Parents divorced? or not?

--MRED--

This may seem like a personal thread (oh hell it is D:)

But i've noticed that it seems to be alot more people are starting to divorce, or have been raised in divorced families

Explain your views on such things

I personally think that, if you're going to get married, Work on compromise, Knowing several loved ones who've been through it, Say its one of the major things in a Divorce, If you're not willing to compromise, then Dimplomacy is lacking, And dimplomacy is one of the many things that a relationship needs

Not to mention, Likes, dislikes, beliefs, Violence

This might be a good trait that the future of Children might go through maybe they will put more thought into relationships
(Divorce, may or may not be a good thing for kids to go through, its really rough i know, i am just saying one of the Few informative and defining things in such a situation, so i am not going DIVORCE IS AWSUM LOL)

Don't know if it sounds heartless or not, but it kinda strings things out
But, Some Relationships are Salvagable

Zulen

If you're not happy, get a divorce. Why make your children suffer?

Saloma

What Private Zulen said, and the fact that people get married too early anyway. Marriage is supposed to be forever, but lately we've been making a mockery out of that. I say there should be some sort of counceling before any marriage with no exceptions, so they won't get devorced 12 hours after getting married.

As for the question, they are technically not together anymore.

KamenRiderNeko

…My parents are divorced, and both are now remarried to other people.

I must admit though, I went through the whole "It was probably my fault they split up" when they first divorced. Heh, they're better off now though.

And I, myself am going through a divorce.... Let's just say he was a useless schmuck who can't even admit his own mistakes as to why we are getting divorced. Its annoying as hell because he hasn't signed the papers yet, because his mother decided to interfere... I won't go into too much details, nobody cares about that.

Anyways, even if we do go to court for this, I still have the advantage here since I am the one who filed for the divorce.

@Saloma:

What Private Zulen said, and the fact that people get married too early anyway. Marriage is supposed to be forever, but lately we've been making a mockery out of that. I say there should be some sort of counceling before any marriage with no exceptions, so they won't get devorced 12 hours after getting married.

As for the question, they are technically not together anymore.

Yeah, you're absolutely right.
Its a scary thought that I got married when I was only 19 years old and still going through college >_>;

Mumbo

The way I see it, quite obviously a couple doesn't get married with the intentions of getting divorced later. I don't think a couple should be quick to divorce - marriage is a very important bond. But sometimes things just plain don't work out. If you've tried everything to try and reconcile the relationship and work out the issues and it just isn't working, then the marriage probably isn't meant to be and divorce is the answer.

I agree with Saloma. People are getting married too early these days. On a different note, I'm not a big fan on couples planning out how they're going to divide everything up should they get divorced before they're even married - serious prenups or whatever it's called. I mean, if one is worried one is going to get divorced when you haven't even married the person yet, why get married in the first place? Divorce shouldn't really be entering the mind of someone who looks forward to getting married. It seems like dooming the relationship from the start. Marriage is supposed to be a lasting relationship, but sometimes people are just too quick to call it quits.

Anyway, for the question, my parents are still married.

hyakamaru

Technically separated but still married on paper. I wouldve prefered if they divorced (or annuled) officially though, and get the whole thing over with.

And I think life is too short. Why go through your whole life with someone, who you are obviously unhappy with, when you have the option of moving on and getting a new, and perhaps better, life.

Mr. All Sunday

I was sad for about a week when my parents split up, but then they stayed separated for two years and I began to get a "get a divorce already" mindset. The offical divorce went through this previous January, on my birthday no less. XD

Well my Parents are Happily Married for 25 Years.
And for Me divorce is not an option (and will never be),
theres nothing in a marriage you cant work at to settle it.

Saloma

@xt3rmity:

Well my Parents are Happily Married for 25 Years.
And for Me divorce is not an option (and will never be),
theres nothing in a marriage you cant work at to settle it.

"Honey, I know you've slept with everyone in my office building and stole all my cash on your crack addiction, but I can't lend my car to your boyfriend since it's in the shop."

@Saloma:

"Honey, I know you've slept with everyone in my office building and stole all my cash on your crack addiction, but I can't lend my car to your boyfriend since it's in the shop."

