Confession Session - LOCK THIS THREAD

Prismeru

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My sympathies, Prism, that does sound like classic depression, and it is a real nightmare to deal with and get out of because it just saps your energy, your mood, your everything.

Have you perhaps spoken to a doctor about this?

Not really. I already have Hiperactivity and uh… i think Attention disorder is the translation? so a don't know how would react to a third one :/

@Chrissie:

I still get sad/depression spells thinking about my dog passing and its been 2 years plus I got another pup that I love quite a lot… The loss of a pet is pretty hard to get over sometimes :( Also whenever you get those "Stay in bed" spells or whatever, do the exact opposite and go out for a walk or call a friend over or something. That always helps me (plus shopping therapy which consists of me buying clothes for my sister and groceries for the house lol)

Try concentrating on your work because the sense of accomplishment you get when you do something, is a good anti-depressant by itself! Keep the chocolate close just in case!

You kidding me? What does it matter if it's shit or whatever? You are publishing a book! O: That is awesome and very brave. And it's experience that matters the most. You WILL get better only if you keep writing and writing and publishing more so even if you think your writing is bad now, it can only get better so don't give up especially if it's something you love doing. Also going online for free advertisement is a good idea. See if you can get Amazon to sell it for you too. :U Good luck man!

Thanks for the support Chrissie.

Coby

@TheCrystalShip:

Don't waste your time on them, there is a burgeoning hotbed of people who share your beliefs and are willing to fight alongside you.

He went on to call me ignorant and racist along with the other people who happened to be white (I don't hate them) just because I was trying to educate him and the others about the inequality that's still out there.
He wouldnt even watch that video which lead to me calling him ignorant (not knowing) and they all came at me. I just don't like seeing another black person so uneducated about this type of stuff, but whatever. He lives in Florida, he'll find out.

TheCrystalShip

@Coby:

He lives in Florida, he'll find out.

If he survives long enough yeah.

Purple Hermit

Bigots will always be out there in the world. Just gotta keep fightin', man.

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'Colorblind' implies you don't think there is a problem to see. It's almost worse than admitted racism because it's racism under the claim of egalitarianism.

But yeah, I'm reluctant to say much on this because I figure, as a white person, I should be the one listening at this point.

Hiroy

Personally I don't really care much to change the minds of people that are on the opposing side of social beliefs I stand up for(especially in terms of equality). That's really their own decision to make. If anything, you should be happy with the people you rally or manage to convince with your words. It's something that's going to stick with them and would be passed on for generations to come. It's an optimistic way of looking at things, but eh… progress happens and things don't always remain the same. History have already proven that.

But yeah. Keep speaking. Kick the naysayers to the curb.

Coby

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'Colorblind' implies you don't think there is a problem to see. It's almost worse than admitted racism because it's racism under the claim of egalitarianism.

But yeah, I'm reluctant to say much on this because I figure, as a white person, I should be the one listening at this point.

He doesn't think there's a problem m

cpuguy18

@Medical:

cpuguy18 is my spirit animal.

uh Thanks ? 16char

taboo

@Coby:

He doesn't think there's a problem m

it's hard to convince a guy like that without like…. physically showing him the effects of white colonialism/racism. maybe show him The Wire or something

Coby

@taboo:

it's hard to convince a guy like that without like…. physically showing him the effects of white colonialism/racism. maybe show him The Wire or something

I've already recommended it. He's actually a youtuber and made a video a while back on why he doesn't like hanging out with black people.

taboo

you mean a youtumor… heh

Coby

He is the affects of colonialism and the gentrification of black America.

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Actually not colonialism because we aren't South African. I'm also a product of the gentrification of black America as well but not as extreme as him i guess m

TheCrystalShip

Just had something eerily similar happen in my sociology class, LOL.

Coby

@TheCrystalShip:

Just had something eerily similar happen in my sociology class, LOL.

16 characters of story time

TheCrystalShip

@Coby:

16 characters of story time

He basically said that he doesn't believe that racism is systemic in nature,
and he doesn't believe that people are socialized to hold inherently racist beliefs and assumptions.

