@Epoida:
I need to gain more understanding about this world, grow up, and realize that no matter how much I want to help people, it's impossible to help everyone. Otherwise, I'll only cause trouble.
Yeah that's one of the most helpful things to learn, and it brings about one of the greatest reliefs. This is something I'm struggling with right now as well. I have an insane sense of justice, and doing the right thing, and I can't abandon it even though the people around me refuse to change and try to help things. The way I see it, the world is the way it is today because people told the status quo to go fuck itself, and make the change.
Though I think in my case, I need to just throw back the fears and just attempt what I'm thinking of doing, because wether or not it does anything, I'll be relieved knowing I tried to do something.
But as in regards to individual cases of people that you try and try to help but get know where, some people will just have to fall and sputter about and figure stuff out on their own. You sometimes know the answer to their problems is painfully obvious and blatant and you just want to scream it at them… but it's not so obvious to them, and they continue to fail to see this even if you tell it to them straight. People have to have their own epiphanies and sink to their lowest lows on their own before they see the wisdom around them and gain the desire to fix their own problems.
I know its very painful to watch someone waste their life away over solvable issues. I know a few people like that, and I'm still trying to come out of that self-loathing funk myself. But their problems are their problems, not yours. You just have to take a deep breathe and distance yourself. It's really painful to the other person, but one day, if they really want to help themselves, they realize "Oh shit everyone stops talking to me after awhile because insert reason. I should do something about that."
I don't know if that's the kind of problems you find others around you in, but I think basically it all comes to the same thing. You've been upset one too many times trying to help people that won't help themselves/won't listen/you just can't solve their problem, and you have to realize at what point its best for your sanity (and life) to let go. You're a human being too, with your own troubles and worries. I think its a great thing to worry about other people and try to help them when you can, but there is a limit. Now if someone just absolutely doesn't want to listen to me after a couple of times, I'm done with it.