Help me guys (im pathetic i know)

SantoryuMaster97

Hey brothers i need some help(obviously).

Im 15 and a freshman. I like this girl named Nina:wub:.

Ive liked her ever since i met her last year i feel theres no one like her eeryone else i see i cant see them as great as her. There was a point last year during the summer where we were really getting close but idk what happened and shes not as friendly to me. Im the shyest person you will ever meet which kills me and i just wanna tell her how i feel about her, but everytime im about to tell her i find out she has a boyfriend…WTF man what do i do, she means so much to me and she doesnt even know it. Dont look down on me i just want to know what i should do since every second it kills me more inside.

Thanks.

Yusuke Urameshi

First, stop being a pussy.

Second, go up to her and ask her to go to the movies with you

If she says no, then dont worry, cause then youll know that she was planning on saying no all along, then you can move on to other fish.

Moria

1. Don't take anything Yusuke Urameshi says seriously
2. Don't ask her out if she has a boyfriend
3. Try and subtly spend more time with her don't just go up to her after you haven't talked in 9 months and say HEY WANNA GO ON A DATE. Gradually work your way up. See if she's dropping any hints. Don't dwell on her too much too. If it's like 3 months and she's showing no signs of actually "liking" you just stay friends and move onto someone else.

Strongbad456

Just become very good friends with her and wait until she and her boyfriend break up. If you comfort her and be there for her after that, she may start to see you as a good guy and boyfriend material. You really need to be close to someone before you date them.

Mumbling2

http://xkcd.com/513/

Here ya go.

VL7

Playing the good friend for her will just depress you while ultimately acomplishing nothing.

Fiasco.

Just ask her out, if her boyfriend is a lame then he will come after you. I advise sleeping with a 44 under your pillow.

Zkaiser

@Strongbad456:

Just become very good friends with her and wait until she and her boyfriend break up. If you comfort her and be there for her after that, she may start to see you as a good guy and boyfriend material. You really need to be close to someone before you date them.

The rebound trick. Nice.

Strings

Hmm… Hypothetically say I was a Chess Instructor and you came to me as a student. You pull out a board where you've made a bunch of bad moves, and want my help to recover and win that particular game. Do you understand how hard and difficult it is to win that game, when you don't even know how to play in the first place? Yet it would be easier for you to get proper advice/teachings for a whole new game.

At this point, it seems like it's not going to happen. The fact that she grew distant from you and that she has a boyfriend is the evidence. My advice is to "get over" her and look for other girls. The world is full of em.

Just become very good friends with her and wait until she and her boyfriend break up. If you comfort her and be there for her after that, she may start to see you as a good guy and boyfriend material. You really need to be close to someone before you date them.

Or you'll turn into "Hopeless "Let's Just Be Friends" Shoulder-To-Cry-On-Guy, Listen to my Problems Chode". Believe me, my friend has been doing this for the past two semester with a bunch of girls. He gets none of them. Sad, but it's the truth. :\

SantoryuMaster97

So look for someone else, im getting her to come to a Con with me here in florida i think there can be the best time to tell her what i feel, idc about her boyfriend, ill kick his ass

Strings

@SantoryuMaster97:

So look for someone else, im getting her to come to a Con with me here in florida i think there can be the best time to tell her what i feel, idc about her boyfriend, ill kick his ass

What if she doesn't feel that same way about you? You've pretty much just sabotaged the entire convention trip. You made not care about her boyfriend, but she obviously does.

If you're going to tell her how you feel, just work up the courage and do it. That way if she doesn't like you in that way, you wouldn't be stuck with her in Florida. :\

Dranosi123

1 question, do u and this girl have any thing in-common?, all this sounded like a boy in his puberty, and he happen to c a pretty girl now he is all over her, kind of story.

…."which am sry to say.......how pathetic, that is not love man, this is just fascination"

SantoryuMaster97

Sorry i live in Florida i ment the local con thats here.

We have stuff in common. Its not just because i think shes pretty(shes beautiful) I love her personality too and alot of other things about her.

Stupid high school, i think shes getting nto bad things like smoking for one, i want to help her but idk man im fucking shy

Dranosi123

u can say that, she is hanging out with the wrong people. Also man, just tell her not to smoke or do any self endanger stuff, is not like u asking for a date, what is there to be embrass about? just say that u r her friend and that develope bad habits eg smoke, or other bad thing, is not good for her.

SantoryuMaster97

Yea but that could lead to us being more apart, she could completely tell me off and say stay off her business or some crap like that

VL7

Stalk her:ninja:

SantoryuMaster97

Lol yea because stalking helps alot….

Gekko135

don't worry, you'll get over it. Strings is pretty much right. From what you said in the first post.. i'm going to gather that she HAD been considering you for a relationship, but your shy nature might have made her think otherwise (being the "good friend" doesn't get you very far). Whatever the case.. it seems that she's moved on to dating other guys. It isn't their fault.. so don't talk about kicking anyone's asses. You wouldn't be respecting her at all.