WHAT???? Speak English Not In Riddles…..lol

Dr. Casey

My parents have always had a pretty idyllic relationship. Hit it off at their first meeting in 1971 and got married in 1973. They almost broke things off once in early 1980, but that doesn't really mean anything in the grand scheme of things. I really hate how high the divorce rate is… it's still pretty hard to believe. It still feels like something that should be rare.

Saloma

@xt3rmity:

WHAT???? Speak English Not In Riddles…..lol

Imagine being married, and having to say that to your spouse. Can you honestly say that can be worked out without divorce?

Yes, I Believe Anything Can Be Worked Out,
It May Sound A Bit Crazy But You Should Always Do Your
Best Too Make A Marriage Work.

CosmicDebris

Yes, my parents divorced after 35 years of marriage.

Was this poll approved by a mod?

Zulen

@xt3rmity:

Yes, I Believe Anything Can Be Worked Out,
It May Sound A Bit Crazy But You Should Always Do Your
Best Too Make A Marriage Work.

Caps lock is for cruise control.

So is the default forum Caps changer.

Saloma

@xt3rmity:

Yes, I Believe Anything Can Be Worked Out,
It May Sound A Bit Crazy But You Should Always Do Your
Best Too Make A Marriage Work.

Then I feel sorry for you, because you would waste your time on something that isn't solveable… And yet, I must commend you for your commitment to marriage. It mostly evens out, I suppose.

Carly

I hate doing it but until we know that the poll's been approved I gotta close it for now. ^__^;

Anyway yes, my parents have been divorced for 14 years. I barely remember them ever being married.

CosmicDebris

Marriage takes constant work to keep it going. People these days marry too quickly based on strong feelings, and divorce too quickly when that feeling disappears. People simply lose interest in wanting to make it work.
There of course are some cases in which it's a bad idea to keep going…abuse, adultry, someone being a deadbeat drunk... but the excuse of "I just fell out of love" or "I just want to start over" is lame IMO. At least TRY with all your heart to make it work. If you can't make up your mind to do that, then don't get married and utter the words in vain "until death do us part".

joekido the Second

My parents divorced because my dad was a horrible father and a horrible husband with an selfish voilent temper and he is very abusive to me, my sister, my half-brother and my mom.

They been married for 24 years in 1980 when I was still in my mother's womb. They got divorced in Feburary, 2006.

Well now, I'm happy because my father is not around to beat me up anymore. I wished he would behave.

KamenRiderNeko

@CosmicDebris:

Marriage takes constant work to keep it going. People these days marry too quickly based on strong feelings, and divorce too quickly when that feeling disappears. People simply lose interest in wanting to make it work.
There of course are some cases in which it's a bad idea to keep going…abuse, adultry, someone being a deadbeat drunk... but the excuse of "I just fell out of love" or "I just want to start over" is lame IMO. At least TRY with all your heart to make it work. If you can't make up your mind to do that, then don't get married and utter the words in vain "until death do us part".

God you are so right…

My problem was that I was young, naive and stupid.... I figured that since I did love the guy, we could make it work... But shit happens and now I've messed things up beyond belief and so did he...
I really do need to stop making excuses though...

Murasaki

My parents divorced when I was… three, I suppose, because my genetic father decided that, no matter what he did, he was still, in fact, gay. So... yeah. I don't even know the guy, only met him once since they divorced, my little brother was only a few weeks old when he left, so he doesn't even remember seeing him that one time after their divorce (he would've been... two or three when we saw him).

My mom remarried, and that's still going... despite the fact that it's not a marriage, but we need his financial support too much for him to leave, so he just kinda lives with us, he doesn't do anything... fatherly or anything. But none of us mind, my youngest brother is too young to realize what's going on, and my other brother, me, and my mom don't see him as a father/husband, so none of us really mind... but it's a very strange arrangement. ^^;;

CosmicDebris

@pirateneko:

God you are so right…

My problem was that I was young, naive and stupid.... I figured that since I did love the guy, we could make it work... But shit happens and now I've messed things up beyond belief and so did he...
I really do need to stop making excuses though...

Aw, no condemnation. You're still very young and you don't have any kids to deal with. I have a friend who wanted so badly to have her marriage stay in tact…in the end it just couldn't be salvaged. Both people have to be set on keeping it together.
In the case of my parents...my dad really wanted it to stay together but my mom had her mind made up. I wish that she had gone to get marital help as soon as problems began. Instead she held it inside for 10 years. It would have been better to just end it earlier in this case, it's really tough to be a 60+ divorcee. My dad was left old, alone and in bad health with not many good friends. Some may say that's his own fault, but my mom shouldn't have just kept him hanging for years.

