One of the kids in the classroom we are in, has ADHD. He is also always completely on his own and some of the other kids told him to leave from their group while they were drawing (his teacher dragged him there and it was in the activities the kids are supposed to do what they want. 0.o). I was sitting there drawing as well (I find that joining in whatever they are doing at the time, helps me get to know them better and earn their trust faster), so I asked them why he should leave and that he was more than welcome to sit with us. That made them let him be thankfully. I managed to get his attention a few times (when I was making a puzzle with him -he is brilliant at that too!-, when I asked him about his book and when I showed him my drawing) but that was pretty much it. Of course when we were doing the organized activity with my partner, though he was leaving the group at times, he kept coming back even if he was not paying that much attention to us so I'll take that as a good sign. I hate how the teacher was like 'He is ____ and he has ADHD so you pretty much shouldn't bother with him blah blah blah.' right from the start btw. Why is it when teachers have a child that has certain difficulties, they must push him/her aside like this? =/ Anyway. There's a rather social kid that took a liking to me right from the start so I will try to get that one to hang out with K. to try to get him in the group during this week. Plus I'll try to find small separate activities especially for him for our normal week. Since he likes puzzles, something he can put together and since he has to move around all the time, some kind of exercises as well. I know I'll only be at the kindergarten for just a week after the observation week (this one) is over, but I think it'll be unfair for this kid to not join in our program even if it's not with the rest of the group.
I hope I am thinking of facing this the right way. o3o; If someone has a better idea on how I could approach this kid, then please, please, please do tell it to me. Don't even be shy to tell me the way I am thinking of getting to him is stupid and won't really work. I am pretty naive on certain things and way too positive for my own good so I pretty much need a reality check now and then. I don't really know much about how you should treat kids with ADHD and I am inexperienced in general as a teacher (well.. I am not even one yet but I am almost there XD) so as you can understand any solid advice I get, would be major help.
That's pretty ignorant of her to say. Most people with ADD/ADHD are brilliant and most are quite social.
I'm an ADDer, and I completely loathed kindergarten because it was absolutely non stimulating, in fact I've acted the same way about any sort of school work that was non-stimulating. If it was too easy, or too stupid, my mind was gone. Off to magical daydream land. I didn't have a problem with being social or having friends in elementary school, but teachers insulted me a lot for my lack of attention. Even if I could tell them all the answers, they still acted that way. When I found ways to keep my attention better (which is twirling my hair or doodling while I listen), obviously it looked like I was paying even less of attention, but if I dont have that stimulation while I listen (or not take notes during a lecture, though I note and doodle at the same time), my mind has gone awaaaaay.
It sounds like he is unsure in social situations, and unfortunately being labeled abnormal has affected him, what the hell for doing that to a little kid!!!
I would spend a lot of time with him and find ways to teach him the subjects that involve doing fun activities. If you find that he'd rather be off-task then do his work, promise that he gets to do his normally discouraged activity once he has done his work. My 3rd grade teacher was wonderful, and she provided us with incentives to get work done and done well. We had something called funny money we could earn by answering our warm up questions correctly, answering right during lessons, and from completing assignments correctly. At the end of the semesters, we had an auction with our funny money for real nice stuff (toys, electronic things, pokemon stuff, it wasnt cheapo crap). That encouraged most people to stay on task. We also were allowed our CD players at lunch, which for some reason put us in a good mood XD
Though what she did for me (though she extended the offer to everyone, it was done for me) was let me get on the computer and play games when I got done. I also got to be the person to turn the computers on/off and set up programs (sometimes if new software needed installing, I got to do it). Much like you're talking about sitting down and trying to figure out what he likes and does, she did the same thing with me, and we bonded over that stuff. She looked for things in me, and others too, that were different to praise them over, not belittle.
