General Friendship Thread

C_uggs

Hi everybody!

You know what is a friend ?
Is that someone you can always count on, that someone who made you laugh, think and do things you never dreamed of doing.

But when things get more complicated, it helps you.

Someone who respects you for your personal taste and diversity
and who calls you mate.

Being in school, in travel, your neighbor or someone you met on the Internet, having friends is to have someone you share your persona (I'll say here that the "physical friendship"is better than the friendship of the Internet)

age is no barrier (friendship has no time)

post here your friends from childhood / current,
how they marked your life and where you meet them ?

IrishLuigi

I have a big circle of friends, but it's multi-layered, and on the top, there's my best mate.

He's pretty awesome to keep company, knows a lot of stuff although he can look down on others at time. Our friendship is a platonic one. We don't even talk that often, but we just know that we are each other's best friend. I don't know why, but if I told him that he was my best friend or vice versa, it would dampen our friendship (he almost did it on a high).

MDL

please tell me i'm not the only one who thought this was a thread about the sitcom?

C_uggs

Oh !
My Bad..I should have put "friendship" in the title …

Don Quichotte De Flamingo

Who does still want to talk about the sitcom ? :blink:

C_uggs

This post is deleted!

Hiroy

When I first came to America, I was introduced to my father's family friends. There was kid around my age and he had the same kinda games I was into. Zelda, Mario, Final Fantasy, and tons more. After my dad died, we came back to America and decided to stay. From there, the only friend I had was that kid. Whenever I was bored or had problems at home, I visited and enjoyed and entire evening on endless local gaming.

This was friendship to me, but that changed as I got older. Games got less and less interesting. With online phasing over local, my friend attained this cocky "hardcore gamer" persona(Halo, CoD nutcase). It didn't help that we weren't into the same kinda games anymore. At one point I wanted to believe that we could still hang out like we used to, but every visit it got more and more unbearable. From there I decided to cut my ties and find other friends. A jerk's a jerk.

While it did bother me at first, It felt like a lifted a heavy weight off my shoulders. That said, I got no friends in real life currently. Just family and social networking clubs.

MDL

@flamingo: i don't know, that's why i was intrigued enough to click the thread lol.

Don Quichotte De Flamingo

@L : yeah sure "friends" will always be a part of us.:happy:

Mokenda_mint

Still have my 2 best friends. One's got a baby and both are engaged to be married to their boyfriends, but we're still crazy and it's awesome.

Zoro's F-150

@Hiroy:

When I first came to America, I was introduced to my father's family friends. There was kid around my age and he had the same kinda games I was into. Zelda, Mario, Final Fantasy, and tons more. After my dad died, we came back to America and decided to stay. From there, the only friend I had was that kid. Whenever I was bored or had problems at home, I visited and enjoyed and entire evening on endless local gaming.

This was friendship to me, but that changed as I got older. Games got less and less interesting. With online phasing over local, my friend attained this cocky "hardcore gamer" persona(Halo, CoD nutcase). It didn't help that we weren't into the same kinda games anymore. At one point I wanted to believe that we could still hang out like we used to, but every visit it got more and more unbearable. From there I decided to cut my ties and find other friends. A jerk's a jerk.

While it did bother me at first, It felt like a lifted a heavy weight off my shoulders. That said, I got no friends in real life currently. Just family and social networking clubs.

That's rough man. 40% of my old/current friends are just like that guy. :sad:

C_uggs

@Mokenda_mint:

Still have my 2 best friends. One's got a baby and both are engaged to be married to their boyfriends, but we're still crazy and it's awesome.

Is good to hear that Mokenda,real friendship is being able to enjoy with your friends,
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My part then.

I've always been shy because of my stuttering, causing me to have some difficulties to communicate with others (only able to stay with the "weird guys").

Only in high school, I started to make friends
(I saw that people there respected me as a living being, not as a trash like in elementary school).

I can say that my high school years were the best to make friends.
A time when I became more confident in myself, a time when I leave home and often did
many things with my friends, unfortunately I lost contact with most (some died, others are on drugs and others are Neo Nazis)

In college, things changed, my best friend is a girl, and she said one thing that struck me completely:she calls me comrade (that is deeper than friends?)

Pochipochi

The only real friend I have in my life is my twin brother.

Nobody else has stuck around, become close, or really known either of us.

Though any friends we had were usually just his friends and I was seen more of as an accessory. So no, I don't really have anyone else.

The closest friends I have are all online.

Sad, but true. I've met several offline before at conventions and I plan to move in with one of them soon, so maybe things will change in my future.

THE SEA

-Bye Holy.
-See you Holy.
-B…y...e...

I don't really have any close friends in real life that truly understand me.
Well, nobody ever understood the sea after all.
My closest friends are online too.

