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Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD
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They can also grow pretty damned big.
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Turtles are known for their combat skills, expertise with multiple weapons, and love of Italian Renaissance artists. Tortoises are known for their determination and never give up attitudes to win foot races.
Pretty clear difference to me.
Everything's Eventual…
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Turtles are known for their combat skills, expertise with multiple weapons, and love of Italian Renaissance artists. Tortoises are known for their determination and never give up attitudes to win foot races.
Pretty clear difference to me.
Turtle Power! Cowabunga!
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Turtles are known for their combat skills, expertise with multiple weapons, and love of Italian Renaissance artists. Tortoises are known for their determination and never give up attitudes to win foot races.
Pretty clear difference to me.
you've forgotten about pizzas.
Cowabunga indeed
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Turtwig is a tortoise, Squirtle is a turtle.
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I thought they were both turtles
For those interested:
! I'm in a particularly awful situation. Right after I had spent time contemplating how I was willing to go all into my relationship and making the most of it, my girlfriend came back from a trip to visit a friend and pretty much dumps me. Well, to be fair, she arrived all strange and aloof, and it wasn't until I confronted her that she pretty much said she didn't know what to do, that she wanted freedom, etc. At first she was trying to say that no, she did care about me, she just wanted space, but then whenever I'd try to hold her hand or anything she was just … didn't want me to touch her. It became obvious that that was it, so I told her that it seemed we were breaking up, and she didn't oppose to it.
! And I don't know how to feel. I'm strangely calm in the sense that I knew not to struggle, but at the same time it pisses me off that upon feeling she needed to do more in life, her immediate conclusion was that she needed to cut me off, even though I've for months suggested new things to do and trips and other such things. I feel tremendously betrayed, like she kept saying she did love me but didn't look back when she had the chance to move on without me. Whenever I had moments of worry or doubts that I had interest in others, I always doubled back and thought to myself that nothing was as important as her, and then she had one moment in which she enjoyed partying with other people and immediately, without looking back, she concluded that she wanted out. After years of being with someone, it's a bit harsh that she was able to cleanly end things like that. But then I guess that just means she didn't love me, and I deserve someone who actually does feel love for me.
! My worry though, now comes from the fact that the future bodes ill. Truth be told, she was my only friend. The only person I had to talk to, and interact with, and get along with. I don't get along with people at work, my college friends all went separate places and never talk to me … I have pretty much no one right now, and there's no prospect of being able to interact with anyone else for months, if not years. And I'm terrified because right now I'm still ok, but considering how emotionally draining my work is and how exhausted I already am previous to this ... I don't know how I'll survive. I know it'll be ok in the end, and I'll meet someone eventually, etc etc. ... but in these months of recovering, I need people, and there's just no one. I'm terrified. -
I thought they were both turtles
For those interested:
! I'm in a particularly awful situation. Right after I had spent time contemplating how I was willing to go all into my relationship and making the most of it, my girlfriend came back from a trip to visit a friend and pretty much dumps me. Well, to be fair, she arrived all strange and aloof, and it wasn't until I confronted her that she pretty much said she didn't know what to do, that she wanted freedom, etc. At first she was trying to say that no, she did care about me, she just wanted space, but then whenever I'd try to hold her hand or anything she was just … didn't want me to touch her. It became obvious that that was it, so I told her that it seemed we were breaking up, and she didn't oppose to it.
! And I don't know how to feel. I'm strangely calm in the sense that I knew not to struggle, but at the same time it pisses me off that upon feeling she needed to do more in life, her immediate conclusion was that she needed to cut me off, even though I've for months suggested new things to do and trips and other such things. I feel tremendously betrayed, like she kept saying she did love me but didn't look back when she had the chance to move on without me. Whenever I had moments of worry or doubts that I had interest in others, I always doubled back and thought to myself that nothing was as important as her, and then she had one moment in which she enjoyed partying with other people and immediately, without looking back, she concluded that she wanted out. After years of being with someone, it's a bit harsh that she was able to cleanly end things like that. But then I guess that just means she didn't love me, and I deserve someone who actually does feel love for me.
! My worry though, now comes from the fact that the future bodes ill. Truth be told, she was my only friend. The only person I had to talk to, and interact with, and get along with. I don't get along with people at work, my college friends all went separate places and never talk to me … I have pretty much no one right now, and there's no prospect of being able to interact with anyone else for months, if not years. And I'm terrified because right now I'm still ok, but considering how emotionally draining my work is and how exhausted I already am previous to this ... I don't know how I'll survive. I know it'll be ok in the end, and I'll meet someone eventually, etc etc. ... but in these months of recovering, I need people, and there's just no one. I'm terrified.You fool.
I'm your friend.
Whatever you need i'm here. I know i can't be there in person but i appreciate you Noquanky. Don't think for a moment that you don't have friends. I consider you a friend.
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I think Prismeru pretty much speaks for a lot of us. Don't know what to add to that post!
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I thought they were both turtles
For those interested:
! I'm in a particularly awful situation. Right after I had spent time contemplating how I was willing to go all into my relationship and making the most of it, my girlfriend came back from a trip to visit a friend and pretty much dumps me. Well, to be fair, she arrived all strange and aloof, and it wasn't until I confronted her that she pretty much said she didn't know what to do, that she wanted freedom, etc. At first she was trying to say that no, she did care about me, she just wanted space, but then whenever I'd try to hold her hand or anything she was just … didn't want me to touch her. It became obvious that that was it, so I told her that it seemed we were breaking up, and she didn't oppose to it.
