Why are all the smart posters on this forum so depressed?
Because ignorance is bliss.
Why are all the smart posters on this forum so depressed?
Because ignorance is bliss.
You wouldn't believe how incredibly petty person I am! But honestly… I'm really envious to anyone more intelligent than me.
I haven't made an IQ test in years (since I was afraid of screwing them up), but when I was 12 years old I got a score of 133. (Okay it was a web test but it was from a homepage of science magazine! ) I'm roughly smarter than 99 % of mankind and I still envy folks who can reach around 200! That's petty for you! :getlost:
And what purpose does that serve? I can be oblivious to everything around me and deem myself as a success when in reality I am nothing more but a sham. So should I delude myself? Live in my own fantasy and completely disregard everything else around me? Does that sound right?
I have freedom yes, but why should I be lenient with myself in that regard to the point that I lie to myself?
And what purpose serves living in fantasy, that you can't even truly claim your own? In fantasy that only limits you and makes you depressed? You are deluding yourself right now so you can as well delude yourself in a way that would make you more comfortable. You're not true to yourself, you're true to definition of world you think other people hold. You define success and failure in a way you think other people do, not in a way they actually do. You can be a master of your own fantasy or it's slave - that is a choice you are facing. What reality are you even speaking of? reality inn absolute sense? - no human has access to that. Inter-subjective reality, that changes depending on who are subjects? Or reality you yourself constructed in your mind - a.k.a. fantasy.
Finding or creating your meanings is hard, you are hardly lenient with yourself if you try to do that, much less if you actually succeed to create meanings that satisfy you. You have to think out of the frame and be extremely true yourself. You have to know what has value to you. You have to think in perspective of the future. You have to look for inspiration. You may need to spot thinking in binaries. Accepting yourself as a failure and being depressed over that is an easier option, but it's more painful.
I got confused when Ideo appeared in the most recent chapter because he didn't have a stripe down his face.
What have I done to myself.
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I got confused when Ideo appeared in the most recent chapter because he didn't have a stripe down his face.
What have I done to myself.
The first thing that came to mind when I saw Ideo was…you. Stop affecting my One Piece reading experience!
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I got confused when Ideo appeared in the most recent chapter because he didn't have a stripe down his face.
What have I done to myself.
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I keep interpreting CoA (coenzyme A) as coat of armament haki during chemistry lessons. This forum has also ruined me.
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I keep interpreting CoA (coenzyme A) as coat of armament haki during chemistry lessons. This forum has also ruined me.
You do realize that CoA stands for COLOR of Armament Haki… Right?
You do realize that CoA stands for COLOR of Armament Haki… Right?
I can't even get that right O_O
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I got confused when Ideo appeared in the most recent chapter because he didn't have a stripe down his face.
What have I done to myself.
I always thought the purple on your avatar was just some cool shadowing on Ideo's face, and now I can't think of it as anything other than a stripe.
What have you done to me.
@Mr.:
I always thought the purple on your avatar was just some cool shadowing on Ideo's face, and now I can't think of it as anything other than a stripe.
What have you done to me.
Bwahahaha. The League of the Purple Stripe claims another victim.
What's wrong with purple stripes? It's probably the second best stripe anyone could ever have.
Ugh I am having the worst start to a Saturday, ever.
Honestly I would like nothing better than to grab my stuff and never come back to work again. I have that awful "I just want to die" feeling in the pit of my stomach.
! I'm at work right now. I've been dealing with complaints from staff and from parents from my academy for a long time regarding certain classes we have.
The classes themselves are fine, but the problem is that before I started working here, an established practice was that parents were welcome to stay at my academy while kids are in classes to socialize and just be around their kids etc.
! On two days we have the same crowd of people here. On those two days, it has been outlined in various emails that since these parents stay here for long periods of time two days a week, it is their responsibility to return the centre to its original cleanliness before leaving. Just imagine 30 kids running around and the consequences. This is that.
