There's a lot I would like to say, but don't know how to put it all into words, and sometimes find it harder to speak and express my opinions. But I do like to listen.
Confession Session II
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There's a lot I would like to say, but don't know how to put it all into words, and sometimes find it harder to speak and express my opinions. But I do like to listen.
I know that feeling very well.
Whenever it is that you find a way to express your opinions and feelings, do it to the people that matter the most to you. I can assure that they'll want to to listen and that there is no good reason why you should do otherwise.
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@bartholemew:
I live in a muslim country and i'm gonna say… You are right, you wont find someone similar to you, unless you look really really really hard and break through a ton of shells.
Hey, man, you're back (again). How's life? Treating you fine, I hope.
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Hey, man, you're back (again). How's life? Treating you fine, I hope.
I'm here every week reading spoilers. (Yeah i'm a leecher what you gonna do… eat me?)
Life is alright ya know, 4th year, 5th year. Hospitals and shit. Then my happy fun time storyboarding
Hows it been with u
Can u tell me what happened to no maam, he seems to be banned -
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@bartholemew:
Can u tell me what happened to no maam, he seems to be banned
Hit me up on fb and I'll tell you some of it.
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@bartholemew:
I'm here every week reading spoilers. (Yeah i'm a leecher what you gonna do… eat me?)
Life is alright ya know, 4th year, 5th year. Hospitals and shit. Then my happy fun time storyboarding
Hows it been with u
Can u tell me what happened to no maam, he seems to be bannedbanished to the phantom zone for crimes against humanity
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I think One Piece is physically affecting my health. I wastched 13 eps in a row last night and went to sleep incredibly angry and stressed. I woke up barely able to move and hateful of everything around me.
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This is the first time I've ever come as close to someone romantically as to sort of go on a date with him. He lives fairly far away so we can't meet everyday. Even this meeting was hard to plan (school and everything) and finally in only two days he'll come here and hopefully we'll have an awesome time. He'll sleep at my flat (for convenience's sake).
So this'll be first time we meet in person.And my brother already wants to "examine" him, to know what kind of guy I'll spend two and a half days with. If we were on better terms (right now it's kinda shaky) then I wouldn't mind at all, but as things are standing right now, I just feel uneasy about it. He only had one rather short relationship (now he's single) so it's not like he's "experienced". It just feels like he looks down to me, like I would jump into a relationship with a bad guy or something. Like it isn't already hard for me to speak in people's company I'm unfamiliar with, let alone getting so close to someone.
He (my brother) apparently doesn't like the fact that he doesn't know anything about him (he said it so for my mom, but I actually told her some things).! And it's not like he just comes so we can have sex. He said multiple times that it's a possibility, but if I'm unsure or not ready, then it won't happen. He doesn't want to force it. Also, it was me in the first place who brought the whole thing up, not him. Of course we're prepared (it's always better to be late than sorry), so we'll be careful whatever may or may not happen. I'm not just jumping into this completely oblivious.
I just feel angry right now…
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Welll, maybe i understand a little your brother. I also have a sister and if someone does anything to her I WOULD FUCKING KILL HIM. I think his distrust is just a sign of how he wants to protect you? I would feel the same way. Heck, i was in a simmilar situation when i met a boyfriend of her that was only-online at first but i warmed up to the guy. He was a nice guy. Otherwise i would have killed him.
Dunno, guess maybe he's just being overprotective?
Working thru some stuff. Dunno how long i will be here.
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I dunno a thing about relationships between siblings generally, so I don't have any advice.
Just wanted to say that situation is really cool and cute, except your brother stuff of course. Good luck~
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Welll, maybe i understand a little your brother. I also have a sister and if someone does anything to her I WOULD FUCKING KILL HIM. I think his distrust is just a sign of how he wants to protect you? I would feel the same way. Heck, i was in a simmilar situation when i met a boyfriend of her that was only-online at first but i warmed up to the guy. He was a nice guy. Otherwise i would have killed him.
Dunno, guess maybe he's just being overprotective?