! And I don't know how to feel. I'm strangely calm in the sense that I knew not to struggle, but at the same time it pisses me off that upon feeling she needed to do more in life, her immediate conclusion was that she needed to cut me off, even though I've for months suggested new things to do and trips and other such things. I feel tremendously betrayed, like she kept saying she did love me but didn't look back when she had the chance to move on without me. Whenever I had moments of worry or doubts that I had interest in others, I always doubled back and thought to myself that nothing was as important as her, and then she had one moment in which she enjoyed partying with other people and immediately, without looking back, she concluded that she wanted out. After years of being with someone, it's a bit harsh that she was able to cleanly end things like that. But then I guess that just means she didn't love me, and I deserve someone who actually does feel love for me.
! My worry though, now comes from the fact that the future bodes ill. Truth be told, she was my only friend. The only person I had to talk to, and interact with, and get along with. I don't get along with people at work, my college friends all went separate places and never talk to me … I have pretty much no one right now, and there's no prospect of being able to interact with anyone else for months, if not years. And I'm terrified because right now I'm still ok, but considering how emotionally draining my work is and how exhausted I already am previous to this ... I don't know how I'll survive. I know it'll be ok in the end, and I'll meet someone eventually, etc etc. ... but in these months of recovering, I need people, and there's just no one. I'm terrified.Well, if I am to be frank, I would say that many of us, myself include, have been in that situation, but of course that does not detract from the fact that this scenario will hurt nevertheless.
For me, I would say that when my girlfriend decided to explore and do more things in life, I was not pleased by any means by it. I think if anything, when thrust into that sort of scenario, we lament not only that the person has essentially decided to leave us but that they never really took us into consideration in spite of our suggestions for things to explore and things to try out. Quite simply, it stings. To have someone you devoted a lot of energy to simply pack their bags and walk without looking back is bitter after all that emotional investment. However, you are correct. For someone like you who I imagine devotes a lot of energy to the people around you, you need someone who complements that sort of aspect by also being able to back you up.
As for your worries about the future, it may seem daunting at the moment, all things considered. But if I may make a suggestion, do not be afraid to be adventurous. Even if the people around you are few in number that you deem "good", as long as you find those people of quality, they are the ones who definitely will catch you when you fall. Perhaps with this period of being single, you can instead invest some of your time to find a local community that shares hobbies or interests with you. Maybe volunteer at something you want to help out at. Go find a cafe where they do poetry slams, maybe gaming nights for things like local smash bros or pokemon gigs. You now have the freedom to explore, so you may as well take to it and really meet the next few characters in this chapter of your life.
In the end, this is a moment and time to reflect upon yourself and think about who you are as a person without anyone around you to really understand the type of person who fits you. Regardless of how you were treated at the end of it or during the relationship, it is up to you to really dig deep and find someone even more on the same wavelength as you, and you are most certainly more than capable of doing so. It is wonderful that the relationship lasted for years, and you can be certain that the person you really click with will be even better.
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! For whatever reason, I got this annoying anxiety clawing away at me.
! I don't get why. I'm not behind on my schoolwork (yet), my living situation is good, and I almost never have social problems.
! And it's not my normal anxiety that just makes me wanna wreck shit. It's just sitting around festering like a motherfucker all like "u wanna get rid of me? haha no". =<= -
You fool.
I'm your friend.
Whatever you need i'm here. I know i can't be there in person but i appreciate you Noquanky. Don't think for a moment that you don't have friends. I consider you a friend.
I think Prismeru pretty much speaks for a lot of us. Don't know what to add to that post!
@Purple:
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I appreciate it you guys. And I definitely wish AP was more than a website and I could actually genuinely gather with you people and have fantastic times.
And yes, I'll see what I can do about finding things around here. The difficulty in there is my job itself taking so much time … but heck, I guess at least now I have a proper excuse to go full into work and see what comes from there. Or maybe move to a new city after the school year ends. Who knows.@Cruithne: I've had those pangs in the past, that unease, and it just may be something your body is doing out of habit, even if there's nothing to be anxious about. Best I can suggest is do as many things as possible to kick it in the butt. Usually what helps me is playing Smash Bros. and tearing CPUs to shit. Idk what could work for you.
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We love you Noqanky!
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And yes, I'll see what I can do about finding things around here. The difficulty in there is my job itself taking so much time … but heck, I guess at least now I have a proper excuse to go full into work and see what comes from there. Or maybe move to a new city after the school year ends. Who knows.
Yeah life and work are hard to balance, but unless you're really pushing yourself to the limit by doing just work, eating, sleeping, and going to the bathroom, you've gotta have some time set solely to yourself, else you'll go mad. If it is even an hour a week, see what you can do with it.
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I thought they were both turtles
For those interested:
! I'm in a particularly awful situation. Right after I had spent time contemplating how I was willing to go all into my relationship and making the most of it, my girlfriend came back from a trip to visit a friend and pretty much dumps me. Well, to be fair, she arrived all strange and aloof, and it wasn't until I confronted her that she pretty much said she didn't know what to do, that she wanted freedom, etc. At first she was trying to say that no, she did care about me, she just wanted space, but then whenever I'd try to hold her hand or anything she was just … didn't want me to touch her. It became obvious that that was it, so I told her that it seemed we were breaking up, and she didn't oppose to it.
