Girl Troubles D=

--MRED--

its not so much of a problem HAVING a girlfriend
but its The fact that i am unable to get one

Yes i know the INTEROWEBS is the wrong place to ask for advice
but the thing is i don't know how to overcome some of my phobia's

First off im really shy, and im bad talking to people who aren't my friends, when i talk to random people i tend to stutter really bad, i mean i can talk just fine when im not nervous or talking to a clerk of some kind

Second off, They're alot of attractive females at my new school but the thing is, They're really into things like Drugs (nothing big, Weed mainly), i have no problems with drugs myself, but i just don't feel comfortable or, "Safe" per'se around People like that (not stoners they're silly, i mean the people who do most of the selling) and me just getting arrested (Something really petty, but arrested none-the-less) i think it would be a good thing to keep my nose clean, or Just bleach my "nose" all together, But My Libido, and my lack of a intimitent person just makes me really confused

And third off most of them are all "GANGSTA" or "Emo" or some kind of "MYSPACE KID GENERATION", Once again i have no problem with that, but i feel with that in the way people just don't act truely themselves…

Some advice would be really nice

Cochise

Stay away from the girls that post pictures of themselves on myspace with guns its nothing but trouble.

@--MRED--:

its not so much of a problem HAVING a girlfriend
but its The fact that i am unable to get one

Yes i know the INTEROWEBS is the wrong place to ask for advice
but the thing is i don't know how to overcome some of my phobia's

First off im really shy, and im bad talking to people who aren't my friends, when i talk to random people i tend to stutter really bad, i mean i can talk just fine when im not nervous or talking to a clerk of some kind

Second off, They're alot of attractive females at my new school but the thing is, They're really into things like Drugs (nothing big, Weed mainly), i have no problems with drugs myself, but i just don't feel comfortable or, "Safe" per'se around People like that (not stoners they're silly, i mean the people who do most of the selling) and me just getting arrested (Something really petty, but arrested none-the-less) i think it would be a good thing to keep my nose clean, or Just bleach my "nose" all together, But My Libido, and my lack of a intimitent person just makes me really confused

And third off most of them are all "GANGSTA" or "Emo" or some kind of "MYSPACE KID GENERATION", Once again i have no problem with that, but i feel with that in the way people just don't act truely themselves…

Some advice would be really nice

Well just get over the shy thing and be yourself thats the best thing to do and most cliche but oh well

and maybe its not a good idea to go seeking out girls right now anyway cause woman are nothing but trouble and drama and you probably have other problems anyway

and theres already a thread for this kind of thing look it up.

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@DougyDougyGiro!*:

Well just get over the shy thing and be yourself thats the best thing to do and most cliche but oh well

and maybe its not a good idea to go seeking out girls right now anyway cause woman are nothing but trouble and drama and you probably have other problems anyway

and theres already a thread for this kind of thing look it up.

Well, being 17 and never having any kind of real realationship
i find that REALLY hard to do

Also i had no idea that such a thread existed, I would of put this in a Help section, but it must of slipped my mind

Refii

@--MRED--:

And third off most of them are all "GANGSTA" or "Emo" or some kind of "MYSPACE KID GENERATION", Once again i have no problem with that, but i feel with that in the way people just don't act truely themselves…

Get over your personal problems with "fake" people and just go for it. Honestly, these girls sound like they'd be pretty easy to get as your girlfriend, and believe me, if a decent girl realizes she has a decent boyfriend, she will quit smoking/doing drugs for you once you start going steady.

Honestly, take a shot while you're still young, and don't worry about trust or w/e, if you don't get hurt now it'll probably hurt you more in the future if you have your first relationship experience then.

Malintex_Terek

@--MRED--:

First off im really shy, and im bad talking to people who aren't my friends, when i talk to random people i tend to stutter really bad, i mean i can talk just fine when im not nervous or talking to a clerk of some kind

I need not read no futher; work with yourself on getting to interact with strangers better. Start off small like stand around them at a bus station and just say something random; do this for a while then get up to chit chat, then stare 'em in the face, then introduce yourself and set up real chat (over the course of a month or so). It'll work out, I promise.

