@Noqanky:
Oh wow, that's awesome!! Congrats!!
That's such a huge step ^^
@MetaMario:
Congratulations Nolus! :D
Everything is better with a moustache.
http://i.imgur.com/8RpFne1.jpg
"It's science, dear boy!"
@Zar:
Congratulations!!! I'm so glad it worked out for you!
I hope everything goes well. It'll take it's time, but you're on the road and that's whats important.
@Vectorkov:
Wow, congrats Nolus. What a relief that must be for you.
Thank you all guys! Yeah, it's kind of a milestone for me. Like the door opened.
@Demon:
AWESOME!! So happy for you!! ^_^
A couple pieces of advice I'd like to impart, if I may.
Your mom is going to deadname you. She's going to misgender you. She's going to make mistakes. As will anyone else in your life who accepts you.
You need to be ok with this. When a person misgenders you or uses your dead name out of spite, it's obviously not ok, but our loved ones who knew us pre-transition need to get used to it. They're used to calling you one name and one set of pronouns and they have been for the entire span of your life. Not sure how old you are, but in my case that was 16-17 years of habit my mom suddenly had to fight.
Getting mad at her and screaming at a loved one every time it happens doesn't help, it'll make them start to resent you and/or the transition over time.
It takes gentle correction and understanding from both sides.
However, if you run into anyone who is clearly doing it out of spite, like they put extra emphasis on misgendering you… have at them, they deserve it. lol
@Serra:
I'm so happy for you Nolus! Having a supportive family can do wonders ^_^
And I want to affirm Demon Rin's statements. My own family, completely accepting of me, do misgender me from time to time. They aren't doing it on purpose and there's no malice, so it's actually become an inside joke. Don't ever get mad at someone who makes a mistake.
I understand. I even told my mom that I, in no way, expect her to suddenly change her way of calling me and I'll be able to live with her calling me by my original name when not in public.
The best I can do is being patient and if able, joke around the issue.
As for pronouns, well, Hungarian is a little easier, because we don't have gender specific third person pronouns so this problem arises probably less frequently than in other languages.
In the long run, Testosterone is amazing for transmen…. to the point that it makes me jealous! Why is estrogen not this awesome?!
So in the long run, you'll definitely have that moustache of your dreams, but remember that while Testosterone is a hell of a drug and does wonders over time, it DOES take time, so don't expect amazing results overnight. Don't get discouraged if you aren't rocking an epic stache within 6 months or even a year for example.
Yeah, I read that one has to patient with it, and I will. I know of plenty of guys who struggle with growing a manly beard/stache even if they were born male~
@Serra:
I'm so happy for you Nolus! Having a supportive family can do wonders ^_^
And I want to affirm Demon Rin's statements. My own family, completely accepting of me, do misgender me from time to time. They aren't doing it on purpose and there's no malice, so it's actually become an inside joke. Don't ever get mad at someone who makes a mistake.
@captain:
Nolus! I did not know you were transgendered. :O congratulations. It all makes sense now. dons a mustache in support.
Oh, If I may ask, what makes sense? I'm just curious ^^