@MagiciteKefka:
! I feel fucking awful right now.
! As some of you may or may not know, I'm planning on moving to my boyfriend in the US. This of course requires much planning and many hardships. Just today I found out that it is possible for a homosexual couple to get married, and still get the same rights that a same-sex couple gets, i.e. an immigration visa for the one living outside of the US. I of course thought that this would be the absolute best way for me to move over there, and since we've been together for almost a year now I'm getting really anxious to do it. I asked my boyfriend about it, and if he knew about the recent changes to the law, and he just instantly clammed up. He told me to never bring up the concept of marriage ever again, and now he's acting oddly distant. I just feel so… betrayed. Not that he doesn't want to marry me, because honestly I don't care THAT much about that, but just the fact that he denies the best way for us to live together. He'd rather spend another year separate than us getting married and being able to be with each other a month from now. I just feel sad since this means that the only, and I do mean only, way for me to get over there now is through studying, and even so it's no guarantee that I'll get accepted to the school and it's gonna cost a buttload of money that I just don't have. I feel utterly betrayed and sad and just wants to curl away into nothingness.
! I just don't know what I'm gonna do.
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I'm with Carmilla on this one, do you WANT to come to the US? Is that what you are wanting to do with your life and badly? Would you be happy living here if it wasn't with your boyfriend?
If the answer is no, then you might want to rethink your plans. It sounds like your boyfriend completely shut down even at the idea of a marriage of convenience. It's not like you can't get it annulled later. Whats important is to just get yourselves established first. Also check what state he is in, because the majority of states still don't have same-sex marriage legalized and not every state even allows "commonlaw marriage" between same sex couples. That would probably be the best thing for you and your boyfriend, but it sounds like for the green card you need to be officially married.[/hide]
@Kitsune:
Sigh… Wondering if I SHOULD feel like a bad person or if I'm just being guilted into feeling that way?
! My grandma was hospitalized back in September after a heart attack, and well, she finally came home in November, but she wasn't in the best shape. She was only really released on the grounds that my mom, my aunt, and my uncle help take care of her day-to-day needs. She was with my mom 24/7, but my aunt convinced her to move back to her home about 90 miles away from my mom, so they would take care of her. On the surface, this was great, since my grandma could stay at her own place. But then I came home for winter break.
! My aunt, who vowed to take care of my grandma on the condition that she gets to come home, has not been over here with her once since I've been here. Her reasoning is that I'm here and I can take care of and it's why I'm here in the first place and there's a little more to it that I won't stoop to her level repeating but basically, me being here is her and her family's excuse for not even coming over to check on her.
! I have no problem helping my grandma. But my health has deteriorated significantly over the past three weeks. I get roughly 1 to 2 hours of sleep each night, because taking care of my grandma is a 24 hour job. My biggest issue is that I'm dealing with an impacted wisdom tooth I can't afford to extract, that I think is on the verge of infection. Pain relievers have been ineffective, so the only solution I have left to turn to is to knock myself out with sleeping pills just to escape the pain. Problem with that plan is, I'm awake an hour later because my grandpa has to run my AUNT TO THE STORE and my grandma can't be here alone. My aunt who has essentially abandoned my grandma the whole time I'm here. Her reason? Her husband's back trouble. >_>
! Never mind the fact I'm terrified that I might get a serious mouth infection i can do nothing about because I'm so fucking dirt poor and can't do anything about it right now that I'm basically the ONLY ONE even trying to help my grandma anymore. I feel shitty for complaining, but that just makes me feel shittier that I'm expected to feel shitty over complaining over this. I reiterate. I have no problem helping my grandma. But now I'm the only one doing it. And the people who vowed to help her are nowhere to be seen unless they want something. And I just don't know what to do, especially since I go back to school in two weeks. With excruciating pain on the side.
No Fox, there's nothing wrong with your. Your aunt is being a bitch.
There's a few options you might can look at for your teeth:
1.)Considering visiting your dentist for an exam and to just get on a really strong antibiotic to keep it at bay for awhile. Or if you have a good relationship with your doctor, tell them what's happening and maybe they can write you an antibiotic to tide you over for awhile.
2.)There's a credit card called Care Credit that lets you put stuff like dentist bills on a payment plan. Some places I think now have even 4 year payment plans (but not every dentist does this, gotta ask first). This is what I've had to do with mine. Unfortunately I had to fill it up fixing just ONE tooth because it was a month before my insurance started. I've got probably $3K worth of shit to do to my teeth but I'm not going to be able to have that card paid off in time for June when the insurance goes from a $500 deductible to $2000 =___= sdfkldfklskfsdflksdf.
As long as you pay the balance off during the promo period, you won't be charged interest. The only problem is if you don't have insurance, thats going to be super expensive and you have to have some established credit to get a decent starting limit. WITH insurance I still think it cost a little over $1000 to have 3 of my wisdom teeth removed and I spent $1600 fixing that one damned front tooth last summer .____. It's a long shot but you can always apply and try, just do it BEFORE you go to the dentist and have any work done, and call and ask them before you set up an appointment if they take care credit. Most seem to do, now.
3.) You might can contact your local department of health and they can probably direct you to a low cost and POSSIBLY a place that has a sliding payment scale. That's a maybe, it's still going to be high for a wisdom tooth removal I think.
Though I second what Foolio says, and I'd get it done before you have to have your jaw removed due to sepsis. Or you're stuck in the hospital for days getting antibiotic treatments to prevent sepsis/jaw removal. The possible complications are exponentially more expensive then just the initial tooth removal.
@TheCrystalShip:
Well I had a complete fucking breakdown in therapy today, was deemed a liability to my therapist,
**was indirectly compared to the Aurora shoote**r, and now I'm one wrong move away from having the cops sicked on me. =__=
Thanks for all your replies, though. Sometimes it feels like everybody has me on ignore.
What the flying FUCK
NO. Wether indirectly or not the fact someone would even BEGIN to imply that…
Oh hell no, I am so enraged right now. Said that about YOU?! Hell I'm probably way off kilter then most, I can't imagine anyone saying that about you. I obviously don't know what you're talking about with this therapist and you don't need to share, but WOW. You don't SAY that to people. We've all got inner demons and think things that aren't exactly healthy or "sane", and some people choose to share these things because they DON'T want to act upon them and want to stay on the straight and narrow… which now makes me wonder if people think I'm insane XDDD
D:< Though this intrigues me. As someone who'd like to go the therapist/psychologist route, I couldn't ever see myself feeling that way about a patient. Sure, if someone is OBVIOUSLY, BLATANTLY INSANE, I'd report it but I can't see people as "liabilities" and "accidents waiting to happen." If there's a liable threat/the person is a danger to themselves and others, it should be taken care of. I don't think you'd be here, capable of chatting along and talking to us like you do if that was the case, to be perfectly honest. Mental health is a serious business, and it's one that has to be approached with a lot of sensitivity. I'm glad you ditched them because that's someone looking out for only the money, and not your wellbeing. I bounced around to so many doctors before I found one that wasn't like that, it's real obvious when you're just another $$$ to be made and not an actual human being with real concerns to these people. I wish people didn't get into the business if they don't give a shit.
I don't care if I make an insane wage working as a child psychologist/therapist, that's not what it's being done for at all.