no Kenny, we're talking about how to ask someone out.
Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD
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Oh…
Well, whether in a joking context or not, I asked someone out five minutes ago. Apparently, all you have to do is wait for the right situation. In this situation she said, "I want to marry a chef!" to which I responded, "I am a chef" and from there, the seed had been planted and the deed had been done.
Now, if she ever finds herself in Louisiana, far away from her home in Illinois, she'll be in my company for the duration of exactly two purchases of coffee and their following consumption and/or one session of my cooking and ITS following consumption.
Followed by coitus.
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no Kenny, we're talking about how to ask someone out.
I really don't know how to do this at all. Because I start thinking about "what if" this and "what if" that, until I'm so nervous that I don't even want to ask them anymore. :/
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Learn to cook.
It removes all doubts.~
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@Uncle:
Learn to cook.
It removes all doubts.~
Literally everyone in Louisiana can cook, this a very unfair standard to hold the rest of us to!
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@Uncle:
I haven't been keeping up, just seen Hiroy's little quote and your reaction to it but I'm guessing the context is "what defines knowledge?" and felt like tossing my two cents in.
Actually I started with discussing the notions of self-love, self-hatred and undermined the sentiment of uncritical self-acceptance in general while being in favor of arduous self-improvement. The definition of knowledge was relevant in the criticism of my view. I don't think I ever posted any analysis on asking someone out.
As for your definition of knowledge, it has many similarities with the views of postmodernism, perspectivism, contextualism and relativism. As much as I would like to discuss this interesting topic with a gentleman and scholar like you further, this isn't the thread for it. It is a huge perennial philosophical question that would be beyond the scope of this thread if we are to discuss in-depth. Hopefully we can have a separate thread for it at some point. -
@Monkey:
Literally everyone in Louisiana can cook, this a very unfair standard to hold the rest of us to!
I'll teach you how to cook and I'll teach you ancient Greek recipes to cook too~ Don't worry that you are unable to make anything edible right now. :ninja: I'll even give you reward stars for every successful try and every ten stars you get an amazing…. prize~
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I really don't know how to do this at all. Because I start thinking about "what if" this and "what if" that, until I'm so nervous that I don't even want to ask them anymore. :/
I will tell you that for a person like me that can't hide her feelings, this was the worst thing ever. xD I mean, I could read the situation and know I would get rejected, but I still confessed when I had feelings for someone (no matter the 'size' of those feelings) no matter the… repercussions (mostly the embarrassment lol) that came with the expecting rejection. Even Zeph said no at first, because of the distance, but I completely won him over with my absolute charm and soon had him asking me to try it out~ :D
Which really made it obvious to everyone around me, that I really would've been unhappy with any random Greek Cypriot (even the ones I liked before) because of the different mentality I carry in relation to the people around here. Zeph is, as my family said when they met him, my perfect other half. So perfect that they joked he was a male version of me xD
Anyways. I think you should just turn your full charm on and chat-up and flirt with people you think would be good for you. At some point, you will feel SO comfortable with them (and them with you) that asking them out (or them you!!) would be much easier.
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I lost interest in that thing quickly.
I can never fathom why something can go from simple to deeply and pointlessly convoluted.
Can things be simple and to the point?@Uncle:
Learn to cook.
It removes all doubts.~
See? This is the kinda advice everyone should be giving!
Speaking of, I'm learning how to cook.
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So I'm gonna go spend an entire week with my not-quite-girlfriend and maybe take up the courage to finally say how I truly feel and maybe see where we'll go from there. She basically put me on cloud nine when she invited me to Albuquerque with her for a couple days. Which would entail a motel. And possibly sharing a room.
So I do get the vibe that she DOES feel the same way still (I know she did… at one point), but I still can't shake the feeling that what if we're gonna go down converging paths. And what if I don't change and don't let her in like I want to? And what if. And WHAT IF what if. AND THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT CRYSTALSHIP. WHAT IF SHE LOVES CRYSTALSHIP MORE THAN I DO!? dies
But I wanna try, dammit! ;A;
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Everyone loves Crystalship more than Kitsune, that is just fact.
but no seriously, just take a breather and take the plunge Kits, it's the only way to move forward. I know it can be a bit nerve wracking but always remember you are an awesome guy and deserve to be happy~
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This a great chance for you, Kitsune. So take it and have no second thoughts. Clear any doubts there might be between you.
