You guys have the weirdest conversations some times O.o
Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD
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@mary:
how does age matter? it's just wasted years that make you want to go back, else age is just a number imo.
having more experience and thinking different about life, even if it makes you sad sometimes, how can it be worse? the fact that you aren't looking at the world with the pink eyeglasses anymore?
and you can have free mind like a child, anytime..
and you aren't dependent on someone anymoremaybe i'm just that "i wanna be adult soon" type but.. i see the difference only when someone is old, about 60 years maybe. but i think being 20_40-45 is the best time of one's life.
Your words do ring true to me, but the thing is, I am the big brother of 7, and shit is not exactly easy to handle, so yeah, my life as it is now isn't awful, hell, I'd be an ungrateful piece of shit if I say so, but I do miss the times when I didn't need to take care of anyone. :L this burden isn't exactly the easiest to carry.
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Ode to the "oldests". You guys are forced to become like 2nd parents to us younger siblings, and are the first to meet resistance for trying anything new.
I'm the youngest and my oldest sister was like a 2nd mom to me, though it couldn't have been easy. I now owe her for teaching me the majority of my life skills, for opening my eyes to the reality of life and people, and a lot more that I'll never be able to repay her for, but I'll always remember it. Hang in there. When you guys are all much older you'll reap the reward for everything you've done for your siblings.
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@NER:
Your words do ring true to me, but the thing is, I am the big brother of 7, and shit is not exactly easy to handle, so yeah, my life as it is now isn't awful, hell, I'd be an ungrateful piece of shit if I say so, but I do miss the times when I didn't need to take care of anyone. :L this burden isn't exactly the easiest to carry.
Oh..that.. I'm single child so i don't understand it, but i think it's better to be like that, to have so much siblings.
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Ode to the "oldests". You guys are forced to become like 2nd parents to us younger siblings, and are the first to meet resistance for trying anything new.
I'm the youngest and my oldest sister was like a 2nd mom to me, though it couldn't have been easy. I now owe her for teaching me the majority of my life skills, for opening my eyes to the reality of life and people, and a lot more that I'll never be able to repay her for, but I'll always remember it. Hang in there. When you guys are all much older you'll reap the reward for everything you've done for your siblings.
Thanks, Femme. that sort of motivation is exactly what I need.
@mary:
Oh..that.. I'm single child so i don't understand it, but i think it's better to be like that, to have so much siblings.
It has its ups and downs, pretty much like anything else ever, thats about it. :P
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@NER:
It has its ups and downs, pretty much like anything else ever, thats about it. :P
yes, it's all about what you prefer and in what kind of situation you grow up.
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I really don't like it when there's a lot of drama going on with loved ones, let alone getting involved in it… it can be very unnerving.
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Sometimes, I sing the lyrics to Epic Rap Battles of History in the shower.
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I really don't like it when there's a lot of drama going on with loved ones, let alone getting involved in it… it can be very unnerving.
I learned to never get involved in that type of situation the hard way.
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@NER:
Thanks, Femme. that sort of motivation is exactly what I need.
No prob. Responsibility as an oldest is an issue that younger siblings don't quite understand, so just know that the consistent under-appreciated actions are sometimes the ones that matter the most to people.
Sometimes, I sing the lyrics to Epic Rap Battles of History in the shower.
You've memorized ERB lyrics? That's impressive. Do you like.. cuss out your soap?
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Yep. I knew there was a reason I unsubscribed to this thread.
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LOL, Kubihige come in here start throwin' shade.
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No intent to derail the conversation, but I just want to say that I'm enjoying my time at college much more now that I've finally switched my focus to English studies. The classes are great and I actually feel growth happening within me (obviously not physically).
I know I'm probably never going to make bank, and I'm ok with that. I use to have the mentality that if I had a high paying job, I would be happy because I could use all the money to do whatever I want without any worries of debt.