After that, you've got options; one of the reasons people get "shy" is they're too attatched to the people they knew when they were young.

For example, I couldn't bear the thought of fudging any of my High School classmates; it gives me an incest-vibe, even if that's not the case. If Luffy himself were sexually active I doubt he'd bang either Robin or Nami; it's too weird.

Anyway, get to know other people and establish relationships with them based on different personalities you experiment with in public. Try being extroverted, introverted, cynical, casual, intellectual, optimistic, or even act gay.

Heresay: if you see two girls (not at a college) who are by themselves drinking, approach the one you don't want to hook up with and interrupt their conversation with a gay accent; point to the girl you want to hook up with and say something gay like "If I was straight, I'd totally eat you up, girl". Then, chat up for a while and get to know the girls; it won't matter if you're gay or not after that first encounter.

Cr4zy

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…They're alot of attractive females at my new school but the thing is, They're really into things like Drugs (nothing big, Weed mainly),

You find Weed NOT big? Anyways about your stuttering part. I sometimes do that too, I dont know why, but I just try to calm down with my "happy place". Works for me, maybe it'll work for you.

@Mr.Prince:

You find Weed NOT big?

Well it isn't a big thing if you compare it to tweeking or other drugs.

raj

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agh

Today at school i didn't bite D:
I was to busy thinking about it D:

this is going to be hard

Roz

Late to the party advice from a girl (Gaspo):

You don't have a girlfriend because you don't need a girlfriend. Forced relationships are like trying to get a river to run backwards.

Buuhan1

@Roz:

Late to the party advice from a girl (Gaspo):

You don't have a girlfriend because you don't need a girlfriend. Forced relationships are like trying to get a river to run backwards.

QFMFT!!! Truer words have never been spoken on this forum before!

claps crazily

Cochise

@Roz:

Late to the party advice from a girl (Gaspo):

You don't have a girlfriend because you don't need a girlfriend. Forced relationships are like trying to get a river to run backwards.

hmmm, I've never thought of it like that before.:happy:

Link-kun

Stay away from wanna be gansta chicks. Especially young ones. They don't seem to understand how dangerous claiming a gang is. I was almost shot and my friend got stabbed because of one retarted chick.

And the whole studdering and intimidation thing can be resolved with friends who give you confidence. Once you have confidence you wont be shy or intimidated by anyone.

lorenzo

Aaaah!! This thread is the best. This thread brings me back to Memory Lane. I've been creating threads like these in KF. And it's one of the main reasons why I got banned!!

--MRED--

@Roz:

Late to the party advice from a girl (Gaspo):

You don't have a girlfriend because you don't need a girlfriend. Forced relationships are like trying to get a river to run backwards.

That sounds half right, yet half wrong..

When do you NEED a girlfriend?

i really Want girlfriend
A intimate relationship

sitting around doing nothing isn't exactly a Good thing to do

Hell i don't even remember the last time i've ever had a Friend who was female

Penkanuin

It partly sounds from the last thing you've said that you generally only have problems with females. Even though the girlfriend part is given, it's the not remembering having a female friend.

I think that just overcoming the hurdle of being shy is the only problem. It's the fear of rejection and that's not an easy one. The only that you can really do…is just do it. Force yourself past the shy barrier. If you are in a new school, no one really knows who you are and how you are. Try, really hard, to be the non-shy version of who you are. It's sort of a practice type of thing. Eventually you'll find that it gets easier.

Roz

@--MRED--:

When do you NEED a girlfriend?

i really Want girlfriend
A intimate relationship

sitting around doing nothing isn't exactly a Good thing to do

You never need a girlfriend, really. If you're forcing it, I'd be willing to put money on it being a pretty crappy relationship.

I mean like,are you determined that this is the only thing that'll make you happy? Because let me tell you, I really want a melon lollipop and I've only got one that I'm saving for later, but you know what? I could go downstairs right now and make some chocolate pudding and I would be damn happy with it because chocolate pudding is awesome.