! And I don't know how to feel. I'm strangely calm in the sense that I knew not to struggle, but at the same time it pisses me off that upon feeling she needed to do more in life, her immediate conclusion was that she needed to cut me off, even though I've for months suggested new things to do and trips and other such things. I feel tremendously betrayed, like she kept saying she did love me but didn't look back when she had the chance to move on without me. Whenever I had moments of worry or doubts that I had interest in others, I always doubled back and thought to myself that nothing was as important as her, and then she had one moment in which she enjoyed partying with other people and immediately, without looking back, she concluded that she wanted out. After years of being with someone, it's a bit harsh that she was able to cleanly end things like that. But then I guess that just means she didn't love me, and I deserve someone who actually does feel love for me.
! My worry though, now comes from the fact that the future bodes ill. Truth be told, she was my only friend. The only person I had to talk to, and interact with, and get along with. I don't get along with people at work, my college friends all went separate places and never talk to me … I have pretty much no one right now, and there's no prospect of being able to interact with anyone else for months, if not years. And I'm terrified because right now I'm still ok, but considering how emotionally draining my work is and how exhausted I already am previous to this ... I don't know how I'll survive. I know it'll be ok in the end, and I'll meet someone eventually, etc etc. ... but in these months of recovering, I need people, and there's just no one. I'm terrified.I think I understand you.
Since I moved to Texas, it's been kinda hard for me. I find myself lacking in socialization for no reason, even when people come to me and try to be friendly I will just slowly push them away, is like I don't trust anyone. At work I'm friendly with almost anyone but once we step outside work it's like I don't even know them anymore.
I've thinking to myself what's the cause of this? Then I remember that I had a break up days before I left my original state and moved to TX, because of the pain it caused me, I started believing people are just liars and stuff, they say something else but their thinking something else. I have friends though but I just don't feel or see them as friends but as people I will hang out with.
Internet is one of the few things that's putting a smile in my face right now but work and college is trying to take that away.
Anyways, I hope things get better for you, and just like Oda wrote in one piece "No one was born to be alone". But let me suggest one thing, you need to have a day or two were you say "this my day, I don't have to worry about school nor work, this the day for me to fool around and have fun".
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I thought they were both turtles
For those interested:
! I'm in a particularly awful situation. Right after I had spent time contemplating how I was willing to go all into my relationship and making the most of it, my girlfriend came back from a trip to visit a friend and pretty much dumps me. Well, to be fair, she arrived all strange and aloof, and it wasn't until I confronted her that she pretty much said she didn't know what to do, that she wanted freedom, etc. At first she was trying to say that no, she did care about me, she just wanted space, but then whenever I'd try to hold her hand or anything she was just … didn't want me to touch her. It became obvious that that was it, so I told her that it seemed we were breaking up, and she didn't oppose to it.
! And I don't know how to feel. I'm strangely calm in the sense that I knew not to struggle, but at the same time it pisses me off that upon feeling she needed to do more in life, her immediate conclusion was that she needed to cut me off, even though I've for months suggested new things to do and trips and other such things. I feel tremendously betrayed, like she kept saying she did love me but didn't look back when she had the chance to move on without me. Whenever I had moments of worry or doubts that I had interest in others, I always doubled back and thought to myself that nothing was as important as her, and then she had one moment in which she enjoyed partying with other people and immediately, without looking back, she concluded that she wanted out. After years of being with someone, it's a bit harsh that she was able to cleanly end things like that. But then I guess that just means she didn't love me, and I deserve someone who actually does feel love for me.
! My worry though, now comes from the fact that the future bodes ill. Truth be told, she was my only friend. The only person I had to talk to, and interact with, and get along with. I don't get along with people at work, my college friends all went separate places and never talk to me … I have pretty much no one right now, and there's no prospect of being able to interact with anyone else for months, if not years. And I'm terrified because right now I'm still ok, but considering how emotionally draining my work is and how exhausted I already am previous to this ... I don't know how I'll survive. I know it'll be ok in the end, and I'll meet someone eventually, etc etc. ... but in these months of recovering, I need people, and there's just no one. I'm terrified.i promise you someone better will come along :) you just have to keep an eye out
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I don't normally post here, but I could use some advice.
! I have this close friend and as of late I have been both concerned as well as very annoyed with her. For many months, my friend, who I'll call Youko (her favorite character from YYH) has been suffering from emotional issues as well as jealousy of me and our friends. She's the head captain of our reenactment group we're in. Last year, Youko was dumped by her ex-girlfriend and it was a pretty ugly break-up. She didn't take it very well, suffered from traumatic anorexia and severe depression. On top of all that, she even lost one of her cats named Pixie because she got into something toxic that her ex carelessly left behind after she moved out of the apartment. As a result, Pixie had to be put to sleep and I think this is what really triggered her anger. Although this shit happened nearly a year ago, I feel Youko has become very bitter considering the fact that whenever someone brings up something going on in their current relationships, she gets very annoyed and sarcastic. She is extremely jealous of me, our mutual friends as well as several others considering that a lot of us are in romantic relationships and due to the fact that she's still single.
