@Demon:
So, I've been at my new job for almost 5 months, and overall I'm enjoying it, but one issue I have that I think I've talked about here before, and something just happened that's making me stress about it more.
Recap from my post from a few pages back: I live and work in a Right-Wing right to work state and I'm trans. Work, so far, seems to not know I'm trans as it's literally never come up, but I'm a bit scared of what might happen if people find out.
Anyway, this exchange just happened at work:
Guy 1: I don't like Chik-Fil-A
Guy 2: What? Don't like their Politics?
Guy 1: No, I LOVE their Politics, I just think the chicken is bland.
That anxiety I had is working overtime right now…...
I'm guessing you were hoping to have someone with a similar ideology?
While not near the problem you have, working offshore has put me in somewhat of a similar situation. Most people who I work with love sports, talk about their sex life, and other random shallow things. I couldn't care less about sports, I have no sex life to talk about, and I prefer to talk about heavier topics or games/anime/manga, which I never found someone like that offshore. This limits my ability to talk about things I want to, and things can get really akward when the sex topic comes up, especially when they know you're a virgin and want to try to change that.
I learned to eventually just role with the stuff and not get worried about what others said or thought. Your position is much harder unfortunately. Right to work is an easy way for companies to use their bigot beliefs to bar people from work they don't like. The big question is do you feel that you will have to eventually come out? From what I heard, it can get hard for trans to live without telling others, where you are being called the wrong pronoun all the time can be mentally taxing. Another question is how stressed out have you been due to the climate of the job? If your stress levels are too high because of not being able to admit it to your coworkers, that's going to be detrimental to your health. At some point you will have to put your health above financial wellbeing, and decide on what to do in order to lower that stress.
Take this with a grain of salt, as I am no expert on the subject of psychology. It might be better to come out sooner rather than later. I say this because many of times it seems that the longer a lie goes on, the harder it becomes to admit it until it blows up in your face. Unfortunately, despite the fact it should be a non issue, if you continue on and people find out, they will distrust you because they didn't see the true you (I don't think this is true, but that's the way many may act). If you say something now, you can clear it out then go on from there. Perhaps people will accept you, and the job becomes less stressful because of that. On the other hand, you could be getting a lot of ire for that fact, which means you should find a different place to work.
I realize saying you should come out where you are may be asking way too much. However, I still feel it might be the best thing to do, and it comes down to you deciding the right time. The other thing you could try is keep at this job, but search for a different place that might be more inviting to who you are. Of course, that depends on what your work is, as that can effect your potential right now of finding the right place.
I wish you the best of luck on whatever happens, and if there is one thing I would recommend with no hesitation, it would be to find someone who is knowledgeable with these things and get their opinion. Hopefully something I said helped even just a little.