Then he got called out by the teacher
and pretty much everybody in the class who was willing to speak up, LOL.

Coby

For some reason despite not being an extrovert, introversion really irritates me and I don't get it and I know that I shouldn't feel that way.

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I also hate the terms introverts and extroverts.

Warp Predator

@Coby:

For some reason despite not being an extrovert, introversion really irritates me and I don't get it and I know that I shouldn't feel that way.

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I also hate the terms introverts and extroverts.

Now this is interesting. Explain.

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Intoversion and Extoversion is a false binary. It sort of implies you have to be one or the other when most people I know are a mix of both, or somehow both at the same time.

Warp Predator

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Intoversion and Extoversion is a false binary. It sort of implies you have to be one or the other when most people I know are a mix of both, or somehow both at the same time.

Erm..exactly. Those are opposite points on a scale (strong inhibition - weak inhibition, active - passive).
It doesn't make those definitions false, just unnecessarily generalized.

Purple Hermit

Yeah but it's those strong generalizations that kinda really don't work well with common layman's terms. Lots of people identify or classify themselves purely one or the other when most of the time it really isn't that simple.

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@Warp:

Erm..exactly. Those are opposite points on a scale (strong inhibition - weak inhibition, active - passive).
It doesn't make those definitions false, just unnecessarily generalized.

Opposite points on a scale doesn't tally with being both at the same time though. Basically, it's not one binary scale.

Warp Predator

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Warp Predator

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Opposite points on a scale doesn't tally with being both at the same time though. Basically, it's not one binary scale.

You can't be both at the same time. You can be different in different situations, and that puts you in the middle of a scale.
Not at both of extreme points.

Purple Hermit

idk, even at the extremities of being one or another at times, I still definitely do not feel that introversion and extroversion are quality descriptors of a person's habits. I for one definitely do not consider myself an extrovert, but at the same time I definitely do not see that introversion is right either. To that end I think there are people who definitely are trying to ring up the ambiversion term as an inbetween.

Warp Predator

@Purple:

idk, even at the extremities of being one or another at times, I still definitely do not feel that introversion and extroversion are quality descriptors of a person's habits. I for one definitely do not consider myself an extrovert, but at the same time I definitely do not see that introversion is right either. To that end I think there are people who definitely are trying to ring up the ambiversion term as an inbetween.

Well, that's why scale is there in the first place. There are methods of measuring person's level of inhibition etc. It won't some kind of exact measure, but it shows one's disposition at the moment.
I personally think that inhibition x activity temperament scale is better than simple "intravert x extravert", but that doesn't make latter less legit scientifically.

Purple Hermit

Scientifically, yeah, and it has its purposes in psychological diagnoses, but in the popular lexicon, it definitely has taken on a more binary form. One where people either strive to be an extrovert or define themselves as being socially inept and introverted.

Warp Predator

You is absolutely correct, but now, back at where this discussion started… people are offended now when they are labeled introvert\extrovert? Did I get that right?

"Im shy, but I have friends and attend parties, don't mix me with those introvert people"? This kind of thing?

zachri

@TheCrystalShip:

I thought this was the coolest shit ever when I first saw it on TV:

Still badass.

Kankuro is the best.
He's wasted in Naruto.
Also I love some of the Bleach soundtracks (especc Nemu's french sounding song)

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Also I like big butts and I cannot lie.

Oathkeeper

Glad to see some love for Kankuro over here.

Also I identify to lots of songs in Naruto.

Also god I hate Suckra's english voice.

Prismeru

So, you know. I have gout and i think the depression from yesterday triggered some symptoms in me. I haven't had theses attacks in months and now it hurts so much Dx I can't even feel because i become pain, the mourner of world. :S

zachri

Speaking of depression, my medication (second one I've been put on) stopped working around 1-2 weeks ago but I'm so scared I'd get a negative response from mosseur if I asked if I could change them that I'm having to pretend they're working… even though I'm sat here depressed because I once more failed to motivate myself to go into a lecture...

Mr.point

@Warp:

You is absolutely correct, but now, back at where this discussion started… people are offended now when they are labeled introvert\extrovert? Did I get that right?