! Any chance someone brings up something new happening with their boyfriend or girlfriend, she takes it as a personal attack and will go off on them. In fact one time back in July, she went APE SHIT on me when I mentioned having a song playing at my wedding someday. What happened is we were working in her parents' basement, she had music her playing and the song "Can You Feel the Love Tonight" from Lion King came on. I told her that I wanted to play that when my boyfriend and I get married, but then she threw a HUGE bitch fit to everybody, saying that I "insulted her relationship-wise." Maybe I should have been a bit more considerate of her feelings since she was still grieving over the break-up at the time, but the way she overreacted was uncalled for. She kept apologizing yet still kept making excuses for her behavior, blaming it on her PTSD as well as other personal issues she has. Because of the drama, I nearly left the reenactment group. As a result, it spoiled the song because it now reminds me of that day when we became a little more distant. Now 8 months later, she's still resentful towards love relationships, yet claims to be happy for me and our friends. I get mixed feelings about that statement. Don't get me wrong, besides this she's a very good person and she has been helpful with my success, but I don't know what I should do or how to deal with somebody with serious insecurity issues. I suppose praising her a bit would help, but I'm afraid she would think I'm bullshitting. I'm trying to save this friendship, but yet, I'm worried that her inner anger and bitterness will consume her. Plus, I don't know how much of her moodiness I can take since I have my own personal life drama to deal with.
! In all honesty, I don't have a whole lot of close friends which is why I'm trying so hard to keep this going. But at the same time, her emotional baggage has been annoying me. I have been patient with her for the longest time, trying to understand her, but it's really wearing thin with all her occasional pity parties. I don't know if I'm just an impatient person or that there's a side of Youko that I'm starting to notice. I feel it is stupid to be walking on eggshells, being told what to say and what not to say around her. About a month ago, she finally addressed that issue but I don't know if she was at all sincere about it. For example, I notice she still scoffs when I tell her about staying a my boyfriend's house for a weekend while still attending her sewing circles and group practices. Sorry if I seem to be flip-flopping on how I feel about her, but I'm really confused right now. I don't know where else to turn to, because I worry people will tell me to just quit the reenactment group if she's really bugging me that much. The thing is, I can't quit, even if I wanted to (unless there's a life-or-death situation, which I doubt there will be). I have too many obligations and quitting will just cripple the group since I am one of the best and quickest workers there, plus it will greatly damage my friendship with Youko. I am really hoping that all this emotional bullshit will end soon and she will grow up so that she can feel more like a real friend to me. I'm putting off a lot of things and make a lot of sacrifices for her and the rest of the group and I really don't want it to be in vain, because it almost seems to happen whenever I go out of my way for somebody.
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Perhaps it may be best not to quit but to take a breather and a break from the reenactment group. Don't quit right now, but it may be better just to let her sort things out and for you to get away from there to help her appreciate your presence in her life. It may help give you some perspective as well. It may be tough on the group but hopefully they can manage for a period of time on your, let's say, retreat.
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@Aoi:
I don't normally post here, but I could use some advice.
! I have this close friend and as of late I have been both concerned as well as very annoyed with her. For many months, my friend, who I'll call Youko (her favorite character from YYH) has been suffering from emotional issues as well as jealousy of me and our friends. She's the head captain of our reenactment group we're in. Last year, Youko was dumped by her ex-girlfriend and it was a pretty ugly break-up. She didn't take it very well, suffered from traumatic anorexia and severe depression. On top of all that, she even lost one of her cats named Pixie because she got into something toxic that her ex carelessly left behind after she moved out of the apartment. As a result, Pixie had to be put to sleep and I think this is what really triggered her anger. Although this shit happened nearly a year ago, I feel Youko has become very bitter considering the fact that whenever someone brings up something going on in their current relationships, she gets very annoyed and sarcastic. She is extremely jealous of me, our mutual friends as well as several others considering that a lot of us are in romantic relationships and due to the fact that she's still single.
! Any chance someone brings up something new happening with their boyfriend or girlfriend, she takes it as a personal attack and will go off on them. In fact one time back in July, she went APE SHIT on me when I mentioned having a song playing at my wedding someday. What happened is we were working in her parents' basement, she had music her playing and the song "Can You Feel the Love Tonight" from Lion King came on. I told her that I wanted to play that when my boyfriend and I get married, but then she threw a HUGE bitch fit to everybody, saying that I "insulted her relationship-wise." Maybe I should have been a bit more considerate of her feelings since she was still grieving over the break-up at the time, but the way she overreacted was uncalled for. She kept apologizing yet still kept making excuses for her behavior, blaming it on her PTSD as well as other personal issues she has. Because of the drama, I nearly left the reenactment group. As a result, it spoiled the song because it now reminds me of that day when we became a little more distant. Now 8 months later, she's still resentful towards love relationships, yet claims to be happy for me and our friends. I get mixed feelings about that statement. Don't get me wrong, besides this she's a very good person and she has been helpful with my success, but I don't know what I should do or how to deal with somebody with serious insecurity issues. I suppose praising her a bit would help, but I'm afraid she would think I'm bullshitting. I'm trying to save this friendship, but yet, I'm worried that her inner anger and bitterness will consume her. Plus, I don't know how much of her moodiness I can take since I have my own personal life drama to deal with.
