Yeah, you should at least confess and get it off your chest. My previous post was more general and concentrated on the long-term so others could read it too and gather perspective of their own. People tend to learn a lot more about each other during confessions too, whether good or bad. Just, ya know, brace yourself if he's a dick and you don't know that he is. You should definitely get to know him better before delving into anything serious.
Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD
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Well…. I'm a woman that flew half the globe to meet somebody I fell in love with while playing MMORPG.... ragnarok, so,
Do I know you ? (Lisomorphe) It kinda feels like I do. If I'm mistaken, just forget it. Sorry :)
And thanks for sharing your heartening story.sighs Everyone get much too excited about this. You're scaring poor Gypsy.
In any case, you aren't our puppet and you should do what you feel like doing.
Follow your heart~ And if you are lost and confused, you can also tell him that.
Courage
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If you've got feelings for someone, you have to tell them. Otherwise, it WILL eat you up and build and get worse as time goes on.
The worst thing they can do is tell you no, and then it'll hurt for a little bit, but it'll pass. The medium thing that can happen is they take it as the compliment it is, get a little embarassed, and have to think on it, and that is a different can of worms. The best thing that can happen is they go "Yeah, of course I feel the same way, we should act on this!"
Long as you tell em sincerely and honestly what you feel, no bad can come from it, and the awkward will only be temporary. Just don't announce endless undying love right out the gate.
I've been through it a couple times online, a couple in person. Once, it led to 7 years of dating and an engagement. (that it ended was not because of the distance) Another, it led to a couple years of misunderstanding because I never said it quite clearly or asked for an answer, but it cleared up and we're best friends to this day One friend that is a girl I flirted with a bit in person, but we never really had sparks… and oddly ended up being better friends and talking more after she moved away. In the middle of something right now, maybe someday I'll be able to share how that story ends.
But it never hurts to tell someone you like em.
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@Elisabeth:
Do I know you ? (Lisomorphe) It kinda feels like I do. If I'm mistaken, just forget it. Sorry :)
No I dont think so, I was also Kaoru in VanRO ragnarok server and Aiyumi RO (don't know if those servers even exist today!) And my bf was known as the Sephiroth. We used to cause so much Havoc back then. Anyway, ironically enough, we never played again after we meet LOL. But we DO play Xbox games and watch OP and stuff… we just don't do the whole MMORPG anymore.
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You should tell him, then say just kidding if he acts weird.
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I like Bob's idea.
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You should tell him, then say just kidding if he acts weird.
That doesn't really work, if you can pretend really well it can work in person, but rarely, and that's it.
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Well since she already admitted it here it's not like she could pull that off anyway.
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I'm now even further conflicted. But I do thank you guys for your advice. :)
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You should flip a coin, the perfect answer to any problem.
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Two-Face style .
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Oh man, everyone's advice is uncomfortably applicable to my situation, too. Except it's not an AP person but someone I met from class. I don't know when will ever be a good time to confess, though. Right now we're good friends. On the weekends, me and my other friends go to his place to hang out. He doesn't strike me as the type of guy who'd get a girlfriend who would "weigh him down." (<– btw, that's basically his words not mine.) I keep forgetting he's, like, 8 years older than me, but that's hardly what matters. I just don't know how much I ought to "get to know him" before saying anything or if I even should say anything. What's gonna happen when we're not in classes together anymore? We're just probably gonna go our own separate ways. It's aggravating.
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I told this to a few people in IRC. This was not too long ago. I became infatuated with a friend whom I had not been seeing as much as last year. I started to miss her and sooner than I expected I felt it. I didn't want to, though, and only wanted to stay friends. I don't know why, it's probably pretty weird, but soon I got over it. She's very cute but I'd rather be only friends with her. She's pretty nice and cool, but she hangs out with this clique of girls, that while I get along with a bit, I don't really hang out with and would much rather not. These things either pass or stay. Fortunately, or unfortunately, whichever suffices, for me, it passed. The thing is, there's no one right answer. So, yeah..
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Go for it Gypsy. I had a lot of "love deceptions" in my life but I don't care about it anymore. It is part of my life, like every other experience. The good ones and the bad ones. On the other side, I have (and I will always have) this weird feeling when I think about things I wanted to do and didn't. This "what if" feeling is terrible.