Unfortunately no one acted upon the e-mails except a few, and those two or three ladies are always the ones staying behind after class to clean up, while the rest of them just walk out. The ones always cleaning are the ones who complain to me every week.
! Finally I decided to take action because things were getting out of control. The e-mails weren't working, and other staff had also been personally asking each parent to help out which didn't work, so what else could I do? As suggested by one parent, I created a schedule for every week from now till the end of the year, and have 3 parents' names selected for each week, in which it is their assigned responsibility to clean up the centre for that week. There are so many parents that each of their names come up only twice from now until December. I knew some people will find it annoying but how else do you tell an adult to clean up after themselves without singling them out? My idea was that by doing this, no one person is singled out so those people who are already acting responsibly will be relieved, and those who are doing nothing will realize that they are doing nothing.
! Well, I opened my e-mail today to find that some parents found this so offensive that they will be dropping out. Why this is bad? The parents from these programs are incredibly tight-knit. They all know each other, go to each others' houses, and have been attending here longer than I have. I can just feel them talking badly about me. I am absolutely dreading seeing them this week. So there's this mess plus my previous feelings of "I feel like people at my work hate me". Ughhhh :( I don't even want to read the e-mails. Sigh.
What kind of fucking spoiled ass can't pick up after himself?
You did nothing wrong and those parents need to go back to school themselves and learn a little discipline
And this is coming from a self-proclaimed pig of a man lol
Yeah, isn't "leave the place cleaner than when you used it" or at least as clean as when you arrived, like, a really basic rule that people learn as kids? Especially for public places. They're probably upset because they feel like they should be humbled but can't bear to be. Stay strong dear, the golden ones will stick by. :)
Honestly I'm stunned that I have to deal with a problem as childish as this. On one day, there are over 10 adults here who hang out, sometimes with their younger kids, eat, etc. Then when it's time to go they just collect their children who had been in classes and just go.
They wouldn't do it in their own homes so why do they not care about a centre they attend twice a week, for over a year? I'm thinking my tone in the last e-mail I sent was really strict, but I was honestly really upset. I walked it on Wednesday after these classes to find the centre an absolute disaster, and I spent almost an hour quickly cleaning up before the next classes. Just, ugh.
Why shouldn't you be strict? It's your work role, it's not you being their buddy asking a favour
This work place needs to be clean and there are rules in place that say that it's your responsibility the end
I assume they think it's your responsibility and that they, as parents, are above the need to do such lowly things as cleaning. Which is a really stuck-up spoiled-as-all-hell attitude and reflects terribly on them, not you. They do seem to look down on you :(
Perhaps they're also feeling embarrassed at being called out on their mess.
I guess you guys are right. I should not be feeling down over this, I should actually want the ones who complain about something as trivial as being assigned to vacuum one room once a month to gtfo.
But my co-workers are making a big deal out of it, and I guess in the end I'm just being protective of my tiny non-profit academy. I'm happy when I see parents enjoying themselves here, and I really haven't had experience where people complain about here, save those few classes with the messes. It's my first time being the "bad guy who has to enforce the rules" to a large group of people so it's my first time facing a backlash.
Y'know, it gives me a better perspective about those few people we might say "omg they're being such asses about the rules". Sometimes you're forced to do it, even if you don't want to.
deep breath time to read those e-mails. Thanks for the kind words, guys.
Stay strong! Managing parents is really really hard, just remember that you're doing your job. As far as making decisions goes, you're doing what you're hired to do so that seems like the right side to me.
Hopefully some of them will come around.
It's a bit amusing how it seems handling the parents are a much bigger job than handling the kids
@wolfwoof:
It's a bit amusing how it seems handling the parents are a much bigger job than handling the kids
because parents believe they have power and are determined to use it
like I have one parent at work who has been bugging us for weeks and got upset that we didn't tell her certain things because it's confidential info and she was like "I am a parent and I have the right to know, if you're not telling me that means you don't know and that means you're inexperienced, give me your supervisor"
I was talking to a teacher recently and I asked him if kids nowadays are actually harder to handle . His awnser was : 'no , but the parents that's a whole different story' .
