I don't know…are we supposed to feel bad for Linlin/BM? 'cause I certainly don't feel that way...
I think we're supposed to feel bad for her, yes, but not as much as understand where she came from and why Caramel plays such a large part in scarring her psyche.
I do feel a little bad at the idea of a kid who just wants to do stuff right but accidentally hurts those around her, especially as it was adults failing her that caused the issue in the first place. Her parents just dumped her instead of trying to stick through and teach her right from wrong, Caramel never properly helped her realise that her actions, no matter how well-intentioned, had consequences or that she should feel responsible for those consequences, good or bad. None of the adults around her thought to question whether such an odd child should be made to take part in their ceremony, especially when they knew that she had issues with requiring a large amount of food. Also, someone should have noticed how oddly she reacted to the Semla - the panels that show her eating and reacting to it definitely set off more than a few warning bells. That kind of severe reaction should have exempted her from fasting for so long, especially seeing as her biology wasn't really understood. That'd be like giving a kid peanut butter for the first time, seeing them dive into the whole jar with just their fingers, and then saying "You know what? I don't see an issue here. Oh, by the way, you're not eating for the next x days or so now."
Frankly, she'd been let down quite a bit and the adults should have known better.
I don't feel sorry for her adult form, but I do feel sad for the abandoned girl who was never taught better and whose symptoms were ignored completely.
How much do you regulate a 5 year old. She did tell her why what she was fixing didn't need fixing.
Got a 5 year old niece. She pulled our cat's tail and got told off for it. She wall pulled aside, scolded and had it explained to her that animals have to be treated gently or they could get seriously injured. Hey, guess what? She now treats the animals gently and they don't get hurt. Hell, they don't run from the room when she comes in any more either. Kids learn if you bother to pull them up on their bad behaviour and actually teach them. They're not stupid.