! In all honesty, I don't have a whole lot of close friends which is why I'm trying so hard to keep this going. But at the same time, her emotional baggage has been annoying me. I have been patient with her for the longest time, trying to understand her, but it's really wearing thin with all her occasional pity parties. I don't know if I'm just an impatient person or that there's a side of Youko that I'm starting to notice. I feel it is stupid to be walking on eggshells, being told what to say and what not to say around her. About a month ago, she finally addressed that issue but I don't know if she was at all sincere about it. For example, I notice she still scoffs when I tell her about staying a my boyfriend's house for a weekend while still attending her sewing circles and group practices. Sorry if I seem to be flip-flopping on how I feel about her, but I'm really confused right now. I don't know where else to turn to, because I worry people will tell me to just quit the reenactment group if she's really bugging me that much. The thing is, I can't quit, even if I wanted to (unless there's a life-or-death situation, which I doubt there will be). I have too many obligations and quitting will just cripple the group since I am one of the best and quickest workers there, plus it will greatly damage my friendship with Youko. I am really hoping that all this emotional bullshit will end soon and she will grow up so that she can feel more like a real friend to me. I'm putting off a lot of things and make a lot of sacrifices for her and the rest of the group and I really don't want it to be in vain, because it almost seems to happen whenever I go out of my way for somebody.
! Sorry if this looks messy, I'm doing this at nearly 1 in the morning.Trying to guess here but i think your friend is making a cry for help. Maybe, Maybe, she really needs you right now but for some reason she can't say it directly. Why don't you try directly asking her? Sometimes people, it has happened, to me feel hurt because we really need someone to help us and we feel it's transparent and got offended when they don't tell it right away but we don't realize we are not asking for help as we should.
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@Aoi:
I don't normally post here, but I could use some advice.
! I have this close friend and as of late I have been both concerned as well as very annoyed with her. For many months, my friend, who I'll call Youko (her favorite character from YYH) has been suffering from emotional issues as well as jealousy of me and our friends. She's the head captain of our reenactment group we're in. Last year, Youko was dumped by her ex-girlfriend and it was a pretty ugly break-up. She didn't take it very well, suffered from traumatic anorexia and severe depression. On top of all that, she even lost one of her cats named Pixie because she got into something toxic that her ex carelessly left behind after she moved out of the apartment. As a result, Pixie had to be put to sleep and I think this is what really triggered her anger. Although this shit happened nearly a year ago, I feel Youko has become very bitter considering the fact that whenever someone brings up something going on in their current relationships, she gets very annoyed and sarcastic. She is extremely jealous of me, our mutual friends as well as several others considering that a lot of us are in romantic relationships and due to the fact that she's still single.
! Any chance someone brings up something new happening with their boyfriend or girlfriend, she takes it as a personal attack and will go off on them. In fact one time back in July, she went APE SHIT on me when I mentioned having a song playing at my wedding someday. What happened is we were working in her parents' basement, she had music her playing and the song "Can You Feel the Love Tonight" from Lion King came on. I told her that I wanted to play that when my boyfriend and I get married, but then she threw a HUGE bitch fit to everybody, saying that I "insulted her relationship-wise." Maybe I should have been a bit more considerate of her feelings since she was still grieving over the break-up at the time, but the way she overreacted was uncalled for. She kept apologizing yet still kept making excuses for her behavior, blaming it on her PTSD as well as other personal issues she has. Because of the drama, I nearly left the reenactment group. As a result, it spoiled the song because it now reminds me of that day when we became a little more distant. Now 8 months later, she's still resentful towards love relationships, yet claims to be happy for me and our friends. I get mixed feelings about that statement. Don't get me wrong, besides this she's a very good person and she has been helpful with my success, but I don't know what I should do or how to deal with somebody with serious insecurity issues. I suppose praising her a bit would help, but I'm afraid she would think I'm bullshitting. I'm trying to save this friendship, but yet, I'm worried that her inner anger and bitterness will consume her. Plus, I don't know how much of her moodiness I can take since I have my own personal life drama to deal with.
! In all honesty, I don't have a whole lot of close friends which is why I'm trying so hard to keep this going. But at the same time, her emotional baggage has been annoying me. I have been patient with her for the longest time, trying to understand her, but it's really wearing thin with all her occasional pity parties. I don't know if I'm just an impatient person or that there's a side of Youko that I'm starting to notice. I feel it is stupid to be walking on eggshells, being told what to say and what not to say around her. About a month ago, she finally addressed that issue but I don't know if she was at all sincere about it. For example, I notice she still scoffs when I tell her about staying a my boyfriend's house for a weekend while still attending her sewing circles and group practices. Sorry if I seem to be flip-flopping on how I feel about her, but I'm really confused right now. I don't know where else to turn to, because I worry people will tell me to just quit the reenactment group if she's really bugging me that much. The thing is, I can't quit, even if I wanted to (unless there's a life-or-death situation, which I doubt there will be). I have too many obligations and quitting will just cripple the group since I am one of the best and quickest workers there, plus it will greatly damage my friendship with Youko. I am really hoping that all this emotional bullshit will end soon and she will grow up so that she can feel more like a real friend to me. I'm putting off a lot of things and make a lot of sacrifices for her and the rest of the group and I really don't want it to be in vain, because it almost seems to happen whenever I go out of my way for somebody.
! Sorry if this looks messy, I'm doing this at nearly 1 in the morning.Kind of to echo what other people were saying, but I feel like it's getting to a point in which walking around her feelings and doing this whole dance and sacrifices thing is just not work it. Maybe it'd be good, at the least for you, to call her out and express your issues. At the least, do so because you're concerned as a friend that her attitude is just pushing people away, including you.