But after a series of events and critical soul searching, I know for a fact I'll be fine as long as I have a self-sustaining job and I have time to do what I love. Double whammy if the job is what I love, but we'll see.
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I'm always late. Like, I wake up everyday and I'm already late.
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LOL, Kubihige come in here start throwin' shade.
What does that… I don't even know....
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Sure, I could see getting a material benefit out of a relationship as useful; although that would require a mutual understanding and respect, and or some reason for them to be indebted to me, which sounds like a chore.
Otherwise, I don't really get anything out of being around other people. In fact, I'm pretty sure people just leave me feeling scared and insecure. I've spent around the last 3 years or so almost completely alone, and I didn't exactly hate it.
A little late on this but I think zoro can explain to you better than I can!
Up to about a minute 30 haha
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I know how this is, but I'm fine with being alone.
People are ignorant, arrogant, or just plain unintelligent (this blanket generalization means I fall into one or more of these categories also). I feel like the less I directly interact with them, the better.
it's not about finding good people, it's all about finding people which are bad in the same way you are :happy:
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@mary:
it's not about finding good people, it's all about finding people which are bad in the same way you are :happy:
I would sig this if my sig weren't already perfect.
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Yep. I knew there was a reason I unsubscribed to this thread.
@The:
This thread is to get anything off your chest without the fear of being ridiculed or judged.
This kind of snark is unnecessary and not appreciated.
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Okay, I'm a little annoyed with my friends right now… too much drama with them. Also, they keep lying to me and each other; you think you know somebody, and then... ugh.
...And it doesn't help that they're almost a year younger than me, either. Sorry if this is mean, but what kind of friends are they?:getlost:
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@CCC:
This kind of snark is unnecessary and not appreciated.
I think you're taking my post too seriously. I probably should've added some kind of emoticon.
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my newsfeed on fb is full of people talking about jb having slept with a hooker
i really need to clear my friend list
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Okay, I'm a little annoyed with my friends right now… too much drama with them. Also, they keep lying to me and each other; you think you know somebody, and then... ugh.
...And it doesn't help that they're almost a year younger than me, either. Sorry if this is mean, but what kind of friends are they?:getlost:
You remind me of how I was few months ago way too much.
Eh.. I am not sure you want anyone's advice regarding your situation but I've got one and I am going to tell you anyway. :P
Just.. try to simplfy matters, take a step back and look at the whole situation and be objective about it, sort everything out in your head before doing or saying anything to avoid any act you'll regret later.
I had a fucked up situation with my two best friends (They were more than brothers to me. I mean it) few months ago.
I picked all the wrong options and did everything that I shouldn't.
All of that happened because I was too hasty and let my emotions control me. I was ANYTHING but objective and I still feel remorse every single time I think about it.Sigh, I talk way too much.
The bottom line is, be careful, yes, thats all.
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@metteminne:
my newsfeed on fb is full of people talking about jb having slept with a hooker
i really need to clear my friend list
I've always had this question in my mind, even since I was a little kid.
Why, in the name of hell, do people care about famous people's personal lives? like, WHY? logically they should only care about the thing they do, if they're musicians people should care about the music they produce. if there are atheltes people should care about how good/bad they're playing.I need one valid reason, only one, why do people care.
I demand an answer;__;
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@NER:
You remind me of how I was few months ago way too much.
Eh.. I am not sure you want anyone's advice regarding your situation but I've got one and I am going to tell you anyway. :P
Just.. try to simplfy matters, take a step back and look at the whole situation and be objective about it, sort everything out in your head before doing or saying anything to avoid any act you'll regret later.
I had a fucked up situation with my two best friends (They were more than brothers to me. I mean it) few months ago.
I picked all the wrong options and did everything that I shouldn't.
All of that happened because I was too hasty and let my emotions control me. I was ANYTHING but objective and I still feel remorse every single time I think about it.Sigh, I talk way too much.
The bottom line is, be careful, yes, thats all.
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I've always had this question in my mind, even since I was a little kid.