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Yes I agree that you should get it off your chest. Now that I think about it, my situation was a bit different from yours, so my advice does not really apply. Chrissie knows her stuff.
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Speaking of Chrissie, yesterday she asked me what it is that I wanted at the end of the day. I was thinking about it last night. Actually, it has been a buried worry of mine for many months. How funny that I am about to be 20 and yet to this day I am still troubled by that question. Before, I would answer without hesitation: success as a comic artist, acknowledgment not only in my country but the world.
But now my answer would be different. I stink, so ignore it and don't read if you don't care.Wealth, fame, power, I have always felt that I must reject those things ever since I was a child, but I never really got detached from them. I had fears and desires that couldn't be shaken off easily. Until I experienced a great thing called Love, and it has rocked my system, turned my world upside down. And as I encountered the works of Henry Miller, Arthur Rimbaud, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Nikos Kazantzakis, so on, I got to see clearer the absurdity and futility of ambition.
From this summer I have begun to look more closely at reality. Somehow reality felt weird for someone who spent a large portion of his life living in his imaginary world, his illusion like me. It felt really weird. The green leaves became greener and the fresh breezes became fresher. Somehow, human beings are really weird. They walk on the street wearing weird clothes, making weird gestures, weird sounds, talking about weird things, riding on weird stuffs; they sit in front of a machine with their eyes staring at a screen, their back bending and their hands performing weird movements to a keyboard.
Somehow I really dislike the life I am living. I had no interest whatsoever in talking about what the next fashion trend is going to be, what music albums or movies are coming out, which politician is sneezing, which celebrities are dating or divorcing or suing each other, and I had even less interest in role-playing heroes or fighters or 'adventuring' in a video game. 'Unfortunately' those are what my friends do and talk about.
I feel absurd about being surrounded by classmates and friends who share nothing in common with me, interest or character. I feel absurd about going to university only to try to make a living and please my parent.
I feel absurd about staying up at nights drawing blueprints of buildings I have no love for. I feel absurd about logging in some online message boards, posting under some ridiculous nickname that is not my name, representing myself through some picture of fictional character or famous people that is not me, creating an online identity for some superficial entertainment. Though, I got to know many good people. That, I don't regret.Still, I have missed much of life. I am lacking something, and that is living experience. I love art, I love drawing, I love comics, but I don’t want to chain myself to a desk 15 hours a day instead of experiencing the outside world. I don’t want to live within a strict schedule everyday. I don't want to compromise my artistic merit with businessmen, adjust my works to race for some number in a questionnaire statistic or sale chart or try to please
pretentious nerds and pampered kidsreaderswhose faces I don’t even knowlike those dudes in Bakuman. Those things simply does not suit my nature. I am spontaneous, I hate machinery discipline, I hate industrial life, I hate wearing masks, I hate conforming, I hate nationalism, I hate the close-minded and dull education system of my country.I don’t want to live an easy life. The scenarios of children suffering in famines, diseases, poverty all over the world kept coming to my mind every night. Something is wrong. Life is unfair (or fair in its unfairness, if you prefer that). I can only be in bliss if I can forget those things. I asked myself to be moderately selfish, and that it is okay to be moderately selfish, but somehow I can't be at ease with that idea. What does it mean to live in comfort while more than half of the world is suffering from all kind of miseries, physical or mental? I have asked myself that question for near a year. I haven’t found my answer. I used to have the lofty ambition of establishing a new philosophy that can change people's perspective about living, soling the problems of the world. But nothing I came up with is totally new. The Earth is old. All have been said. What difference can I make?
I am not suited for economic business. Perhaps if I become a millionaire I can help many other physically, I have never chosen that role, because I hate the world businessmen, people with forced smiles, pretentious handshakes and petty calculations.
I came back to my dream as a teenager. Dream, not ambition. I remember how fascinated I was when I first read One Piece or good works of similar genre. The adventurous spirit always excited me. All of my works are about adventures.
