Latch onto a social machine for a pal, and they will do the rest unwittingly.
That is so true. One of my old elementary school friends is a regular social butterfly and as a result I have way more good friends than I would have otherwise.
Do we have any hikikomoris here?
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Joining a theater group is one of the greatest social activities that you can possibly do.
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I remembered the book I read couple of years ago, called Sacrifice (in Japanese、isbn #4167240157). It's non-fiction. In the beginning it talked about his son, who suffered OCD, anthropophobia, and some other stuff (don't remember).
The son got OCD/anthropophobia because when he was in 9th grade, a chalk that some other kid threw hit his eyes, and he almost lost his eyesight. Even after it recovered, he kept thinking he can see some black dot, and kept asking the doctor to treat him.
It wasn't until 3 or 4 years later that his OCD has become really obvious, though in his diary, he said he didn't feel like he was living while he was attending high school.
Once his doctor asked him to force himself to get a part time job. He said maybe part time job has too much responsibility, so maybe he can go for volunteer instead, which should make his feeling better. So the son went to some fascilities that helps (mentally?) handicapped children. He helped them out for 4 months, until he was exausted by excessive tension caused by his anthropophobia.
Though, in college, he got some good friends through some club activity, and they helped out a lot. (The father said the son's diary has become more understandable after he started to hang out with those college friends.
I know it is hard to go meet people when you've isolated yourself for so long, and you might not know how to initiate and it might take you awhile before you find someone you feel comfortable with, but how about joining anime club or something that interest you on new quarter anyway? Or sometime when new people join any kind of club. (Again, please don't look down on people in those clubs, ie. nerds/geeks/otakus, because you are not any better than them at current situation…)
I admit that I am pretty much anti-social, since all I do is sit in front of comp and do comp-related stuff and my hobby is to read, but since I have very social girlfriend (sometime too social for me -__-; ), I am forced to go out once in a while and hang out with people. Most of the time I don't feel comfortable hanging out with them, part because of my English (I have English complex; I feel more comfortable hanging out w/ Japanese), but it's just that... we've gotta do what we have to do.
Hrmmm... ... I wonder if he still checks here?
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A hikikomori is a recluse. We don't go out during daylight, we never socialize, and our only friend is our computer. I have been a hikikomori (as they call it in Japan) for almost a year now. It was very hard in the first few weeks, but now I never wanna get out of this lifestyle. I am the king of (my) universe.So, any other hikikomoris or anti-social people here too?
So is that the new PC term for 'otaku'?
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Ah wait, forgot something.
[OMFGJK!!!1111]So is that the new PC term for 'otaku'?[/OMFGJK!!!1111]
Just so there's no confusion.
I think there's a great cure for that illness. The cure can actually come from parents and it sounds something like this:
"You owe us monthly rent, utilities and housecleaning fees."
Quite effective.
In some cases the illness may be persistent. These symptoms usually sound like this:
"Fine, then I'll go live at _______'s house."
At this point the patient tends to take on a leech-like appearance and sucks the money out of a friend's personal account or family. This may last for quite some time until the host eventually dries up and the patient is left with either nothing or latches onto another victim.
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I get panic attacks when I don't brush my teeth yet I have an active social life, filled with being harassed by mobs of steroidmen and bulimic cows. Good times.
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DEEP Social relationships bore me to death.
I think that's why I do so well as long as I don't have any close friends, but rather people that I can spend the time to amuze me. At least I can blend well with everyone in/out my school, so it's not like I get bored at all.
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and I thought I was spending too much time in my room lately.
Well now I feel better about my life.
Really, I just can't feel bad for you though. People who hide behind a disease as an excuse for anything annoy the shit out of me. Especially when you aren't even trying to change(so you're a coward too)
I really have no sympathy for someone like that.
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Nektar is hideous, please understand him.
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Really, I just can't feel bad for you though. People who hide behind a disease as an excuse for anything annoy the shit out of me. Especially when you aren't even trying to change(so you're a coward too)
I really have no sympathy for someone like that.
I concur.
I'm also disappointed at all of you hikikikkioioimaruis for not making this thread funny :((((
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I have somewhat of a hikikomori complex but I'm not a total hikikomori, I just have the tendency to be like one sometimes.
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what happens if u are a hikikomori and u get kicked out of the house?
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what happens if u are a hikikomori and u get kicked out of the house?
You live in a cardboard box. Or you could sneak in, get your stuff and live at someone else's house.
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Why did you bring this thread back from hell where it belonged?
If all my talents and powers were taken away from me by some inscrutable Providence, and I had my choice of keeping but one, I would unhesitatingly ask to be allowed to keep the Power of Speaking, for through it, I would quickly recover all the rest.