"Im shy, but I have friends and attend parties, don't mix me with those introvert people"? This kind of thing?

introversion isn't a problem .

just saying : )

square

@Warp:

You is absolutely correct, but now, back at where this discussion started… people are offended now when they are labeled introvert\extrovert? Did I get that right?

"Im shy, but I have friends and attend parties, don't mix me with those introvert people"? This kind of thing?

What, does that surprise you?

Carmilla

@Warp:

You is absolutely correct, but now, back at where this discussion started… people are offended now when they are labeled introvert\extrovert? Did I get that right?

"Im shy, but I have friends and attend parties, don't mix me with those introvert people"? This kind of thing?

Ain't introversion better than shyness? :blink:

Warp Predator

@Carmilla:

Ain't introversion better than shyness? :blink:

Better…as in...? Why? Is shyness bad? Erm. Wait. How can vague scientific definition be better than mundane definition of basically same group of traits?

@square:

What, does that surprise you?

More like curiosly baffled.

Purple Hermit

@Warp:

You is absolutely correct, but now, back at where this discussion started… people are offended now when they are labeled introvert\extrovert? Did I get that right?

"Im shy, but I have friends and attend parties, don't mix me with those introvert people"? This kind of thing?

Or potentially the reverse, where you don't attend parties or have too many friends but you're comfortable with where you are and you don't have any problems socializing if you need to.

I believe there's probably a lot of culture associated with it. A lot of times extroversion or traits an extrovert would have would be more apt to be seen as desirable, as it allows for potentially better opportunities in the workplace and that extroversion tends to be associated with more positive emotion and thinking. Also, there's a big stigma that introversion beyond that, simply that introverted people are withdrawn from society and any group.

Carmilla

@Warp:

Better…as in...? Why? Is shyness bad? Erm. Wait. How can vague scientific definition be better than mundane definition of basically same group of traits?

Shyness and introversion aren't the same. Shyness is the problem you wanna improve, and you are uncomfortable with. While introversion is just preference, something you are comfortable with…

Warp Predator

@Carmilla:

Shyness and introversion aren't the same. Shyness is the problem you wanna improve, and you are uncomfortable with. While introversion is just preference, something you are comfortable with…

Different approach doesn't make things different. No matter if you want to overcome certain fears and/or psychological restrictions, or you are comfortable with them as they don't hinder your chosen lifestyle. They are still the same processes.

Carmilla

@Warp:

Different approach doesn't make things different. No matter if you want to overcome certain fears and/or psychological restrictions, or you are comfortable with them as they don't hinder your chosen lifestyle. They are still the same processes.

It's nothing as shyness. Come on… You don't have any problem with communicating people and stuff...

Monkey King

@Coby:

For example yesterday I was called racist during a debate I was having on a facebook page for not believing that society was completely equal and not colorblind and that blacks didn't have a struggle still. I said that I was going to major in African American studies and get involved in charities to try to improve the situation of blacks and was called a racist for not wanting to improve the position of everybody.

Whoever was saying those are idiots.
Saying it's bad to fixate on one thing is retarded as well.
OH YOU WANT TO FOCUS ON RIVER POLLUTION??? GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO SAVE THE EARTH, JUST RIVERS.

Purple Hermit

@Carmilla:

It's nothing as shyness. Come on… You don't have any problem with communicating people and stuff...

I would argue that in many prospects, shyness in that case would be worse then if that were the case.

Introversion, being comfortable therein of being withdrawn, and doing nothing to change it is worse than wanting to come out of that shell if that is how you approach shyness.

TheCrystalShip

@Monkey:

Whoever was saying those are idiots.
Saying it's bad to fixate on one thing is retarded as well.
OH YOU WANT TO FOCUS ON RIVER POLLUTION??? GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO SAVE THE EARTH, JUST RIVERS.

It also devalues the personal experiences that determined our specific focus and area of expertise.

No Maam

I often fear that I won't be able to reply to someone else's serious confessions/etc. with enough sincerity for it to not seem insincere and faked and whatnot.

I also fear thinking about this might be egotistical.