At that point, if she listens then at least you can realize that she's still a friend and maybe she'll chance. And if she doesn't then it makes it clear that things won't change and will give you a better perspective on whether you need to move on from the friendship and even from the group if necessary.Personally, I'm just worried about how all her issues are seeping into your life and affecting it. If there's poison in her heart there's nothing good about dealing with that and having it sicken you too, it's not fair. It's time for you to think of yourself and your own emotional health here.
edit: also, to all the other people that replied to me (Oath, Taboo, Dark Ritual), I didn't ignore your posts and I definitely appreciate them. And yea, Dark hit it directly on the spot. I'm in Houston and meeting people here is tough, everything is so separate.
And taboo, to be frank, I know I can find new people in the future, no problem, but I'm still giving it some time. I still have love for her and until that's gone I'll try and leave the window open. I just won't fight it if she does nothing to take advantage of that. -
Kind of to echo what other people were saying, but I feel like it's getting to a point in which walking around her feelings and doing this whole dance and sacrifices thing is just not work it. Maybe it'd be good, at the least for you, to call her out and express your issues. At the least, do so because you're concerned as a friend that her attitude is just pushing people away, including you.
At that point, if she listens then at least you can realize that she's still a friend and maybe she'll chance. And if she doesn't then it makes it clear that things won't change and will give you a better perspective on whether you need to move on from the friendship and even from the group if necessary.Personally, I'm just worried about how all her issues are seeping into your life and affecting it. If there's poison in her heart there's nothing good about dealing with that and having it sicken you too, it's not fair. It's time for you to think of yourself and your own emotional health here.
edit: also, to all the other people that replied to me (Oath, Taboo, Dark Ritual), I didn't ignore your posts and I definitely appreciate them. And yea, Dark hit it directly on the spot. I'm in Houston and meeting people here is tough, everything is so separate.
And taboo, to be frank, I know I can find new people in the future, no problem, but I'm still giving it some time. I still have love for her and until that's gone I'll try and leave the window open. I just won't fight it if she does nothing to take advantage of that.oh man, say no more. You're talking to a fellow houstonite here
You can keep a window open if you want but … Idk. It might be easier to move on really. If you wanna meet someone in H-town, it's useful to know what you want in a girl. Houston has some great conventions (comicpalooza) and I know there's a bunch of places you could volunteer or take a course in something. :)
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Thanks Purple Hermit, Prismeru and Noqanky for the support. I'm sorry if my thoughts on the friend situation were harsh, but it's been going on for quite a while as stated before. It looks like talking to my friend is my best option, even though I'm deathly afraid of confrontations. Perhaps it'll be a good way to test out our friendship to see if it's really worth keeping or not and to see if things change like Noqanky mentioned. As long as I choose my words carefully, it should be fine.
I don't want to take too much time off from the reenactment group since we're finishing up outfits for our first event coming up next month. Although, I was thinking of taking two weeks off in June when my boyfriend and his family go down to Disney World for their vacation. Even though that will be three months from now, it's pretty much my best bet at this time. Can't ditch the group temporary when our work is getting down to the wire. But again, thank you guys.
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edit: also, to all the other people that replied to me (Oath, Taboo, Dark Ritual), I didn't ignore your posts and I definitely appreciate them. And yea, Dark hit it directly on the spot. I'm in Houston and meeting people here is tough, everything is so separate.
And taboo, to be frank, I know I can find new people in the future, no problem, but I'm still giving it some time. I still have love for her and until that's gone I'll try and leave the window open. I just won't fight it if she does nothing to take advantage of that.Noq you are a doll and a dear, and we love having you on this board more than anything. It's times like this I wish New England and Texas weren't so far away from each other so I could tell you in person, but for now just let my pony-Hawke avatar assure you.
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I have an irrational dislike for Ariana Grande. I barely even know who she is, but I don't like her for reasons I don't even know.
I accept Jesus Burgess as my Lord and Savior
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I wish I had a place where I could light incense sticks on campus, but they don't allow them in the dorm rooms. It'd definitely trip the fire alarms. I feel like I should have done something more to remember this past day. I wish I could say something to my mom too, but I don't want to remind her of painful things. I suppose in a way it's a good thing I have a midterm to worry about, so I didn't have as much time to dwell on it. I guess it's not so much a confession, but I think part of me is afraid that if I ever forget 3/11/11, it would be… thoughtless or something. I felt weird to only silently acknowledge something. Nobody else has talked about it, and I really didn't expect anyone to, on campus or otherwise. It's kind of weird how this singular event on some level changed me. I didn't used to think too much about praying, though I remember when I was in Japan as a kid lighting incense sticks and making prayers at a house that no longer exists.
I suppose while I'm on this subject, I was very happy to see Yuzuru Hanyu's victory at the Olympics. I didn't know his story at first, but when I found out, I felt very happy.
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Im super afraid for my brother. He's coming home after working in the USA and the missing plane makes me fearful about planes. Im worried to the point of tears.
Also, Noqanky you are awesome. I know Im not a very popular person but I've seen you around here, and I think you are a great person.