This is all true. Parents suck. The kids you can deal with because they're kids and you can put them in their place. But some parents, even if you're being fair and simply following basic rules, will go after your head if you enforce the rules on their children. BECAUSE FUCK IT, THEIR CHILDREN ARE SPECIAL AND DESERVE ALL OF THE SPECIAL TREATMENT.
I have parents who go batshit crazy trying to get me fired and complaining about everything I do, then when they find out that their kid's detention won't affect their school record, they go "oh, well nevermind then" and promptly stop caring about each and every complain they had.
And then there's the ones who feel it's the job of the teacher to pass the kid even if they haven't done anything. Or or or … the ones who will get their children diagnosed with some type of attention deficit disorder just so the kids can sit anywhere in class and use their cellphones whenever they want, making a mockery of the entire program that's put in place for kids with actual disabilities (I say this in full knowledge that most of the times you can't tell who does have the disorder and who doesn't, but aware also of counselors actively complaining that some parents are paying psychologists to change their recommendations to benefit the kid.)
These people need to stop for a moment and realize how much they may be harming their kids by giving them shortcuts and taking away responsibility from them.
I had worse and more damaging teachers than I ever did parents, but i only had two parents and they were pretty okay
Shoutouts to my math teacher when I was 8 who said she didn't care if I couldn't do it, because she had a lot of students to deal with
Well I've experienced teachers abusing their punishment "privileges", so I can't help but to rather stand on the side of parents on this.
I'd probably also fight for my child on that front being influenced by those experiences and probably putting more trust into my own child than a third party.
Collective punishment, punishing the wrong person, being very selective with punishing instead of equal and just lashing out with it due outside reasons, I've experienced them all.
As an example.
I once got a can thrown at me from another student,
a teacher saw the can lying on the floor and ordered me to pick it up and throw it in the trash can.
Me being quite a bit younger and more hot headed was refusing that and I told him outright(I didn't scream but my tone and voice were pretty irritated, something I don't think is to unreasonable when you get something metallic thrown against your head) that he should get the student that threw it to clean it up. He wouldn't hear it, so I just told him if he cared so much he should do it himself and walked off.
Well 20 minutes later I'm in the headmasters office doing fake apologies to that bastard's smug face or I could have walked away with a reprimand note on my school records. (And explaining the situation didn't do jack shit since both didn't give a shit about that, the headmaster probably having more important stuff to get to).
It didn't help that I couldn't stop my tears after.
I'm not one to cry out of sadness much, but something about the frustration of feeling entirely powerless does something to me.
I think I was 15 then, today I would probably just do it and walk it off, not that I'd do that without dismay but looking back at it picking that fight didn't seem worth the trouble.
A gratifying moment of solace - Finding out today that the parents who are making a big poo about me enforcing rules were actually kicked out and banned from other kids establishments because they let their child go free reign. I totally get it now.
@wolfwoof:
It's a bit amusing how it seems handling the parents are a much bigger job than handling the kids
Oh God, THIS. Trappy had it exactly right, a lot of parents act like kings and queens for enrolling their child in any sort of program. What's also funny is that a lot of parents THINK their child can handle things that they actually can't. An example of this is one of our classes, Quran/Arabic class. Basically kids learn how to read and write Arabic and then learn a few sentences from the Quran in Arabic.
I cannot tell you how many parents came up to me and was all like "You put my child in Level 1 Arabic but he's capable of reading and writing full sentences." Yeah, tell that to the teacher who evaluated your kid and tells me that they don't even know the alphabet.