I would move on honestly. Just learn from this. You don't have to be in your face and pushy to date people… just be a little more brave and assertive

SantoryuMaster97

Yea the whole ass kciking was stupid on my part. Those days were great and idk about completely giving up on her.

Would it be stupid to ask if we actually had something back then?

Gekko135

yes, there is no need to ask that, since it seems you did have a connection.

I dunno.. just keep in touch with her. If she has a boyfriend right now… then the only thing you can be to her is a friend. And I don't mean a BEST FRIEND or nothing. Just stay in touch.

It's a tough situation.. (like I said move on)

brennen.exe

Send her flowers on Valentine's day. But keep it anonymous. Never tell her. This won't help anything, but it will make her happy. If you really care about her you will selflessly drain your pockets. Edit: I looked up your XBOX ID, found your full name and information, cross referenced your school with the name Nina, checked relative ages, and then found her AIM ID via Myspace. I just gave her the hyperlink to this thread.

SantoryuMaster97

Thanks i guess i should just move on ill still keep in touch with her
but ill just have to keep going maybe something will come up

Strohhut-Ruffy

@brennen.exe:

If you really care about her you will selflessly drain your pockets. Edit: I looked up your XBOX ID, found your full name and information, cross referenced your school with the name Nina, checked relative ages, and then found her AIM ID via Myspace. I just gave her the hyperlink to this thread.

LOL

16 laughing out louds

SantoryuMaster97

Lol that funny as hell, nice job

MiniLuffy

LOL HAI NINA. He's joking, probably. If not.. well, lulz were generated anyways.

Gekko135

honestly it could be done… but i gotta work today

fabprincess

hey why dont you go onto the web and search for some solutions or ask other girls like me (were a year behind you, srsly no one mention my age unless u get permit from me). vice versa 4 me, i have this problem with a guy that i rly like though. any1 got a solution. TY in advance!

SantoryuMaster97

What do you think i should do :) ?

Vegapunk

you remind me of this emo song lol

"you're two tables away
you could see me mesmerized
i want to talk to you but i'm so scared
before i never cared
infatuation's never there
but now it's killing me
i really hate myself"

bit of tip.. know her interest and maybe you could think of something to get his attention.

MiniLuffy

His? The hell? :ninja:

SantoryuMaster97

@Vegapunk:

you remind me of this emo song lol

"you're two tables away
you could see me mesmerized
i want to talk to you but i'm so scared
before i never cared
infatuation's never there
but now it's killing me
i really hate myself"

bit of tip.. know his interest and maybe you could think of something to get her attention.

yea there ya go

SantoryuMaster97

Hey should i give her a rose on valentines day???

sorry for the double post

MiniLuffy

Eh.. sure? Do it! I mean.. why not? It's bound to have results. Just be nice, without revealing your feelings all of a sudden. Wait, wait, wait.. etc.

Strings

You're still thinking about this girl? Ugh. What happened to moving on with your life?

Vegapunk

@SantoryuMaster97:

Hey should i give her a rose on valentines day???

"JUST DO IT"
"it's NOW or NEVER":ninja:

SantoryuMaster97

I already did yesterday during school she said got 2 flowers from her bf and mine so i'm glad I gave it to her, sorry strings I feel like I should keep trying, I don't like anyone else as much and I don't like anyone in my crappy school.

Strings

@SantoryuMaster97:

sorry strings I feel like I should keep trying, I don't like anyone else as much and I don't like anyone in my crappy school.

She's just a girl, she's going to die eventually like you and me. You may think she's some sort of goddess, but your fifteen, and you'll realize that theirs other girls. I get the intuition that you like this girl, THIS MUCH, because she's a fellow anime dork. Is that one of the reasons why you like her?

That sucks man, post-Valentine's Day is one of the best times to "meet" girls. :happy:

SantoryuMaster97

Ill keep that in mind then

Yea i like her That Much, and shes not really an anime dork. I actually got her into one piece(surprise,surprise) and we were gonna go to a con together but for some reason we didnt talk anymore, i hate what high school has done to her, f***in shit hole with crappy people.

Strings

@SantoryuMaster97:

I hate what high school has done to her, f***in shit hole with crappy people.

Hmm.. a lot of hatred for school. Could it be that you're kind of jealous of 'all the stuff she's doing without you'? It's that whole 'we condemn most in others, what we fear most in ourselves' ideal.

All I'm saying is that it sounded like you missed your chance. She was talking with you, she WATCHED One Piece, she was going to go to an anime convention with you, but you didn't "seal" the "deal".

She probably realized that you chickened out, or you took too much time and she obviously went searching for another guy who would make a move. Like I understand the whole "chilvary" ideal most guys in high school have, but you can't flinch/hide and hope for the best. You need to man up and show that confidence.

I think you would be better off talking with more girls and just being a 'friendly date-worthy guy' to everyone. It's like that chess game example. It's easier to start a new game, than to try to recover in one where you're already losing. Whatever, you decide. I wish you luck SantoryuMaster97.