Everyone loves Crystalship more than Kitsune, that is just fact.
It's not even funny how true this is.
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Yea I concur with you guys, go for it KI. I've never mustered up my courage when I'm interested in someone, despite my friends ribbing me on. It's kinda sad tbh.
Good to see that some of you peps got your groove going. Anyway here's my own confession.! I've never been particularly smart or anything; all along I've been more of the sit-down-and-do kind of guy. It didn't come across as too much of a shock when I realised I wasn't doing very well in overall grades, like….a GPA of below 3? And my problem really boils down to being unfocused many times and getting distracted at everything. It's becoming a really big issue for me and I'm just worried and dejected. It's like I know that there's a problem and I need to deal with it, but there's always the thought that my peers are mostly ahead of me and it's late.
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Legumes I can 100% relate to you mate I am 100% unfocued all the time/procrasinate heaps. I guess it goes hand in hand with smoking weed though so thats my own fault. The thign that you have to do and what I'm doing after 4 years of fuckign around at uni is to just remember to not fuck around and actually commit to doing it. Hard work pays off in life so just study hard it'll pay off in the end.
@Kitsune. Go for it mate. Nothing wrong about trying. Better to get rejected then not to try mate. And plus girls love someone with confidence so just commit. I have fucked up many of chances by not being confident enough to ask a girl for a number/date/etc.
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AND THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT CRYSTALSHIP. WHAT IF SHE LOVES CRYSTALSHIP MORE THAN I DO!? dies
Everyone loves Crystalship more than Kitsune, that is just fact.
It's not even funny how true this is.
Wait, do you mean that everyone loves me more than they love Kitsune, or that everyone loves me more than Kitsune loves me?
Either way, :wassat:
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@winnyshreds:
@Kitsune. Go for it mate. Nothing wrong about trying. Better to get rejected then not to try mate. And plus girls love someone with confidence so just commit.
Yes, yes, yes, and yes.
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I confess that I miss the Coronation Day series.
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I've worked for eight years and I've never filed my state taxes. I problem I'm seeking to remedy now.
For the first few years it didn't even occur to me to file them (which is just as well since after doing the math I'm 99% sure I would've gotten a refund and Virginia doesn't require you to file them if you're expected a refund), and then when it finally did occur to me I tried filling out the form, but it was fairly complicated and ultimately it looked like I only had to pay something like $3, and it was the same for the next year or two. So yeah, just utter laziness on my part.
And the kinda weird thing is the state has never contacted me about it. At any rate, I'm gonna contact the tax department on Monday. I hope they'll be lenient on me.
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I've worked for eight years and I've never filed my state taxes. I problem I'm seeking to remedy now.
For the first few years it didn't even occur to me to file them (which is just as well since after doing the math I'm 99% sure I would've gotten a refund and Virginia doesn't require you to file them if you're expected a refund), and then when it finally did occur to me I tried filling out the form, but it was fairly complicated and ultimately it looked like I only had to pay something like $3, and it was the same for the next year or two. So yeah, just utter laziness on my part.
And the kinda weird thing is the state has never contacted me about it. At any rate, I'm gonna contact the tax department on Monday. I hope they'll be lenient on me.
Ahahaha. LUCKY YOU. I'm a taxman! Although for maryland specifically, I can guarantee that it won't be a problem. The better question is have you looked to see if your income is below the minimum filing requirement? Even if you owe, if you're below that pretty number it doesn't matter. Even if they tell you to own up to it, it's far too little to even humor interest and penality (10% vs 1.5%) so like…50 cents maximum. Most likely they'll ask you to file so we just have record of it. Unfortunately any refunds you're entitled too normally falls under a 3-5 year statutory limit which means they won't honor the refund after that time has passed. Now whether or not virginia makes you pay a fine for not filing your taxes, I'm not entirely sure. I work occasionally with virginia and havent heard such a complaint as of yet. I hear about NY doing it all the time.