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I wish I had a place where I could light incense sticks on campus, but they don't allow them in the dorm rooms. It'd definitely trip the fire alarms. I feel like I should have done something more to remember this past day. I wish I could say something to my mom too, but I don't want to remind her of painful things. I suppose in a way it's a good thing I have a midterm to worry about, so I didn't have as much time to dwell on it. I guess it's not so much a confession, but I think part of me is afraid that if I ever forget 3/11/11, it would be… thoughtless or something. I felt weird to only silently acknowledge something. Nobody else has talked about it, and I really didn't expect anyone to, on campus or otherwise. It's kind of weird how this singular event on some level changed me. I didn't used to think too much about praying, though I remember when I was in Japan as a kid lighting incense sticks and making prayers at a house that no longer exists.
I suppose while I'm on this subject, I was very happy to see Yuzuru Hanyu's victory at the Olympics. I didn't know his story at first, but when I found out, I felt very happy.
I was thinking about that earlier! People forget surprisingly quickly unless things affect them directly. Like I was telling some students about it and they just were completely lost on what I was talking about.
I was also surprised earlier when I realized the date and realized it actually was THAT long ago. And this very same date is also stained in my memory as the day of the bombing of Madrid trains in … 2003? 2004? Lord, time flies.Also, Satsuki and Oath, I really appreciate the sentiments. It's been helpful coming here and seeing so many spurts of support. It doesn't go unnoticed :)
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I was too embarrassed to show my unfinished comic in class so I gave a crap excuse and ran away during the break
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So the other 289 hated it? .___.
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Nothing is working. Nobody likes my page or my posts. No comments, no shares, no anything.
It just feels hopeless. Nobody is interested in my stupid hobby which should just stay a hobby. I'm not selling anything, not on fb or dawanda. How do other people do this?
Why do I always fail with everything I start?
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Dawwww sie ist sehr suss :)
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So the other 289 hated it? .___.
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Nothing is working. Nobody likes my page or my posts. No comments, no shares, no anything.
It just feels hopeless. Nobody is interested in my stupid hobby which should just stay a hobby. I'm not selling anything, not on fb or dawanda. How do other people do this?
Why do I always fail with everything I start?Hang on in there, Nami. You haven't failed yet. Far from it.
A few suggestions that popped up in my head randomly. Did you spread word of your page through word of mouth? Tell your friends (IRL, and not on Facebook!) and ask them to tell their friends. It does not take much to 'like' a page, or a picture for that matter, so this shouldn't be too much of an obligation. Be a little shameless with marketing yourself. And keep at it! Don't let doubt overwhelm you. Popularity follows a snowball effect; once some people start appreciating your work, more of them latch on.
Next, is there some sort of physical place where you can go and display your wares? Some handicrafts fair or weekly market where you can put up a small booth or something? Call me old-fashioned but I sometimes feel that face to face marketing is more effective than online marketing, especially for a new business.
Also, I dunno what your product line is, but do you make phone/tablet/other assorted electronics cases? And other such small niche products? That can be used as small gifts, or as personal purchases. Maybe having a diverse product line will get you more clicks and revenue.
Feel free to consider or discard any of these suggestions. And I apologise if you've already thought of some or all of them.
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I have an irrational dislike for Ariana Grande. I barely even know who she is, but I don't like her for reasons I don't even know.
Sounds like a successful marketing campaign to me! I had to google her, but generally for celebrities any sort of attention whether negative or positive = good.
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So the other 289 hated it? .___.
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Nothing is working. Nobody likes my page or my posts. No comments, no shares, no anything.
It just feels hopeless. Nobody is interested in my stupid hobby which should just stay a hobby. I'm not selling anything, not on fb or dawanda. How do other people do this?
Why do I always fail with everything I start?Hey Nami, don't worry! I'm currently dabbling in FB marketing and 289 reach is actually awesome! I just looked up your page, you currently have 121 likes (which is an amazing start for a personal business) and scrolling through your page, I see you have some pretty consistent engagement (comments, likes). Trust me, I'm currently managing a page with almost 3k people and I struggle to get people commenting and liking.
The "289" number doesn't mean that they don't like it, it just means that this picture showed up in their feed, or through a friend's feed, or some other fashion, and they SAW it. Getting people to hit "like" or to comment is the difficult part. Usually a call to action helps. Like saying "Hit Like if you love our cute little model!" or something like that.
Your pictures are amazing content, keep up the great work. Your "behind the scenes" stuff is awesome as well! It will take time to get likes and more people engaged, and it takes a LOT of work, but you're on your way there with all your great posts!
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Atm most of the stuff I do, i do for my friend. Tje good thing is, as soon as I tag her I get new people to see it but still nobody likes my page. It's basically the same 5people that like or comment.
I went to a market 2weeks ago. Sold nothing. I'm trying to fjnd markets but atm I have no money to travel. I want to put tags on the things I make for my friend but I have no money to buy tags. I want a nice corporate design and a real ligo, but I have no laptop anymore and (u guessed it) no money.
I have lots of differents products. Last year I made a lot of phonecase. I did one on the weekend as well.
I do hairties, but apart from the aussie ladies I sold 40 to, nobody seems to be interested in them. Most of those girls liked my page but none of them actually comes back to like or comment.
I see other women who sew and would call their stuff boring and not special but they sell and sell and sell and get hundrets of likes.I'd love to boost my fb posts or pay for ads but no money. I want to makr pyjama pants for adults, cus I made some for friends for christmas and fot smudgy but it takes a lot if fabric which I don't have atm and I don't even know if people would buy it… so yeah.. I'm stuck. For now.
I'm shy to promote at my friends and even if I do, nobody cares anyway. The only friend I have who cares is the friend I sew for atm. She bought the fabrics for me.
