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    • Moria
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      Well, I'm still young (15 about 7 months ago)… I don't want to emancipate myself or anything. I'll go to college and all, it's just I'm so sick of where I live. I really want to move out...

      Main point of this thread is not to ask how to move out, just how to get prepared. 3 years may seem like a long time, but I sort of want to get ready for moving out, any suggestions on what I could do to prepare?

      Ehh, sort of a weird thread I suppose. Just wondering. A lot of you guys are 18+ so I guess I could learn from you guys a little bit. Besides things like cooking, what should I do to prepare?

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        maybe it will help you to focus or get some new atmosphere if you move out. make new friends or something 😛

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        • Moria
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          I do have friends. This is just such a shitty city. The people here are hicks with no taste. Nothing ever happens. The people are stupid as shit.

          I'm sick of it.

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          • RuNa
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            ^
            Don't want to sound intrusive, but where do you live right now and where do you want to be living at?

            Also, since you are only 15, you most likely don't have a job. Depending on what type of job you get (pay-wise) will let you know if you are even able to move.

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              best advice I can give if you want to be prepared to move out…

              SAVE ALL UR MONEY! 👅

              work, work, and work some more.
              step 1: bank all the money you can while in highschool
              step 2: make all a's in highschool.
              step 3: go to college on a nice scholarship b/c you made all a's in highschool.
              step 4: live in a dorm b/c its paid for by your pell grant you got b/c you made all a's in highschool.
              (note: through all these steps you should still be working and banking money that you havent touched since 15)
              step 5: get a degree and graduate with a 4.0
              step 6: go move into your own house with all the money you just saved up over 7 years
              step 7: get a phat job, chillax and start a family

              edit: look at my sig. it's true and it's never let me down

              "You can want and have nothing, or you can work and have everything." - My father

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              • King Kobra
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                You're just 15 years old

                No offense but you will surely stop thinking that way after you grow up more

                My friend sure did

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                • Moria
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                  Yeah I know I'll probably change my views, I just want to be prepared for when I do move out.

                  I want to live in a big city. I live in Illinois, RuNA. Not saying city, but it's a very small stupid fucking town. The people in my high school are basically dumbasses. They get D's and C's on easy assignments and tests. They have no taste in music, art or literature. Most people say LOL I LOVE KATY PERRY AND FALL OUT BOY or MONA LISA IS DA BEST PAINTING EVR or ROFL BOOKS SUCK YOU FAGGOT THOUGH TWILIGHT IS PRETTY GOOD. Words can not express how much I hate so many of the people in the town I live in. They're all complete uneducated, racist conservatives (I seriously know people who beat the shit out of this kid because he was voting for Obama). Sorry, just had to vent a little bit. Just so sick of where I live… >.>

                  Not to mention... NOTHING ever happens where I live. No cultural fests or concerts with great bands... just the occasional Fucking County Fair or some big scene just for some shitty low-tier beer and under-cooked meats. I'm afraid to say that I'm a vegetarian, I'm a liberal, that I have a unique taste in music, that I hate Bush, that I read manga, that I write stories, that I play music in my freetime, that I've been to other countries, etc. because the people in my high school are ASSHOLES. God I can't even begin to explain it. I've managed to find people who have interests similar to mine... but really, I can't take much longer of this shitty city.

                  Ehhh, this thread is starting to just become a BOOHOO thread for me, huh?

                  tl;dr - Shitty City. Retarded Conservative Assholes. Nothing Ever Happens.

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                    too lazy to read

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                    • King Kobra
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                      just embrace your community, no matter how small and shitty it is

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                      • RuNa
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                        Hate to break it to you, but almost all places you would go to are like that 😕

                        Wait it out. You probably won't care too much when you get older. Besides, ALL high schools are like that.

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                        • Don Quichotte De Flamingo
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                          too lazy to read

                          but sure not to lazy to post..
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                          @Moria:

                          Yeah I know I'll probably change my views, I just want to be prepared for when I do move out.

                          erase that "probably" 😉
                          dont think its a good idea to prepare right now yourself,
                          just keep some money and graduate well ,more you can`t do right now

                          I want to live in a big city. I live in Illinois, RuNA. Not saying city, but it's a very small stupid fucking town.