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Ahahaha. LUCKY YOU. I'm a taxman! Although for maryland specifically, I can guarantee that it won't be a problem.
Yeah, I'm not too concerned about it. I guess they only really go after you if you're trying to commit tax fraud or something. But thank you for your reassurance.
The better question is have you looked to see if your income is below the minimum filing requirement? Even if you owe, if you're below that pretty number it doesn't matter.
Well, yeah, I have been above the threshold since 2008, but I haven't really owed anything substantial until this year ($50).
Even if they tell you to own up to it, it's far too little to even humor interest and penality (10% vs 1.5%) so like…50 cents maximum. Most likely they'll ask you to file so we just have record of it.
Oh yeah, I made a lot more money last year and I'm definitely filing this time around.
Unfortunately any refunds you're entitled too normally falls under a 3-5 year statutory limit which means they won't honor the refund after that time has passed. Now whether or not virginia makes you pay a fine for not filing your taxes, I'm not entirely sure. I work occasionally with virginia and havent heard such a complaint as of yet. I hear about NY doing it all the time.
I don't mind paying a fine, as long as it's nothing steep. After looking at the website, it looks like they could charge 100% of the correct tax if they consider it a civil penalty or $2500 if it's a criminal penalty (I should certainly hope I wouldn't be subjected to the latter).
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Good luck, Nobody. Depending on how much you were making, that's some serious business. But, like taxman said, if it's low enough to where you're under that minimum, that's another story.
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Also I have to confess I am sort of opposed to the whole "shared property" during marriage concept, applying even to things like say lottery winnings, in case of divorce.
I just don't see any reason for the ex-spouse to be legaly entitled to half of the lottery winnings someone else made with their own ticket, payed for with their own money, using numbers they themselves came up with.
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Like for example
http://www.my719moms.com/news/man-wins-lottery-just-before-he-signs-the-divorce-papers-oops/
So you don't live with one another, and you don't even have the same surname ,while living completely seperate lives and intending your marriage to be disolgived, the very notion that you have not signed the divorce papers yet gives yout he undeniable right for half of his winnings, with no other basis ?
Yeah, this is the kind of shit I'm talking about. This is leaching off of someone else's success that you had no part in because of technicalities, and it's just sickening.
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@No:
Also I have to confess I am sort of opposed to the whole "shared property" during marriage concept, applying even to things like say lottery winnings, in case of divorce.
I just don't see any reason for the ex-spouse to be legaly entitled to half of the lottery winnings someone else made with their own ticket, payed for with their own money, using numbers they themselves came up with.
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Like for example
http://www.my719moms.com/news/man-wins-lottery-just-before-he-signs-the-divorce-papers-oops/
So you don't live with one another, and you don't even have the same surname ,while living completely seperate lives and intending your marriage to be disolgived, the very notion that you have not signed the divorce papers yet gives yout he undeniable right for half of his winnings, with no other basis ?
Yeah, this is the kind of shit I'm talking about. This is leaching off of someone else's success that you had no part in because of technicalities, and it's just sickening.
im with you on this. Though its different if children are involved…
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im with you on this. Though its different if children are involved…
Thing is, child support is alright with me. But the problem is the women probably got half the money and the dude has to pay exorbitantly high child support, so realy she's getting way more then half even.
I always thought that, unless the other person has no basic security as a possible result of the marriage, everything gained by each person in said marriage individualy with no involvement or contribution by their other should remain theirs.
And that's not getting into cases like where this guy won the lottery, but before he lost his house and most of his savings in divorce proceedings begun when he found out his wife was cheating on him.
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I don't think I should comment on this too much, merely because I'm biased and have bitterness towards this topic from seeing two divorces.
At the end of the day the money should be split fairly, with great consideration taken towards a couple with kids involved. And yes it's really hard to find an answer that both parties are happy with.
The hardest part is trying to make it acceptable to both parties in most cases that going out and working, and staying home and being a parent are both hard jobs that deserve equal credit. That issue alone really does drive the wedge when it comes to arguing who put what into the equation as some of it cannot be measured figuratively.