This is in mass contrast to what I dealt with in 5th grade, where I was yelled at and belittled in front of everyone if I finished an assignment quickly and I started to read or write. If it wasnt 100% perfect, I would be yelled at. One time, I had a lightbulb moment about something and quickly wrote it down in my little journal book before I forgot it, while she was talking (I do this all the freakin time, right in front of other people, no one else has ever said a word even in school). She took it away, and then told the class no one was allowed to read or write after assignments because of me, and everyone turned on me. Eventually it was just extended to where I couldnt be the one to read or write. And I never liked school again XDDD
That negative experience started a train wreck that ruined my love of school, and turned it into a fear and anxiety rather then something positive. What that teacher and the other students are doing to that boy is wrong. The only thing you can really do is continue to interact with him, get to know him and his likes and dislikes and what appeals to him. From there you can start to figure out ways to use his interests to get him interested in his studies. Teachers simply cannot just spew out facts, sometimes you just have to get down and really get to know the kids, and mold your teaching style to fit their needs. And addressing the needs of the one who needs help the most usually works out fine for the rest of the students. Unless the child is years behind everyone else in development but in kindergarten, this is usually not the case.
My problem in kindergarten was I had already been taught reading and writing because my grandma and mom expected that I should be expected to know this, but apparently you dont have to know. So I was bored and pissy because I got yelled at for blurting out answers and just being smart. I can actually remember leaving school livid a few times. My teacher was very rude on occasions (same with my 4th and 5th grade teachers) but after the fact, she still praises that I was her smartest student ever and that I was so good. I don't get it at all.
I don't get teachers who teach and don't care. The pay is shit, you could've gone to school for something else with a bigass paycheck if it was for the money, I figure you choose teaching because you genuinely CARE. I dont know why people who dont care are wasting their time, everyone elses times, and hurting the kids for a shit paycheck. They think there is nothing to teaching and molding young lives? What the hell, did they REALLY have a textbook perfect childhood with no effort or struggling on their part of any kind?!?! I just don't get it.
Get to know the kid, praise him for the things he does well and make him feel like he's awesome for the things he does well. I know you just have a week there and it may seem pointless but, you never know if it all it takes is just one persons kindness. It's also good experience as you may have a child in your classroom like him. I think everything you are doing is right. These kids need attention, not to be left behind and pushed out because of a stigma. Everyone is NOT the same, and its not fair to treat everyone the same.
We had a little girl in our sunday school class, who was smarter then the rest of them, she just couldn't sit still and felt the need to start talking about things that had nothing to do with the task at hand. It was enough to get my grandma to quit (but keep in mind she had terminal cancer, and was dealing with chemo so frustration in your last days is not exactly welcomed) because she couldn't stand her disruptive behavior. But she retained information better then most of them. And when I'd give her something to focus on or do as the lesson was being taught (like coloring or a toy to hold), she was calm and quiet. Unfortunately in a class of 2-4 year olds, when you give one kid a toy, they all want one. And the rest of them were horribly distracted once they had something else to turn their attention to. But the example is, sometimes someone has to do it differently to retain the same information. Whatever gets it done. It's just hard with the little ones because of their money see, monkey do syndrome XD All it takes to figure out their needs is to take a little extra time to get to know them.
And kudos to all of you current and future teachers who are striving to make a difference. You guys rock.
If I had to teach I'd be a history teacher but I love history, and I suck at explaining anything that would require explanation (like math) because how I do things are especially encrypted for me and I just can't explain how I do it when I try XD My current plan is to become a councellor for children and adolescents. I'm not sure in what sort of setting (or if it would also include family counseling) but I'd like to work with abused kids or ones stuck in bad situations. Though, I've started to toy with the idea of being a school counselor that actually, um, councils. Most really don't anymore. If I went that route i'd like to be in a middle school.
I'm sort of unsure of myself as being a general educator, I feel like I'd be more suited to helping kids cope with bad situations, family drama, bullies, and those asshole teachers. If I had known the things I have learned about coping as a kid, alot of crap would not have happened. I'd love to help kids learn to cope with things when they're young so they can get more out childhood rather then hating and resenting the hell out of everything and everyone and just hating that time away.