That'd be all fine, or at least understandable, but my relationship with my brother was never… like a normal relationship. I wouldn't mind introducing my boyfriend to him, but not on the first day. Like "Hi, it's so good to see you at last, now let's go and meet my mom and brother".
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I agree with prismeru that it's kind of a universal older-male-in-the-family thing where they want to screen guys dating the girl in the family.
But likewise, I agree that I would not want a boyfriend to go through that pretty much the first time I see him. That's kind of intimidating.
You should buy your brother movie tickets that happen to all be showtimes in the same days your boyfriend visits.
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Hmmm…I'm admittedly bias towards your brother's position but you said the relationship between you and him was different. I don't know. All I know is that if my little sister was getting romantically involved with someone they had never met before I'd want to meet that person when he came to visit. Even if it's for at least a few minutes.
It doesn't have to be on the first day. It doesn't just have to be for your brother's sake. You can introduce him to your mother or whoever else you want to and if your brother's not around at the time then tough luck. What I don't think you should do is keep your family totally out of it while he's down there. I know it's only for 2 days and you want to spend as much time with him as you can but you can involve youf family in that, and it doesn't have to be a long time!
And I don't know why I'm hesitant to admit I'm a little worried about him staying in your pad, but there I said it. Frankly it's none of my business and I know you can take care of yourself, but it'd be remiss of me if I wasn't totally honest with you. That honesty also obliges me to say I am very happy for your happiness and that I hope everything works out fine. Stay safe~
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Hey guys I am 17 and a half years old and i fell in love with a girl that is 22-23 years old and is my friends sister (he has moved countries as he got married). I see her twice a week at gatherings and it has been going on for a few months and we both have the same interests and goals.
I am really scared because i want to confess my feelings for her this Sunday because we are working together for a couple of hours, i have an idea of what to say but i don't think i would get anywhere (I always think of the worst)
Should i let her know i like her or not? I am really in trouble here as to what to do but i don't want to regret anything later on.
! I don't know if i can ask on this thread but if anyone can help me please do :)
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Have you checked if she has already someone else in her love life? Wouldn't want to see your heart get crushed man (or girl, sorry i don't know) :(
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I'd give some advice but I don't know the situation at all. What has a lot of weight for me is that, depending on the culture, the needs of a 22-23 year old woman may be completely different to those of a 17 year old. In a western culture, I don't know what a 17 year old could offer a 23 year old woman, and from that point of view maybe confessing feelings would just be awkward and create distance.
What IS the plan? I mean … what if she says no? What if she says yes? What do you do then?
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@Flipper:
I am really scared because i want to confess my feelings for her this Sunday because we are working together for a couple of hours, i have an idea of what to say but i don't think i would get anywhere (I always think of the worst)
Should i let her know i like her or not? I am really in trouble here as to what to do but i don't want to regret anything later on.
My 2cents.
! My best advice to you would be to keep your mouth shut about how you feel and make doubly sure that you keep away from the word "love" at all costs. Just ask her out do <insert activity="" here="">with you like you would any other friend and see where things develop from there. Ask her if she'd like to join you so it sounds as though you're going to follow through with your plans regardless of her response. That way you don't come across as desperate and she won't feel guilty about possibly crushing your hopes and dreams. Chances are she isn't stupid and she'll get the hint that you like her, I promise. Worst she can do is tell you she's not interested, and guess what? Sure it will suck for a while, but the sun will rise tomorrow and the earth will keep on spinning. Time will mend your heart and you'll get over her. The worst thing you could do is not make any moves at all. That shit will eat you up inside, like it is right now.</insert>
What IS the plan? I mean … what if she says no? What if she says yes? What do you do then?
Relationships are all improv. You can't plan for that shit.
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I agree with prismeru that it's kind of a universal older-male-in-the-family thing where they want to screen guys dating the girl in the family.
But likewise, I agree that I would not want a boyfriend to go through that pretty much the first time I see him. That's kind of intimidating.
You should buy your brother movie tickets that happen to all be showtimes in the same days your boyfriend visits.
Hmmm…I'm admittedly bias towards your brother's position but you said the relationship between you and him was different. I don't know. All I know is that if my little sister was getting romantically involved with someone they had never met before I'd want to meet that person when he came to visit. Even if it's for at least a few minutes.