                          how are you so sure the "big city" is so much better after spending some time their..?? better than now, doesnt mean its good

                          The people in my high school are basically dumbasses. They get D's and C's on easy assignments and tests. They have no taste in music, art or literature. Most people say LOL I LOVE KATY PERRY AND FALL OUT BOY or MONA LISA IS DA BEST PAINTING EVR or ROFL BOOKS SUCK YOU FAGGOT THOUGH TWILIGHT IS PRETTY GOOD. Words can not express how much I hate so many of the people in the town I live in. They're all complete uneducated, racist conservatives (I seriously know people who beat the shit out of this kid because he was voting for Obama). Sorry, just had to vent a little bit. Just so sick of where I live… >.>

                          :happy:they float with the current
                          i mean 90% of humanity is plain "stupid"
                          they cant think about results caused of their action,and neither accept different views of others..just sick to see and even in the end they cant apologize for their behavior…😄later they will work for you(on a gas station,in a mall etc.) so let they enjoy their little life as the "cool guys" now:happy:
                          but thats one task of your life,
                          find people which share the same fundamentals like you ,that means find "real friends"..and even in a town with 1000 people their should be more than 1 intelligent life 🙂
                          why you even care for the others...just hang around with your friends and from time to time take a ride to another city and go their to a concert or whatever...you`re not in a birdcage ...you hate your town..kay but than just enjoy from time to time your hobbys elsewhere and than you can come back with a smile and bear all the shit easier...

                          Not to mention… NOTHING ever happens where I live. No cultural fests or concerts with great bands... just the occasional Fucking County Fair or some big scene just for some shitty low-tier beer and under-cooked meats. I'm afraid to say that I'm a vegetarian, I'm a liberal, that I have a unique taste in music, that I hate Bush, that I read manga, that I write stories, that I play music in my freetime, that I've been to other countries, etc. because the people in my high school are ASSHOLES. God I can't even begin to explain it. I've managed to find people who have interests similar to mine... but really, I can't take much longer of this shitty city.

                          nothing happens…nicce, time to travel,time to see something else..its harder than to have anything near..but sure its so more entertaining😄
                          low-tier beer...mhh get drunk than even such a shitty County Fair should be funny 😄
                          and yeah its shitty to be unique...but in the end you wont ever chance your behaviour ,cause you know thats the way i want to live and others may be assholes but I dont have to talk to such people...so its sure bothersome to be in a school with dumbasses but believe me you will be always under dunbasses...only thing that school could rly teach you 🙂 (or will you later rly use something like algebra orso 🙂

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                            Oh, I lived in Chicago for 2 years, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I still know a lot of really cool people from Chicago. There was always somewhere to go or something to do while I was there. I guess I'm just feeling homesick right now. It was where I was born, and then when I was 11 I lived there until I was 13.

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                              The most important, if you want to move, is to register to a housing queue. Sometimes you have to do that atleast 6 months before acctualy moving. It's not easy to find an apartment. Espacilly if you live in a big city.

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                                @Moria:

                                Oh, I lived in Chicago for 2 years, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I still know a lot of really cool people from Chicago. There was always somewhere to go or something to do while I was there. I guess I'm just feeling homesick right now. It was where I was born, and then when I was 11 I lived there until I was 13.

                                You should have mentioned this from the beginning. There's nothing wrong with being homesick, Moria.

                                Do you have any relatives there? That might be a nice way to start, moving in with one of your relatives until you get enough money to live in your own, but at least you would be in Chicago and not a shitty town

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                                  buck up there kid.

                                  You'll be fine

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                                    Money:

                                    Tracking your expenses and money is probably the most important think you can (practically) learn at your age. If you already have a job or some source of money coming in, then you should learn to balance wants, needs, savings, and bills now. My personal philosophy is to always have at least six months worth of savings in a high interest savings account. This way, if I ever lose my job or have a disaster strike me, I will have six months worth of relief to fall back on and get myself back into gear. Of course, time is money and money depreciates over time, so always having that money in the bank is nowhere near as good an investment as other things can be, but the important thing is that I have a reliable and available source of backup income when I need it. Your rent should never cost you more than 30% of what you make, and you should always have a fraction of your income going into savings so that you are not tempted to spend it. Another good piece of advice is to work out your bills so you can pay them all on the same day. If you can afford it, at the first of the month along with rent. If not, then in the middle of the month to help ease the weight of the bills. Having your bills paid on the same day not only gets you into a routine for getting them paid and out of the way, but it also keeps you from forgetting to pay certain bills and allows you to manage your money better. With that, you should be left with about 10-40% of your income remaining for you to do with what you want. It should go without saying that "a penny saved is a penny earned", and the more you save the more you can afford when the important things come your way. Lastly, building credit. Ask your parents how to best do this and look around for yourself, as I am not a financial wizard. My best piece of advice is to pickup (with your parents' help) a basic credit card and use it to pay for your gas only. At the end of each month, with your bills, either pay off the entire balance (since you would have spent it on that gas anyway) or pay 10-20% on top of your "minimum payment due". Some credit companies don't like it when you pay everything off immediately, but if you are always spending it should still build your credit. NEVER MISS A PAYMENT!! By paying 10-20% on top of the minimum due, the credit company sees you are paying more than the minimum, but still have a balance for them to make interest charges off of. It's not a fair world, but if you have bad credit you won't get very far in life. Because you likely have no rent right now and no major bills, it would be a good practice to start funneling away 30% of your (existing?) paycheck into a savings account in imitation of rent, 10-20% into the savings account in imitation of….savings, 10% into the savings account in imitation of bills, and then 5% into the savings account in imitation of miscellaneous expenditures. This way you have a great start on savings, learn to manage your money before you get in over your head, and still have plenty of money to spend on whatever you want. OH! I don't know too many high interest banks out there, but I know ING Direct is pretty decent and I believe it has a 4.3% fixed interest rate for savings. They also have checking accounts with a decent interest rate, but I prefer a more available bank for my checking accounts.