Why, in the name of hell, do people care about famous people's personal lives? like, WHY? logically they should only care about the thing they do, if they're musicians people should care about the music they produce. if there are atheltes people should care about how good/bad they're playing.I need one valid reason, only one, why do people care.
I demand an answer;__;
Their success makes you pick them as role model and you want to know about your role model.
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@metteminne:
my newsfeed on fb is full of people talking about jb having slept with a hooker
i really need to clear my friend list
Sex with a hooker? Isn't that illegal?
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@NER:
I've always had this question in my mind, even since I was a little kid.
Why, in the name of hell, do people care about famous people's personal lives? like, WHY? logically they should only care about the thing they do, if they're musicians people should care about the music they produce. if there are atheltes people should care about how good/bad they're playing.
I need one valid reason, only one, why do people care.
I demand an answer;__;
about athletes i dunno either.
But when i like musician, who writes music or lyrics too, not just sings, i see very little of their personality from their work, and then i get interested in it. Not with whom they sleep and things like that, (cause that's something i don't get either why people care about.) But just personality, and it means to get interested in personal life too maybe.
And it makes me respect those famous people lot more.
Or the opposite. for example it made me dislike eminem.
And if i didn't know mika's sexual orientation i wouldn't have liked him this much maybe.Those famous people aren't just robots, and their past/personality is also important. The way they became successful. And also you won't be able to understand a song that much, if you don't see the songwriter's feelings.
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@mary:
Those famous people aren't just robots,
Um, yes they are. Either that, or something close. Whatever runs through their synthetic veins is not blood, it's probably something like the blue stuff in The World's End. In fact, that whole movie is a good representation of what I'm talking about.
But really, that's the point of being famous, i'n't? To be more than human, more perfect. And to be honest, I'd like to be a famous robot, too. I mean, who wouldn't?
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Who's JB? Jon Bon Jovi?
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@wolfwoof:
Who's JB? Jon Bon Jovi?
Joe Biden obviously.
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Oh i guess that makes sense
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Um, yes they are. Either that, or something close. Whatever runs through their synthetic veins is not blood, it's probably something like the blue stuff in The World's End. In fact, that whole movie is a good representation of what I'm talking about.
defends on that famous one. btw i haven't watched that movie
But really, that's the point of being famous, i'n't? To be more than human, more perfect.
or to be more successful than others, because of hard work, talent or luck, connections. last two aren't good actually.
And to be honest, I'd like to be a famous robot, too. I mean, who wouldn't?
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One Piece and video games are my life.
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So I was at a farmer's market the other day and passed by this relatively attractive, tall, slim woman at another stall. Once I was a certain distance away she gave me one of those looks that I'm sure many of you females are familiar with that asks "is that girl more attractive than me?" And to be perfectly honest, I felt good about it, which I feel terrible about. I took pleasure in another person's moment of insecurity because I myself am so petty and insecure that I was sizing her up for the same reasons. I have probably mentioned before that I am trying to shake this mentality I have developed that being attractive is super important and I can't really tell if I have been successful or not, but this one small event was a pretty big reminder that I'm still very fixated on it.
And y'know, I'm sure this is kind of normal for most people, but personally it makes me sad because I used to focus primarily on the improvement of my character and not judge others based on appearance at all. I just had this one dude fuck with my mind pretty bad because of how much he valued appearances, but I'm tired of blaming him and just want to get back to the way I was before. Trouble is, it's impossible for me to unlearn that there are people out there who will judge me. Any advice on how to kick this unsavory mentality would be appreciated. I feel like it does not fit with the rest of my personality at all.
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I feel like it does not fit with the rest of my personality at all.
I don't really have any "advice" per se, but I will point out that the fact that this is troubling you as much as it is… seems like a good sign. In the sense that someone who's really bought into the whole scam wouldn't even pause to think about it... about how it isn't a good way to be.