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Or or or … the ones who will get their children diagnosed with some type of attention deficit disorder just so the kids can sit anywhere in class and use their cellphones whenever they want, making a mockery of the entire program that's put in place for kids with actual disabilities (I say this in full knowledge that most of the times you can't tell who does have the disorder and who doesn't, but aware also of counselors actively complaining that some parents are paying psychologists to change their recommendations to benefit the kid.)
You're kidding me right?!!? Holy crap. That is freaking sad.
Thanks guys, it's always reassuring when I complain about negative experiences of people going after my head because of me doing my job of caring about my students enough to want to educate them, and the responses are about how damaging teachers are.
I'd seriously like to know how much people in other professions would like to have irrational adults come in and not only tell you how to do your job, but try actively to get you fired when all you've done in the first place is care and educate their children when someone else would have just let them do whatever they want and called it a day.
Maybe that's why the job is so thankless, the fact that people are so eager to think of the bad teachers and bad experiences that all good ones have to suffer from that as a result.
A gratifying moment of solace - Finding out today that the parents who are making a big poo about me enforcing rules were actually kicked out and banned from other kids establishments because they let their child go free reign. I totally get it now.
Honestly, these people sound like such dicks.
I'd expect them to at least be a bit humble about routinely messing the place up and leaving.
You did nothing wrong Femme. If anything you're being way too kind of the lot of 'em.
Teachers forever students never
I can't remember ever having a truly bad teacher, who ignored me or put me down
I mean some were better at teaching than others but they all tried their hardest
I've had bad teachers. One in particular outright seemed to hate me and all I was and I got the reputation for being a problem child when everywhere else I was the squeaky-clean honours student. I still kind of hate her even twenty years later. XD
But I've had many more good teachers. And the thing is that teaching is so utterly taken for granted. It's why successive governments (of all parties) will try and reform education when they've never stood in a classroom since they left secondary school - they think it's obvious, self-evident, and that teachers have an easy life. They don't. And their job is so so important too, because it can make or break a child's future in certain respects.
I did something like teaching when I spent a year in a German grammar school, helping out with English lessons and doing my own lessons every so often with a variety of classes. It was stressful, difficult, and sometimes really upsetting, but with one class in particular, also hugely rewarding. Gave me a much greater appreciation for the task, even beyond that I gleaned from my dad being a teacher.
@wolfwoof:
Teachers forever students never
I can't remember ever having a truly bad teacher, who ignored me or put me down
I mean some were better at teaching than others but they all tried their hardest
I had one particularly terrible English professor at the university. She was arrogant, stuck up, and bad at teaching. One time she made us attend an actual department conference with the professors and graduate students presenting papers, and she proceeded to insult and criticize the poor writing from everyone who presented (at our next class, not in front of them). It was just pointless to try to learn anything or improve your writing. I went from literally an A+ the previous semester to a B- from her. I will probably never forget that terrible experience.
Also, I shit you not, she claims the character Daria, from the same-named cartoon series, was based on her (her name is Dara and does look similar). She explained and brought it up often/thoroughly, so it was not some passing joke. If it's true, it explains a lot.
Also, I shit you not, she claims the character Daria, from the same-named cartoon series, was based on her (her name is Dara and does look similar). She explained and brought it up often/thoroughly, so it was not some passing joke. If it's true, it explains a lot.
Sorry, but that reminded me just a bit too much of this. :ninja:
Funny that the worst teachers I've had put huge amounts of work into their teaching. And I think I did actually learn a lot of what I was supposed to be learning from both of them (certainly from one of them!). They were intelligent people, at least in the area they needed to be, and they taught. They just suffered from being terrible human beings most of the time.
This is kinda mean, but I really don't like sharing a room with my twin sister; she's starting to test my patience…
This is kinda mean, but I really don't like sharing a room with my twin sister; she's starting to test my patience…
Spend enough time sharing space with someone and you start hating them. So don't feel like it's mean of you, it just happens.
They have to be really really special for this not to happen.