It doesn't have to be on the first day. It doesn't just have to be for your brother's sake. You can introduce him to your mother or whoever else you want to and if your brother's not around at the time then tough luck. What I don't think you should do is keep your family totally out of it while he's down there. I know it's only for 2 days and you want to spend as much time with him as you can but you can involve youf family in that, and it doesn't have to be a long time!
And I don't know why I'm hesitant to admit I'm a little worried about him staying in your pad, but there I said it. Frankly it's none of my business and I know you can take care of yourself, but it'd be remiss of me if I wasn't totally honest with you. That honesty also obliges me to say I am very happy for your happiness and that I hope everything works out fine. Stay safe~
I suppose you're right. I did plan that I want to introduce him to my mom. Grandparents can come later I reckon.
Well, we'll surely find a compromise. A little bit of talk can't hurt anyone~ He isn't against it either so it's not like I'll be draggin' him all the way. But we do need that half day (tomorrow afternoon) to get more familiar with each other.
I'll be taking care of myself in the meantime, don't worry ;)
! A little bit unrelated, but today will be the first time I buy a condom. I know it's no big deal nowadays, but still, it's a kinda… weird feeling. Even if we won't do it, it's just strange thinking about it. Although he's very kind and wants to make sure I know we don't have to do it. He'll be here to get to know me, not because of sex.
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I never found buying condoms to be all that akward
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The first times i found it awkward but then i got to think "What? I'm having sex! that's nothing to feel ashamed about" And if you buy it with your partner it can be a funny and bonding experience. Gotta love the look of the guy that works the register in the convenience store near my house. He looks me like internally saying "Aww yeah man" and i look at him responding internally "yeaaah man" :3
edit: Yeah, i'm a massive dork. I don't even feel bad about it.
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Does your local supermarket or something have a self checkout option? There's always that if you do feel mad awkward.
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Hehehe, oh my.
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Our markets only sell condoms at the checkouts and you have to specifically ask for them if you want them. And most places refuse to sell them to people under 18yo even though the age of consent if considerably lower. Which has, in part, lead to an increase in young people's STDs recently. Fuck the market chains of this country. =.=
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Our markets only sell condoms at the checkouts and you have to specifically ask for them if you want them. And most places refuse to sell them to people under 18yo even though the age of consent if considerably lower. Which has, in part, lead to an increase in young people's STDs recently. Fuck the market chains of this country. =.=
What a bunch of prudes. Condoms just hang on a rack next to the bubble gum in our markets.
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Well, yeah, it's the same over here. Some stores have them locked in glass cabinets, but mostly they're visible for everybody. It's just that the clerks won't let you touch them unless you show them an ID to prove that you're 18 or older because they've been told to do so by their superiors.
And, as a result, something like a third of all the sexually active 16 through 25 year old people have had either genital warts or gonorrhea. Fun.
In Loving Memory of Toraish, Rex Avium: http://apforums.net/showthread.php?t=40786 | 3DS Friend Code: 3196-4274-7836
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Our markets only sell condoms at the checkouts and you have to specifically ask for them if you want them. And most places refuse to sell them to people under 18yo even though the age of consent if considerably lower. Which has, in part, lead to an increase in young people's STDs recently. Fuck the market chains of this country. =.=
What?
That's really messed up. Here, you can buy condoms at large supermarkets, but I choose a pharmacy because I guess it's safer there (?). I dunno, I've heard stupid stories about stupid kids stupidly poking stupid little holes to every pack of stupid condoms. Stupid, I know…
Well, it's done at least! Why are there so many types? The whole time I was like "The most basic one'll be fine. Really, the basic one. Not ultra thin, just basic" etc etc.
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As long as you didn't get ribbed ones you'll be fine.
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I don't know anything about buying condoms. This is my only guide.
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Personally, I'd be completely nervous about buying a condom….especially if the clerk is female. .....that odd?
