Teasing

[Natty Bumppo]

One would think that a senior in high school would never have this problem. but unfortunately, I do and it's stressing me out.

As some of you know (I posted it in a thread a while back) I have a serious stutter problem. I've been having this problem for as long as I can remeber, and most people are mature about it and don't mind, or just plain don't have the patience to talk to me. But there is this one kid who always likes to make fun of the faces I do when I stutter. He does this contuniuously, and I have continuously told him to stop. He not only makes fun of me, but also likes to poke fun at other people's handicaps or things of that nature. What I don't comprehend, is that there is another kid who stutters, yet I never hear him make fun of him. I have tried talking to him, telling him to stop, and just laughing about it hoping it would go away. Unfortunately, none of these seemed to work. I have one last option, and that is to completely smash his face in. I don't mean to sound steroetypical here, but he is sort of a geek, and I can easily use force to make him stop. But I am sure that will cause more problems so I try not to think of going down that path. Still, he continues to make fun of me and my speech impediment, and I am fresh out of ideas on how to tell him to cease his ridiculing me.

He is a nice kid, he is funny and is very intelligent. And I dont want to lose him as a good acquaintence. But if he keeps this up, I dont know what I will do.

Any sound advice would be appreciated.

[The_green_samurai_ranger]

Hey the GSR knows how you feel, throughout my life I have been made fun of because of my speech disorder which makes me sound like I'm from a foreign country and I can not pronouce some words because of this.

My advice to you is just let it be a joke, I never did and because of this, started multiple fights to defend myself. Weather is was friends of foe, I always answered their teasing with punches.

Joke back with you friend(s) is the GSR advice.

(To one speech challenged person to another, do not let it get you down in life aboot your problem. Multiple people in life have a speech problem and they live successful lifes. I myself want to become a professional wrestler and multiple people have said that because of my "accent" I could not properly deliever a promo. My response is that I could do anything I put my soul fully into. Remember that, because you can only go as far as you are willing to try. )

[captain sogeking]

Just ignore them like I do eventually they just get bored

unless you come in daily contact with this person

[Buccaneer]

Uh, yeah, I'm gonna say it. People would advise you not to, but they also wanna tell you to take his glasses and throw them down. If he has some. if not, I guess adjust.

[OwnerZeff]

How long has this teasing been going on? Has it just started this year or has it been for a while?

If it is within your comfort zone to shrug it off, you probably wouldn't have bothered to tell anyone about it. If it is bothering you, it may very well be bothering the other people he is teasing. Talk to them about it. You may get some insight from them on how to deal with the situation or you can talk to this guy about it along with some of the other people he teases.

Another option is to make fun of him for making fun of your face. The next time he makes fun of you, tell him he has the look all wrong and attempt to correct him. If you make enough of a fuss about fixing it, he might just get unnerved and stop teasing you. I personally prefer the first option though. If you can avoid violence, you are probably better off for it. Whenever you get really angry with this guy, take note of my avatar. Breath in slowly through your nose and slowly out of your mouth. Repeat as necessary until you have relaxed a little. I know it sounds corny, but it might help you relax in the face of stress and keep you from throwing a punch.

[igalsfy]

one solution:

the zidane-headbutt.

[captain usopp]

you say this guy is your friend?! Ok, I know I'm going to sound like your mother, but really. Anyone who blatenly egnores your feelings like that when you have time and time again, asked him to stop, is not your friend.

I understand where you are coming from. I was teased and tormented constantly through school. I can't just egnore stuff like that either. I know your so angry that punching him feels so right, but don't. Then your going to be in trouble. "blah blah blah, I don't care what he said to you Natty Boo, you shouldn't hit people"

I can think of 2 options for you at the moment. One, is you need help to intervien, cause doing it by yourself isn't working. Either get the parents involved, or go talk to your guidence counceler. (I found teachers did nothing) The other option, is next time he does that, tell him to stop or your leaving. If he keeps doing it, then seriosly walk away. If he apreciated your friendship, he will get the hint that your not sticking around for this. IF he doesn't care, then, well he's not your friend.

What ever happens, you should not have to go through your day feeling like that. This guy is not worth your being unhappy and miserable all day.

BTW, about the other guy with the speech problem. It's not about your speach problem, He is picking on you for the sake of picking on you. Your speech is just an easy target. If you started speaking normally, he would start teasing you about something else.

I realized this myself in jr high. I was teased (for a billion reasons, all stupid) but this one time, people teased me because I didn't wear blue jeans. (hate jeans). Then, one day, not because I was teased, because I wanted to try them again, I bought a few pairs of jeans. Then they teased me for wearing the "same jeans every day" It had nothing to do about the jeans. They jsut wanted to make fun of "ME".

[hyakamaru]

make fun of him back. I mean there must be something he's bad at, parts of him thats not "normal".

and I dont think ignoring him would make it go away. it never does when it comes to bullies (or ppl of that sort).

[captain usopp]

@hyakamaru:

make fun of him back. I mean there must be something he's bad at, parts of him thats not "normal".

and I dont think ignoring him would make it go away. it never does when it comes to bullies (or ppl of that sort).

no no, not egnore. I know that doesn't work. I said flat out walk away.

I did that to this former friend, who kept talking very perverted about me, and I told him if he keeps doing it I'm not going to talk to him any more. not 2 min later, he asks if me and my new female roomate are going to make out o.O. So I told him see ya. If he cared, he wouldn't have said anything, he would have apolagised (sp) he would have done something, but he did nothing. Therefore I was only important to him to think and say dirty little things about. When he couldn't do that, he had no need for me.