But I don’t have as much interest in One Piece anymore. I don’t have as much interest in an adventure in an imaginary fantasy world anymore. I want to have more to say in my works than my imagination, knowledge from book and logic deduction. I want to see the world. The ugly and beautiful real world, with real people, real miseries, real disasters, real crisis and whatnot. I don’t want to know the world only through a computer or a book. I want to see it with my own eyes. And there is a certain someone in a far country I want to meet.I am frivolous and capricious. People have always questioned my sanity. Yes, I am a dreamer. I am fascinated by the idea of a life of a lone traveler, walking through rural nights on Earth. Be it as a journalist, a sailor, anything that enables me to travel around the Earth. After that I want to look at it from the outer space. I admire Rimbaud for his genius in poetry and for abandoning the luxurious life and promising future of a literary elite in the thriving city of Paris to go on his adventure and live the life of poverty in Africa. I admire Krishnamurti for giving up the authority and power of a 'human god', the position of the world's spiritual leader to walk through four continents, working for positive social change in near seventy years. Their lives are inspiring. I am concerned about finding the ultimate reality, and I am not going to get it from books only. I want “…to make life a wonderful adventure”, literally and figuratively.
I have been studying many other languages. German, Chinese, Japanese, French. And I want to study Greek, Sanskrit, Latin, Spanish, Italiano, Arabic as well. I will see if I can sum up enough courage to make my dream a reality. I will see if I can live the teaching of Krishnamurti, seeking not for security nor comfort, but freedom. And maybe in my lone path I will find company.[/hide]
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Hey, guys. Thanks for all the wishes and advice. I'm a little nervous now because I had a childish want when I posted that. I hope they know who they are, because as much as I want to admit I can't. I really thank all of you who told me to go for it, but I have to know he knows first, otherwise I don't think I can do it. I'm just being stupid, I know, but I don't know how to act otherwise.
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It's okay, I understand how difficult it must be to confess to me.
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I really thank all of you who told me to go for it, but I have to know he knows first, otherwise I don't think I can do it.
And what if he's thinking the same thing? If you feel it, you have to say it. Standing around going "what if" for months on end doesn't help anyone.
I'm just being stupid, I know, but I don't know how to act otherwise.
Thats what we ALL say to ourselves. I've run the EXACT same words through my own mind many times. And while it always seems justified in your own head, it always seems kind of stupid when you see others doing the exact same thing.
Its nerves and and emotion and a whole ball of things brought about by evolutions fight or flight instincts, and its self defeating and you don't need to be doing it. Just say "__________, I like you a lot and want to get to know you better and spend more time with you. I've been feeling this way for a while and I just had to let you know!" No pressure, doesn't have to be romantical, don't need to force them to say something back. Just tell em how you feel.
If you get rejected, at least its over and done with and you can move on. It'll suck for a couple days, but then it'll pass quickly. Its far, far better than lingering doubts and anxieties for months and months. If the response is neutral, no harm done and the intent is out there and maybe with that thought lingering things can grow. And if the response is positive, only good things can follow. (I've been through all the above at different times in my life.)
Everyone likes a compliment, no harm there. if there's a moment of awkward… well, its for a moment, and it'll pass.
Holding it in just potentially makes it worse when you DO eventually say it... or it can ruin the friendship by putting in a wedge you're building yourself that they don't even know about... or when he starts dating someone else without you having said anything. At that point, the "if only I had..." eats you alive. Avoid that, it sucks.
As some wise advice was passed to me once... "You're just telling them you like them, you aren't proposing marriage."
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If it's me, I decline your offer, Carts. I could never love you, not after you took my Christos.
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If I have opened the floodgates for every person to come in and claim the confession, then my apologies, the joke would soon grow awkward and stale.
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Plus, even if this guy doesn't like you, he'll most likely like your body, so you have that.
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Yet if you confess now , it will be easier to deal with it , it's always a sort of win-win
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Plus, even if this guy doesn't like you, he'll most likely like your body, so you have that.
Great. Thanks. I'm really glad that in the end, I have that. You know, with this being an internet thing and all. You're so comforting, Bob.
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I had one of my best friends ever sorta accidentally say "I love you" once over the phone, and she clearly had a thing for me.
It wasn't mutual, but I was only ever really flattered by it. I valued her friendship a lot and sorta understood how it was she would fall for me.I think it's only really awkward between friends when there's this nagging feeling that the person is feeling that way for shallow reasons, or one party suspects this. Like you think they're just in some weird infatuation, or that you suspect they just have the hots. Like it makes you question the relationship you thought you had, and makes things awkward.
In the case of like a really good friend who you feel really close to, I dunno, being on the receiving end of that it made sense to me and I didn't find it awkward and it didn't ruin nothing in my mind so long as it was understood that I didn't quite return the feeling that far. An actual relationship is after all basically like the thing you have with a best friend to begin with.
