously…ever...Tumblr: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/pomeranianhero
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Im 23 years old. And I only did it because you I thought guys going through all this depressing shit needed a laugh.
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Im 23 years old. And I only did it because you I thought guys going through all this depressing shit needed a laugh.
And how in any way was that suppose to be amusing? It is as amusing as a pair of kids screaming "penis" on a bus.
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You are the same person that was saying members here were "so cool and mature" for talking about sex and alcohol earlier in the thread, right? Yeah. I really needed that laugh.
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I dont know if that was sarcarstic, but Im going to say you are welcome.
Also. Im sorry if I showed disrespect for you guys, you are awesome. I just wanted to get a chuckle out of you so you could be a bit more happy.
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I'm never really sarcastic. I'm really laughing irl.
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It certainly didn't make me _un_happy. I had no idea what could have been in the spoiler, it could have been anything. But it was a guy named RollingStone yelling sex at me. I found this amusing as a guy naming himself after an oldies band would normally be like "MMM YES I'M SOPHISTICATED MUSIC IS DEAD MMM YES SIPS FINE WINE". But this RollingStone just seems to have more of a playful nature. At least in my experience Oh God please don't start a shitstorm.
I did have to consciously decide whether I would laugh at it after staring at it for like 5 seconds. I decided yes, uttered a few giggles, then went on my way.