If Natty's friend is only hanging around to make fun of him, the same thing will happen. If Natty's friend really wants to be friends, then he will see that Natty is not joking if Natty shows he means it. And his friend will have to respond acordingly if he wants to be Natty's friend.

Friendship isn't worth being walked all over. I don't have a lot of good friends, but the ones I have are very good to me.

[COWMAKAZE]

If you're witty, come up with a quick insult right back to him about what he says. Doesn't have to be particularly hurtful or even smart, but make it as funny and as quickly-timed as possible (even if it's corny-funny, it should still work). If other people see this happening, laughter's on your side and the kid backs the hell away. If they don't, he still might be taken aback by the sudden force, and might counter with one of his own, to which you should give your own and so on. This is really difficult at first unless you're really good at it, but trust me, it works - I've used it quite a few times myself. Use this as a constant sheild against the kid and slowly distance yourself from him, until eventually you don't see him nearly as often.

I'm not going to lie and say this is easy. You will most likely screw up at first because this can be goddamn stressful. But if you can learn to relax and roll with the (verbal) punches, you should at least be able to hold him off.

[lorenzo]

What I would do if I were to be made fun of is say this:
"hey if you're looking for a fight all you have to do is ask"
Then if he says okay let's fight let him punch u.
THen punch him back and don't let him get up ever again.
Or u could get a weapon ad bash him with it.

But nah, that wouldn't do….. Too inhumane for you. Just smile to the guy, that's my best advice. Don't take things too seriously. Why don't you use the reverse psychology and go with the flow.

[The_green_samurai_ranger]

@lorenzo:

What I would do if I were to be made fun of is say this:
"hey if you're looking for a fight all you have to do is ask"
Then if he says okay let's fight let him punch u.
THen punch him back and don't let him get up ever again.
Or u could get a weapon ad bash him with it.

Yep, violence solves almost everything in the adult world. I find it funny that situations like above don't actually lead to pure fights. Is the GSR being sarcastic or not?

[Mr. Death]

Just adopt my views on life nd other crap, just don't give a damn, more than likely he's just doing for attention.

[Cap'n Carter]

Stop stuttering and that will show him

[Mr. Death]

@Cap'n:

Stop stuttering and that will show him

Don't know if your serious or joking.

[captain usopp]

@COWMAKAZE:

If you're witty, come up with a quick insult right back to him about what he says.

I am not whitty. Not on the spur of the moment anyways. I dream of being able to snap back comments to people who are mean, but it is not something I can do, Alas.

I can only remember one time in my life I was ever able to do so. To set up a story, I was teased by everyone in school, and my brother needed to be popular, so he was always mean to me too. another thing to note, my brother has a big birth mark on his cheek.

So I had a job at the local subway. Some of my bro's friends worked there, but after working with me, they found out I was kind of cool. So, my bro and a group of friends comes in one night, and they're going to go to a party. Someone asks me to come. I say "no, that's alright" (not a party person) They keep persisting to ask me and ask "why not" so I just blurt out, "cause I don't wanna hang out with "shit face"! (my brother with the birth mark)

All his friends started laughing at him. They knew how he always treats me, and he deserved it.

Ya, that was my one brilliant moment in my life, and it may sound dumb, but I'm proud of it.

[lorenzo]

@Mr.:

Don't know if your serious or joking.

Stuttering usually doesn't work, it depends on the guy. My best advice is yeah…Don't take it too seriously. Sing for a bit and imagine.....Yeah, view this thing for a bit, it'll heal your anger

[l2agnarok]

Heres what you do,You try to have fun with it and make it feel like a funny make fun of joke.I used to be called short and got so pissed but now everyone knows its offensive to me and only say it at good times which is now rarely.
Or if you want to play pay back,Try to find something he does wrong or funny.Either use it to threaten him or make fun of him if he does it again.This usually works for me when I find a bunch of stuff then use it all at once.

And now the no fun one…You could ask nicely for them to stop and keep saying that till the majority of the people know its hurtful,and if not then uh well theres always my bat method...hehehe

[The_green_samurai_ranger]

Well if you were going to do anything violent, do it before you turn eighteen, because after you turn eighteen, you will be tried as an adult no matter what you do. So if you say, drug his food with something like eyedrops to make him seriously sick, you won't get the full punishment.

Man I wish that I was under eighteen sometimes instead of being twenty. Man I feel old now thinking aboot what my age is.

Oh and to make Capn' Carter mad, the GSR feels old.

[igalsfy]

@Buccaneer:

Uh, yeah, I'm gonna say it. People would advise you not to, but they also wanna tell you to take his glasses and throw them down. If he has some. if not, I guess adjust.

if you're as strong as Bucc seems to be, that is.

[Buuhan1]

Making fun of someone back wont work. Why? Cause everyone around will then see you as the bully cause most don't know the full story.

So making fun of them for making fun of you will only get you in deeper.

[captain usopp]

@Buuhan1:

Making fun of someone back wont work. Why? Cause everyone around will then see you as the bully cause most don't know the full story.

So making fun of them for making fun of you will only get you in deeper.

that, and the fact that 2 wrongs don't make a right. That just means your as bad as he is. though, it's comforting to "think" of, I'll admit to that. >:)