ChesCa

All the friends I've ever had in Elementary School drifted away.
I mostly only had enemies in Middle School.
While I have had no contact with my high school friends (and I had a lot), I wouldn't be surprised if they were happy to see me at a high school reunion.
During college and beyond, I only had one friend. Period.
He's still my best bro.
Only now am I expanding into making friends online, where it's easier to talk to people, and am trying to move my way up to finding a real life place where I can be just as relaxed, or at least feeling a lot less like a fish out of water.

RPGJay

I don't let my friends generally tread on me.

C_uggs

WOW !
I think I did wrong in making this tread,most people here have no friends …
(............ People! Do not feel bad about it)

trappedolphin

I don't think there's anything wrong with this thread, captain. and there are many different ways to make friends. and this thread can also be for discussing friendship, I guess.

Strings

Just got all my close friends hooked on One Pizzhle.

C_uggs

Today's personal friendship with people is something rare
but intenet is taking the place of original friendship,what is a good thing (?).

@ Trappedolphin: I was afraid that people would (I know ?) upset because they have no friends outside the internet.
Sure we can talk about Friendship here.

Alek172

My two good chums are lesbians, and they are the strongest friends in the whole world. They are my lesbuds.

I also have a friend who is a huge node, but hopefully not too much of one that he would be the only one to get that reference. His name is Cody thus he is my Codbud.

There's also a friend that is more like a little sister, so she is my brosis.

Can one's girlfriend be their best bud too~?

Kylor

Back when I lived in Washington state, I had a really tight circle of friends, that I truly felt connected to. But then I moved to Arizona when I was still in middle school, and I became rather bitter after that. I even started lashing out against my closest friends, and slowly drifted away from them. I made a lot of personal decisions that I'm not proud of at all, and that I'm still attempting to recover from. For a long time, I thought that the whole concept of friendship was stupid and unnecessary, and I found no friends worth liking. Literally, there was nobody I truly liked, except for my cat (who is now dead) and a couple of internet friends. But then, I had a rather drastic change in my life, that I thought was for the better. It took a long time for me to fully get over who I used to be, and I'm still not entirely through with developing into a more decent person, but over time, I've grown to accept other people, and now I have a small group of genuine friends.

IrishLuigi

Can you also post your social standing, what you are to your friends?

I'm pretty much considered the class clown of my class. I didn't know it then, but when I was 11, I made people laugh at me. This was a blow to respect for me in general and I caught on, changing my tack completely when I was around 14 or 15. I don't know how I did this, but I made less crap jokses, acted out far less and only when the situation was perfect. Now people laugh with me.

There are plenty of bland people who is currently attempting to be popular by trying to become the class clown, but some of my friends openly acknowledge that they would never be as good as me (ego boost here). And another flaw the impostors are doing is the exact same mistake I made when I was 11.

Sadly, I'm not as good with humour on the internet. Your loss, I guess.

captain usopp

aw, people, don't tell me your only friends are online. go join a club or sports team. $:\$ get off the computer!!

@RPGJay:

I don't let my friends generally tread on me.

you are a smart cookie. I don't bother with people who treat me like that. Friends don't do things like that. I've dumped people who act like a jerk to me. I got really upset with a friend from highschool. I missed him. I live far away. I'd try calling him all the time, or e-mailing him, and he was always busy. ALWAYS. couldn't even take 5 min to send an e-mail. sorry I missed your call. I am thinking about you. But then he'd be going out and hanging with his friends that were in the same city. Well, if you have time for that, you have 5 min to talk with me on the phone. I gave up and told him I don't want to be friends anymore, if he doesn't want to talk to me, because it just upset me too much.

I got a couple of other friends from highschool still. They keep moving all over the country. They are always busy, but manage to chat or send a card or something once in a while. We all got together in Ottawa, Ontario for an adventure last year. I just got my birthday present from them yesterday.

I got some awesome friends from college. None of them live in town anymore, but I still get together with one of them when I can, and keep in touch with the others online. The one closer, introduced me to a bunch more friends. I'd like to move to their city some day.

I have an awesome friend here I met on a job a few years back. She is going to school in Nova Scotia now though. $:\$

And I have a few friends on here that I've actually gone and met a few times. It's amazing the bonds you can make by sharing with others.

I'm proud of all my friends. They're all cool people, and I like bragging about them. :3

Mastello

@THE:

I don't really have any close friends in real life that truly understand me.

Same here. I've always had quite a few buddies at school, but that's it. We don't hang out elsewhere. The problem is, while my classmates are all great guys and I love them, they're terribly narrow-minded and I can't express my differing opinions without being ridiculed or judged. So I have to pretend to be something else than I really am.

And it gets annoying once in a while. I feel like I can only be myself here online with you guys.

GumGumBattleAxe

My friends are a lot like me and yet different than me in a number of ways. The number one thing I want in a friend is a good heart. I think that takes care of a number of issues. The second thing I want is the ability to let me know when I'm doing wrong and stand up for what is right, even when I'm not doing it.