                                    Transportation:

                                    Most kids your age are considering their first car about now, correct? Assuming you do not have one yet, I would begin learning about cars at the least. What you want to avoid is using your "first car" savings/money-from-parents to buy a crappy car that will cost you more than it's worth. This is where patience would be a great benefit. Either save money and get a cheap car that will cost less on insurance and gas, learn to keep it up and running with basic maintenance knowledge, and then sell it when you are older to buy a new(er?) car of your preference OR wait it out and ride your bike/tram/train/bus to work and school until you can afford a nicer / new(er?) car. A large portion of your life will be "spent" making payments to something, so a car payment early on would help you become accustomed to the real-life finances – but I would avoid it if you can, personally. Building credit would be better elsewhere I believe. I personally believe a cheap first car is always best. Why? Because the value depreciates terribly over the years, and when you are young you tend to make impulse decisions (like buying an "awesome" car) that you live to regret further on down the road. Depending on the used car you buy, you can resale it a few years later for fairly close to what you paid for it as long as you keep it in good shape and don't drive too much. This way, when you are older and have a nicer job and family you can afford to buy a practical nice car that you like and will last through the years as opposed to getting a car that doesn't fit your needs once you become an adult, which would lead to your losing a lot of money selling your highly depreciated "new" car. (Not to mention losing money on the interest payments there).

                                    Knowledge**:**

                                    Think for yourself. Whether it is finances, cars, school, careers, housing, location, women, politics, or anything else out there – learn to think for yourself. I am not saying you cannot already, I am just saying be wary of anything and everything you hear and read, and try to see every angle before your jump into it. Some of the worst mistakes you can make are made because not enough thought or research was put into it: passing up a good job, taking a bad job, getting stuck in a contract, taking a bad loan or interest rate, getting a bad car, voting for the wrong person, going to the wrong school, picking the wrong career, or even choosing the wrong paint/color for your living room. Plan out what you want, and pursue it. Don't "settle" or be lazy. If you map out your career and education now, take care of your finances, and figure out when and where you want to be when you reach a given age, then you will find yourself in a much better situation than half the population in America once you get there. On the other hand, if you waste that time and dawdle too much then you will still be stuck in your parents house at 23 years old wishing you had been more consistent and steadfast in your studies.

                                    tl;dr?

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                                    • Moria
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                                      Holy crap Brennen!

                                      Just read that entire thing! It was really helpful… seriously thanks a ton! As for transportation I sort of want to have a car incase I need to go somewhere far away, but when I'm in college I think it would be more cost-efficient, plus not to mention some good exercise, to just ride a bike everywhere relatively-close. I've already started to save up some money too.
                                      As soon as I hit 16 this April my parents said they can use one of our cars to drive around and stuff. Since I have a relatively late birthday and finals and all, I'll try and get a job after schools over in 2009. Sometime in June.

                                      Any good suggestions as to what a first job might be? I know it can be hard to find a job, so I was just wondering. I'm not asking for something that's raking in the dough, just something that isn't mind-wrenchingly stressful and doesn't require all my time. Even if it pays minimum-wage I'd be happy.

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                                        @Moria:

                                        Any good suggestions as to what a first job might be? I know it can be hard to find a job, so I was just wondering. I'm not asking for something that's raking in the dough, just something that isn't mind-wrenchingly stressful and doesn't require all my time. Even if it pays minimum-wage I'd be happy.

                                        Depends. If you have a career choice in mind then it really would be a good idea to find anything and everything closely related to your field. If you have no clue, then an easy enough job would be a host at a restaurant. Just make sure you go above and beyond your duties (memorize the menu and learn popular foods) and you will become a server in no time. The trick there is to find a restaurant that gets a lot of customers and has meals in mid-high level price range versus the grimy low-budget restaurants; better tips. Banks pay well and hire students more often than naught, giving you upwards from $9-13/hr. Home Improvement stores (like Home Depot or Lowe's) also pay well, especially if you have a specific area of expertise (like electrical or something). I would steer clear of retail or fast food restaurants though, as they do not pay well and will likely not help your career any.