Warp Predator

@Carmilla:

It's nothing as shyness. Come on… You don't have any problem with communicating people and stuff...

We are looking at things from different perspective.
There are no people at extreme points, and everyone is somewhere inbetween (back to scale).
Shyness is just manifestation of psychological inhibition. Introversion is a point in inhibition/activity scale.
And level of social interest is directly linked to feeling of comfort in social interactions.

Carmilla

@Purple:

I would argue that in many prospects, shyness in that case would be worse then if that were the case.

Introversion, being comfortable therein of being withdrawn, and doing nothing to change it is worse than wanting to come out of that shell if that is how you approach shyness.

Why do you think introvents are withdrawn or in a shell? Or that it's about "I wanna be iike that I like it so much~"?

Purple Hermit

@Carmilla:

Why do you think introvents are withdrawn or in a shell? Or that it's about "I wanna be iike that I like it so much~"?

That's essentially the definition of introversion lol

It's why psychologists utilize a scale system as opposed to the black and white approach of society because the majority of people do not fall into one extreme or another.

Coby

For one thing I just hate the concept of introversion or extroversion as a whole so that bothers me and I guess it just stems from the majorityof the introverts I've interacted with offline and online have acted as if being introverted makes you better than extroverts though that same concept goes both ways. Also a lot of them have been oblivious to certain social p's and q's and are fairly anti-social which is probably a completely seperate issue than actual introversion but whenever I see them complain about small talk and not getting into deep conversations I can't help but wonder how they think youre supposed to get to those deep conversations. You don't just walk about to somebody and ask them about what they think about the current socio economic problems facing impoverished children in Zimbabwe, you ask them about their day or the new haircut they have (though in theory they would not be apporaching them in the first place). I'm not an introvert or an extrovert at all, I'm just me and depending on the situation I may be reserved or outgoing. I guess it's just a personal problem of mine that I know is wrong.
I guess it could also have something to do with the cultural values of America as well I guess.

Carmilla

@Purple:

That's essentially the definition of introversion lol

It's why psychologists utilize a scale system as opposed to the black and white approach of society because the majority of people do not fall into one extreme or another.

Purple which isn't that purple anymore, whats your definition of introvert person?

Nolus

I'm satisfied with myself right now. I've come a long way from one year ago (even if my mom and brother won't admit it) and I feel like a happier person.
Although I still have some downs, and they quite bother me.

! You see, I've had this "inner me" in myself for a long long time. Let me explain:
The inner me is still me, but she's more confident, courageous and social. She's someone I'd wanted to become for the longest time.
I want to be tougher. I want my friends to look at me and say "You are really cool and it's great having you around!". A niche as it sounds, I would still melt if someone said "You're so different from other girls" because truth to be told, I want to be different.
! I want to make a difference. I want to be a brave and confident person I imagine myself to be. I don't want to be frail and weak.
I don't want to feel envy or other bad feelings when my friends talk about girls. I don't want to feel bad that one of them is getting a girlfriend.
! Is it right? Is this wanting to become better or an entirely different person? Is this a bad thing to strive for? Or is it what they call becoming a better human?

No Maam

@Nolus:

I'm satisfied with myself right now. I've come a long way from one year ago (even if my mom and brother won't admit it) and I feel like a happier person.
Although I still have some downs, and they quite bother me.

! You see, I've had this "inner me" in myself for a long long time. Let me explain:
The inner me is still me, but she's more confident, courageous and social. She's someone I'd wanted to become for the longest time.
I want to be tougher. I want my friends to look at me and say "You are really cool and it's great having you around!". A niche as it sounds, I would still melt if someone said "You're so different from other girls" because truth to be told, I want to be different.
! I want to make a difference. I want to be a brave and confident person I imagine myself to be. I don't want to be frail and weak.
I don't want to feel envy or other bad feelings when my friends talk about girls. I don't want to feel bad that one of them is getting a girlfriend.
! Is it right? Is this wanting to become better or an entirely different person? Is this a bad thing to strive for? Or is it what they call becoming a better human?

There's nothing wrong with wanting to better oneself, if that's what you really want.