I can't relate to most of your situation but I do know that rejection from someone you are romantically interested in hurts A LOT and has the potential to change us into worse people.
That being said, as a female I can tell you that I have had way too many problems with guys interpreting my friendliness as an invitation for a relationship. I have learned to be so careful with my words to the point of being cold so that no such assumptions are made even with dudes I really like being around. I'm not going to say that there aren't women who just enjoy male attention without being even a little serious but it strikes me as somewhat suspect when you say you meet and enjoy hanging out with girls "with brains" (first of all, what?) and then once you are rejected these same women become "void-headed bimbos." Don't you think maybe your perception of them is colored more by your own intentions and less by how they actually are as people?
Dating is hard but I think part of the problem is that if you just enter into friendships with women for romantic relationships or potential sex, you are setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. Believe it or not, attraction (whether that be physical or mental) is more important than whether a person is simply kind and caring. I don't know what your situation is but it might help to relax a little and stop worrying so much about finding someone. With that tension removed from your interactions with others it might open the door to more productive things and hell, might even make you seem more confident and attractive to those around you. There's no guarantee you will find someone quickly but there's no need to have your heart senselessly broken all the time either.
For the love of god, stop using the word bimbo. It's hurtful, demeaning and without real purpose.
Sorry Hombre, thanks for your 2 cents though :)
Well, the point about airheaded B-words and women with brains, is that I simply don't want to enter a relationship with a cold and abusive person ( I've been there before, and it's terrible ) so I'm very careful with who I choose to befriend. And every once in a while, I meet girls I think are absolutely marvellous, but after you open up, you get treated like you had rabies or something. It's not just being turned down, it seems like they agree about turning me down in an as offensive way as possible ( adding insult to injury ).
I guess you're right that it's not a good idea to search for relationships. But I just can't stand my current circumstance.