                                        There is also the chance that you know someone who can get you a job part/full time with a little more pay than usual, but unless you are really lucky those types of jobs are usually boring and unrelated to whatever you plan to go into. (Like data entry or clerk or something; $11-12/hr but boring). I am a Network Administrator, so I decided to get started early and got hired at Best Buy so I could work my way into Geek Squad while I went to school. Geek Squad had just started, so I didn't know how gay they were. In any case, two years of that gave me the foot in the door I needed to get a better job, and I worked up the ladder from there. Most hands-on careers have opportunities like that, but you have to keep your eyes peeled or you will get left behind. Edit: If you plan on just "getting by" while you go to school, I would highly recommend internships and/or part-time jobs in a related field. With our economy the way it is and the drastic increase in technology replacing work, you could easily find yourself with a degree and no job unless you have a resume to offer. (Which means you cannot move out!)

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                                          @Moria:

                                          Most people say LOL I LOVE KATY PERRY

                                          Hey, I enjoy Katy Perry! 😛

                                          Okay, seriously, I'm going to be parroting everyone else, but just hammer high school, get good grades, and you will get a good scholarship to any school you want (a 3.5 or better usually will get into Honors programs of many schools). Activities help during high school, as it shows that you won't just have your nose in a book during your whole time at college.

                                          You have plenty of time regarding your edu-mah-cation. I'm guessing freshman/sophomore given your age, so that's plenty of time to bring the grades up and get involved, especially considering that many universities don't pay as much attention to 9th grade. 🙂

                                          Getting to a college is the first step. If you still hate your town by your senior year (which, by the way you describe it, couldn't be an easier thing to do), pick a school at LEAST two hours away, in a larger city. A state university will be more liberal (in general) and will have far more activities for you to pick up, while the large town means that jobs are everywhere. Suck it up and work fast food if you must. Money is money. Keep saving. Get a job as soon as you are able while in high school, and keep some money saved up. That can help pay for an apartment or a car for use while at school.

                                          Until university, I'm sorry to say that you're stuck… 😞

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                                            ^
                                            I still think you should move as well XD; I tell all my friends who live there that…seeing as how the most eventful thing that has happened there in recent times has been that one dude with the bomb.

                                            Do you go to PennS-Baron (however you spell it)?

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                                              I still think you should move as well XD; I tell all my friends who live there that…seeing as how the most eventful thing that has happened there in recent times has been that one dude with the bomb.

                                              Do you go to PennS-Baron (however you spell it)?

                                              Sorry dude but I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. I live in Illinois, yet you just mentioned a university in Pennsylvania? I'm confused.

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                                                I want to live in a big city. I live in Illinois, RuNA. Not saying city, but it's a very small stupid fucking town. The people in my high school are basically dumbasses. They get D's and C's on easy assignments and tests. They have no taste in music, art or literature. Most people say LOL I LOVE KATY PERRY AND FALL OUT BOY or MONA LISA IS DA BEST PAINTING EVR or ROFL BOOKS SUCK YOU FAGGOT THOUGH TWILIGHT IS PRETTY GOOD. Words can not express how much I hate so many of the people in the town I live in. They're all complete uneducated, racist conservatives (I seriously know people who beat the shit out of this kid because he was voting for Obama). Sorry, just had to vent a little bit. Just so sick of where I live… >.>

                                                Uhh.. You know, most students are like that, not just the ones in your "shitty" city.

                                                I live in a small city, I'm ok with it though. I usually go to the city closest to this one for the weekends to go out and party n' shit. (depending on traffic, it's probably 5 minutes away) But I like it here. Of course, I'm gonna move in the far future, but still..

                                                I think you should give this a few more thoughts, if you want to get ready fine by me, but think about this a lil' more. Few years later, you'll probably stop thinking this way. Maybe it's some kind of shitty phase or some shit like that.

                                                What about your friends? Are they the same way? Or are they different, and that's why they are your friends..?

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                                                  My friends are different and aren't as generic. I'm friends with a lot of people. I can't say an exact amount, but close-friends-wise I have about 10 VERY close friends here. In Chicago I had like 50 VERY close friends. I knew so many more people and I found myself doing more things in my free time. I know that people are like that everywhere, but the fact that basically my entire town is populated by people like that is an annoyance. It's had to find unique and interesting people here.

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                                                    Sorry dude but I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. I live in Illinois, yet you just mentioned a university in Pennsylvania? I'm confused.

                                                    This was directed at SuNa.

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