This is kinda mean, but I really don't like sharing a room with my twin sister; she's starting to test my patience…
In my experience: No Personal Space > No Space for Respite > No Respite > Tensions Gradually Build > Things Get Difficult. It's why I'm reluctant to have a room-mate except when circumstances necessitate it. Even if they're a partner, it'd be nice to have that option available if needed.
Thanks guys, it's always reassuring when I complain about negative experiences of people going after my head because of me doing my job of caring about my students enough to want to educate them, and the responses are about how damaging teachers are.
I'd seriously like to know how much people in other professions would like to have irrational adults come in and not only tell you how to do your job, but try actively to get you fired when all you've done in the first place is care and educate their children when someone else would have just let them do whatever they want and called it a day.
Maybe that's why the job is so thankless, the fact that people are so eager to think of the bad teachers and bad experiences that all good ones have to suffer from that as a result.
I'm really sorry if it came off like I was discrediting your complaints. Your frustrations are totally understandable and very likely justified.
Like with anything there are two sides and even given my really bad experiences I would draw a line at going for someone's job(I'd have to be something really grave at the level of an actual crime). That's a pretty disgusting thing to do, to go after someone's livelihood.
I also would be the first to agree that overly protective behavior from parents in general and my potential affinity in this case towards it are hugely irrational, since they're colored by my personal experience and the assumption that love for your child and the trust that would go with that is probably stronger than most things.
I feel the thing that causes people without qualifications to think they know better than teachers the most is the sheer fact that it's actually very normal for someone without teaching qualifications to teach.
Especially when you're studying. It's not unusual here in Germany to have people come and teach based on pure work experience.
Then there is the fact that parenting in itself is a form of teaching and the fact that senior students couching younger students for compensation is also a thing.
I think imparting knowledge to one another is actually a very integral part of anyone working in a social environment. That coupled with the fact that the process of acquiring teacher qualifications doesn't seem to be very strict makes it really hard to see teachers as these specialist that they should be viewed as.
I mean being a good teacher is actually very hard, but the thing is like you said you suffer along because of all the bad teachers which is pretty unfair.
And although I say this while having experienced insane snobbery from people with titles, I can't deny that a teacher with a PhD does command more respect.
So I don't know maybe stricter qualifications requirements would elevate some of that but that would cost a lot of money.
I had one particularly terrible English professor at the university. She was arrogant, stuck up, and bad at teaching. One time she made us attend an actual department conference with the professors and graduate students presenting papers, and she proceeded to insult and criticize the poor writing from everyone who presented (at our next class, not in front of them). It was just pointless to try to learn anything or improve your writing. I went from literally an A+ the previous semester to a B- from her. I will probably never forget that terrible experience.
Also, I shit you not, she claims the character Daria, from the same-named cartoon series, was based on her (her name is Dara and does look similar). She explained and brought it up often/thoroughly, so it was not some passing joke. If it's true, it explains a lot.
I had something very similar happen to me in 8th grade in my German class. But I actually dropped down to C/C-. The year before I got A's across the board on every essay. I was so confused by this that I actually took last year's notebook in which we wrote all our test essays and used it for an upcoming test essay.
Kudos to my teacher for actually looking at that stuff but he just told me came evaluation day that he pretty much disagreed with every assessment of the prior year. The next year we got a new teacher and I was back to A's. But because of that I actually had a hard time of ever taking the German class serious again.
With the judgement of it being so wildly subjective.
I think the worst part of it in 13 years of German class I actually never learned much about writing in general.
Corrections of essays was limited to grammar and spelling errors. Not a single line of critic or things that were lacking.
I mean maybe I actually did have a year where my writing was crap but heck if I know without any actual hints on what was so different about it compared to past essays.
I think the worst part of it in 13 years of German class I actually never learned much about writing in general.
Corrections of essays was limited to grammar and spelling errors. Not a single line of critic or things that were lacking.