--MRED--

@Saloma:

Then I feel sorry for you, because you would waste your time on something that isn't solveable

Can i borrow your all seeing eye glass?

I've seen worst Become Salvaged
The only true waste of time, is not doing anything at all

WHITEBEARD

2 answer the question No…....My Dad died right be4 my lil sister was born, and left my mom with all five of us kids....(3 boys and 2 girls Im the middle finger of the family)

My mom always told me Love hurts, and people can be fooled by it most of the time, and True Love is very rare. it takes time alot of time to find out if you love that someone and if its going to last. you also need to put in work alot of work to make it last.

she also says that im a sucker for love and it runs in the blood of all the men in our family.......:getlost:

CosmicDebris

@--MRED--:

I've seen worst Become Salvaged
The only true waste of time, is not doing anything at all

^ Very true. I've seen cases of marriages that normally any sane human being would say should end be salvaged with miraculous results. Those are special cases, of course, and the couple themselves need to come to that decision on their own. It's just a fact that many marriages end for lack of effort that could have otherwise been revived into a great marriage.

Pants-eater

Wait, WHITEBEARD, then who is your step-mother?

My parents are divorced. I blame my dad for throwing a chair through a door and injuring my mum. She's got a scar and a bit of flesh missing on her leg where he threw a plate at her.

He gambles all the time with other people's money and always brings people home, uninvited and smoke up the whole place. Then he makes me and my brother stay in the room and show things off for him. Once he cut my hair and put a red dot on my forehead and took phoos of me and showed them to his friends.

He would take me and my brothers to places for "half an hour" and spend three hours talking "business". Once he even took my brother's friend. Then me and my brothers would spend the whole time trying to make urinal jokes.
He even took me and one of my brothers to a friends house and we slept over. We had to use their soap when we had a bath.

Another time, we were in a rich person's house and there were more kids. It was fun for the first few hours but got extremely boring and I actually had time to sleep in a hammock. And all they had to eat was:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Youtiao

When we got back I was starving and weak.

I really don't like my dad. He's arrogant and inconsiderant but he is one of the greatest artists I've ever seen. And he DID make me exist so I respect him.

He's still a dick.

WHITEBEARD

The step mom thing I was just pulling your leg

Im 18 if you still want to know my age…........(4/20/88)

Pants-eater

More lies!

shock horror

My mom is partner-less.

WHITEBEARD

@Pants-eater:

More lies!

shock horror

My mom is partner-less.

What are you trying to say??????????????

are you trying to say im lieing about my Dad?????????

Pants-eater

Well, you just admitted you made up your step-mother.

WHITEBEARD

You wanted to know my age I did not want to tell you at the time and like I said I was pulling your leg and I let you know all this in post 27…....

Dont joke about my Dad or Mom Kid................

Pants-eater

Uh-huh.

Wait, lemme work this out.

Dad is dead.

That leaves mom.

Is your mom married? If yes, then you have a step-dad. If no, then it is imposskible to have a step-mom.

Unless I conjiggligated something.

And stop calling me kid, it makes my penis feel bad.

Just joking about my penis.

WHITEBEARD

@Pants-eater:

Uh-huh.
Wait, lemme work this out.
Dad is dead.
That leaves mom.
Is your mom married? If yes, then you have a step-dad. If no, then it is imposskible to have a step-mom.
Unless I conjiggligated something.
And stop calling me kid, it makes my penis feel bad.
Just joking about my penis.

Do you know what your doing????????????? thats un called 4!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cochise

Tshhh, Clearly this is a sensitive issue for Mr. WHITEBEARD so at this time I think its best for both parties to move on and change subject.

Pants-eater

Uh-huh. I can't understand the mentality of people who get offended by the fact that someone is dead.

Oh well.

Back on topic:

My dad's third marriage was my mum. One of my brothers is acutally my stepbrother. And he's had two sets of children before us.

And one of my nephews is older than me. And my nephew and niece are younger. And I just recently discovered of a 20-something nephew I'v never kown about.

And I'm the step-brother of a Hong Kong business tycoon with his own set of bodyguards. BOOYAH!