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Poor Smudger. Seeing two divorces.Im like you, I have lost faith in marriage…
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I still have faith in marriage, surprisingly considering what I've gone through and witnessed from friends and peers. Divorce is just hell for children. Not that they'll always grow up to have shitty lives, a lot of them don't necessarily, but still.
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I don't get why marriage can't just be a signal that you and your partner feel a bond beyond the realms of normal couple hood. The legal side to it does nothing but burden and hinder it, even remove a portion of romance that it should have.
Why not make marriage and the legal aspects of it two separate entities.
For me I'd like something unofficial but greater than your typical everyday marriage. My aunt the other day got married on some remote islands with a special event made up on the spot by the locals, overlooking the sea as the sun went down, surrounded by torches and more local food and music for all. The pictures look out of this world, and seems to make it more about the two people than paperwork and involvement from the state.
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Ever had one of those moments where you start talking to a girl, and suddenly one of her guy friends acts bitterly friendly towards you?
How does anyone deal with that? I can't just tell the guy to go screw off and confess… as much as I seriously want to.
But serious question here. How?I'm really paranoid whenever I get the chance to meet a new friend's group of friends.
Combined with the experience I described above, it gets kinda overwhelming.
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Well, yeah, I have been above the threshold since 2008, but I haven't really owed anything substantial until this year ($50).
h virginia is a 10/2 rate, so if you file it by May 1st, if I'm reading correctly, there won't be P/i. Other than that for something like 2008, they might but if you're talking <$20 they most likely won't care.
I don't mind paying a fine, as long as it's nothing steep. After looking at the website, it looks like they could charge 100% of the correct tax if they consider it a civil penalty or $2500 if it's a criminal penalty
That kind of fine is if you get by an NF case, which is a non-filer case. You would know because they would send you a letter with just the AGI you reported on your federal taxes and just tell you what the tax is without your exemptions. (It would be essentially, depending on the Virginia state/local tax, probably be close to 8% of whatever your total AGI is), THEN ignore it for 60 business days AND owe a substantial amount which may think you are trying to avoid paying it, is when such a fine is pressed in.
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[hide]Mum got annoyed at me for swearing one too many times (despite her doing it) so I snapped and went 'Well sometimes I don't like the things YOU say all the time = A =' referring to her blatant homophobia, and then she went 'Well if you don't like it you know what to do - live somewhere else.'
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zachri you think thats bad. I've been kicked out of home AT LEAST 5 times. mate the last time i got kicked out of home was last year 2 weeks before my uni exams and man i fucking broke down and i usually never ever cry. And doesn't sound like she wants to kick you out anyway. Imagine a situation where your parents gave you no option but to get the fuck out of home. yeah that sucks bro. My asian parents once kicked me out cause i had earrings and wouldn't take them out. Lol. Zachri u should try imagine living with my parents and being me haha its fucking horrible
@Hiroy if you don't worry about getting judged and act normally and your a nice person and they are nice people, theres no need to be worried about meeting a new group of people. I personally find it fun as meeting new people. Just gotta be sociable and nice/funny/witty.
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[hide]Sounds like you and your mother have some bumps in your relationship. She didn't sound 100% serious upon her threat, but it seems she's not the type to watch what she says or even change it.
Hopefully later the two of you can talk openly and honestly when things have cooled down.[/hide]
@winnyshreds:
My asian parents once kicked me out cause i had earrings and wouldn't take them out.
It's horrible that your parents kick you out so much…..but wait, the earring thing is some kind of cultural stigma?
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It's horrible that your parents kick you out so much…..but wait, the earring thing is some kind of cultural stigma?
Yeah it is, well with Vietnamese parents I think anyway, something to do with gangsters or something. Just looked down upon, similar to tattoos in Japan. Zachri the best thing you can do is to not do what she told you to do and apologise, cause after all shes your mother. Man I'm still learning how to be nice to my parents its really hard to do especially when your relationship with your parents is fucked.. I haven't spoken to my parents sweet f*k all lately and I live at home with them. I feel bad but our relationship has just deteroriated so much I don't know what to do.. And plus I don't want to live out of home for a year again like I did in the past when I'm going to uni.