–Daniel Webster
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@Kaimei-Karasuhebi:
Nektar is hideous, please understand him.
Why did you bring this thread back from hell where it belonged?
These two posts made me LOL so hard that my sister and brother who are watching sports gave me weird looks and like, moved farther away from me XD
now, to be on topic: honestly, I feel sorry for you. It's rather pathetic to live like that. I am of the belief that if you complain about something that you actually have the power to change, shut up and do it. otherwise, just shut up. I'm sorry you have OCD, but there is medication and such for such conditions that honestly does work and helps a great deal. It's really a shame that people live like this, with no other human contact, because, as ocean said, thats the point of life: to live with others and embrace relationships.
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What the hell has been goin on lately with these retarded threads?
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I'm an eccentric nerd, but I'm no recluse. I used to be very anti-social. Nowadays I'm just moderately introverted. I do long for the day where I can be a hermit living in an isolated cabin in a cold wasteland. That would be great…
To answer your question, I'm not a hikikomori.
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Nektar…to give a serious moment here, theres a difference between hikkikomorism and being a nerd. For one..if you were you'd never leave the house, or for that matter, even talk to people via a forum. For one...you are not a hikikomori. I had a delve with reclusiveness that could be considered hikkikomorism, but that is becuase I let EVERYTHING go....even including talking to people via the internent (I am an AP Forums Vet from a couple years back. This account itself wasn't acessed for about two years up until recently.) But even though it could be considered hikkikomorism in a sense...it really wasn't, and on top of that, the thing I had to do in all honesty to get myself out of that shape was just this simple: I HAD TO GROW HE FUCK UP AND BE A MAN ABOUT SHIT!
Hikikomorism isn't something to be proud of, and it seems more to me that you are just using it as some way to gain some pity points & label yourself without basically calling yourself what all fo us here are...A NERD!
If you live your life letting every tiny thing bring you down and constantly feeling sorry for yourself and are too sorry to even make a step forward and stop living in the past,....then you're better off not having any human contact like a TRUE hikky would. The past is called the past for a reason.
That's exactly what I thought and probably you're using it because it looked cool in NHK.
I loved Welcome To The NHK myself, but I agree with ocanizer…as I said again...just a reason to get a label.
Oh and btw...
PROTIP: Not all AP members will be as nice about these pitiful posts as I have...to put it simply, You're standing near an ocean, the sharks are gathering, and you are the unlucky mutherfucker who has a steak tied to your body. What else did you expect from everyone who read this as the "zOMGPLZFEELSORRYFORME!!1!11" rant that it was.
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…yes.:cwy:
Actually, I do socialize when friends come over, I do go out when I have the time (and cash), and I only sit at the computer when I want to...which is often. So, I'd say, 60/40. -
I guess I was one when I was addicted to Everquest, all my friends were off to college and I was still trying to figure out what to do with my life. But I broke that addiction years ago and I go outside quite a bit.
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Weird thread…
No, I am not the most social guy in the world by far, but I have a life. I think I may be one of the most awkward people on the planet though.
Hey so do I (at first anyway). Its all about lasting long enough around people for the shell to crack.
This might mean your just a few person type a guy. Nothings wrong with 2 really good friends and yourself, as opposed to 56 semi-friends and yourself.
Latch onto a social machine for a pal, and they will do the rest unwittingly.
I agree with these statements. I only have a couple friends I consider to be very close.
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When I was little I loved to play Dungeon Siegue, but not because I was into the whimsical crap, but rather because I loved to scam naive idiots with fake tournaments and what not.
If anyone played that game, please understand that the dwarf shouting "RUN AWAY MOVE!!" before running away after stealing something from a naive idiot was just a bored kid who loved the idea of cheating/scamming in videogames way too much.
Besides those moments, I stil had a pretty decent back then, so no, I wasn't even close to a Hikkimora back in my darker days.
Right now, I gave up playing Online Games, so you could say the only thing I use the internet for is to read manga, upload stuff, watch Youtube videos and do school related stuff, so I don't spend so much time as before anymore….
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I have OCD and live a pretty normal life with 90% of my friends not noticing it or whatever. And I dont take meds or anything. Blaming OCD for being a shut in is a total fucking cop out. Especially since it's not something that automatically causes you to avoid people like Xenophobia or something. Ur basically just embarrassed you'll do something and look crazy or weird so you shut urself in ur house all day?!
I think ur delusional and u just watched too much NHK and it made u somehow justify ur recluse, intense nerdiness. Hikkikimori-hood is less a mental state and more of a social one in which Japanese people (usually ones under the insane stress of a society with an insane work ethic) just choose to give up and do nothing and hide. I can sorta understand breaking down when society expects you as a male to work 18 hour days and support your family completely alone,but america is different. I can understand the mass suicides when you take a test at the end of highschool that determines the rest of ur life, but there's no excuse for this sorta breakdown in america except laziness.