So yeah.. J fon't
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121 followers? Awesome, I LOST ONE!!!
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And FOR FUCKS SAKE I HATE THIS TABLET!!!
can'tmake one easy post with this shitty tablet. I WANT A LAPTOP cries more
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You know what this is? It's karma. I was a horrible person, I've hurt people in the past. It doesn't matter if I'm better and happier now cus jt's not gonna take away the things I've done and lost through it. That's why I have recurring dreams of people I lost in my life. Those dreams are just trying to tell me that this is payback. I'm doomed.
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121 followers? Awesome, I LOST ONE!!!
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Doon't get discouraged! :) Have you ever heard of the "Humans of New York" page? https://www.facebook.com/humansofnewyork
This guy started out with only his own circle of friends liking his page. He had lost his job, and he spent every day going out on the streets and just taking street portraits of people, and he did this consistently for a LONG TIME without much improvement for the Likes and Comments on his page. He kept going, anyway. Finally he had some ideas to interviews to his photos, and one after the other, the page started spreading. It took a LONG time, but look at it now, 3.6 million likes!
What I'm trying to say is that Facebook marketing is a treacherous thing, I was just talking about this to my boss yesterday. Likes will go up and down, people from all ends of the earth will like your page for some weird reason even though you're targeting one country, some posts you'll get an EXPLOSION of engagement and the next one will be zero, it's just how it is.
When I started working at my academy, I took over the page last year when it had 700 likes, and now we have 2600. I didn't think it was possible, but just keep going. Stay consistent. Look at other brands that are popular within private clothing companies and see what they do, and what makes their posts popular, then copy their style! Keep your eyes on the lookout when you're scrolling through FB, whenever you see a really viral post, look at it and wonder "what makes this popular? Maybe I can try this too".
Don't give up!
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My friend who does photography did a giveaway at 1000 likes and is almost at her goal. It's a good way to get ppl looking at your stuff at least ;)
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Thanks guys. I was just having one of those moments. I think my period is late too v_v'
Well, I'm ok now, i got some critiques on fb as well which have been pretty positive.
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just ke…"Unicorns can't see into your heart. All our dumb horns can do is glow, point towards the nearest rainbow and play rave music!"
Visit my Etsy Shop: Heart'n'Skull or Tumblr
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I love how you two help each other feel more worthy! I wish I had friends like that!
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I love how you two help each other feel more worthy! I wish I had friends like that!
Hi, i'm Prismeru!
Done, we're friends :3
I'll be here man.
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Thanks Prismeru!
You are awesome man!
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To Prismeru, everyone is man xD
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God damn it I can´t see the genitals in no one here. I can never tell who is a boy or a girl. Maybe my dream career was pokemón professor and i never fully realized it.
Working thru some stuff. Dunno how long i will be here.
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God damn it I can´t see the genitals in no one here. I can never tell who is a boy or a girl. Maybe my dream career was pokemón professor and i never fully realized it.
Hey, it's just as well, otherwise you'd probably be trying to charm half of the forums. I've gotten the impression from previous posts that that's a skill you exercise, at least.
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Hey, it's just as well, otherwise you'd probably be trying to charm half of the forums. I've gotten the impression from previous posts that that's a skill you exercise, at least.
Actually i'm bi.
YOU ARE ALL FAIR GAME MOTHERFUCKERS.
Sorry, got carried away by the stereotype people have of bi people b:
Edit: but yeah, i'm flirty as fuck. It has put me on tough spots in past relationships :B
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Actually i'm bi.
YOU ARE ALL FAIR GAME MOTHERFUCKERS.
Sorry, got carried away by the stereotype people have of bi people b:
Edit: but yeah, i'm flirty as fuck. It has put me on tough spots in past relationships :B
Ah yes, the things folk think of bi people. We're all greedy, indecisive, confused, with loose morals, and merely want attention. The bi guys are depicted as gays in denial, and the bi women as utter sluts. It's deeply frustrating. Though at least you don't get so much of it here…seem to recall having had this discussion before in this thread.
moooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooon
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Ah yes, the things folk think of bi people. We're all greedy, indecisive, confused, with loose morals, and merely want attention. The bi guys are depicted as gays in denial, and the bi women as utter sluts. It's deeply frustrating. Though at least you don't get so much of it here…seem to recall having had this discussion before in this thread.
I had a girlfriend that would get really, REALLY jealous whenever i said a man was good looking but was allright when i said it about a woman. Also…wait, no. I won't talk about that xD
Working thru some stuff. Dunno how long i will be here.
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I'm starting to believe that I'm a sex addict… Does anyone have any experience with it?
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Ah yes, the things folk think of bi people. We're all greedy, indecisive, confused, with loose morals, and merely want attention. The bi guys are depicted as gays in denial, and the bi women as utter sluts. It's deeply frustrating. Though at least you don't get so much of it here…seem to recall having had this discussion before in this thread.
I never got that logic.Though I haven't met anyone in person who'd say anything about it, and not much people know about me anyway.
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That's pretty interesting. From what I've seen it's usually the other way around :o
Well, She was rather special in that. I think she feared that i would break with her because of a guy….Maybe it's like that seinfeld episode? "I was such a lousy girlfriend that now he's into guys"? Uh, i don't know. Ha, and i just remembered Another girl (She had feelings for me) that told me "No, you're not bisexual. You're doing it purely for attention". WUT?