Best thing zachri apologise and be nice. If your mother is anything like my parents arguing and shouting at them creates nothing but more drama and conflict. My conflict has reached a point where I can't even speak to my parents now without feeling awkward… you do not want to be in that situation
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Ever had one of those moments where you start talking to a girl, and suddenly one of her guy friends acts bitterly friendly towards you?
How does anyone deal with that? I can't just tell the guy to go screw off and confess… as much as I seriously want to.
But serious question here. How?I'm really paranoid whenever I get the chance to meet a new friend's group of friends.
Combined with the experience I described above, it gets kinda overwhelming.
And I would feel like a total asshole if I can't be bothered to be around them.You have more heart than me.
I would have squashed that shit on the first offense. Something along the lines of, "Am I aggravating you? No? Then are you aggravated about something else?" Figure out what's going on and if it's revealed the aggravation is because of me, "Well then, you're pissing me off. Either let me know what your problem is so we can resolve this sensibly or get the fuck over it."
I have enough problems on my plate as it is without having to deal with someone else's petty bullshit. And from what I've read in the confession thread, I'm pretty sure you have enough problems too.
Try to resolve it in a mature manner at first and if he doesn't put in the effort to resolve it maturely, tell him to fuck off. You don't owe him anything. Now, if your friend wants you two to get along, that's different.
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Im so lucky my mom and dad just REFUSE to awknowledge Im gay to Kick me out of the house…
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Im so lucky my mom and dad just REFUSE to awknowledge Im gay to Kick me out of the house…
try coming on to your father, that might work lol.
But on a serious note don't do that.
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Sigh. I hate coming to this thread, but sometimes you just need to vent.
! All I want is to get through college and run my little marathon. Those are my immediate plans. Is that so goddamn much? It seems like every single DAY now, for the past 6 months, a wrench is thrown into my simple plans. The entire problem is my parents' extremely messy, extremely aftershock-emitting divorce. Compounded with my grandma's long drawn out awful death, to the financial problems that has caused (along with the easily 10's of thousands of dollars of debt my mom must be in), it's just a little much to deal with. And I always hear it all. Every last detail of it. My parents never keep me out of their divorce drama and always drop it like an anchor on me. Maybe I could handle it if it was 10 minute conversations… But I'll just want to work out or something. Then I'll get a call. It'll last for 2 hours about my dad telling horror stories about my mom that I've already heard 1000 times, how he despises her, all of that... and I repeatedly tell him he needs to get her off his mind, which is what his therapist has been saying as well. But he never does... I assertively tell him he needs to eliminate her from his life completely, including in conversation unless something of IMMEDIATE concern is about her (her trying to file a restraining order or something, which she was actually trying to do for a while, would have cost my dad his job and the future of his career in his line of jobs). All I need to know about is the immediate issue at hand which needs attention. I do not need you to tell me these stories about her from your past, that I've already heard, like they're some badge of honor. I know you've got no one to talk about it with, except the therapist... but it's weighing me down a lot.
! I've so badly wanted away from all of it that I poured out what I was feeling to my friend and he's offering me to live with him for a bit. There's a lot of pluses to it. It's in a different city, away from all of this (except I would still get drawn-out phone calls... ugh...), the college there is 1/2 the tuition and still offers a lot. The thing that's holding me back is I'm not sure if I could get student loans because I've dropped classes (and work a full-time job while going to college -- I just don't know if I have the discipline to do that). I could either endure here for 2 more years and hope this all settles down (it has really shown no signs of doing so, except that my dad has FINALLY ceased contact with my mom, which should assuage the situation), or move out and work full-time, barely scraping by. The latter isn't even sounding too bad. Just one year of this (when they got divorced) has been a hell of a lot to handle. -
Man,poor Demonic Poodle. I feel you man.
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@Uncle:
You have more heart than me.