Basically, all my close friends have those things. They're good men with good hearts and good morals. Because I'm an only child, I call these guys my brothers.

Skadi

i thought this topic was to say if you invited friends to the forum, and who they are

my very very best friends are the ones i made on the first forum i joined. three of them and i moved to another forum once the first one close (because the series ended and the forum lost a lot of activity)

we moved to the manga, anime and fantasy forum from a friend i made in college. there we met other wonderful people, and got to know better the ones we already knew ^^

this forum is different, we invite people we want our friends to meet, so there´s no people we don´t know there

but sometimes some people join by themselves… they usually never post anything so they´re erased within the month...

from my best friends, only three are great OP fans, and one of them just joined APF, FrozenBeast :3

the other two need to improve their english, thought

Pochipochi

@captain:

aw, people, don't tell me your only friends are online. go join a club or sports team. $:\$ get off the computer!!

Nah, not related.

I work with several organizations that revolve around the social, advise over educational workshops and am considered a connection for a lot of people when they need to get in contact with higher ups for ~life help~ (sometimes I do this too), so I've got enough real life going on with people in it that involves me actually interacting with them.

I still have no friends.

Different kind of problems.

Pochipochi

To be fair though I think everyone should get out more to at least make the distinction, since getting out, or joining a club is never bad.

IrishLuigi

I see a tricky circle here;

The easiest way to get new friends is to meet your friends' friends, and to get the opportunity, you need friends.

Without a friend to introduce you to new people, it's very, very hard, from my experience.

Perhaps people like you could use a person you merely talk to as a springboard to meet potential friends.

C_uggs

I have a neo-Nazi friend.
My mother thinks I should not be his friend.
but I like to talk to him, I respect everyone, and that causes me to make friends with anyone.

captain usopp

maybe she's just worried that you'll get in trouble through association? I don't see why you can't be friends with him, as long as your happy, and he's not hurting you.

Kitsune Inferno

I've a lot of pals from High school and several more from college. None really share my interests though. My best friends are you lovely folks.

Suicu

Skimming through my social contacts, there are only three to four people (and about the last one I’m not quite sure) who I would call my only true and real friends.

Ironically I met my best friend, who I really could call my soulmate, on the internet. She lived two hours away from my hometown; we talked every day, met us at least once per month and nowadays she lives in my hometown. This year we are going to move in together with another friend of us. Can’t believe it is almost 9 years since our first meeting.

Really, we went through every shit and our first years weren’t all sparkly and fun – most of the time we yelled at each other and fight over the trivial things, even our parents didn’t understand why we were still friends, but there were also beautiful times and we got it together, for the sake of our friendship. Should mention that we both had a hard time at this time.

I’m not good in making new contacts. I need my time before I warm up to people, but when I warm up, they always tell me I’m a very lively person.
I blame my past experience for being a cautious person, but sometimes I’m very contradictory myself. Heck, even though I’m very careful and suspicious, I end up gullible sometimes, which it shows itself when I’m being TOO kind =/

But yeah, even though I know some guys, they aren’t the people, which I would call friends or important in the slightest, like the people I really care about. It’s just acquaintanceship, you share some interests and have a fun time, but nothing more.

captain usopp

@Kitsune:

I've a lot of pals from High school and several more from college. None really share my interests though. My best friends are you lovely folks.

I demand a birthday card then!

trappedolphin

Why didn't I get a Christmas present?

fedcom

I have trouble maintaining old friendships
Don't get me wrong, I have a large network of friends, but most of them go to my school or belong to my sports teams so I see them everyday.
Old friendships though..from past schools, cities, countries have been mostly cut off from me, mostly because I can't connect with someone unless I see them face to face often.
That includes this forum, too.
So I guess I'm the opposite of most of you guys.

RPGJay

@captain:

aw, people, don't tell me your only friends are online. go join a club or sports team. $:\$ get off the computer!!

Nothing wrong with having many online friends. Especially for some of us college students whose friends are halfways across the country.

@captain:

you are a smart cookie. I don't bother with people who treat me like that. Friends don't do things like that. I've dumped people who act like a jerk to me. I got really upset with a friend from highschool. I missed him. I live far away. I'd try calling him all the time, or e-mailing him, and he was always busy. ALWAYS. couldn't even take 5 min to send an e-mail. sorry I missed your call. I am thinking about you. But then he'd be going out and hanging with his friends that were in the same city. Well, if you have time for that, you have 5 min to talk with me on the phone. I gave up and told him I don't want to be friends anymore, if he doesn't want to talk to me, because it just upset me too much.

I got a couple of other friends from highschool still. They keep moving all over the country. They are always busy, but manage to chat or send a card or something once in a while. We all got together in Ottawa, Ontario for an adventure last year. I just got my birthday present from them yesterday.