So you're already in a much better position than many/most. The problem now is that your first order volition (caring about appearance) is in conflict with your second order volition (not wanting to care about appearance), and making that next leap just seems like something that will come with time. You say that you used to be in a better place until this one dude fucked you up, and while it perhaps isn't right to put all the blame on him, he was clearly a factor, and one that is presumably out of your life. There are always going to be more "that guy"s, but at least you now have the wherewithal to quickly recognize someone like that and avoid them. It's not a matter of pretending that there aren't those who will judge- just tell yourself that those kinds of people don't really matter (outside of job interviews and unfortunate situations like that...), and surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you.As for your anecdote, I can see how it would be troubling given that this is an issue you find with yourself, but out of context, something like that honestly doesn't seem terrible. I think most of us do that now and then, and caring about appearance isn't a sin in and of itself. As long as it doesn't takes priority over what really matters in an explicitly tangible and damaging way.
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Thanks CCC, I appreciate your thoughts. I know it sounds like I'm making something out of nothing but yeah, it was just a sign of some larger flaw I see in myself. I am definitely making an effort to spend more time with people who care about me. I am currently in a healthy relationship where the focus of the attraction is primarily intelligence and humor, and it actually annoys him how self conscious I am, ha. But all the same, I still spend a ridiculous amount of time checking myself out and comparing myself to others. It's like I'm trying to prove something to I don't even know who. Even if I recognize that the people who will cast you aside are assholes, it still hurts and has a really lasting impact. Though as you said, I'll probably know how to avoid further damage in the future.
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I look at or listen to things and it feels like I haven't known about them that long, yet when I look and when they're from it's like five years.
Time's passing me by and I'm not accomplishing anything, even though whenever I think about how much better I'd be if I had started drawing/making music/programming/etc… back when I first started having these thoughts.
Is this how old people feel when they're stuck in the past?
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I can't help but feel that I'm being a bother to people…
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I have yet to meet anyone that I feel any chemistry with, basically Ive yet to meet anyone I would want to call my friend. Been trying for a month and a half now. Making me wonder whats wrong with me, I'm fucking lonely and am making an effort yet i can't even find someone to have a casual chat with. I must really be ackward, too quiet of a personality and whatever in life.
I just have no clue what to do anymore.
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I have yet to meet anyone that I feel any chemistry with, basically Ive yet to meet anyone I would want to call my friend. Been trying for a month and a half now. Making me wonder whats wrong with me, I'm fucking lonely and am making an effort yet i can't even find someone to have a casual chat with. I must really be ackward, too quiet of a personality and whatever in life.
I just have no clue what to do anymore.
Find someone who has the same problems
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I can't help but feel that I'm being a bother to people…
You're not a bother here, that's for sure. Also, I'd wager it's unavoidable to not be a bother to at least someone.
so in the end, who cares. Whether you're a bother or not, just do what you're here to do in the best way possible and if people don't like that TOO BAD. (Unless of course what you're doing that is directly going against their comfort/freedom in which case yeaaa … don't do that. I think you're fine though.)
I have yet to meet anyone that I feel any chemistry with, basically Ive yet to meet anyone I would want to call my friend. Been trying for a month and a half now. Making me wonder whats wrong with me, I'm fucking lonely and am making an effort yet i can't even find someone to have a casual chat with. I must really be ackward, too quiet of a personality and whatever in life.
I just have no clue what to do anymore.
I can relate to this. Even when going into social situations I just find myself standing on my own anyway incapable of connecting with people even though I really really want to experience the concept of a good friend at some point in life.
That said, I did wind up dating someone who's just as bad as making friends so … things work out in the end somehow. It's just not really at any moment you can expect. Life likes to be unexpected like that. -
I can't help but feel that I'm being a bother to people…
I don't know what gave you this notion but you stop thinking that right this instant D:
You aren't a bother to anyone, you just need some confidence boosting :D
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Oh, thank goodness! It's just that I can be very naive at times and tend to make mistakes in conversation, messing up my words and all. In addition, I want to help people feel better, but feel like I make things worse in the attempt to do so. But I really like all of you, you've been so kind, so I don't want to be a nuisance to anyone here.