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Imagine if the lady at the counter winked and asked if you need any help with that. :P
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You're not much of a flirter i take it
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Well, many of my female co-workers find me charming, but alas, my achilles' heel:
My face always seems to turn red. Even when I feel comfortable, just a little and….arrgh. Usually earns a giggle or an "awww".
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Going to buy condoms and flirting with the cashier sounds….uh, silly i guess?
"Hey baby, i just bought these and maybe you can help me see if it fits" wink wink
"Hey baby, These condoms need two to use" wink wink
"Hey baby want to ride the snake rollercoaster" wink wink
I'm so sorry.
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If your flirting is made up of pre-thought out lines then you should absolutely reconsider your approach.
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Of course it is. And i totally wink. And i use ridiculous Double-entendres in everyday conversation. I also do hip-thrusts and dress like Miami Vice. I also read The Game by…uh, i dont' remember the author. In fact i have a tatoo of a wolf in a zoot suit in my left bicep.
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Heehee, all this talk is making my cheeks feel hot.
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Personally, I'd be completely nervous about buying a condom….especially if the clerk is female. .....that odd?
For all those pick up artists. If there was a female clerk selling them they would probably say;
"Could i buy an extra large condom. Don't worry, hold onto it yourself. Here's my address
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My 2cents.
! My best advice to you would be to keep your mouth shut about how you feel and make doubly sure that you keep away from the word "love" at all costs. Just ask her out do <insert activity="" here="">with you like you would any other friend and see where things develop from there. Ask her if she'd like to join you so it sounds as though you're going to follow through with your plans regardless of her response. That way you don't come across as desperate and she won't feel guilty about possibly crushing your hopes and dreams. Chances are she isn't stupid and she'll get the hint that you like her, I promise. Worst she can do is tell you she's not interested, and guess what? Sure it will suck for a while, but the sun will rise tomorrow and the earth will keep on spinning. Time will mend your heart and you'll get over her. The worst thing you could do is not make any moves at all. That shit will eat you up inside, like it is right now.</insert>
Thanks for your bit. I've been thinking about it and talking to some people and i guess you're right. I already got something planned on Sunday and I'll see her around tonight at a gathering.
Im not completely new so i won't be using the L word too soon. A girl that's 6 years older than me is something I've never expected or thought of.
I personally want to wait till Im 20 now. If she's there she's there if she isn't then I'll have to move on.
Relationships are all improv. You can't plan for that shit.
Amen to that.
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Relationships are all improv. You can't plan for that shit.
See, but this is what I'm talking about. Maybe it's because I'm older now and focused on my career, but if an 18 year old (I'm 24) came up to me with romantic interest and something of that sort with the idea to just improv it and see where things go, I would push the idea aside exactly because of that. For me a relationship at this point in life is about support and I need someone who I know is mature enough to provide that and someone who has an idea of what it is they want in life.
So while I don't think you plan love or things like that, I do want to know as a mature adult woman if my romantic partner can provide some sense of emotional stability or support before I commit myself to something. Not as much planning as "what is your direction in life, and how does it intersect with my plans in life? Why should I involve myself with you in the first place when there's so much going on in my adult life right now?" I don't want to find myself waiting/tagging along until someone much younger than me can get their stuff together sufficiently to provide me a solid relationship.
It also doesn't help that at 24 I am already a teacher and a large amount of my students are 16-20. So when someone says they're 17 and the girl is 23, to me that's a considerably meaningful age gap, granted it's from the western assumption of 17 meaning it's just a kid wet behind the ears from junior year at high school while 23 to me means right out of college and starting an independent life and a career. Admittedly a bias, but that's why I mention it as a concern I would have more than a certainty that she'll have exactly that mentality.
I'd probably grow red as a tomato, quickly answer "uh-no-thank-you-but-i-appreciate-it", put the condom back, and run out of the store.
This is adorable. It makes me wish I could sell condoms to Meta, as weird as that may sound. xD
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He'd probably be just as embarressed if you just gave him condoms.
Like a boquet of condoms in all shapes and colors
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Well, shit. It is a thing.
Working thru some stuff. Dunno how long i will be here.
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From us all, straight to your balls. Signed the entire AP forums.
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I wonder if they would be open to do a sung telegramm to go with it.
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