Maybe I can start a triad group…

WHITEBEARD

@Pants-eater:

Uh-huh. I can't understand the mentality of people who get offended by the fact that someone is dead.

Oh well.

Dont try 2 act as if you didnt know what you where saying…........I told you not to joke about my Fam…........you did it anyway...............now you try to post this shit...........what the fuck are you smokeing?????????

You know what its cool..............Watch

Pants-eater

Well, I joked about me after working out the fact you can't have a step-mother unless you live in Massacheusetts or whatever you call that state.

And I highly dount you live in Massachusetts..

WHITEBEARD

Pants eater…....its cool....................Watch

Pants-eater

Indeed.

Aren't the insanely large numbers of siblings strange when it comes to gangs?
Al Capone had siblings going into the two digits and his parents had no divorce.

Sano

My parents came close of getting divorced back in 2001. I can say for myself that was one of the worst time of my entire life. Because during those times, I was getting ready for my first year of high school. The day, when my parents got into huge ass fight, I was blaming myself for everything. Since I was the emontional member of my family. All my friends was protective of me during that time.I can say, I'm happy that my parents pull things back together.But yeah this topic is kinda sensistive to me as well.

fin fish

My parents got divorced after 24 years and 364 days.

My dad's kind of an irrational jerk, so I wish it had happened a long time ago so I could have adapted better to it. It happened the summer after I graduated from high school, and now they live in different states with a 14-hour drive in between. So… that's pretty tough, because I can't just go between houses on weekends or anything.

Buuhan1

Divorced, and i can't wait for the good news of my Father being killed. He tried to kill us all, now its about time HE gets killed.

If not I'll do it.

Mog

My parents never married.

Still together, though. I'm the fourth child.

Yeah, they're like hippies.

Roz

My parents are still quite married.

Dahna

My parents never married because they broke up one year after my birth. Only thing I know about my father is that he lives 30 min. from here, is addicted to gambling (one reason for the break up) and he has never shown any interest in me. So, you can say I pretty much hate him for being a complete jerk ^^

Crickeylynn

My mom and dad are divorced. Got divorced when I was around 3 I think. My earliest memory ever was my dad dropping my mom and me off and leaving.

It is a good thing though. My Dad is a great dad, spoiled me, never spanked me or anything. But he is a pretty bad husband. He cheated and could get kinda abusive.

My mom married my stepdad in 83 and they have been together since, happily married. My dad married my stepmom, they had a rocky relationship. She passed away from breast cancer 5 years ago and he has been alone since.

It really was a good thing that my parents aren't together. I got two wonderful dads out of the deal. I have always said my dad is my daddy I will love him forever, but Mark (my stepdad) is my father and has never let me down.

Thankfully my parents are not divorced, and I hope it stays that way.

I think divorce is OK if you need to do it, but personally I do agree with MRED that you need to know about compromise and be ready for such things before you get into marriage. It's better not to divorce when you have kids, because more often than not it messes them up.

Captain Kaze

Parents were together for like 8 years but never married. Live with my mother.

KamenRiderNeko

@CosmicDebris:

Aw, no condemnation. You're still very young and you don't have any kids to deal with. I have a friend who wanted so badly to have her marriage stay in tact…in the end it just couldn't be salvaged. Both people have to be set on keeping it together.
In the case of my parents...my dad really wanted it to stay together but my mom had her mind made up. I wish that she had gone to get marital help as soon as problems began. Instead she held it inside for 10 years. It would have been better to just end it earlier in this case, it's really tough to be a 60+ divorcee. My dad was left old, alone and in bad health with not many good friends. Some may say that's his own fault, but my mom shouldn't have just kept him hanging for years.

Yeah, thank God there are no children involved >_>

But damn… 60 years?! Ouch....
My parents were married for like 21 years before Dad decided to cheat on my Mom with one of the waitresses at the restaurant they owned.... He's now married to her and they've had 2 kids, both are spoiled little brats, but I gotta love them anyways ^^ I don't hate my dad so much now, both my parents have moved on.
My mom has remarried one other time, but this time she found someone who could treat her right, and I'm happy for her ^^

bennyb

My parents have been divorced since I was like 7. They're both way better off.

P.S. Not to sound whiny or anything, but one of my few annoyances with this board is polls getting closed. Why can't we just do polls as we please?