And DanMatrix, I can relate to your dilemma in a sense, but in a slightly different fashion. You see, there are so many people I want to believe can be true friends, but there have been cases in which I've been lied to or used. Sometimes, I don't know what to believe anymore, and wonder if I really have any true friends outside of family. It can feel very lonely.
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And DanMatrix, I can relate to your dilemma in a sense, but in a slightly different fashion. You see, there are so many people I want to believe can be true friends, but there have been cases in which I've been lied to or used. Sometimes, I don't know what to believe anymore, and wonder if I really have any true friends outside of family. It can feel very lonely.
i've felt that, and i don't look to those kind of people seriously and i enjoy simpler relationship i have with them.
however sometimes it can be that you think too much.
and it's nothing to worry anyway, life is long enough to realize which friends are real and to find new true ones. -
Oh, thank goodness! It's just that I can be very naive at times and tend to make mistakes in conversation, messing up my words and all. In addition, I want to help people feel better, but feel like I make things worse in the attempt to do so. But I really like all of you, you've been so kind, so I don't want to be a nuisance to anyone here.
FWIW, you've not made things worse at all for me at any point, and if I've not responded to messages, it's because my head is currently a mess. You're a good poster and this forum is glad to have you :)
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@mary:
i've felt that, and i don't look to those kind of people seriously and i enjoy simpler relationship i have with them.
however sometimes it can be that you think too much.
and it's nothing to worry anyway, life is long enough to realize which friends are real and to find new true ones.This is good advice. Safety in numbers, to some extent. I also find it helps to keep 'fingers in different pies' so to speak and have friends from different social groups so if one group has a lot of drama you can find some solace in the other, and so on.
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I have the syndrome of Asperger, well the mild form of it.
I haven't been officialy diagonesed with it yet, but as a student in psychology I have been introduced to it and 99% of the symptoms describe me pretty well. -
After much pondering I have concluded that i am one of the worst human beings when it comes to love~.
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I look at or listen to things and it feels like I haven't known about them that long, yet when I look and when they're from it's like five years.
Time's passing me by and I'm not accomplishing anything, even though whenever I think about how much better I'd be if I had started drawing/making music/programming/etc… back when I first started having these thoughts.
Is this how old people feel when they're stuck in the past?
Yeah, I know what you mean about time passing by so quickly - I think everyone feels the strangeness of time going by way too quickly.
But what I want to say is: the past is gone, focus on what's ahead. There is no use worrying over things we should have done in the past, we can never undo it. Just remember that you're here now, you're alive, you have time to do whatever you want! People find inspiration at different times in life, we're all different and there is no shred of positivity that comes from comparing ourselves to others who had found success earlier in life. It was written for them for the time that it happened, and what happens to us was written for us, and nothing can change that.
Cheer up! :) perhaps your experience from the past has influenced your drawing/music/programming in a way that makes them unique compared to if you started earlier.
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I have the syndrome of Asperger, well the mild form of it.
I haven't been officialy diagonesed with it yet, but as a student in psychology I have been introduced to it and 99% of the symptoms describe me pretty well.LOL, so you're one of us. Welcome to Confession Session.
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I really despise having my twin sister as a roommate. She's disrespectful, plays her music really loud, and acts like a ten year old when I tell her to pick up her garbage/side of the room. Ever since she moved back in, I've been more stressed out.
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I really despise having my twin sister as a roommate. She's disrespectful, plays her music really loud, and acts like a ten year old when I tell her to pick up her garbage/side of the room. Ever since she moved back in, I've been more stressed out.
Not having any siblings I can't really imagine how it must be like, still sorry to hear that.
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I confess I turned the invisible mode on because thats what all the cool kids do.
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I am not comfortable with the yellow light.. UNCOOL KID MODE: REACTIVATED.