I got some awesome friends from college. None of them live in town anymore, but I still get together with one of them when I can, and keep in touch with the others online. The one closer, introduced me to a bunch more friends. I'd like to move to their city some day.

I have an awesome friend here I met on a job a few years back. She is going to school in Nova Scotia now though. $:\$

And I have a few friends on here that I've actually gone and met a few times. It's amazing the bonds you can make by sharing with others.

I'm proud of all my friends. They're all cool people, and I like bragging about them. :3

Um cool? I was just making fun of Capt Ugly's misspelling of thread as "tread".

No offense Ugly.

captain usopp

didn't say internet friends were not allowed. it's nice to have people to interact with in real time though.

and huh? i thought we were discussing our friends in this thread?

@fedcom: ah, I love how I won't have talked to my highschool friends in months, and we are totally into different things, but we can always pick off where we left off. Those are good friends. I hope you find someone like that someday.

C_uggs

@RPGJay:

Um cool? I was just making fun of Capt Ugly's misspelling of thread as "tread".

No offense Ugly.

I will not say I was not offended.
but I'm good with that

Mokenda_mint

After leaving high school it got a lot harder to make new friends. I think a lot of it is that you're suddenly forced out of your element and thrown into a new world with people who you don't know anything about.

Crickeylynn

I still talk to my friends from High school every now and then. My closest friend I met here on ap (cat monster aka pirateneko) She was there for me during my divorce, has been my roommate and is just an awesome friend. I met all most my circle of friends ( including my boyfriend) through her.

LaCaSiNa

I make friends a lot easier on the internet than in real life, but the ones I do have now are my lifeline. Funnily enough we knew each other since junior high and hang out at school, but didn't start becoming really close friends until we went our separate ways in college. If someone had told me how important and lovely and awesome friends of mine they would become when I was 13, I wouldn't have believed it.

And now we've been through highs and lows and I even got to be a bridesmaid in my friends' wedding. :3

IceBorg

I have two male best friends and two female best friends, I have many things in common with my male friends so we get along great, but I don't have manyt things in common with my female friends but I love the time I spend with then.

I am really lucky to have friends like this.

Nami

@captain:

I will not say I was not offended.
but I'm good with that

Only one thing.
Correcting someone whose native language is not English on the English spelling is the height of idiocy.

I'd rather call it nice. Don't you want to learn?

C_uggs

Yeah, Nami, your right.
I really whant to learn.
Unfortunately, most of people want to help us by ridiculing us.

DesertSpada

I have several extremely good friends that I keep in contact often. High School is where I really made the excellent friends that I have and I try to make sure that I put a lot of effort into the friendship. After all, a friendship is only a friendship if both parties put equal effort into it, right? However, college has quickly given me some excellent experience on the nature of some people.

Jazzy Jinx

For most of my school career, I was mostly isolated and alone. My mom just loved moving around a lot so I transferred between… probably 20 schools, actually. I never got the chance to really settle down and get attached to one, specific environment. So I never did. After a while, I just figured, "I'm eventually going to leave this place so why bother?"

It didn't help that middle school was the worst. I was a social outcast and tormented relentlessly. Prior to middle school, I attended private school and so I was used to a fairly warm environment overall with nothing but kind people. In middle school, that did a complete turn and I saw the exact opposite. Really, the only benefit I even find in this experience now that I look back, is simply that I probably understand the faces of humanity better than the next person.

So being that it was such a horrible experience (typical bullying + getting jumped/snuck/into fights + cut with a knife + seeing rape in the bathrooms) it became very difficult for me to be social and I became more of a recluse. It took years of thinking and looking at myself as well as humanity in general before I finally started giving people the benefit of the doubt again. I'm still very careful and I immediately drop people if they want to treat me like shit, but high school overall was actually pretty good.

I seem to intimidate people naturally at first but once they get past that, most people latch on to me. Actually, all in my sophomore year, I made my closest friends that I still keep to this day. I have four best friends: John, Stacey, Chris, and Erick. I have some of my deepest and most enlightening conversations with all of them and we've helped each other in several ways. We actually still go out frequently and eat at restaraunts or just hang out with each other in general. We also keep up with each other online (through AIM) and talk on the phone.

They're all like family to me.~

Flux

I'm a really good friend and an incredibly nice (to the point of doormat-ism) guy; but my circle of friends has always been rather small. But the ones that are are like best friends. I can make friends. I know I can cus I made a new friend of a friend who just transferred here this term instantly before we'd met through my friend.

But a few years back I went through something really bad and become depressed, demotivated etcetera. It started with one person, but then he got his friends to help and they made my life a nightmare; so a lot of people brushed me off with mis(and pre)conceptions without even knowing me at all; which really pissed me off.