What I'm getting at is that there should be other ways to make you happy than clinging to some chick.

--MRED--

@Roz:

What I'm getting at is that there should be other ways to make you happy than clinging to some chick.

Thats the thing
Whats the point of making pudding if even pudding can't fill you up?

What if you had a slight taste of that watermelon pop, and Felt amazing?

Are we talking about food now?

Roz

No man, no. Doesn't work that way. Choco-pudding is supreme.

Taking it a step further, what if someone told me to pick a watermelon lolly out of a box and there was a 50% chance that the center would be filled with shit?

I think I'd settle for the pudding.

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@Roz:

No man, no. Doesn't work that way. Choco-pudding is supreme.

Taking it a step further, what if someone told me to pick a watermelon lolly out of a box and there was a 50% chance that the center would be filled with shit?

I think I'd settle for the pudding.

Isn't life about takin risk?
50 percent chance of shit
but a 50 percent chance of pure awsome

gaara d. lucci

When all else fails in getting a girlfriend, move to the next best thing, dead girls. Good old necrophilia never hurt nobody, ask Quagmire. LOL

Ramza

@--MRED--:

That sounds half right, yet half wrong..

When do you NEED a girlfriend?

i really Want girlfriend
A intimate relationship

sitting around doing nothing isn't exactly a Good thing to do

Hell i don't even remember the last time i've ever had a Friend who was female

asking us will do u no good either…all we can tell u is "go for it" in different variations

in fact...asking us is pretty much the same as sitting around and doing nothing...

--MRED--

D:!
By God Man You're Right

Captain_Harlock

@Ramza:

asking us will do u no good either…all we can tell u is "go for it" in different variations

in fact...asking us is pretty much the same as sitting around and doing nothing...

You kill happiness.

I was going to tell you to go for it. You aren't getting shit sitting on your ass are you?

Ramza

@Captain_Harlock:

You kill happiness.

I was going to tell you to go for it. You aren't getting shit sitting on your ass are you?

if i actually knew what u were trying to state, id probably be upset

Refii

@Roz:

No man, no. Doesn't work that way. Choco-pudding is supreme.

Taking it a step further, what if someone told me to pick a watermelon lolly out of a box and there was a 50% chance that the center would be filled with shit?

I think I'd settle for the pudding.

You know what's better than being a fat chick that eats pudding alone downstairs?

Sitting with someone you love and sharing that very same pudding so you can get fat together and have more of each other to love.

Ps don't take that fat thing too seriously, puddings just fattening.. seriously :sad:
Go for it dude, do it for little Ramza and little captain harlock, and most of all.. do it for your country.. unless you're an unpatriotic commie.

Captain_Harlock

@Ramza:

if i actually knew what u were trying to state, id probably be upset

Why would you be upset? It was another way of saying that you can't get anything done by not trying.

Ramza

@Captain_Harlock:

Why would you be upset? It was another way of saying that you can't get anything done by not trying.

lol that was the opposite of what i thought it meant :sideways:

Captain_Harlock

@Ramza:

lol that was the opposite of what i thought it meant :sideways:

lol That is okay.

I feel your pain…....but you know what? I'm over it now. I've been obsessing over this girl I've known for quiete a while. Thinking about her non stop every single day. I've known her since she was like 5, so seeing her transform into one of those fake cheerleader types kinda bothers me. Anyway, yeah most fake girls are extremely sensitive if you talk to them the right way and express how you feel and have good sources to back you up with. Then BAM, it'll happen. Cause they start to feel frustrated and will come after you. At least this will happen if you know this girl….....

zeroxtb

@gaara:

When all else fails in getting a girlfriend, move to the next best thing, dead girls. Good old necrophilia never hurt nobody, ask Quagmire. LOL

Fleur

Having a partner is nice, but you gotta be really patient.
And I don't think what you're doing right now is forcing it. :)
You're practicing.
I think the best way to talk to people is through friends you already have.
If a few of your friends are talking to some girls you don't know, go over and talk to them. That way, you won't be so nervous when talking to the girls because you have a little familiarity.