@wolfwood:
a real man huh so whats a real man is it Zoro who shuts out all his emotions and feelings and just acts like a zombie when ever luffy orders him around?
Oh come on, you´re to intelligent to really resort to such a dull argument. Just because Zoro listens to Luffy it doesn´t make him a zomie. Zoro crealy elaborated what was going through his head when he was leaving Luffy behind in the desert. He told Vivi that she has to stop the war even if one of their lives will be put on the line. In MockTown he later told Nami why he didn´t fight back. So don´t make such a dull zombie argument.
And to spin the web even further, yes this is how I define not only a real man but also a real woman. A person who is able to puts the desires of others over his/her own ones is what makes a real person for me. Zoro has proven that because he never could have been pleased himself with the orders Luffy gave him, but they were necessary for the greater cause. I´ll get back to the greater cause later again.
and back on track i dont care if doing it a better way would be considered a sissy way it would still be a better way of doing it.
Well this is where you and I are different. I say I don´t care if a sissy way would be considered a better way it would still be a sissy way of doing it. 
I don´t think that even the Strawhats are prefer sympathy that much. Remember back in the Kuro arc where Luffy, Zoro and Nami told that they never put their lives at stake just for the sake of sympathy. The do it because they admire Usopps courage. Sympathy would be the "sissy way". 
and as said this time he crossed the line atleast to me i hope he wont do it again since hes the leader and needs to be able to talk to his crew,
pirate captains who just bark orders and ignore the needs and feelings of his crew usualy get overthrown(whats the word ? is mutiny right?) atleast in real life.
What are you talking about? Usopp is the only one who doesn´t think of the other´s needs. Even if Merry is a sensetive being to him, then what the hell are Luffy, Zoro, Nami, Sanji, Chopper and Robin to him? Aren´t they worth less then Merry? I´m sorry but he is completely egoistic because he just thinks of his own needs instead of the greater cause, his friends. This reminds me of a childs behaviour that starts fighting with his friends because of a toy. No, Usopp is not a real man here. He is egoistic. And if it is required to yell back at him for that, then so be it! It´s not like Usopp didn´t deserve it with being such an egoistic asshole.