I mean maybe I actually did have a year where my writing was crap but heck if I know without any actual hints on what was so different about it compared to past essays.
Wow that's awful. It wasn't like that for me; I never had a problem with grammar/spelling/vocabulary. The problem is every teacher subjectively decides what makes for good writing, or a good argument, or good essay format. So in the end half the things you learn contradict each other. Usually I just adjust to whatever the particular teacher wants to see, but in the case I mentioned I just could not figure out how to please the damn lady. One time she showed us a sample essay she had written to provide a good example, and it was full of things she specifically criticized my writing for and marked me down. I almost, ALMOST "graded" her paper using her own arguments/words and left it on her desk.
This is all true. Parents suck. The kids you can deal with because they're kids and you can put them in their place. But some parents, even if you're being fair and simply following basic rules, will go after your head if you enforce the rules on their children. BECAUSE FUCK IT, THEIR CHILDREN ARE SPECIAL AND DESERVE ALL OF THE SPECIAL TREATMENT.
I have parents who go batshit crazy trying to get me fired and complaining about everything I do, then when they find out that their kid's detention won't affect their school record, they go "oh, well nevermind then" and promptly stop caring about each and every complain they had.
And then there's the ones who feel it's the job of the teacher to pass the kid even if they haven't done anything. Or or or … the ones who will get their children diagnosed with some type of attention deficit disorder just so the kids can sit anywhere in class and use their cellphones whenever they want, making a mockery of the entire program that's put in place for kids with actual disabilities (I say this in full knowledge that most of the times you can't tell who does have the disorder and who doesn't, but aware also of counselors actively complaining that some parents are paying psychologists to change their recommendations to benefit the kid.)These people need to stop for a moment and realize how much they may be harming their kids by giving them shortcuts and taking away responsibility from them.
While not totally equivalent, this reminds of stuff my mom has told me about dealing with parents in her job as a pediatrician. There are definitely a lot of bad parents. That said, I get the feeling that it might seem worse than it is simply because bad students who did bad things are probably more likely to have bad parents, and teachers probably have to deal with those parents far more often than they do with the parents of good students. The parents who think its a teacher's duty to pass any kid are probably the ones who don't value education or learning as much, because if they did they'd try to drill that into their kids, who would probably not be failing because they were taught a good set of values. Obviously many exceptions exist, but kids do take after their parents in many ways
TEACHERS! Our LIVES SUCK!!!
(honestly though, I look forward to going back and HOPEFULLY…assuming I can get a job...go back to teaching history whee!)
@No:
Honestly, these people sound like such dicks.
I'd expect them to at least be a bit humble about routinely messing the place up and leaving.
You did nothing wrong Femme. If anything you're being way too kind of the lot of 'em.
I just try to be patient. I don't like starting drama and I HATE dealing with drama. You're spot on though, a lot of people berate me for being "too nice" sometimes >_>
I have a confession sometimes i fap to one piece.
I have a confession sometimes i fap to one piece.
I have a confession sometimes i fap to one piece.
Depends on what you mean ya know.
For example I know the Sunny can be quite seductive :ninja:
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Ejaculating to OP comics is like touching yourself to an episode of Looney Tunes. It's awkward.
Ejaculating to OP comics is like touching yourself to an episode of Looney Tunes. It's awkward.
This made me laugh more than it should've…:ninja:
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I have a confession sometimes i fap to one piece.
the older you get, the more you realise how boring this is. Especially in a long term relationship.
At some point you'll be going through ap and find a similar post, turn to your leather bound partner and just shrug before moving on.
GimP: lol noobfag…that's soooo 2009!
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isn't your hardrive full of Pomeranians?
I think weird is all about perspective. Hehe
In truth the best way to see it is by just acknowledging that we are all unique and different. We all have sides of ourselves that we don't like to put on display, and at the same time don't want to give up or change.
People are people. Some people just don't realise what it can entail to be a modern human.