Ironically enough, I started watching NHK when I had dropped out of school and couldnt find a job and was living at home again. I was in the same situation but I never decided "Oh well I give up." Even when things are hopeless, you h ave to keep trying to get your shit together or just die. Lying around, watching anime, and playing videogames when you should be figuring out your life is only going to make things worse and waste your time.
Also, it's a children's comic from Japan.
Why are you comparing it to cultural engravings and burritos.
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@Nektar:
A hikikomori is a recluse. We don't go out during daylight, we never socialize, and our only friend is our computer. I have been a hikikomori (as they call it in Japan) for almost a year now. It was very hard in the first few weeks, but now I never wanna get out of this lifestyle. I am the king of (my) universe.So, any other hikikomoris or anti-social people here too?
Well,I dont socialise or go out much.I spend 99% of my free time,while not writing or reading in my thoughts,on series I like and altering episodes to actualy be good.Finished only once,though.Though I mustve had several dozen million tries.
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altering episodes to actualy be good.
I had loads of fun doing that when I was little, specially with Ranma 1/2 and Medabots.
Anyways, am I the only one who thinks Nektar wasn't being serious at all and just looked up for random terms to create this thread?
Seems I was right after all.
Nonetheless, it's good to share stuff like what we do outside the thing of commenting about One Piece.
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@Ao:
I have OCD and live a pretty normal life with 90% of my friends not noticing it or whatever. And I dont take meds or anything. Blaming OCD for being a shut in is a total fucking cop out. Especially since it's not something that automatically causes you to avoid people like Xenophobia or something. Ur basically just embarrassed you'll do something and look crazy or weird so you shut urself in ur house all day?!
I think ur delusional and u just watched too much NHK and it made u somehow justify ur recluse, intense nerdiness. Hikkikimori-hood is less a mental state and more of a social one in which Japanese people (usually ones under the insane stress of a society with an insane work ethic) just choose to give up and do nothing and hide. I can sorta understand breaking down when society expects you as a male to work 18 hour days and support your family completely alone,but america is different. I can understand the mass suicides when you take a test at the end of highschool that determines the rest of ur life, but there's no excuse for this sorta breakdown in america except laziness.
Ironically enough, I started watching NHK when I had dropped out of school and couldnt find a job and was living at home again. I was in the same situation but I never decided "Oh well I give up." Even when things are hopeless, you h ave to keep trying to get your shit together or just die. Lying around, watching anime, and playing videogames when you should be figuring out your life is only going to make things worse and waste your time.
You have no respect at all. First of all, OCD varies. Some people only have to wash their hands a few times everytime they go to the bathroom, while others like me have OCD on their mind every single minute of the day.
Everytime I go outside I have this fear of stepping on a needle, and home I am afraid of choking or that a spider will creep up my underwear.
Because of OCD I got anxious and depressed, which lead to me getting IBS. Everytime I think of school or socializing my stomach bloates.
You're just an asshole for thinking that because you managed to get though life with a mild OCD you're better than me.
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Just kill yourself and save some oxygen for us.
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Hey, we don't treat one another on AP like that.
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No,we post Dicky Moe pictures at each other.CRAP QUALITY,may I add.
Anyways,Kaimei,yeah,but im not realy litle.Stil,theres SO much in Ranma 1/2 that could be done so MUCH BETTER.I would personaly want Rumiko Takahashi to hand her new series to other people,after she's started them,that would spare us alot of cr*p.
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No,we post Dicky Moe pictures at each other.CRAP QUALITY,may I add.
Anyways,Kaimei,yeah,but im not realy litle.Stil,theres SO much in Ranma 1/2 that could be done so MUCH BETTER.I would personaly want Rumiko Takahashi to hand her new series to other people,after she's started them,that would spare us alot of cr*p.
Why not just hope Sunday kicks her off for Raiku to get her spot?…
Anyways, I don't want to read more romance crap made by her.
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I watched Ranma 1/2 solely for the "comedy",for the enemies were damn crappy.
I also watched Inuyasha solely for the demons and such,rather then for the wretched girl and her damn heart problems.
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You have no respect at all. First of all, OCD varies. Some people only have to wash their hands a few times everytime they go to the bathroom, while others like me have OCD on their mind every single minute of the day.
Everytime I go outside I have this fear of stepping on a needle, and home I am afraid of choking or that a spider will creep up my underwear.
Because of OCD I got anxious and depressed, which lead to me getting IBS. Everytime I think of school or socializing my stomach bloates.
Don’t try to live so wise.
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I know just the thing for you! A mud bath.