I would have squashed that shit on the first offense. Something along the lines of, "Am I aggravating you? No? Then are you aggravated about something else?" Figure out what's going on and if it's revealed the aggravation is because of me, "Well then, you're pissing me off. Either let me know what your problem is so we can resolve this sensibly or get the fuck over it."
I have enough problems on my plate as it is without having to deal with someone else's petty bullshit. And from what I've read in the confession thread, I'm pretty sure you have enough problems too.
Try to resolve it in a mature manner at first and if he doesn't put in the effort to resolve it maturely, tell him to fuck off. You don't owe him anything. Now, if your friend wants you two to get along, that's different.
That's inspirational Ken-dude.
Yeah, you are absolutely right. I lack the patience when it comes dealing other's issues. At times I feel like I have no right to step my bounds when it comes to interacting with an already established group of groupies, especially since I'm clearly in it for one person. I wish I can say, "Dude/girl, your friends are total assholes.", or just deal with the ones that bug me individually if given the moment. You've got more power than me there, but I'll take your advice into consideration.
@winnyshreds:
@Hiroy if you don't worry about getting judged and act normally and your a nice person and they are nice people, theres no need to be worried about meeting a new group of people. I personally find it fun as meeting new people. Just gotta be sociable and nice/funny/witty.
I like meeting new people. Especially if the group is really chill. I just get nervous if they are mostly possessive or passive aggressive.
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Man,poor Demonic Poodle. I feel you man.
In the past few days it's really quite improved. When I posted the above message, it really cleared out my head and let me fix some of the worst things about the situation. I've got lots of alternate living situations available in a few months. Now mainly what I've gotta worry about is passing this math class… I want my GPA to stay above a 3.0 and steadily head toward a 4.0, as close as it can get.
Things are really looking up!
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Yay! Im glad for you!
Im having a great day so far!
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That's inspirational Ken-dude. Yeah, you are absolutely right. I lack the patience when it comes dealing other's issues. At times I feel like I have no right to step my bounds when it comes to interacting with an already established group of groupies, especially since I'm clearly in it for one person. I wish I can say, "Dude/girl, your friends are total assholes.", or just deal with the ones that bug me individually if given the moment. You've got more power than me there, but I'll take your advice into consideration.
Me or your friends type ultimatums usually end with you being the one dropped
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Just got off the phone with the tax department. They said to just go ahead and fill out the tax returns for the years I'm missing, mail them to them and then they'll bill me for whatever penalties and interest I've accrued.
Sounds pretty sweet all things considered.
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@wolfwoof:
Me or your friends type ultimatums usually end with you being the one dropped
I understand my friends and they understand me. And they understand their other groups of friends. If I don't meld well with another group of their friends, I'm going to be upfront and honest about it, albeit in a mature fashion. And if any individual in that group happens to be senselessly antagonizing me for no reason, I'm going to call them out on it. And if my friendship with the person introducing me to that group is so weak that they can't see things from my perspective even though I'm the one being antagonized and trying to be sensible, that's a weak friendship.
And if it's some new friend that introduced me to a group of their friends and these are the kind of people they want to surround themselves with, I'd like to distance myself from that.
Befriending the whole world is great and all, but it doesn't work. However, I digress, this is the way I do things. I understand that how I choose to interact with people isn't for everyone and by all means do not wish to push my mentality on to others regarding the subject, but if I'm going to give someone the benefit of the doubt and surrender a basic level of respect, I expect to receive the same in return.
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[hide]Mum got annoyed at me for swearing one too many times (despite her doing it) so I snapped and went 'Well sometimes I don't like the things YOU say all the time = A =' referring to her blatant homophobia, and then she went 'Well if you don't like it you know what to do - live somewhere else.'
I'm just. Torn between crying and punching something.[/hide]I can't say for sure since I didn't hear her tone, but most parent's snarky responses to griping about their bad habits is "Move out, then." My mom does it all the time, sometimes she's really nasty about it, but she never was going to do anything. My mom gripes about my swearing (which I hardly do in front of her, anyway) but she's swore up and down in front of me forever @_@ But if I gripe about it, she just turns the complaint back on me about something stupid.
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