If you feel like you're really close and intimate emotionally with this person anyway, I don't think you need to worry about it being weird or awkward.
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I found it funny when I confessed to Nick the first time and he totally didn't get it that I actually WAS confessing, lol.
So my advice: Don't go and say "You're my favorite person to talk to." Because no, he won't get that this actually means, you fell in love with him lol.
(I waited around 2 months till I really confessed via help from Chrissie. with that hidden confession somewhere in the middle of that time)
Speaking of which, I just read all these 3 or 4 pages now, wanted to say stuff, while nick's whining behind me to come to bed now (and now already fell asleep…), and realized that everything's basically already said.
So yeah, I leave it at that.But I have a favor to ask all of you. If you ever get annoyed of my love rumblings or stuff related to it, pls tell me that. I seriously don't know if the people here are actually pissed off or annoyed with it or not, so just come and tell me and I will stop. I might not realize it myself if I'm overdoing it or not, tho.
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the thyroid replacement pills are numbing my taste buds and drying out my nose
berserker armor….
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Aiight .
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@soul:
I masturbate to hentai. Is there anything wrong with that? I like porn ,but most are of ugly women. There are not any good looking girls at my school. I'm a anime nerd and have wet dreams about hentai. Please judge me.
Congratulations on creating a mindset for yourself of unattainable and probably underage beauty that will mean you're never satisfied with real life. Have fun with that.
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@soul:
I masturbate to hentai. Is there anything wrong with that? I like porn ,but most are of ugly women. There are not any good looking girls at my school. I'm a anime nerd and have wet dreams about hentai. Please judge me.
Well at least you admit it. That's one step into rehabilitation, and becoming porno/hentai sober. Now time to find some real chicks, go to parties have you tried talking with some girls?
Maybe dancing?if not, and you plan to keep doing this for the foreseeable future then take this advice…..
! DON'T LET YOUR DICK EXPLODE BROTHA
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haha, there's nothing wrong with porn or hentai or whatever
its that evidently he literally doesn't find real people attractive
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I do. Just not any in my town
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Now that's just nonsense. You're getting into some sort of crazy supermodels only type of narrow idea of beauty, probably based around the whole anime character obsession thing. What with the splotchless skin, wasp wastes, F Cups, f Cup size eyes, blue hair, or whatever.
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I dont like the fcup shit. Im just saying that the girlsmy age in my town are actually ugly.
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If your not overdosing on it, then yes.
Anywho creepy vid.
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a3a3a&color2=0x999999&border=1He still got a better love life than I have… (semi-confession) Now where have I seen this before? Hm.
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I deleted that post, after I found that the poster revealed he was attracted to real woman.
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We can't all win you know. Cheer up!
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@soul:
I dont like the fcup shit.
I'm making a point, don't sweat the details.
Im just saying that the girlsmy age in my town are actually ugly.
Post your idea of a basic attractive woman. A picture.
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We can't all win you know. Cheer up!
Were you expecting a debate?
:'' Btw. is MK gonna answer or can I go to sleep? Such suspense.''Sorry to disappoint!
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God, I hate it when women have personalities and positive qualities. I just want tits I can fap to!
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Were you expecting a debate?
:'' Btw. is MK gonna answer or can I go to sleep? Such suspense.''Sorry to disappoint!
I'm a very bored individual… Sorry bout that.*
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i just wanted to know is is ok to get eroused by hentai Monkey King,as for faces http://www.vfashiontrends.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Latest-Cute-Teen-hairstyles-2011.jpg
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how about someone without anime/hipster hair
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dat weird ass hair .
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Woman with short hair are the best IMO
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@soul:
i just wanted to know is is ok to get eroused by hentai Monkey King,as for faces http://www.vfashiontrends.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Latest-Cute-Teen-hairstyles-2011.jpg
I don;t know, see it's not just that. There's a sort of…arrogance and almost....detachedness about the way your passing judgement on literally every girl in your town as just ugly. Like you're thinking about your town as a harem anime and not like an actual human being inhabited town.
I mean, to do that sort of shit you'd have to be something of a catch yourself. But probably you're as gross looking an inbred small townie as the rest of them so who are you to talk shit like this I wonder?
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Come tomontgomery, then talk to me